Wren
@wrengineer.bsky.social
Vegan, Mama of Two, Engineer, Dancing Novice, Sailor Enthusiast, Queer Femme, Cult Survivor
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A couple days after this piece was published, I went to my local TDOR. I had lost a local friend that year to suicide and they were going to honor her that night.
The small gathering was touching. I cried through my friend's commemoration and choked up each time one of the women I wrote about...
The small gathering was touching. I cried through my friend's commemoration and choked up each time one of the women I wrote about...
Read this piece I contributed to in 2017. This piece, talking with the friends and families of murdered Black trans women, still haunts me to this day.
Pieces like this are just not printed anymore.
www.thefader.com/2017/10/15/t...
Pieces like this are just not printed anymore.
www.thefader.com/2017/10/15/t...
Rest in power
So far in 2017, 21 trans people have been reported as murdered. These are their life stories.
www.thefader.com
November 20, 2025 at 7:37 PM
A couple days after this piece was published, I went to my local TDOR. I had lost a local friend that year to suicide and they were going to honor her that night.
The small gathering was touching. I cried through my friend's commemoration and choked up each time one of the women I wrote about...
The small gathering was touching. I cried through my friend's commemoration and choked up each time one of the women I wrote about...
Still winning the grand prize as the only trans person in a largely conservative cishet workforce. Proof that transphobia isn’t really doing anything here ;)
October 30, 2025 at 10:11 PM
Still winning the grand prize as the only trans person in a largely conservative cishet workforce. Proof that transphobia isn’t really doing anything here ;)
I have more love from those in my life than ever - and cishets keep inviting me to their parties because they like me as a person regardless. Solidarity isn't even just lgbtq.
Online is so different than being engaged in what you love IRL. If Talia is saying this, listen - Life is worth living!
Online is so different than being engaged in what you love IRL. If Talia is saying this, listen - Life is worth living!
And every time I try to talk about solidarity or optimism or try to tell people there's hope amidst the suffering, I'm called some variant of lucky or assimilationist like I don't have fucking neopronouns as a brown enby tranny lesbian and like I didn't suffer in the closet for years too.
October 20, 2025 at 9:47 PM
I have more love from those in my life than ever - and cishets keep inviting me to their parties because they like me as a person regardless. Solidarity isn't even just lgbtq.
Online is so different than being engaged in what you love IRL. If Talia is saying this, listen - Life is worth living!
Online is so different than being engaged in what you love IRL. If Talia is saying this, listen - Life is worth living!
I thought we were supposed to be brave for being authentic? I honestly am not attracted to women. I was never attracted to men until I transitioned - I thought I was ace and know now that I am not. This makes me no lesser than any other trans experience.
Same for May. She is just being herself!
Same for May. She is just being herself!
I am so sick of getting comments like about my sexuality.
It’s transphobic, homophobic, and misogynistic and I’ve tolerated a LOT of this kind of attitude from other queer and trans people. Utterly ridiculous.
It’s transphobic, homophobic, and misogynistic and I’ve tolerated a LOT of this kind of attitude from other queer and trans people. Utterly ridiculous.
October 13, 2025 at 8:22 PM
I thought we were supposed to be brave for being authentic? I honestly am not attracted to women. I was never attracted to men until I transitioned - I thought I was ace and know now that I am not. This makes me no lesser than any other trans experience.
Same for May. She is just being herself!
Same for May. She is just being herself!
Fantastic article on a touching ad. I have never before seen a political ad that resonated so much.
No arguments from Makdani on boundaries (such as sports) no tripping up on words,, just 💯being behind trans people as being equal to all other citizens and deserving of their care. Beautiful.
No arguments from Makdani on boundaries (such as sports) no tripping up on words,, just 💯being behind trans people as being equal to all other citizens and deserving of their care. Beautiful.
I wrote a little about some of the little details you might have missed in this video and why it hit me so hard as a trans person this morning:
www.burnsnotice.com/you-have-to-...
www.burnsnotice.com/you-have-to-...
October 11, 2025 at 3:54 PM
Fantastic article on a touching ad. I have never before seen a political ad that resonated so much.
No arguments from Makdani on boundaries (such as sports) no tripping up on words,, just 💯being behind trans people as being equal to all other citizens and deserving of their care. Beautiful.
No arguments from Makdani on boundaries (such as sports) no tripping up on words,, just 💯being behind trans people as being equal to all other citizens and deserving of their care. Beautiful.
While I have a better relationship with my ex now - she used to say this all the time "you get all the support, I get nothing".
Interestingly we had a high conflict divorce - which she drove - and I had no support while even my own family and all "friends" gave to her.
Interestingly we had a high conflict divorce - which she drove - and I had no support while even my own family and all "friends" gave to her.
One of the most perverse ideas on the anti-trans side is that trans people are instantly affirmed and celebrated by everyone when they come out and that acceptance is driving a social contagion.
It's the ultimate form of gaslighting against our community.
www.erininthemorning.com/p/pew-survey...
It's the ultimate form of gaslighting against our community.
www.erininthemorning.com/p/pew-survey...
Pew Survey: Only 31% Of Trans People Report Being Accepted By Their Parents
The survey comes as transgender people experience a legal assault from the far-right in the United States.
www.erininthemorning.com
October 8, 2025 at 7:21 PM
While I have a better relationship with my ex now - she used to say this all the time "you get all the support, I get nothing".
Interestingly we had a high conflict divorce - which she drove - and I had no support while even my own family and all "friends" gave to her.
Interestingly we had a high conflict divorce - which she drove - and I had no support while even my own family and all "friends" gave to her.
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I was back at 26 Federal Plaza today, where an ICE agent violently threw this bereft woman to the ground in front of her kids. She had not touched him. She did not pose any threat. She had to be taken to the hospital. (🎥: Elias Eliahu)
September 25, 2025 at 6:03 PM
I was back at 26 Federal Plaza today, where an ICE agent violently threw this bereft woman to the ground in front of her kids. She had not touched him. She did not pose any threat. She had to be taken to the hospital. (🎥: Elias Eliahu)
Ugh. It took me 4.5 years of hrt to finally work out that I am a straight woman. It's ridiculous how dense I am.
It is interesting that dating guys without being myself held no attraction. It was a me thing, not them. I just wasn't myself yet. So tricky to de-tangle, just like being trans was.
It is interesting that dating guys without being myself held no attraction. It was a me thing, not them. I just wasn't myself yet. So tricky to de-tangle, just like being trans was.
September 22, 2025 at 6:20 PM
Ugh. It took me 4.5 years of hrt to finally work out that I am a straight woman. It's ridiculous how dense I am.
It is interesting that dating guys without being myself held no attraction. It was a me thing, not them. I just wasn't myself yet. So tricky to de-tangle, just like being trans was.
It is interesting that dating guys without being myself held no attraction. It was a me thing, not them. I just wasn't myself yet. So tricky to de-tangle, just like being trans was.
I get it in one context, I could never go back to who I was before transition - that’s a silly concept trans or cis, age alone changes us irrevocably
If I detransition, I would never be an aged version of what I was before. Though I could still transition backwards!
But eww @ his bio essentialism
If I detransition, I would never be an aged version of what I was before. Though I could still transition backwards!
But eww @ his bio essentialism
"No path backwards"? What am I then, chopped liver?
But I suppose it's just like a man not to take women seriously
But I suppose it's just like a man not to take women seriously
September 18, 2025 at 5:56 PM
I get it in one context, I could never go back to who I was before transition - that’s a silly concept trans or cis, age alone changes us irrevocably
If I detransition, I would never be an aged version of what I was before. Though I could still transition backwards!
But eww @ his bio essentialism
If I detransition, I would never be an aged version of what I was before. Though I could still transition backwards!
But eww @ his bio essentialism
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This is so messed up.
September 18, 2025 at 11:14 AM
This is so messed up.
The issue is that some see the book as a Bible of sorts for trans women. One chapter nailed my transition path, but the rest of the book was alien. It was great having trans literature, but omg I could not relate
I'm pretty asexual - so I've honestly had better representation in cis literature lol
I'm pretty asexual - so I've honestly had better representation in cis literature lol
I got way worse harassment for not liking Detransition, Baby as much as everybody else.
September 15, 2025 at 11:51 PM
The issue is that some see the book as a Bible of sorts for trans women. One chapter nailed my transition path, but the rest of the book was alien. It was great having trans literature, but omg I could not relate
I'm pretty asexual - so I've honestly had better representation in cis literature lol
I'm pretty asexual - so I've honestly had better representation in cis literature lol
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Replacing "transgender is like ferrari" with "transgender is like microwave" from now on after this great bit
September 15, 2025 at 8:05 AM
Replacing "transgender is like ferrari" with "transgender is like microwave" from now on after this great bit
Awesome! Otherwise I’d be worth like 2 cents lol
the amount of likes we get on social media doesn’t determine our worth 🫶🏻
September 14, 2025 at 9:59 PM
Awesome! Otherwise I’d be worth like 2 cents lol
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Reporters talking with everyone who has ever met the shooter asking if the shooter knew any trans people. Healthy society we have here for sure.
September 13, 2025 at 8:31 PM
Reporters talking with everyone who has ever met the shooter asking if the shooter knew any trans people. Healthy society we have here for sure.
Just as trans women framing hrt through the lens of testosterone being “poison” minimizes the experience of trans men, so does using stats to say we basically never detransition instead of taking the more liberating “so what?”
Great thread here. I appreciate hearing from those who detransition.
Great thread here. I appreciate hearing from those who detransition.
It's gonna keep happening until the answer to "what if they change theirs minds?!" doesn't definitively become "so what" and not "nuh-uh!! I'm actually statistically unlikely to change my mind, and if you do, you best shut your mouth, also you're cringe and ugly"
September 1, 2025 at 9:19 PM
Just as trans women framing hrt through the lens of testosterone being “poison” minimizes the experience of trans men, so does using stats to say we basically never detransition instead of taking the more liberating “so what?”
Great thread here. I appreciate hearing from those who detransition.
Great thread here. I appreciate hearing from those who detransition.
No need to make an already fraught minority community more scared than it already is.
It’s so premature to even know if the shooter was on any medication at all. There is a lot of complexity with banning hrt as it would impact cis republicans pretty significantly.
It’s so premature to even know if the shooter was on any medication at all. There is a lot of complexity with banning hrt as it would impact cis republicans pretty significantly.
What the fuck is wrong with LGBTQ Nation. Seriously.
RFK Jr did not say this. If he does you'll see it from me.
RFK Jr did not say this. If he does you'll see it from me.
RFK Jr.: We’re researching if gender-affirming meds cause school shootings - buff.ly/KY5dvnC
August 28, 2025 at 10:23 PM
No need to make an already fraught minority community more scared than it already is.
It’s so premature to even know if the shooter was on any medication at all. There is a lot of complexity with banning hrt as it would impact cis republicans pretty significantly.
It’s so premature to even know if the shooter was on any medication at all. There is a lot of complexity with banning hrt as it would impact cis republicans pretty significantly.
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if you want to be scared nobodys gonna stop you, but what a way to live your life
August 28, 2025 at 6:38 PM
if you want to be scared nobodys gonna stop you, but what a way to live your life
Unrelated to current events, but topical today.
Wonder if this is associated with a different phenomenon: upon becoming known as trans, my rarely expressed flaws (ex. interrupting) became who I was, even though they were basically ignored before transition in society though they occurred more often
Wonder if this is associated with a different phenomenon: upon becoming known as trans, my rarely expressed flaws (ex. interrupting) became who I was, even though they were basically ignored before transition in society though they occurred more often
unrelated to current events, I've spent much of the last week reading & writing about the social cognition phenomenon of "illusory correlation" – this is the abstract from one of the first studies to describe it (many subsequent studies support it). sharing it now for reasons....
August 27, 2025 at 8:20 PM
Unrelated to current events, but topical today.
Wonder if this is associated with a different phenomenon: upon becoming known as trans, my rarely expressed flaws (ex. interrupting) became who I was, even though they were basically ignored before transition in society though they occurred more often
Wonder if this is associated with a different phenomenon: upon becoming known as trans, my rarely expressed flaws (ex. interrupting) became who I was, even though they were basically ignored before transition in society though they occurred more often
I've always wondered where the ace trans femmes fell in Blanchard typography. I always felt that broke his dichotomy pretty hard core - but haven't kept up.
AGP set my transition back by 9+ years because that was my only exposure to transness back then, and it wasn't me.
AGP set my transition back by 9+ years because that was my only exposure to transness back then, and it wasn't me.
If you follow the trajectory of type theory over the years, you’ll see an interesting shift: from the prototypical AGP being a hypermasculine athlete toward being a delicate nerd.
The concept gets refined in real time to “explain” available public images of trans women.
The concept gets refined in real time to “explain” available public images of trans women.
Here's promoter of the "autogynephilia" pseudoscience concept J Michael Bailey, complaining that a science journal doesn't discuss the imagined sexuality of a 17 year-old in a paper about how she solved a math problem.
Anyway, trans women are the perverts by the way.
Anyway, trans women are the perverts by the way.
August 25, 2025 at 5:38 PM
I've always wondered where the ace trans femmes fell in Blanchard typography. I always felt that broke his dichotomy pretty hard core - but haven't kept up.
AGP set my transition back by 9+ years because that was my only exposure to transness back then, and it wasn't me.
AGP set my transition back by 9+ years because that was my only exposure to transness back then, and it wasn't me.
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Gavin Newsom suggesting that 25 years of age is too young to transition and agreeing to right-wing entryism of concern trolling about trans people in sports. This is your opposition leader?
I will never vote for Gavin Newsom anyone who thinks trans people are actual humans will follow suit.
I will never vote for Gavin Newsom anyone who thinks trans people are actual humans will follow suit.
August 22, 2025 at 3:26 PM
Gavin Newsom suggesting that 25 years of age is too young to transition and agreeing to right-wing entryism of concern trolling about trans people in sports. This is your opposition leader?
I will never vote for Gavin Newsom anyone who thinks trans people are actual humans will follow suit.
I will never vote for Gavin Newsom anyone who thinks trans people are actual humans will follow suit.
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No big deal
"It's just till we get in office ..."
"It's just sports,"
"It's just restrooms."
"It's just your pronouns."
"It's just your name."
"It's just your medications."
"It's just your job."
"It's just your kids."
"It's just you."
"It's just till we get in office ..."
"It's just sports,"
"It's just restrooms."
"It's just your pronouns."
"It's just your name."
"It's just your medications."
"It's just your job."
"It's just your kids."
"It's just you."
August 18, 2025 at 1:06 AM
No big deal
"It's just till we get in office ..."
"It's just sports,"
"It's just restrooms."
"It's just your pronouns."
"It's just your name."
"It's just your medications."
"It's just your job."
"It's just your kids."
"It's just you."
"It's just till we get in office ..."
"It's just sports,"
"It's just restrooms."
"It's just your pronouns."
"It's just your name."
"It's just your medications."
"It's just your job."
"It's just your kids."
"It's just you."
My parents (who are 100% transphobic) did this for me for so long.
The reason they gave was that supporting me in anyway was akin to supporting my descent into hell, which they could not do if they truly love me. lol.
Using an initial or refusing to use name/pronouns is so bigot coded
The reason they gave was that supporting me in anyway was akin to supporting my descent into hell, which they could not do if they truly love me. lol.
Using an initial or refusing to use name/pronouns is so bigot coded
i truly cannot stand it when people call me J instead of my name, it is literally so bigot coded
August 16, 2025 at 6:27 PM
My parents (who are 100% transphobic) did this for me for so long.
The reason they gave was that supporting me in anyway was akin to supporting my descent into hell, which they could not do if they truly love me. lol.
Using an initial or refusing to use name/pronouns is so bigot coded
The reason they gave was that supporting me in anyway was akin to supporting my descent into hell, which they could not do if they truly love me. lol.
Using an initial or refusing to use name/pronouns is so bigot coded
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i truly cannot stand it when people call me J instead of my name, it is literally so bigot coded
August 16, 2025 at 6:22 PM
i truly cannot stand it when people call me J instead of my name, it is literally so bigot coded
Chocolate Ice cream CAKE
We must increase bands. Flogging Molly ALOT
We must increase bands.
Blue Oyster Religion.
Blue Oyster Religion.
August 14, 2025 at 11:16 PM
Chocolate Ice cream CAKE
I'm pretty shocked at how few people understand the solar system basics and what happens in the N/S pole during their Summers (polar days/midnight suns). Like... this is elementary level science.
New study on scientific understanding in the US:
Vaccines have mostly been a benefit to human health
69% Agree
20% Unsure
11% Disagree
Vaccines have mostly been a benefit to human health
69% Agree
20% Unsure
11% Disagree
August 11, 2025 at 6:18 PM
I'm pretty shocked at how few people understand the solar system basics and what happens in the N/S pole during their Summers (polar days/midnight suns). Like... this is elementary level science.