Stephanie Leary
@sleary.bsky.social
Front End Developer doing UI and accessibility work on open source library software. Previously: MLIS @ UW iSchool; tag wrangling; wrote some tech books a while back. Pretty young for an Old Internet Person.
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this is a crucial survival skill Online
People need to learn to go block shopping when they see a post getting a bunch of insane replies and quotes
January 5, 2026 at 5:20 AM
this is a crucial survival skill Online
It is the antithesis of “everyone is beautiful and no one is horny.”
I keep thinking about how Heated Rivalry has captured a level of male sex appeal that the MCU still hasn’t figured out.
January 5, 2026 at 3:33 AM
It is the antithesis of “everyone is beautiful and no one is horny.”
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So it's appropriate to arrest a world leader if you consider them criminal? You can just go get them? Just asking questions here.
January 3, 2026 at 5:18 PM
So it's appropriate to arrest a world leader if you consider them criminal? You can just go get them? Just asking questions here.
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This worked on me like an emergency braking system. Needed it.
When you’re doom posting about how everything is inevitable and no one can stop them, you’re doing their work for them. Stop that
January 3, 2026 at 8:42 PM
This worked on me like an emergency braking system. Needed it.
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Ask not what your representative will do for you (nothing), ask how you can make your representative so miserable they quit their job
My attitude on this is that I'm not calling them because I think I can change their minds.
I'm calling them because it is unthinkable to let them do this without hearing how evil and awful they are.
My spite powers me. If I can get just 500 people a day to join me, we could fuck up their day.
I'm calling them because it is unthinkable to let them do this without hearing how evil and awful they are.
My spite powers me. If I can get just 500 people a day to join me, we could fuck up their day.
I call Tommy Tuberville every fucking week, multiple times a week, because he can be evil but I don't have to let him do it without pushback.
So I don't need to hear excuses. I call the dumbest senator in the country. 😂
So I don't need to hear excuses. I call the dumbest senator in the country. 😂
January 3, 2026 at 7:55 PM
Ask not what your representative will do for you (nothing), ask how you can make your representative so miserable they quit their job
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hey remember when a bunch of middle-aged drunk korean lawmakers climbed the locked gates to the national assembly to hold an emergency session after the president gave illegal orders to the military, all of which ended with said president being sentenced to prison
January 3, 2026 at 7:02 AM
hey remember when a bunch of middle-aged drunk korean lawmakers climbed the locked gates to the national assembly to hold an emergency session after the president gave illegal orders to the military, all of which ended with said president being sentenced to prison
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The whole "Grok admits" "Grok apologizes" thing reminds me of the famous IBM presentation quote that evidently everyone has forgotten. And I do think representing your brand on social media counts as a "management decision".
January 2, 2026 at 11:54 PM
The whole "Grok admits" "Grok apologizes" thing reminds me of the famous IBM presentation quote that evidently everyone has forgotten. And I do think representing your brand on social media counts as a "management decision".
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Baby this is it - this is the frame -Mamdani: “These policies are not simply about the costs we make free but *the lives we fill with freedom.*” Not worrying about the cost of childcare and whether the bus will come makes you more free. Not worrying whether you can pay your rent makes you more free.
January 2, 2026 at 6:09 PM
Baby this is it - this is the frame -Mamdani: “These policies are not simply about the costs we make free but *the lives we fill with freedom.*” Not worrying about the cost of childcare and whether the bus will come makes you more free. Not worrying whether you can pay your rent makes you more free.
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This also holds if you swap out urban America with people of color, I think
I'm entirely serious about this: until you internalize the view that urban America is Real America, you won't see the urgency of structural reform of an American government whose fundamental structures so disadvantage its population centers—the great engines of its prosperity, progress, & culture.
Another good practice for the New Year would be for all the non-fascists in America who want to opine about politics to really begin believing that urban America is Real America & that its denizens are The Authentic People. Get some self-respect & drop the volkish nationalist view that they're not
January 1, 2026 at 4:40 PM
This also holds if you swap out urban America with people of color, I think
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how I'm heading into 2026
January 1, 2026 at 4:22 AM
how I'm heading into 2026
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If you are new to following, every two years I become possessed by the spirit of voting rights and with @totallydonna.kitrocha.com and @courtneymilan.com and a team of volunteers with all the ADHD and none of the self-control, we raise money for voting rights orgs.
We hit $1 million total in 2024!
We hit $1 million total in 2024!
December 31, 2025 at 4:12 AM
If you are new to following, every two years I become possessed by the spirit of voting rights and with @totallydonna.kitrocha.com and @courtneymilan.com and a team of volunteers with all the ADHD and none of the self-control, we raise money for voting rights orgs.
We hit $1 million total in 2024!
We hit $1 million total in 2024!
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This is true and I was the only one on set excited about it (and playing the song on my phone to blank stares)
Just watched the new Knives Out and I think it's really important you know that the scene in the Seminary's Gym is filmed in the same place Rick Astley filmed the music video for Never Gonna Give You Up.
I saw the window tracery and immediately made my friends pause the film so I could tell them.
I saw the window tracery and immediately made my friends pause the film so I could tell them.
December 30, 2025 at 4:21 AM
This is true and I was the only one on set excited about it (and playing the song on my phone to blank stares)
Can the straight men just read some goddamn romance novels and calm the fuck down?!
tech bros talk about your partner without sounding like a serial killer who has never encountered a human woman, challenge: impossible
I am begging everyone on here to read this new post by Bryan Johnson — the super rich tech guy who is now doing the “never die” protocol.
I need to talk about it with you all.
I need to talk about it with you all.
December 30, 2025 at 5:56 AM
Can the straight men just read some goddamn romance novels and calm the fuck down?!
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Thanks to Heated Rivalry, people are asking why so many women are writing and reading m/m romance.
Not only is that a boring question, it's backwards.
Why shouldn't women (and women-adjacent people) be doing this? Also: why aren't men reading and writing more genres that center love and HEAs?
Not only is that a boring question, it's backwards.
Why shouldn't women (and women-adjacent people) be doing this? Also: why aren't men reading and writing more genres that center love and HEAs?
December 29, 2025 at 3:40 AM
Thanks to Heated Rivalry, people are asking why so many women are writing and reading m/m romance.
Not only is that a boring question, it's backwards.
Why shouldn't women (and women-adjacent people) be doing this? Also: why aren't men reading and writing more genres that center love and HEAs?
Not only is that a boring question, it's backwards.
Why shouldn't women (and women-adjacent people) be doing this? Also: why aren't men reading and writing more genres that center love and HEAs?
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Now that Heated Rivalry s1 has wrapped up I've been coping by listening to episode recaps by the finest hockey bros in all the land, i.e. What Chaos and Empty Netters, and I am so charmed by these guys, who are diving head-first into a genre they have zero experience with, but also. Also.
December 29, 2025 at 12:10 AM
Now that Heated Rivalry s1 has wrapped up I've been coping by listening to episode recaps by the finest hockey bros in all the land, i.e. What Chaos and Empty Netters, and I am so charmed by these guys, who are diving head-first into a genre they have zero experience with, but also. Also.
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Alt my loving, I will send to you #HeatedRivalry
December 28, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Alt my loving, I will send to you #HeatedRivalry
A late entry in the race for most curséd news summaries of 2025
Private equity getting involved in surrogate births, I'm sure that's gonna turn out great
The booming surrogacy industry is a new target of private-equity and other investors, but it’s largely unregulated, leaving the women who give birth with few financial or legal protections.
December 28, 2025 at 6:12 AM
A late entry in the race for most curséd news summaries of 2025
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This whole fucking thread, man...
In 2019, the rate of fatal police shootings in the US was 3.1 per million residents. By contrast, the rate in France was 0.14 per million, and in Germany, it was lower.
In Germany, police officers discharged a total of 85 bullets at people in the entire year of 2011.
In Germany, police officers discharged a total of 85 bullets at people in the entire year of 2011.
I’ve said it and I believe it is true
There is a willful forgetting and suppression of the memory of the hundreds of protests that shook this nation for the past decade and a half. So while Canadians and European laypeople whine “Americans don’t do anything,” the Americans are actively suppressed
There is a willful forgetting and suppression of the memory of the hundreds of protests that shook this nation for the past decade and a half. So while Canadians and European laypeople whine “Americans don’t do anything,” the Americans are actively suppressed
December 28, 2025 at 5:50 AM
This whole fucking thread, man...
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You have got to be fucking kidding me.
That’s it. I quit the internet. I draw the line at butt phrenology.
That’s it. I quit the internet. I draw the line at butt phrenology.
I *know* I shouldn’t share the NYPost but I got served this BUTT PHRENOLOGY article
!!!!
And people should know that we have entered the era of BUTT PHRENOLOGY
!!!!
!!!!
And people should know that we have entered the era of BUTT PHRENOLOGY
!!!!
How a bigger-looking butt could be a sneaky sign of autism and ADHD
Your backside might reveal a thing or two about your brain.
nypost.com
December 28, 2025 at 12:25 AM
You have got to be fucking kidding me.
That’s it. I quit the internet. I draw the line at butt phrenology.
That’s it. I quit the internet. I draw the line at butt phrenology.
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Once again, I must reiterate my biggest dream in the wake of Heated Rivalry’s success: If I had all the money in the world I would start an exclusively romance network and adapt ALL THE BOOKS for it. Varying subgenres, varying heat levels.
December 26, 2025 at 11:28 PM
Once again, I must reiterate my biggest dream in the wake of Heated Rivalry’s success: If I had all the money in the world I would start an exclusively romance network and adapt ALL THE BOOKS for it. Varying subgenres, varying heat levels.
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I've had a few people say to me (on the heels of watching Heated Rivalry) that they wished there were sapphic hockey romances, and folks... let me tell you the good news about
@kellyfarmerauthor.bsky.social!
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@kellyfarmerauthor.bsky.social!
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Books | Kelly Farmer
Books by Kelly Farmer, author of Queer Contemporary Romances
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December 25, 2025 at 8:37 PM
I've had a few people say to me (on the heels of watching Heated Rivalry) that they wished there were sapphic hockey romances, and folks... let me tell you the good news about
@kellyfarmerauthor.bsky.social!
www.kellyfarmerauthor.com/books
@kellyfarmerauthor.bsky.social!
www.kellyfarmerauthor.com/books
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I went to the cottage and came back convinced that we need shows like Heated Rivalry more than ever. "Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is to have a good time on purpose."
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Thanks @carlylane.bsky.social & @readingtheend.bsky.social for their posts.
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Thanks @carlylane.bsky.social & @readingtheend.bsky.social for their posts.
a trip to the boy aquarium
I was going to take a week off but then Heated Rivalry finished and my brain was too full of thoughts. If you’re an extremely online person (and it’s hard to...
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December 27, 2025 at 1:25 AM
I went to the cottage and came back convinced that we need shows like Heated Rivalry more than ever. "Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is to have a good time on purpose."
newsletter.sachajudd.com/archive/a-tr...
Thanks @carlylane.bsky.social & @readingtheend.bsky.social for their posts.
newsletter.sachajudd.com/archive/a-tr...
Thanks @carlylane.bsky.social & @readingtheend.bsky.social for their posts.
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Feeling this so hard this past several weeks
December 24, 2025 at 10:18 PM
Feeling this so hard this past several weeks
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If you’re wondering why your friends in academia are a little on edge right now, it’s because an eighteen-year-old who hasn’t done the reading, doesn’t look at the assignment, and has does no critical thinking skills more complex than “because I think it’s in the Bible” can literally end your career
The University of Oklahoma has removed an instructor who was accused by a student of religious discrimination over a failing grade on a psychology paper in which she cited the Bible and argued that promoting a “belief in multiple genders” was “demonic.” https://cnn.it/4b6g3rd
Oklahoma instructor removed from teaching for failing a Bible-based gender essay | CNN
The University of Oklahoma has removed an instructor who was accused by a student of religious discrimination over a failing grade on a psychology paper in which she cited the Bible and argued that promoting a “belief in multiple genders” was “demonic.”
cnn.it
December 24, 2025 at 6:21 PM
If you’re wondering why your friends in academia are a little on edge right now, it’s because an eighteen-year-old who hasn’t done the reading, doesn’t look at the assignment, and has does no critical thinking skills more complex than “because I think it’s in the Bible” can literally end your career
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this website full of elder millennials has been training for this for 25 years
Bringing back Limewire to illegally rip copies of reporting suppressed by the government is definitely some cyberpunk shit
December 23, 2025 at 4:51 AM
this website full of elder millennials has been training for this for 25 years