lily
@cucuyita.bsky.social
28 - trans woman - she/her
transitioning to a mid 30s salarywoman
transitioning to a mid 30s salarywoman
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make em wait for it
December 1, 2025 at 10:06 AM
make em wait for it
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the office party ended with a kiss from the cute girl from marketing. i was still tingling from her touch when i got home.
December 24, 2025 at 5:53 PM
the office party ended with a kiss from the cute girl from marketing. i was still tingling from her touch when i got home.
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December 24, 2025 at 5:38 PM
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anyone ever notice how it's always women's responsibility to fix men and it's always a demand for fuckmothering the poor lost boys
It’s like “oh women have to be sexually available to men or else the men will destroy the fabric of society” damn ok
December 20, 2025 at 6:55 AM
anyone ever notice how it's always women's responsibility to fix men and it's always a demand for fuckmothering the poor lost boys
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Even if we completely cracked biology, and you could change your entire genome with an injection on a whim, or print and splice on arbitrary organs and tissue, these fucks would still be equivocating to justify their essentialism, because it's an axiom of their worldview, not an empirical conclusion
You *can* change your sex. That is the entire reason that transition care is being demonised, vilified, erased, and outlawed. Because this fact makes cis people uncomfortable.
Deal with your own discomfort without denying biological reality.
Deal with your own discomfort without denying biological reality.
spare us from the cis allies who are always like "nobody saying that you can change your sex" and "we're talking about gender not sex, they're very different." stop it.
December 19, 2025 at 7:05 AM
Even if we completely cracked biology, and you could change your entire genome with an injection on a whim, or print and splice on arbitrary organs and tissue, these fucks would still be equivocating to justify their essentialism, because it's an axiom of their worldview, not an empirical conclusion
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Judith Butler said “sex is the gendering of the body” 30+ years ago and somehow cis people heard “oh so the sex gender split means sex is Real right”
It's hard to determine whether the blame lies more with trans advocacy abandoning any and all radicalism while trying to find a palatable message for a cissexist society married to sex-essentialism, or with cis people's inherent discomfort with sex being mutable.
All I know is this fucking sucks.
All I know is this fucking sucks.
December 19, 2025 at 6:43 PM
Judith Butler said “sex is the gendering of the body” 30+ years ago and somehow cis people heard “oh so the sex gender split means sex is Real right”
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If they have any kind of power at all—journalist, politician, healthcare commissioner—your position on DIY HRT is, “What’s that? A new kind of hammer? For DIY? Can I get it on Amazon?”
Don't talk to journalists about DIY HRT.
December 19, 2025 at 4:40 PM
If they have any kind of power at all—journalist, politician, healthcare commissioner—your position on DIY HRT is, “What’s that? A new kind of hammer? For DIY? Can I get it on Amazon?”
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The macabre thing here is that the sheer epistemic vandalism of this term runs pretty deep. A lot of cis people won't even clock that there's anything offensive about it. A young cis athlete calling out a transphobic athlete used this term in her letter of support just a couple of months ago.
Doesn’t feel good that the head of BBC News Content is instructing reporters to refer to trans people with slurs. If this leak is real it raises questions about who made this decision, who was consulted, and why the BBC chose to ignore its own editorial guidelines on slurs and offensive language
EXCLUSIVE
The BBC has circulated leaked guidance telling journalists to describe trans women as “biological males”.
Clarity should not come at the cost of dignity. #bbc #humanrights #journalism #transparency #transrights
The BBC has circulated leaked guidance telling journalists to describe trans women as “biological males”.
Clarity should not come at the cost of dignity. #bbc #humanrights #journalism #transparency #transrights
December 19, 2025 at 11:36 PM
The macabre thing here is that the sheer epistemic vandalism of this term runs pretty deep. A lot of cis people won't even clock that there's anything offensive about it. A young cis athlete calling out a transphobic athlete used this term in her letter of support just a couple of months ago.
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abstract support is the best description.
“your trans? oh i support you living your truth!”
“oh, you’re transitioning and taking hormones and your body is changing? well now i am going to be quietly uncomfortable.”
“wdym you need my help because our government is trying to erase your existence?”
“your trans? oh i support you living your truth!”
“oh, you’re transitioning and taking hormones and your body is changing? well now i am going to be quietly uncomfortable.”
“wdym you need my help because our government is trying to erase your existence?”
There's a kind of "support" cis people will give trans people (and queer people more generally) that amounts to: "It's well and good for you people to be the way you are, but not MY kid. My kid is normal and if my kid ever the idea of being anything but normal, it's YOUR fault."
Abstract support.
Abstract support.
December 18, 2025 at 7:21 AM
abstract support is the best description.
“your trans? oh i support you living your truth!”
“oh, you’re transitioning and taking hormones and your body is changing? well now i am going to be quietly uncomfortable.”
“wdym you need my help because our government is trying to erase your existence?”
“your trans? oh i support you living your truth!”
“oh, you’re transitioning and taking hormones and your body is changing? well now i am going to be quietly uncomfortable.”
“wdym you need my help because our government is trying to erase your existence?”
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The fact of the matter is that bad actors have exploited cis people's disgust and reticence when it comes to viewing trans existence as just as worth of dignity, respect, and support. So even when we're trying to talk about a blatant attack on our rights, people turn up with conspiracy theories.
December 18, 2025 at 6:33 AM
The fact of the matter is that bad actors have exploited cis people's disgust and reticence when it comes to viewing trans existence as just as worth of dignity, respect, and support. So even when we're trying to talk about a blatant attack on our rights, people turn up with conspiracy theories.
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December 17, 2025 at 1:29 PM
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December 17, 2025 at 6:44 AM
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The comorbidity of neo-Nazism and transphobia isn't just a kind of "one bad belief leads to all bad beliefs". At its core, it's the same belief: belief in a rigid societal order where your station at birth determines your future, your role, and how you must labor.
A belief in biodestiny, in short.
A belief in biodestiny, in short.
Today, I examine how the boundaries of the Nation are co-constituted by race, disability, and sexuality, but also---notably---gender and control over reproduction.
And ask everyone to stop saying transfeminism is 'imperialist'. For fuck's sake.
Read: taliabhattwrites.substack.com/p/understand...
And ask everyone to stop saying transfeminism is 'imperialist'. For fuck's sake.
Read: taliabhattwrites.substack.com/p/understand...
December 16, 2025 at 9:25 AM
The comorbidity of neo-Nazism and transphobia isn't just a kind of "one bad belief leads to all bad beliefs". At its core, it's the same belief: belief in a rigid societal order where your station at birth determines your future, your role, and how you must labor.
A belief in biodestiny, in short.
A belief in biodestiny, in short.
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becoming a woman specifically to love women hits so good
"I didn't transition for sex reasons!"
Well, I did. Do you think my desire to love women as a woman was fucking chaste or something
Well, I did. Do you think my desire to love women as a woman was fucking chaste or something
November 8, 2025 at 5:56 PM
becoming a woman specifically to love women hits so good