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For the cause, not the applause! It was a thrill to be nominated for a Trans In The City award for ally of the year. Let’s face it: we need (active, outspoken) trans allies now more than ever. Also incredible to be in the room when @susiegreen.bsky.social got a special - very well deserved - award!
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Attacking the rights of a marginalised group isn’t a win for feminism.
Demanding that women be defined by our biology isn't a win for feminism.
The people driving this are not acting in the interests of women. They're taking us all backwards and ushering in the far right.
Demanding that women be defined by our biology isn't a win for feminism.
The people driving this are not acting in the interests of women. They're taking us all backwards and ushering in the far right.
April 17, 2025 at 2:39 PM
Attacking the rights of a marginalised group isn’t a win for feminism.
Demanding that women be defined by our biology isn't a win for feminism.
The people driving this are not acting in the interests of women. They're taking us all backwards and ushering in the far right.
Demanding that women be defined by our biology isn't a win for feminism.
The people driving this are not acting in the interests of women. They're taking us all backwards and ushering in the far right.
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So half a percent of the population is insignificant and not representative in Episcopalian faith terms, but a huge and menacing threat in trans terms?
January 29, 2025 at 9:14 AM
So half a percent of the population is insignificant and not representative in Episcopalian faith terms, but a huge and menacing threat in trans terms?
Self-care in its radical sense: not isolated individual activities, but sustaining community wellness to aid activism and prosper resistance, preservation of identity under attack. “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare” (Lorde)
Not to be that wellness girl, but as the increasingly terrifying war of annihilation on trans people and many other communities continues, it is absolutely essential that we continue to practice the skills of spiritual & emotional resilience, if only to keep from turning on one another.
January 29, 2025 at 7:53 AM
Self-care in its radical sense: not isolated individual activities, but sustaining community wellness to aid activism and prosper resistance, preservation of identity under attack. “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare” (Lorde)
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In the same way that people needing an abortion don’t have to have a ‘good reason’, then trans people don’t need an origin story of childhood trauma.
I've said it before but whether you knew you were a girl from your very first memory or you decided last week that you're going to give this woman thing a try because it seems cool, you're my sister and you deserve to have your rights fought for and protected
January 27, 2025 at 4:33 PM
In the same way that people needing an abortion don’t have to have a ‘good reason’, then trans people don’t need an origin story of childhood trauma.
In the same way that people needing an abortion don’t have to have a ‘good reason’, then trans people don’t need an origin story of childhood trauma.
I've said it before but whether you knew you were a girl from your very first memory or you decided last week that you're going to give this woman thing a try because it seems cool, you're my sister and you deserve to have your rights fought for and protected
January 27, 2025 at 4:33 PM
In the same way that people needing an abortion don’t have to have a ‘good reason’, then trans people don’t need an origin story of childhood trauma.
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Fun fact: if you're buying from a creator on etsy, you can reduce their etsy selling fees from 6.5% to 2.5% by ordering via 'shopname.etsy.com' instead of 'etsy.com/shopname' or searching from the main site. It costs you the same but the creator makes more
January 22, 2025 at 8:39 PM
Fun fact: if you're buying from a creator on etsy, you can reduce their etsy selling fees from 6.5% to 2.5% by ordering via 'shopname.etsy.com' instead of 'etsy.com/shopname' or searching from the main site. It costs you the same but the creator makes more
When my trans teens came out, I thought if I just used the right words to explain it to family members (chromosomes, prenatal exposure to hormones, brain difference) that they would affirm them. But it’s never been my (or anyone else’s) place to make my sons’ transness palatable to cis het people.
This approach to queer identity seems to be drenched in the legal landscape of the US, ensuring civil right on the basis of innate or inborn characteristics.
And I'm telling you right now I don't give a shit if my tranny dykehood is innate or not. Choosing to be like me is not a fucking sin.
And I'm telling you right now I don't give a shit if my tranny dykehood is innate or not. Choosing to be like me is not a fucking sin.
I don't think all of it is malicious, some scientists for good or bad are trying to prove gender identity is likely an inborn neuroanatomical quality.
January 26, 2025 at 6:19 PM
When my trans teens came out, I thought if I just used the right words to explain it to family members (chromosomes, prenatal exposure to hormones, brain difference) that they would affirm them. But it’s never been my (or anyone else’s) place to make my sons’ transness palatable to cis het people.
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In shocking news Keir Starmer not only has heard of the UN Convention on Child Rights, but recognises the UK government's legal responsibilities to abide by it.
It confirms why the UK government refuse to recognise the existence of trans children.
Trans children have rights under UNCRC.
It confirms why the UK government refuse to recognise the existence of trans children.
Trans children have rights under UNCRC.
January 25, 2025 at 11:00 AM
In shocking news Keir Starmer not only has heard of the UN Convention on Child Rights, but recognises the UK government's legal responsibilities to abide by it.
It confirms why the UK government refuse to recognise the existence of trans children.
Trans children have rights under UNCRC.
It confirms why the UK government refuse to recognise the existence of trans children.
Trans children have rights under UNCRC.
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We don't know who Trump will turn out to be but his sidekick is doing Nazi salutes and, my God, you have to be pretty sure of your privilege to be complacent.
January 25, 2025 at 9:19 PM
We don't know who Trump will turn out to be but his sidekick is doing Nazi salutes and, my God, you have to be pretty sure of your privilege to be complacent.
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Queer joy is intrinsically defiant.
Celebrate your own blessed queerness.
Celebrate your own blessed queerness.
January 25, 2025 at 5:59 PM
Queer joy is intrinsically defiant.
Celebrate your own blessed queerness.
Celebrate your own blessed queerness.
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’tis true that we are in great danger,
The greater therefore should our courage be.
The greater therefore should our courage be.
January 25, 2025 at 5:40 PM
’tis true that we are in great danger,
The greater therefore should our courage be.
The greater therefore should our courage be.
See all the ick right wing conservative American posts and comments like ‘Daddy is home, ready to discipline us’ (there are plenty). Seems they self justify (I’d go as far as to say glorify) both the use of force as necessary, and the abuse meted out.
I hate to pop psychology about it but it sure seems like fascism is taking the idea of an abusive patriarch who believes that successful force is self justifying and scaling it up to society size.
January 25, 2025 at 6:51 PM
See all the ick right wing conservative American posts and comments like ‘Daddy is home, ready to discipline us’ (there are plenty). Seems they self justify (I’d go as far as to say glorify) both the use of force as necessary, and the abuse meted out.
To white evangelicals, the problem with mercy is not that it is Christlike (which it is), it is that it is ‘undeserved favour’. They see the minorities under their attack (trans people, immigrants, etc) as unworthy of mercy - and they see themselves as above questioning (especially by a woman).
Mercy only feels like a threatening "political activism" to those who are at the top of the empire. So the outrage white conservative evangelicals are manifesting at Bishop Budde's sermon is evidence that they think their theology entitles them to power over their neighbors.
January 25, 2025 at 6:38 PM
To white evangelicals, the problem with mercy is not that it is Christlike (which it is), it is that it is ‘undeserved favour’. They see the minorities under their attack (trans people, immigrants, etc) as unworthy of mercy - and they see themselves as above questioning (especially by a woman).
As someone who was raised in an evangelical home (with a father who both beat, and abused, his wife and children) I cannot stress how much this disciplinarian adultist ‘while you’re under my roof’ worldview links both evangelical religious beliefs and right wing conservative traditional politics.
The "my parents beat me, but I turned out alright" folks 1) did not on fact turn out alright 2) have so equated abuse with love that they keep knowingly voting abusers into power and are excited for the abuse.
Mel Gibson: I’m glad Trump is here. It’s like daddy arrived and he’s taking his belt off
January 25, 2025 at 11:29 AM
As someone who was raised in an evangelical home (with a father who both beat, and abused, his wife and children) I cannot stress how much this disciplinarian adultist ‘while you’re under my roof’ worldview links both evangelical religious beliefs and right wing conservative traditional politics.
Really interesting and informative thread on the history of the American church. TIL that Episcopalians are Anglicans (and how/why that came about). I am fascinated with how specific strains of both politics and religious belief are bedmates in the US.
This presented a lot of problems that eventually were resolved by the American Anglicans, as in the Church of England but in America, reforming itself as Episcopal Church. The same Episcopalians recently in the news.
Some of you may be learning this for the first time. Episcopalians are Anglicans.
Some of you may be learning this for the first time. Episcopalians are Anglicans.
January 23, 2025 at 3:57 PM
Really interesting and informative thread on the history of the American church. TIL that Episcopalians are Anglicans (and how/why that came about). I am fascinated with how specific strains of both politics and religious belief are bedmates in the US.
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What is revealed, which is what the trans community have been saying all along, is that there is absolutely no legitimate basis from a medical standpoint for the puberty blocker ban.
As Giordano said (paraphrasing) the ban is peculiar because it bans the use of PBs, not the drug.
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As Giordano said (paraphrasing) the ban is peculiar because it bans the use of PBs, not the drug.
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January 23, 2025 at 12:48 PM
What is revealed, which is what the trans community have been saying all along, is that there is absolutely no legitimate basis from a medical standpoint for the puberty blocker ban.
As Giordano said (paraphrasing) the ban is peculiar because it bans the use of PBs, not the drug.
3/
As Giordano said (paraphrasing) the ban is peculiar because it bans the use of PBs, not the drug.
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I was on local BBC Radio on Tuesday talking about That Executive Order. Hard to clip it to under 50 seconds for BlueSky but here’s a taster of the conversation.
January 23, 2025 at 2:14 PM
I was on local BBC Radio on Tuesday talking about That Executive Order. Hard to clip it to under 50 seconds for BlueSky but here’s a taster of the conversation.
‘The Holy Land’ acts in a similar way for evangelicals. It’s important to go ‘on pilgrimage’ there, and be moved and changed by the experience (but not in your morals, or reckoning with the geopolitical issues of the area). The ecstatic transformation is actually meaningless outside posturing.
It's harrowing to see first hand but also it's something you go and learn from among many other educational visits to sites of historical significance. It says nothing about your moral character that you went and saw it.
January 23, 2025 at 9:34 AM
‘The Holy Land’ acts in a similar way for evangelicals. It’s important to go ‘on pilgrimage’ there, and be moved and changed by the experience (but not in your morals, or reckoning with the geopolitical issues of the area). The ecstatic transformation is actually meaningless outside posturing.
I was on BBC Radio Solent earlier talking to Lucy Ambache about Trump’s ‘only 2 genders’ speech. That he issued an XO titled DeFeNdInG wOmEn FrOm GeNdEr IdEoLoGy ExTrEmIsM that discussed their ‘dignity, safety and wellbeing’ - when sexually abusive men grabbing 🐱 are who we need defending from 🤡
January 21, 2025 at 8:49 PM
I was on BBC Radio Solent earlier talking to Lucy Ambache about Trump’s ‘only 2 genders’ speech. That he issued an XO titled DeFeNdInG wOmEn FrOm GeNdEr IdEoLoGy ExTrEmIsM that discussed their ‘dignity, safety and wellbeing’ - when sexually abusive men grabbing 🐱 are who we need defending from 🤡
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So I was waiting to see how many rakes they step on. The biggest one, IMO, is they specifically defined sex at conception. Therefore, admin has just declared every person female.
The "default" blueprint is female. The differentiation kicks in at 6-8 weeks. At conception, that hasn't taken effect.
The "default" blueprint is female. The differentiation kicks in at 6-8 weeks. At conception, that hasn't taken effect.
Trump White House's first trans executive order is out. I'll be reading over it here and going through line by line to help you make sense of it.
You can find it here:
www.whitehouse.gov/presidential...
You can find it here:
www.whitehouse.gov/presidential...
DEFENDING WOMEN FROM GENDER IDEOLOGY EXTREMISM AND RESTORING BIOLOGICAL TRUTH TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT – The White House
By the authority vested in me as President by the Constitution and the laws of the United States of America, including section 7301 of title 5, United
www.whitehouse.gov
January 21, 2025 at 7:35 AM
So I was waiting to see how many rakes they step on. The biggest one, IMO, is they specifically defined sex at conception. Therefore, admin has just declared every person female.
The "default" blueprint is female. The differentiation kicks in at 6-8 weeks. At conception, that hasn't taken effect.
The "default" blueprint is female. The differentiation kicks in at 6-8 weeks. At conception, that hasn't taken effect.
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Yeah, I'm gonna need cis people to step up. We will lose if we fight this alone.
January 20, 2025 at 6:47 PM
Yeah, I'm gonna need cis people to step up. We will lose if we fight this alone.
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I am not a man.
Evan Urquhart is not a woman.
No matter what Trump's government said.
So much of what Trump wants to do targeting trans people will depend on cisgender people to enforce his policies and police our bodies and spaces we exist in.
So much can be stopped by people refusing to do so.
Evan Urquhart is not a woman.
No matter what Trump's government said.
So much of what Trump wants to do targeting trans people will depend on cisgender people to enforce his policies and police our bodies and spaces we exist in.
So much can be stopped by people refusing to do so.
Trump is reportedly going to sign a piece of paper later today declaring that the federal government of the United States defines me as a woman.
If there's a better encapsulation of how stupid the whole "define woman" thing is and has always been I'd love to see it.
If there's a better encapsulation of how stupid the whole "define woman" thing is and has always been I'd love to see it.
Let's close with a picture. This is me, full body, no filters, no tricks.
January 20, 2025 at 4:47 PM
I am not a man.
Evan Urquhart is not a woman.
No matter what Trump's government said.
So much of what Trump wants to do targeting trans people will depend on cisgender people to enforce his policies and police our bodies and spaces we exist in.
So much can be stopped by people refusing to do so.
Evan Urquhart is not a woman.
No matter what Trump's government said.
So much of what Trump wants to do targeting trans people will depend on cisgender people to enforce his policies and police our bodies and spaces we exist in.
So much can be stopped by people refusing to do so.
I’m reminded of the time I took one of my trans teens to the GP. We were told:
• your gender is your biological gender
• when it actually comes to your gender, what you were actually born with, I can’t change that because unfortunately it’s a fact
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• your gender is your biological gender
• when it actually comes to your gender, what you were actually born with, I can’t change that because unfortunately it’s a fact
1/4
I think one reason my transition's gone as well as it has is because I didn't bother with doctors.
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Malpractice and fighting patients is the norm in trans care currently.
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Malpractice and fighting patients is the norm in trans care currently.
January 20, 2025 at 4:26 PM
I’m reminded of the time I took one of my trans teens to the GP. We were told:
• your gender is your biological gender
• when it actually comes to your gender, what you were actually born with, I can’t change that because unfortunately it’s a fact
1/4
• your gender is your biological gender
• when it actually comes to your gender, what you were actually born with, I can’t change that because unfortunately it’s a fact
1/4