Lovette 🏳️🌈
@lovettejallow.bsky.social
Published Author || 9x Award Winning Lecturer || Public Speaker || AuDHD || 🇬🇲🇸🇪🇳🇬🇨🇮 || 📧Lovette@Lovettejallow.com
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Lovette 🏳️🌈
@lovettejallow.bsky.social
· Apr 25
Neurodivergence in Ancient Africa: What History Forgot but Our Ancestors Knew
How West African societies embraced autism, ADHD, and neurodivergence as spiritual gifts and essential community roles—long before diagnosis existed. This essay reconnects Black neurodivergent readers...
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In West Africa, traits like deep focus, sensory sensitivity, speech loops, and emotional intensity weren’t pathologized.
They were sacred.
Not diagnosed respected, and supported in community.
🔗 : lovettejallow.substack.com/p/neurodiver...
#Neurodivergence #BlackHistory #AutismAcceptance
They were sacred.
Not diagnosed respected, and supported in community.
🔗 : lovettejallow.substack.com/p/neurodiver...
#Neurodivergence #BlackHistory #AutismAcceptance
Why do people make promises they don’t keep, then keep interacting like nothing happened? That silence is the second breach. This essay breaks down dopamine, image, and cost transfer, with autistic and ADHD context.
Link: open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
Link: open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
December 21, 2025 at 9:34 PM
Why do people make promises they don’t keep, then keep interacting like nothing happened? That silence is the second breach. This essay breaks down dopamine, image, and cost transfer, with autistic and ADHD context.
Link: open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
Link: open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
Have you ever had someone promise you something, disappear, then return like it was nothing?
I wrote about broken promises, silence, and why “good intentions” mean nothing without repair. #Autism #ADHD #accountability.
Read here: 👇🏾
I wrote about broken promises, silence, and why “good intentions” mean nothing without repair. #Autism #ADHD #accountability.
Read here: 👇🏾
Why People Make Promises They Don't Keep | Lovette Jallow
On broken promises, false generosity, extraction & why continued interaction without repair damages trust. Why ADHD doesn't excuse silence. By Lovette Jallow.
open.substack.com
December 21, 2025 at 9:31 PM
Have you ever had someone promise you something, disappear, then return like it was nothing?
I wrote about broken promises, silence, and why “good intentions” mean nothing without repair. #Autism #ADHD #accountability.
Read here: 👇🏾
I wrote about broken promises, silence, and why “good intentions” mean nothing without repair. #Autism #ADHD #accountability.
Read here: 👇🏾
🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨
Introducing my next patented design:
the Butthole Washer™, engineered for MEN who want to be clean while needing reassurance that cleanliness can still look serious & not make anything gheyy or weird.
Yes, it’s black & aggressively industrial.
1/2⤵️
Introducing my next patented design:
the Butthole Washer™, engineered for MEN who want to be clean while needing reassurance that cleanliness can still look serious & not make anything gheyy or weird.
Yes, it’s black & aggressively industrial.
1/2⤵️
a cartoon opossum says " you 're welcome " while giving a peace sign
ALT: a cartoon opossum says " you 're welcome " while giving a peace sign
media.tenor.com
December 21, 2025 at 12:53 PM
🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨
Introducing my next patented design:
the Butthole Washer™, engineered for MEN who want to be clean while needing reassurance that cleanliness can still look serious & not make anything gheyy or weird.
Yes, it’s black & aggressively industrial.
1/2⤵️
Introducing my next patented design:
the Butthole Washer™, engineered for MEN who want to be clean while needing reassurance that cleanliness can still look serious & not make anything gheyy or weird.
Yes, it’s black & aggressively industrial.
1/2⤵️
🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨
It has officially been 12 months since I discovered that when men sit on the toilet… their junk just hangs in the bowl.
Since that day, I have not known peace.
I have lived with questions.
I stared into the middle distance.
I whispered, “Why would God design it like this?”
1/4⤵️
It has officially been 12 months since I discovered that when men sit on the toilet… their junk just hangs in the bowl.
Since that day, I have not known peace.
I have lived with questions.
I stared into the middle distance.
I whispered, “Why would God design it like this?”
1/4⤵️
a man in a suit says let me finish the pitch in yellow letters
ALT: a man in a suit says let me finish the pitch in yellow letters
media.tenor.com
December 21, 2025 at 12:51 PM
🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨
It has officially been 12 months since I discovered that when men sit on the toilet… their junk just hangs in the bowl.
Since that day, I have not known peace.
I have lived with questions.
I stared into the middle distance.
I whispered, “Why would God design it like this?”
1/4⤵️
It has officially been 12 months since I discovered that when men sit on the toilet… their junk just hangs in the bowl.
Since that day, I have not known peace.
I have lived with questions.
I stared into the middle distance.
I whispered, “Why would God design it like this?”
1/4⤵️
Autistics, gather round. Are we all rehearsing our gift-opening faces, or coordinating plausible excuses for why we suddenly cannot attend?
Personally, I am considering faking an eye infection. I will provide written feedback once I am home and have opened the gift in private. #autism
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Personally, I am considering faking an eye infection. I will provide written feedback once I am home and have opened the gift in private. #autism
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December 20, 2025 at 2:23 AM
Autistics, gather round. Are we all rehearsing our gift-opening faces, or coordinating plausible excuses for why we suddenly cannot attend?
Personally, I am considering faking an eye infection. I will provide written feedback once I am home and have opened the gift in private. #autism
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Personally, I am considering faking an eye infection. I will provide written feedback once I am home and have opened the gift in private. #autism
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Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
"As I once calmly explained to a parent: Your child did not download autism from the cloud." @lovettejallow.bsky.social, on inherited autism and trauma, especially between mothers and daughter:
lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-d... #autism #neurodiversity #autistic
lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-d... #autism #neurodiversity #autistic
Why Autistic Daughters Often Go No-Contact with Their Mothers
Too many autistic daughters are cast as difficult when they were simply trying to survive unsafe mothers. Lovette Jallow explored parentification, survival roles, and the journey toward self-rescue.
lovettejallow.substack.com
December 18, 2025 at 6:02 PM
"As I once calmly explained to a parent: Your child did not download autism from the cloud." @lovettejallow.bsky.social, on inherited autism and trauma, especially between mothers and daughter:
lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-d... #autism #neurodiversity #autistic
lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-d... #autism #neurodiversity #autistic
Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
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One like = one thing Swedish military professionals (and nerds) love to say.
One like = one thing Swedish military professionals (and nerds) love to say.
December 8, 2025 at 9:02 AM
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One like = one thing Swedish military professionals (and nerds) love to say.
One like = one thing Swedish military professionals (and nerds) love to say.
Mental health stigma is not a shield from accountability. Autistic people are tired of being labeled “unwell” for asking for the work we paid for. People prey on autistics and think we will be silent.
Documentation is public now.
@digitaldavina.bsky.social
Documentation is public now.
@digitaldavina.bsky.social
November 9, 2025 at 9:02 PM
Mental health stigma is not a shield from accountability. Autistic people are tired of being labeled “unwell” for asking for the work we paid for. People prey on autistics and think we will be silent.
Documentation is public now.
@digitaldavina.bsky.social
Documentation is public now.
@digitaldavina.bsky.social
Have you ever paid for work, ghosted, & then when you asked for accountability months later, you were told you’re “unwell” for expecting a refund? Many autistic’s know this pattern. Emotional closeness as cover. Mental health weaponised to avoid responsibility.
Meet @digitaldavina.bsky.social
Meet @digitaldavina.bsky.social
The Freelancer Who Weaponized Neurodivergence to Justify Taking Payment Without Delivering
How Davina Campbell of Digital Davina Designs disclosed mental health struggles to gain trust, then stigmatized mental health to silence accountability.
open.substack.com
November 9, 2025 at 8:54 PM
Have you ever paid for work, ghosted, & then when you asked for accountability months later, you were told you’re “unwell” for expecting a refund? Many autistic’s know this pattern. Emotional closeness as cover. Mental health weaponised to avoid responsibility.
Meet @digitaldavina.bsky.social
Meet @digitaldavina.bsky.social
Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
I end most of my conversations with people at work this way. *reads article*
Autistic over-explaining isn’t always clarity we mask as conversation.
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
Why Autistic People Over-Explain: Trauma, Safety, and Breaking the Harm Loop
Autistic over-explaining isn't clarity, it's survival. Learn the neuroscience of trauma loops, workplace strategies, and how to speak less without losing yourself
open.substack.com
October 29, 2025 at 12:09 AM
I end most of my conversations with people at work this way. *reads article*
Autistic over-explaining isn’t always clarity we mask as conversation.
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
Why Autistic People Over-Explain: Trauma, Safety, and Breaking the Harm Loop
Autistic over-explaining isn't clarity, it's survival. Learn the neuroscience of trauma loops, workplace strategies, and how to speak less without losing yourself
open.substack.com
October 28, 2025 at 9:31 PM
Autistic over-explaining isn’t always clarity we mask as conversation.
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself.
For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?”
Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
"We learn early that “disabled” is a word that shuts doors. Employers avoid it, family members whisper it, clinicians rank it. So we start running from it, mistaking distance for dignity."
Excellent from @lovettejallow.bsky.social
Someone will always argue, but regardless: autism IS a disability.
Excellent from @lovettejallow.bsky.social
Someone will always argue, but regardless: autism IS a disability.
"When I began saying 'I’m autistic& disabled' something shifted. I stopped apologizing for my limits& started protecting my capacity. I stopped pretending my energy was endless& started recognizing it as finite, sacred& worth conserving." @lovettejallow.bsky.social:
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled
Why denying disability reinforces ableism and costs lives.Autism is disability, not disorder. This essay confronts internalised ableism, explains the social vs medical models, and reclaims disabled id...
open.substack.com
October 28, 2025 at 8:41 AM
"We learn early that “disabled” is a word that shuts doors. Employers avoid it, family members whisper it, clinicians rank it. So we start running from it, mistaking distance for dignity."
Excellent from @lovettejallow.bsky.social
Someone will always argue, but regardless: autism IS a disability.
Excellent from @lovettejallow.bsky.social
Someone will always argue, but regardless: autism IS a disability.
Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
"When I began saying 'I’m autistic& disabled' something shifted. I stopped apologizing for my limits& started protecting my capacity. I stopped pretending my energy was endless& started recognizing it as finite, sacred& worth conserving." @lovettejallow.bsky.social:
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled
Why denying disability reinforces ableism and costs lives.Autism is disability, not disorder. This essay confronts internalised ableism, explains the social vs medical models, and reclaims disabled id...
open.substack.com
October 27, 2025 at 4:57 PM
"When I began saying 'I’m autistic& disabled' something shifted. I stopped apologizing for my limits& started protecting my capacity. I stopped pretending my energy was endless& started recognizing it as finite, sacred& worth conserving." @lovettejallow.bsky.social:
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
I’ve expanded and edited my essays on autism and ableism into one full piece, now with audio.
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled explores internalised ableism, race, and liberation.
Join 7,000 readers on Substack, new essays for neurodivergents are coming.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled explores internalised ableism, race, and liberation.
Join 7,000 readers on Substack, new essays for neurodivergents are coming.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
October 27, 2025 at 4:05 PM
I’ve expanded and edited my essays on autism and ableism into one full piece, now with audio.
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled explores internalised ableism, race, and liberation.
Join 7,000 readers on Substack, new essays for neurodivergents are coming.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled explores internalised ableism, race, and liberation.
Join 7,000 readers on Substack, new essays for neurodivergents are coming.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
Hate to be the bearer of neutral news, but to be diagnosed autistic you have to meet criteria for significant impairments. That means yes, you’re disabled. Your diagnosis already confirmed it.
People are crying blood on IG and linkedin because I said it out loud. Masking doesn’t ⤵️
People are crying blood on IG and linkedin because I said it out loud. Masking doesn’t ⤵️
October 13, 2025 at 11:50 AM
Hate to be the bearer of neutral news, but to be diagnosed autistic you have to meet criteria for significant impairments. That means yes, you’re disabled. Your diagnosis already confirmed it.
People are crying blood on IG and linkedin because I said it out loud. Masking doesn’t ⤵️
People are crying blood on IG and linkedin because I said it out loud. Masking doesn’t ⤵️
New essay out now: on what happens when unhealed childhood wounds steer adult relationships how trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they try to escape.
Both written and audio versions available.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
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Both written and audio versions available.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
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October 6, 2025 at 9:46 PM
New essay out now: on what happens when unhealed childhood wounds steer adult relationships how trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they try to escape.
Both written and audio versions available.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
1/3 ⤵️
Both written and audio versions available.
open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
1/3 ⤵️
1/4 Autistics: minding our business
Randos: “Hey freak, why are you like this? Let’s rattle off 10,000 fake causes instead of just making life accessible.
Cos it couldn’t possibly be my parents doing the horizontal mambo 9 months before I was born no protection…like every other human.”
Carry on.
Randos: “Hey freak, why are you like this? Let’s rattle off 10,000 fake causes instead of just making life accessible.
Cos it couldn’t possibly be my parents doing the horizontal mambo 9 months before I was born no protection…like every other human.”
Carry on.
two women are sitting next to each other and one is making a surprised face .
ALT: two women are sitting next to each other and one is making a surprised face .
media.tenor.com
September 23, 2025 at 5:29 PM
1/4 Autistics: minding our business
Randos: “Hey freak, why are you like this? Let’s rattle off 10,000 fake causes instead of just making life accessible.
Cos it couldn’t possibly be my parents doing the horizontal mambo 9 months before I was born no protection…like every other human.”
Carry on.
Randos: “Hey freak, why are you like this? Let’s rattle off 10,000 fake causes instead of just making life accessible.
Cos it couldn’t possibly be my parents doing the horizontal mambo 9 months before I was born no protection…like every other human.”
Carry on.
Reposted by Lovette 🏳️🌈
Please read the article at the end of this thread.
It saw parts of me I didn’t know were longing to be acknowledged.
#Neurodivergence
It saw parts of me I didn’t know were longing to be acknowledged.
#Neurodivergence
1/3 Why do so many parents only realize they’re autistic or ADHD after their child is diagnosed? Because children are not clay to mold. They are mirrors genetic, ancestral, unflinching.
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
September 23, 2025 at 6:07 AM
Please read the article at the end of this thread.
It saw parts of me I didn’t know were longing to be acknowledged.
#Neurodivergence
It saw parts of me I didn’t know were longing to be acknowledged.
#Neurodivergence
1/3 Why do so many parents only realize they’re autistic or ADHD after their child is diagnosed? Because children are not clay to mold. They are mirrors genetic, ancestral, unflinching.
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
September 22, 2025 at 11:06 PM
1/3 Why do so many parents only realize they’re autistic or ADHD after their child is diagnosed? Because children are not clay to mold. They are mirrors genetic, ancestral, unflinching.
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
#AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
Sweden sells itself as an equal welfare state. I call it having a good PR system. Behind the façade, the numbers/testimonies tell a different story.
It doesn’t matter if we have a left or right wing government disabled people are ignored by laws & systemically discriminated.
Link below 👇🏾
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It doesn’t matter if we have a left or right wing government disabled people are ignored by laws & systemically discriminated.
Link below 👇🏾
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September 21, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Sweden sells itself as an equal welfare state. I call it having a good PR system. Behind the façade, the numbers/testimonies tell a different story.
It doesn’t matter if we have a left or right wing government disabled people are ignored by laws & systemically discriminated.
Link below 👇🏾
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It doesn’t matter if we have a left or right wing government disabled people are ignored by laws & systemically discriminated.
Link below 👇🏾
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1/3 The mask many women have worn for decades rarely survives perimenopause.
Brain fog creeps in. Tasks unravel. Emotional regulation slips. Sensory overwhelm spikes.
What looked like competence was masking. When hormones shift, the mask breaks.
#ADHDWomen #Neurodivergent
Brain fog creeps in. Tasks unravel. Emotional regulation slips. Sensory overwhelm spikes.
What looked like competence was masking. When hormones shift, the mask breaks.
#ADHDWomen #Neurodivergent
September 15, 2025 at 4:46 AM
1/3 The mask many women have worn for decades rarely survives perimenopause.
Brain fog creeps in. Tasks unravel. Emotional regulation slips. Sensory overwhelm spikes.
What looked like competence was masking. When hormones shift, the mask breaks.
#ADHDWomen #Neurodivergent
Brain fog creeps in. Tasks unravel. Emotional regulation slips. Sensory overwhelm spikes.
What looked like competence was masking. When hormones shift, the mask breaks.
#ADHDWomen #Neurodivergent