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Kate Sloan (she/her)
@katesloan.com
3.6K followers 730 following 2.6K posts
📚 Author KateWritesAboutSex.com
🍆 Sex toy reviewer GirlyJuice.net
🎙️ Sex podcaster TheDildorks.com
🪄 Vibrator nerd MakingMagicSeries.com
🎶 Songwriter KateSloan.Bandcamp.com
📍 Brooklyn + sometimes Toronto
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lyrics of my bittersweet ode to sexual assertiveness
DANNY: let me tell you something that I know for sure about human sexuality 'cause you make the same mistake over & over & Einstein said that's insanity... when it comes to sex, nobody wants to guess – ambivalence isn't hot when it comes to a fuck, you can't rely on luck: you gotta ask for what you want ask for what you want, my love! get yourself the guts & the gall! 'cause if you never ask, my love, you'll end up with nothing at all JULES I am shy; I always have been a kitten can't change its stripes so no way, no how; it will not happen: I'll never tell you what I like I will keep my ghosts a secret so find somebody else to haunt! sex is great, but... (shrugs) who needs it? I'll never ask for what I want! I'll never ask, I'll never need to want is bad, to want is greed I'll never share, I'll never spill you can beg, but I never will I'll never ask, I'll never try I'll only hide, I'll only cry & I know I'll end up with nothing at all I know I'll end up with nothing at all
December 1, 2025 at 4:21 AM
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some excerpts. can you tell I really want you to read this one?!

(with mega thanks to @girlonthenet.bsky.social who is brilliant and has given me a lot of clear language and validation around these ideas)
November 28, 2025 at 7:20 PM
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I really need you to see this amazing book DANCING WITH CATS
Dancing With Cats – “from the creators of the international bestseller Why Cats Paint,” Burton Silver & Heather Busch A woman in a long black gown dancing with a cat A man in a pink shirt gesturing animatedly and looking elated while dancing with a cat A woman and her cat both reaching for the sky in a way that feels, idk, Fosse-esque?
November 28, 2025 at 5:15 PM
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POV: you’re dating me

gorg photos by @mbbischoff.com
Cute smiley pic of Kate across the table at a restaurant at dinner time; two flutes of champagne are visible to one side Kate perched on a felled tree outdoors, wearing a black suit jacket, black suit pants, a red tank top, red/pink Nikes, and a red Coach bag. She is looking particularly gay and girlbossy Pretty portrait of Kate in the same outfit. The vibe is startup CEO headshot Kate again wearing the same outfit but this time on stage at Comedy Bar doing some kind of zany musical improv bit. Some of her teammates are visible behind her
November 28, 2025 at 2:50 AM
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still thinking about the WAPtini (wet ass pear martini) at Civil Works

I think I’ve ordered it the last 3-4 times I’ve been to this bar and it is truly perfect
The menu of the cocktail bar Civil Works, which is entitled A Manual for Laying Pipe A photo taken by mb of Kate sitting at the bar at Civil Works, looking perhaps a little grumpy, probably because she was craving a WAPtini
November 27, 2025 at 8:30 PM
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would be a perfect album cover if me and Lili ever started a band together
a very silly selfie of Kate (with bedhead, no makeup, and a goofy smile) posing in the background while Lili the cat stares intensely into the camera in the foreground
November 26, 2025 at 4:32 PM
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captioned version for TikTok of my cute little 90-second pop song about being wildly insecure ✌️🤪
November 25, 2025 at 2:16 PM
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🎶 I guess it doesn't make a ton of sense to me/ that anybody would be into me for me🎶
do you like me for my money (though I really don't have much)? do you like me for my body? do you like me for my touch? I guess it doesn't make a ton of sense to me that anybody would be into me for me so, do you like my reputation? do you like me for my clothes? do you have a secret fetish for girls with a big nose? 'cause otherwise, why would I be your cup of tea? why would you be into me for me? I know I undersell myself; I know I'm insecure people can say that they want me, but I never really can be sure 'cause I've got walls nobody can see through unless I ever let them in here with me, too so, do you just like my appearance, or are you seeing more than the flimsy little glimpses I've let others see before? I cannot tell you just how happy I would be if you were into me for me – oh yeah! if you were into me for me – yes, please! if you were into me for me
November 24, 2025 at 9:45 PM
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tiny lil blues verse from last night’s musical improv show

my suggestion was ‘toe socks’ so of COURSE I did something about dating people who have a foot fetish (which I have done a few times)…
November 24, 2025 at 3:03 PM
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interesting (obviously subjective/not totally representative) comment on cultural differences between dating UK men vs. American men

one struggle I have with Canadian men is that polite Canadian flirting often reads as just friendliness lol
November 23, 2025 at 4:19 AM
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u guys ok?
Someone’s lawn ornament of the grinch and his dog has collapsed sideways so it appears they are holding each other in the fetal position
November 22, 2025 at 7:05 PM
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Funnily enough, I am also currently writing a romance novel where (like this book) the protagonist works at a sex shop, so I bought this one for research purposes on your recommendation!

Having worked in a couple of sex shops… they can indeed be rife spaces for coworker flirtation
November 21, 2025 at 10:24 PM
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some petits excerpts
November 21, 2025 at 6:30 PM
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hotel bed thirst traps for no reason whatsoever except that I am in a hotel bed
November 20, 2025 at 2:38 PM
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my wife takes good pictures of me
Kate in profile at a cocktail bar, wearing pearls and a black dress Kate smiling at the same cocktail bar
November 20, 2025 at 1:55 AM
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interestingly, one of the experts Wikipedia cites on this point is HELEN FISHER, the same anthropologist who wrote the book on romantic love that I snarkily livetweeted recently

she had her hands in a lot of uhh pies bsky.app/profile/kate...
Biological anthropologist Helen B. Fisher said that "perhaps, the fleshy, rounded buttocks attracted males during rear-entry intercourse".[3] In a 2017 study, using 3D models and eye-tracking technology, Fisher's claim was tested and was shown that the slight thrusting out of a woman's back influences how attractive others perceive her to be and captures the gaze of both men and women.
November 19, 2025 at 4:29 PM
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wife time wife time
Beautiful cutie mb is sitting in a sunny booth at a diner, smiling mb is sitting in a chair smiling and behind her head is Lili the cat who is staring photogenically at the camera Kate and mb looking somewhat alarmed (and probably quite tipsy) at a bar somewhere in Toronto Kate and mb tipsily embracing while smiling, photographed sitting at the bar at C-Suite in Toronto’s Yorkville area
November 18, 2025 at 6:15 PM
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these old journals are gold… damn… yr girl is & has always been an extreme sex nerd
A hand-drawn graph entitled “New sexual partners by month: a visual representation of my ‘slut phase.’” The graph shows Kate gaining several new sexual partners between October 2015 and January 2018.
November 16, 2025 at 4:56 PM
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Back in the trypophobia bathroom again
Mirror selfie of Kate in the bathroom of the fancy Toronto restaurant Aloette; the mirror is surrounded by a honeycomb-esque pattern full of holes
November 15, 2025 at 6:18 PM
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It’s like cleaning house before someone comes over
November 14, 2025 at 5:11 PM
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Today’s my 5-year wedding anniversary with @mbbischoff.com 😭❤️

I love you so much, thank you for making me laugh constantly & being a bright, brilliant, beautiful force in the lives of everyone who knows you

I love being married to you, let’s do it for a lot more years 💖
Kate and mb sitting outside on a park bench together in late summer/early autumn, both wearing sunglasses and smiling; the sun is sparkling in mb’s dark blonde hair Mirror selfie of Kate and mb in their apartment in Brooklyn, both wearing jeans and leather jackets Selfie of Kate and mb in the Red Room at Singer’s bar, smiling together at a party, both wearing their glasses; if I recall correctly there was a Jenna Marbles video playing in the background Selfie of Kate and mb smiling outdoors at magic hour in New York, both wearing red
November 14, 2025 at 5:02 PM
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or, as I once put it in a song:

🎶 you don’t have to be productive to deserve to live 🎶

katesloan.bandcamp.com/track/rest
lyrics of the Kate Sloan song ‘Rest’: so you woke up today feelin' oddly okay good for you, good for you so you take a day off from your terrible job good for you, good for you & you stay in your bed & you empty your head good for you, good for you & you let yourself lie there as time flows on by good for you, good for you CHORUS: you don't have to be productive to deserve to live don't you say you're sorry, 'cause there's nothing to forgive & I'm here to remind you, incase you forget that everyone, everyone, everyone deserves rest so you're trying to grow & to learn to say no good for you, good for you & you noticed an ache, so you're takin' a break good for you, good for you & you know that your job isn't all that you are good for you, good for you 'cause the things you get done are only just one part of you; yes, it's true (repeat chorus) you'll be good & rested by tomorrow you will live to fight another day it's okay to take a day of flyin' solo when you know you really need to get away (repeat chorus)
November 14, 2025 at 4:55 PM
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dammit, i missed the opportunity to buy my favorite vintage Magic Wand model www.ebay.com/itm/36596771...
November 13, 2025 at 7:49 PM
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et voilà bsky.app/profile/kate...
if you want my eyes to widen & for me to feel so small kiss me against a wall, against a wall if you want to tower over me, so tempting & so tall kiss me against a wall, against a wall some prefer to kiss in bed, or sitting on a couch & those places have their moments, but they're basically played out I prefer to be demure while you invade my space & kiss me while I'm stuck between you & a hard place so, if you want to light my mind up & make me feel it all kiss me against a wall, against a wall I know that I'll be safe; I know that you won't let me fall & oh, I like your face too much, you pretty little doll this moment is a moment that I always will recall so kiss me – kiss me against a wall
November 12, 2025 at 10:23 PM
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redid the bdsmtest.org yesterday cuz I like to do it every few years to see how my kinks change

uhh… still submissive as fuck
November 12, 2025 at 6:40 PM