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Totally Poised
@tamaraprotassow.bsky.social
Writer, poet, writing & creativity mentor (there is no one right way, just your own way), mother of shapeshifter, Nazis not welcome, terribly woke lefty, covid is airborne + not over. She/her
Oh my god I’m back.

2 months of being logged out, my password manager not working as expected & various 2fa systems being obstreperous.

Did I miss much?
July 7, 2025 at 11:05 AM
Iconic trolling from Charlene Kaye - complete with replies from insulted men in the thread below.

I’d pay to watch her do this on a livestream.
Charlene Kaye on her Guitar Center series, where she grabs instruments and “terrorizes” male employees and shoppers by purposely butchering popular riffs.

“Rock music is such a boys’ club .. I want to just take it down in seriousness.”
rollingstone.com/culture/cult...
April 25, 2025 at 10:58 PM
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unfollowing everyone on linkedin except this guy
April 23, 2025 at 6:35 AM
It’s a miracle that any art happens under capitalism & patriarchy.
Humans really are amazing.
April 23, 2025 at 9:48 PM
“I know what this is missing!”

*types furiously*

*reads next paragraph*

“…oh.”
that feel when you’re editing and write in a new sentence that seems like it’s missing and you’re all proud … and then you see that you’ve already written that exact same sentence on the next page 🤣🙈
April 23, 2025 at 9:47 PM
Initially read this as “No one wants to see your duck” and spent a confused minute feeling concerned that there were people who disliked ducks that much that they had written a whole book.
Something I have always been aware of but apparently some men less so - reading @jess-davies.Sky.social ‘s new book
April 22, 2025 at 12:32 PM
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Your periodic reminder that one way to think about privilege is: who's allowed to make mistakes?
April 19, 2025 at 2:34 AM
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I was abducted by aliens. They made me wash my hands, clean my room, and eat my vegetables.

Turns out I was on the mothership.
April 17, 2025 at 5:08 PM
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think of every time you did a little thing.

turned off the water while you brushed your teeth.

turned off the light when you left a room.

cut up a plastic 6-pack ring.

think of the artists and teachers and scientists who taught you those lessons.

Sesame Street. Bill Nye. The Electric Company.
April 16, 2025 at 5:38 AM
Good morning to my fellow over-35s

What flavour of hangover do we have this morning?
Things that will give you a hangover before 35: maybe alcohol

Things that will give you a hangover after 35: alcohol, no alcohol, sleeping too much, not sleeping enough, traffic, dreaming too hard, spicy food, too much sun, extended phone calls, fluorescent lighting, news of the outside world
April 16, 2025 at 10:00 PM
The amount of lists I have in drifts around my house…
Here’s the thing about ADHD:

I be writing to-do lists and then forgetting I wrote them.
April 15, 2025 at 9:08 PM
It’s the week before Easter so our street is chock full of people from the city coming out to pick chestnuts at the U-Pick chestnut farm a few doors up. 🧵
April 14, 2025 at 11:42 PM
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Cleaning when you have ADHD is like playing Tetris. As soon as I put something away, it disappears.
April 14, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Good morning!
A funny thing about the Heimlich Maneuver is that it’s impossible to pronounce if you’re choking
April 13, 2025 at 10:06 PM
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My view on alt-text; just include it. For four reasons:

📖 it makes those who have low vision or other challenges able to interact

📖 you can write an essay of 2000 words

📖 it’s the best writing prompt ever

📖 you can use alt4me or dictate alt text so there’s no excuse
April 11, 2025 at 11:53 AM
Always yes!
Do I give into the panic and buy fruit trees? y/n
April 10, 2025 at 9:54 PM
Of course he was healed! So doggy typical! I love 💗
My dog was very sick & the vet said to take him home & have 1 more good day with him, so we went home and I made him a special chicken dinner. Then instead of dying he got better so now 2 weeks later I have a dog who refuses to eat his expensive dog food and yells at me all day to cook him chicken.
April 10, 2025 at 9:45 PM
When a man misses the entire joke & gets emotional about it.

Reminds me of the Atwood quote:
Men worry women will laugh at them. Women worry men will kill them.
Victim blaming again.

Has telling people to calm down ever worked?

No.

Because it assumes your authority over another and places a false narrative upon another. These are the tactics bent cops use on innocent people.

I see you!
April 10, 2025 at 9:26 PM
This has made my morning.
Nothing would make flying better than being greeted by a golden retriever at the airport
The ABQ Sunport airport has dogs before security. Not to sniff you, but in case you’re nervous about flying and need to pet a Good Boy. This is Eddy!
April 9, 2025 at 9:33 PM
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Avoidance
Dread
Hyperfocus
Debilitation
April 8, 2025 at 8:50 PM
I have exciting writing news that I can’t talk about. But I really want to. But I can’t.

Feel free to speculate in a joyful fashion & take it as something good happening in this year of grace twenty twenty-five.
April 8, 2025 at 5:50 AM
When you’re late diagnosed but still uncovering layers to the AuDHD
You weren’t “high-functioning.”
You were masking.

You weren’t “coping.”
You were dissociating.

You weren’t “fine.”
You were in burnout.

They praised your performance.
But never saw the cost.

You deserved care.
Not applause.
April 8, 2025 at 12:59 AM
Am I the only one who, every time someone talks about tariffs on penguins, thinks of Benedict Cumberbatch & his inability to say “penguin”?
April 8, 2025 at 12:57 AM
Now I want a battle ball gown.

Also this is a whole thread of goodness regardless of whether you’ll ever be nominated for anything.
We're ballot buddies! In my fucked-up family, that means we're basically cousins, and if anybody wants to come at you for being proud of yourself, you can come stand behind me and my battle ballgown. I'll give them the wasp box for being mean to you.
April 7, 2025 at 10:11 PM
Seeing as we’re making up how tariffs work now, can I charge the shop I buy my groceries from tariffs on the money I give them as an ‘import’?
Seems legit according to current logics, seeing as we made the whole system up anyway
April 7, 2025 at 9:35 PM