Kate Sloan (she/her)
@katesloan.com
📚 Author/Journalist KateWritesAboutSex.com
🍆 Sex toy reviewer GirlyJuice.net
🎙️ Sex podcaster TheDildorks.com
🪄 Vibrator nerd MakingMagicSeries.com
🎶 Songwriter KateSloan.Bandcamp.com
📍 Brooklyn + sometimes Toronto
🍆 Sex toy reviewer GirlyJuice.net
🎙️ Sex podcaster TheDildorks.com
🪄 Vibrator nerd MakingMagicSeries.com
🎶 Songwriter KateSloan.Bandcamp.com
📍 Brooklyn + sometimes Toronto
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Kate Sloan (she/her)
@katesloan.com
· Nov 19
li’l introductory thread since a bunch of you folks just followed me (hi!):
I’m Kate Sloan, a writer/podcaster specializing in sex, kink, dating & relationships.
I’m a bi/queer cis femme woman from Toronto, and my pronouns are she/her. 👋🏻
I’m Kate Sloan, a writer/podcaster specializing in sex, kink, dating & relationships.
I’m a bi/queer cis femme woman from Toronto, and my pronouns are she/her. 👋🏻
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This time last year I told a cautionary tale that is definitely relevant to more than a few men on the #dating scene so pay attention.
Here's how to talk yourself out of an almost-guaranteed shag.
www.girlonthenet.com/blog/talk-yo...
Here's how to talk yourself out of an almost-guaranteed shag.
www.girlonthenet.com/blog/talk-yo...
Efficient dating 2: How to talk yourself out of a fuck | Girl on the Net
We're snogging at my hotel, his dick is literally in my hand, and I really want to get laid. And yet! This man still managed to talk himself out of a fuck.
www.girlonthenet.com
February 16, 2026 at 10:20 PM
This time last year I told a cautionary tale that is definitely relevant to more than a few men on the #dating scene so pay attention.
Here's how to talk yourself out of an almost-guaranteed shag.
www.girlonthenet.com/blog/talk-yo...
Here's how to talk yourself out of an almost-guaranteed shag.
www.girlonthenet.com/blog/talk-yo...
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Jesse Jackson, whose impassioned oratory and vision of a “rainbow coalition” of the poor and forgotten made him the nation's most influential Black figure in the years between the civil rights crusades of Martin Luther King Jr. and the election of Barack Obama, died on Tuesday at 84. Follow live.
Updates: Jesse Jackson, Civil Rights Leader, Dies at 84
www.nytimes.com
February 17, 2026 at 10:49 AM
Jesse Jackson, whose impassioned oratory and vision of a “rainbow coalition” of the poor and forgotten made him the nation's most influential Black figure in the years between the civil rights crusades of Martin Luther King Jr. and the election of Barack Obama, died on Tuesday at 84. Follow live.
art is magic 😭
February 17, 2026 at 4:23 PM
art is magic 😭
Honestly wild how many movies have face-slapping in them. I’ve only started paying attention to it because I have a tag for it on Letterboxd, but it really does feel like it happens in the majority of movies, at least of a certain era (maybe ‘80s through ‘00s?)
February 17, 2026 at 1:03 AM
Honestly wild how many movies have face-slapping in them. I’ve only started paying attention to it because I have a tag for it on Letterboxd, but it really does feel like it happens in the majority of movies, at least of a certain era (maybe ‘80s through ‘00s?)
CN: domestic abuse
saw a reddit post from a woman whose husband found her sex toys & angrily RIPPED THEM IN HALF
as often happens, she’s like “he’s a great guy & we have a perfect marriage apart from this!” but… sorry, you don’t 😞
a partner who privileges their pride over yr pleasure is bad news
saw a reddit post from a woman whose husband found her sex toys & angrily RIPPED THEM IN HALF
as often happens, she’s like “he’s a great guy & we have a perfect marriage apart from this!” but… sorry, you don’t 😞
a partner who privileges their pride over yr pleasure is bad news
February 16, 2026 at 9:57 PM
CN: domestic abuse
saw a reddit post from a woman whose husband found her sex toys & angrily RIPPED THEM IN HALF
as often happens, she’s like “he’s a great guy & we have a perfect marriage apart from this!” but… sorry, you don’t 😞
a partner who privileges their pride over yr pleasure is bad news
saw a reddit post from a woman whose husband found her sex toys & angrily RIPPED THEM IN HALF
as often happens, she’s like “he’s a great guy & we have a perfect marriage apart from this!” but… sorry, you don’t 😞
a partner who privileges their pride over yr pleasure is bad news
dealing with menstrual cramps of the “feel like I got kicked in the stomach by a horse” variety today
February 16, 2026 at 9:41 PM
dealing with menstrual cramps of the “feel like I got kicked in the stomach by a horse” variety today
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Just did this.
"Rude" is essentially a shadowban and is capriciously applied.
"Rude or impolite, including crude language and disrespectful comments, without constructive purpose."
Dudes, your CEO was shrieking "Waffles!" at people.
"Rude" is essentially a shadowban and is capriciously applied.
"Rude or impolite, including crude language and disrespectful comments, without constructive purpose."
Dudes, your CEO was shrieking "Waffles!" at people.
If you want to see posts from cool people on here, go to @moderation.bsky.app and turn off this label
February 16, 2026 at 6:30 PM
Just did this.
"Rude" is essentially a shadowban and is capriciously applied.
"Rude or impolite, including crude language and disrespectful comments, without constructive purpose."
Dudes, your CEO was shrieking "Waffles!" at people.
"Rude" is essentially a shadowban and is capriciously applied.
"Rude or impolite, including crude language and disrespectful comments, without constructive purpose."
Dudes, your CEO was shrieking "Waffles!" at people.
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HAPPY SOUL ACE DAY to my Black asexuals and aromantics!
To celebrate and learn more, please download Black Ace Culture: A Digital Zine by blackaceculture
blackaceculture.itch.io/black-ace-cu...
#blackaces #blackace #blackasexual #blackaromantics #asexuality #asexual #aroace #acearo #aromantic
To celebrate and learn more, please download Black Ace Culture: A Digital Zine by blackaceculture
blackaceculture.itch.io/black-ace-cu...
#blackaces #blackace #blackasexual #blackaromantics #asexuality #asexual #aroace #acearo #aromantic
Black Ace Culture: A Digital Zine by blackaceculture
blackaceculture.itch.io
February 16, 2026 at 2:34 PM
HAPPY SOUL ACE DAY to my Black asexuals and aromantics!
To celebrate and learn more, please download Black Ace Culture: A Digital Zine by blackaceculture
blackaceculture.itch.io/black-ace-cu...
#blackaces #blackace #blackasexual #blackaromantics #asexuality #asexual #aroace #acearo #aromantic
To celebrate and learn more, please download Black Ace Culture: A Digital Zine by blackaceculture
blackaceculture.itch.io/black-ace-cu...
#blackaces #blackace #blackasexual #blackaromantics #asexuality #asexual #aroace #acearo #aromantic
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I'm not changing the way I write for the sake of weak thinkers. I don't care
“As some universities and journals adopt AI-text detectors, they risk creating a feedback loop that constrains how authors express themselves. I have seen colleagues intentionally simplify their grammar or break down complex rhetorical structures to avoid arousing algorithmic suspicion.”
Why artificial intelligence detectors could penalize academic writing - Nature Human Behaviour
Writing produced using artificial intelligence is becoming more common in academia, which has prompted institutions to look for ways to detect it. Bo Hu warns that an overreliance on fixed linguistic ...
www.nature.com
February 16, 2026 at 9:00 PM
I'm not changing the way I write for the sake of weak thinkers. I don't care
If you’ve got any romance-related or Valentine-y questions for us to answer on this week’s Dildorks, you can submit ‘em here: ngl.link/girly_juice1...
Anonymous messages!
Anonymous messages!
ngl.link
February 16, 2026 at 5:30 PM
If you’ve got any romance-related or Valentine-y questions for us to answer on this week’s Dildorks, you can submit ‘em here: ngl.link/girly_juice1...
Any assertion that it is classist or ableist to be anti-A.I. art is, itself, a classist or ableist assertion, because it implies that poor people and disabled people would be unable to make art without A.I.
There are millennia of evidence to the contrary, including some of the best art ever made.
There are millennia of evidence to the contrary, including some of the best art ever made.
What do we think about the assertion in this meme? I know, we think it's asinine, but I'm looking for specific arguments as to why it's asinine.
February 16, 2026 at 5:25 PM
Any assertion that it is classist or ableist to be anti-A.I. art is, itself, a classist or ableist assertion, because it implies that poor people and disabled people would be unable to make art without A.I.
There are millennia of evidence to the contrary, including some of the best art ever made.
There are millennia of evidence to the contrary, including some of the best art ever made.
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do you know what would help!!!!!!!! living in a society that lets people experiment with their gender without treating it like the most important thing in the world!!!!!!! letting people get it right or wrong without politicising their decisions!!!!!!! just being chilled about gender!!!!!! aaahhhhhh
"if they socially transition too early we think they can get locked onto a trajectory that may not have been the correct natural trajectory for them"
Direct quote.
Direct quote.
February 16, 2026 at 5:03 PM
do you know what would help!!!!!!!! living in a society that lets people experiment with their gender without treating it like the most important thing in the world!!!!!!! letting people get it right or wrong without politicising their decisions!!!!!!! just being chilled about gender!!!!!! aaahhhhhh
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Change your gender, become a poet, catapult yourself into the sun. There are no rules. You can do anything you want.
February 15, 2026 at 7:41 PM
Change your gender, become a poet, catapult yourself into the sun. There are no rules. You can do anything you want.
new Hot Freaks album slaps
February 15, 2026 at 11:54 PM
new Hot Freaks album slaps
improv show self-date
February 15, 2026 at 11:53 PM
improv show self-date
gawd these are gorgeous!!!
Our full bowtie lineup, in their Ready-Made neon candy colorways!
These toys (and the rest of our site) are currently 15% OFF for the rest of the night!
https://uberrime.com/collections/inventory-toys
These toys (and the rest of our site) are currently 15% OFF for the rest of the night!
https://uberrime.com/collections/inventory-toys
February 15, 2026 at 10:01 PM
gawd these are gorgeous!!!
YUP. On both individual & systemic levels, it is WILD how often women flat-out saying “I never want to have kids” are told they will change their mind someday if certain magical conditions are met.
Nah. Some of us just don’t want kids. Wouldn’t be able to raise them or have no interest in doing so.
Nah. Some of us just don’t want kids. Wouldn’t be able to raise them or have no interest in doing so.
Articles like this drive me fucking nuts, because how can you post a stat like "50% of Canadian women say they don't want kids" and state that they would if Canada became a place that "reveres motherhood," but never once consider they just...don't want to?
www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/arti...
www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/arti...
Opinion: Policy alone won’t fix Canada’s fertility crisis. We need a cultural shift
More and more Canadian women are stopping at one child, if they choose to have children at all
www.theglobeandmail.com
February 15, 2026 at 10:01 PM
YUP. On both individual & systemic levels, it is WILD how often women flat-out saying “I never want to have kids” are told they will change their mind someday if certain magical conditions are met.
Nah. Some of us just don’t want kids. Wouldn’t be able to raise them or have no interest in doing so.
Nah. Some of us just don’t want kids. Wouldn’t be able to raise them or have no interest in doing so.
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Subway take: Writers should write their own work, and people who don't want to do that should just... not be writers. There are a lot of other things to be! Maybe you'll like one of those better!
February 15, 2026 at 9:50 PM
Subway take: Writers should write their own work, and people who don't want to do that should just... not be writers. There are a lot of other things to be! Maybe you'll like one of those better!
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I often think it is astonishing that we have survived this long as a species.
the answers in this thread are so much more hilarious & shocking than I was expecting www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOv...
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
From the AskWomenOver30 community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the AskWomenOver30 community
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February 14, 2026 at 9:51 PM
I often think it is astonishing that we have survived this long as a species.
I have possibly found the most boring movie in Zac Efron’s entire filmography (The Lucky One) and I may need to re-watch 17 Again afterwards to cleanse my brain
February 15, 2026 at 5:40 PM
I have possibly found the most boring movie in Zac Efron’s entire filmography (The Lucky One) and I may need to re-watch 17 Again afterwards to cleanse my brain
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Pay-What-You-Can NoFrillDos are back! I make these from leftover silicone from my other NoFrillicone pours, and since they're saved from becoming aste material, I let you decide how much they're worth!
www.funkittoys.com/product-page...
www.funkittoys.com/product-page...
Pay-What-You-Can NoFrillDo | funkittoys
One of Funkit Toys' main guiding principles is minimizing waste. Another is making safe sex toys accessible to as many people as possible. With this in mind, the Sliding Scale NoFrillDos are multicolo...
www.funkittoys.com
February 13, 2026 at 10:24 PM
Pay-What-You-Can NoFrillDos are back! I make these from leftover silicone from my other NoFrillicone pours, and since they're saved from becoming aste material, I let you decide how much they're worth!
www.funkittoys.com/product-page...
www.funkittoys.com/product-page...
[this skeet is for extreme sex toy nerds only but] do any of you remember the Jopen Comet Wand???
why the fuck did they discontinue it??
why the fuck did they discontinue it??
February 15, 2026 at 4:04 AM
[this skeet is for extreme sex toy nerds only but] do any of you remember the Jopen Comet Wand???
why the fuck did they discontinue it??
why the fuck did they discontinue it??
happy Valentine’s Day from me & my beautiful wife!! 💋❤️
February 14, 2026 at 10:56 PM
happy Valentine’s Day from me & my beautiful wife!! 💋❤️
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The replies in that Reddit thread are precisely why people say the bar is in hell…
the answers in this thread are so much more hilarious & shocking than I was expecting www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOv...
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
From the AskWomenOver30 community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the AskWomenOver30 community
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February 14, 2026 at 8:01 PM
The replies in that Reddit thread are precisely why people say the bar is in hell…
the answers in this thread are so much more hilarious & shocking than I was expecting www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOv...
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
From the AskWomenOver30 community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the AskWomenOver30 community
www.reddit.com
February 14, 2026 at 7:59 PM
the answers in this thread are so much more hilarious & shocking than I was expecting www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOv...
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are
might possibly be encouraging to read if you’re a decently polite man with at least basic social skills, since you’re doing a lot better than these guys are