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HI EVERYONE ITS STILL ME SMOLS. YOU MAY NOTICE IVE CHANGED MY HANDLE. OR NOT. MY AVI OR PFP WHATEVER IS STILL THE SAME. WHY YOU ASK? WHY NOT. THATS MY BUSINESS. HOW DARE YOU FOR NOT EVEN ASKING IN YOUR OWN HEAD.
why is it playtime rn my cat babbies why
November 11, 2025 at 11:31 AM
why is it playtime rn my cat babbies why
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This deal to reopen the government is fucking disgraceful.
Tens of millions will lose their healthcare. Trump will be emboldened.
This is exactly what’s wrong with Democratic Party leadership and why we need more people in Congress who will actually hold the line.
Tens of millions will lose their healthcare. Trump will be emboldened.
This is exactly what’s wrong with Democratic Party leadership and why we need more people in Congress who will actually hold the line.
November 10, 2025 at 12:43 PM
This deal to reopen the government is fucking disgraceful.
Tens of millions will lose their healthcare. Trump will be emboldened.
This is exactly what’s wrong with Democratic Party leadership and why we need more people in Congress who will actually hold the line.
Tens of millions will lose their healthcare. Trump will be emboldened.
This is exactly what’s wrong with Democratic Party leadership and why we need more people in Congress who will actually hold the line.
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I'm not a fan of trauma survivors trying to replace their "negative" thoughts w/ "positive" ones.
But I'm a big fan of survivors learning to swap out unfair, self-brutalizing thoughts for realistic, self-compassionate ones, one tiny, awkward, unfamiliar bit at a time.
But I'm a big fan of survivors learning to swap out unfair, self-brutalizing thoughts for realistic, self-compassionate ones, one tiny, awkward, unfamiliar bit at a time.
November 8, 2025 at 3:26 AM
I'm not a fan of trauma survivors trying to replace their "negative" thoughts w/ "positive" ones.
But I'm a big fan of survivors learning to swap out unfair, self-brutalizing thoughts for realistic, self-compassionate ones, one tiny, awkward, unfamiliar bit at a time.
But I'm a big fan of survivors learning to swap out unfair, self-brutalizing thoughts for realistic, self-compassionate ones, one tiny, awkward, unfamiliar bit at a time.
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It is not "entitled" to acknowledge what we needed & didn't get growing up. We're not suffering now because we weren't parented "perfectly."
Figuring out what we lacked isn't even necessarily about "blame:" we're just trying to understand our wound so we can design our recovery.
Figuring out what we lacked isn't even necessarily about "blame:" we're just trying to understand our wound so we can design our recovery.
November 9, 2025 at 1:45 AM
It is not "entitled" to acknowledge what we needed & didn't get growing up. We're not suffering now because we weren't parented "perfectly."
Figuring out what we lacked isn't even necessarily about "blame:" we're just trying to understand our wound so we can design our recovery.
Figuring out what we lacked isn't even necessarily about "blame:" we're just trying to understand our wound so we can design our recovery.
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Yes, our emotional reactions can be "spiked" by our trauma history-- but it doesn't follow that EVERY time we have a feeling or reaction to something it's evidence of our "damage."
You get to have feelings. You get to have reactions. You get to have an emotional life.
You get to have feelings. You get to have reactions. You get to have an emotional life.
November 9, 2025 at 1:46 AM
Yes, our emotional reactions can be "spiked" by our trauma history-- but it doesn't follow that EVERY time we have a feeling or reaction to something it's evidence of our "damage."
You get to have feelings. You get to have reactions. You get to have an emotional life.
You get to have feelings. You get to have reactions. You get to have an emotional life.
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No "failure" to achieve a specific goal makes you a "failure" or "unworthy" as a person. That's CPTSD trying to make you feel like garbage & get you to quit. All "failure" at a specific goal makes you is human. A work in progress, like the rest of us-- & worthy of another chance.
November 9, 2025 at 12:06 PM
No "failure" to achieve a specific goal makes you a "failure" or "unworthy" as a person. That's CPTSD trying to make you feel like garbage & get you to quit. All "failure" at a specific goal makes you is human. A work in progress, like the rest of us-- & worthy of another chance.
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Safe people know how to handle hearing "no" without losing their sh*t & pivoting to emotional abuse.
No exceptions.
No exceptions.
November 9, 2025 at 12:07 PM
Safe people know how to handle hearing "no" without losing their sh*t & pivoting to emotional abuse.
No exceptions.
No exceptions.
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People who can & will realistically support our trauma recovery really listen to us-- & people who can't or don't actually listen to us can't or won't be realistic, reliable recovery supports.
November 9, 2025 at 10:00 PM
People who can & will realistically support our trauma recovery really listen to us-- & people who can't or don't actually listen to us can't or won't be realistic, reliable recovery supports.
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Doubting our ability to recover is PART of recovery. Literally no survivor has been all in, all the time, on our ability to do this. Trauma conditioning is DESIGNED to stoke self doubt.
Don't demand you be all in or doubt free today. Just do the next recovery supporting thing.
Don't demand you be all in or doubt free today. Just do the next recovery supporting thing.
November 9, 2025 at 10:01 PM
Doubting our ability to recover is PART of recovery. Literally no survivor has been all in, all the time, on our ability to do this. Trauma conditioning is DESIGNED to stoke self doubt.
Don't demand you be all in or doubt free today. Just do the next recovery supporting thing.
Don't demand you be all in or doubt free today. Just do the next recovery supporting thing.
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"Suck it up" is not a trauma recovery strategy. Saying variations of "suck it up," though, is a strategy of certain people to make you feel like garbage & distract you from effective, realistic, self-compassionate recovery strategies.
November 9, 2025 at 10:02 PM
"Suck it up" is not a trauma recovery strategy. Saying variations of "suck it up," though, is a strategy of certain people to make you feel like garbage & distract you from effective, realistic, self-compassionate recovery strategies.
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Nobody else gets a vote on whether something "should" be a trigger for us. Hell, even WE don't get a vote on that.
If something triggers us, it triggers us-- & the decision we DO get is whether we're going to meet that trigger w/ realism & compassion, or let it kick our ass.
If something triggers us, it triggers us-- & the decision we DO get is whether we're going to meet that trigger w/ realism & compassion, or let it kick our ass.
November 9, 2025 at 10:03 PM
Nobody else gets a vote on whether something "should" be a trigger for us. Hell, even WE don't get a vote on that.
If something triggers us, it triggers us-- & the decision we DO get is whether we're going to meet that trigger w/ realism & compassion, or let it kick our ass.
If something triggers us, it triggers us-- & the decision we DO get is whether we're going to meet that trigger w/ realism & compassion, or let it kick our ass.
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Our trauma recovery is not a "distraction" from our more important work. Working our recovery is what makes our more important work possible-- what protects it from our bullies & abusers trying to reach across the years & ruin what we love today.
November 10, 2025 at 9:08 PM
Our trauma recovery is not a "distraction" from our more important work. Working our recovery is what makes our more important work possible-- what protects it from our bullies & abusers trying to reach across the years & ruin what we love today.
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It's not our fault that we grew up mistaking attachment for connection. We're not born understanding what we need & deserve-- all we know is what we experienced.
Turns out, many "choices" we made to be consistent w/ a toxic comfort zone weren't actual choices. Grace over guilt.
Turns out, many "choices" we made to be consistent w/ a toxic comfort zone weren't actual choices. Grace over guilt.
November 11, 2025 at 1:45 AM
It's not our fault that we grew up mistaking attachment for connection. We're not born understanding what we need & deserve-- all we know is what we experienced.
Turns out, many "choices" we made to be consistent w/ a toxic comfort zone weren't actual choices. Grace over guilt.
Turns out, many "choices" we made to be consistent w/ a toxic comfort zone weren't actual choices. Grace over guilt.
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"Trauma bonding" is the confusing attachment we feel toward people who hurt us-- but we need to remember that it's not "love" or a "choice."
It's the kind of instinctive bond that a kid-- or a person of any age-- who has been starved of connection & forced to be dependent forms.
It's the kind of instinctive bond that a kid-- or a person of any age-- who has been starved of connection & forced to be dependent forms.
November 11, 2025 at 1:45 AM
"Trauma bonding" is the confusing attachment we feel toward people who hurt us-- but we need to remember that it's not "love" or a "choice."
It's the kind of instinctive bond that a kid-- or a person of any age-- who has been starved of connection & forced to be dependent forms.
It's the kind of instinctive bond that a kid-- or a person of any age-- who has been starved of connection & forced to be dependent forms.
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Ignoring our own needs is 100% one of the most destructively selfish things we can do. Over time it practically guarantees we're going to flame out & be unable to support any person or pet we love.
You're not The Exception who can run on empty indefinitely. The bill comes due.
You're not The Exception who can run on empty indefinitely. The bill comes due.
November 11, 2025 at 1:46 AM
Ignoring our own needs is 100% one of the most destructively selfish things we can do. Over time it practically guarantees we're going to flame out & be unable to support any person or pet we love.
You're not The Exception who can run on empty indefinitely. The bill comes due.
You're not The Exception who can run on empty indefinitely. The bill comes due.
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Continuing to engage w/ someone who is toxic to us, even if we're right, even if no one else is challenging them, at the expense of our safety & stability is a trap.
There is NO argument or interaction, especially on the internet, worth sacrificing our safety & stability over.
There is NO argument or interaction, especially on the internet, worth sacrificing our safety & stability over.
November 11, 2025 at 1:47 AM
Continuing to engage w/ someone who is toxic to us, even if we're right, even if no one else is challenging them, at the expense of our safety & stability is a trap.
There is NO argument or interaction, especially on the internet, worth sacrificing our safety & stability over.
There is NO argument or interaction, especially on the internet, worth sacrificing our safety & stability over.
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junk drawer
victor frankenstein rifling through a barrel of dicks looking for one thats just right
November 11, 2025 at 6:49 AM
junk drawer
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victor frankenstein rifling through a barrel of dicks looking for one thats just right
November 11, 2025 at 3:53 AM
victor frankenstein rifling through a barrel of dicks looking for one thats just right
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*rfk jr. voice*
and this phimosis, we're seeing it at levels in young men that we've never seen it before! otherwise healthy young men with their penises, their very manhood, trapped within the foreskin! no wonder there are so many school shootings in this country. MAHA!
and this phimosis, we're seeing it at levels in young men that we've never seen it before! otherwise healthy young men with their penises, their very manhood, trapped within the foreskin! no wonder there are so many school shootings in this country. MAHA!
November 11, 2025 at 2:55 AM
*rfk jr. voice*
and this phimosis, we're seeing it at levels in young men that we've never seen it before! otherwise healthy young men with their penises, their very manhood, trapped within the foreskin! no wonder there are so many school shootings in this country. MAHA!
and this phimosis, we're seeing it at levels in young men that we've never seen it before! otherwise healthy young men with their penises, their very manhood, trapped within the foreskin! no wonder there are so many school shootings in this country. MAHA!
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wait the guy who shot james garfield did it because his dick was stuck inside his foreskin???
November 11, 2025 at 2:46 AM
wait the guy who shot james garfield did it because his dick was stuck inside his foreskin???
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would you mind if a swagged out white (green) boy spoke a little backwards
November 11, 2025 at 5:04 AM
would you mind if a swagged out white (green) boy spoke a little backwards
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Leo: Congratulations! Or deepest sympathies. It's still unclear.
November 9, 2025 at 7:50 PM
Leo: Congratulations! Or deepest sympathies. It's still unclear.