The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
@theautisticcoach.bsky.social
I build neuroaffirming communities by empowering my fellow autistic humans with advocacy & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism
AuDHD ♾️ 🌀 דזשענדער־טרייף
#POTS #Dyspraxia ♿️
theautisticcoach.com
Also @autisticrabbi.bsky.social
AuDHD ♾️ 🌀 דזשענדער־טרייף
#POTS #Dyspraxia ♿️
theautisticcoach.com
Also @autisticrabbi.bsky.social
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We've had our self-confidence and belief in ourselves taken away from us for a long time.
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
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Autistic Burnout isn’t mysterious.
It’s what happens when you spend years pretending you’re fine while your body is screaming.
It’s what happens when you spend years pretending you’re fine while your body is screaming.
December 5, 2025 at 11:05 AM
Autistic Burnout isn’t mysterious.
It’s what happens when you spend years pretending you’re fine while your body is screaming.
It’s what happens when you spend years pretending you’re fine while your body is screaming.
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
You know what’s exhausting?
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
December 7, 2025 at 11:16 AM
You know what’s exhausting?
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Do you need support from your loved ones but don't know how to get them to listen?
Do they want to support you but don't have the tools?
My workshop for the families and allies of autistic adults is a 5-week space that will guide them in allyship.
www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...
Do they want to support you but don't have the tools?
My workshop for the families and allies of autistic adults is a 5-week space that will guide them in allyship.
www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...
December 8, 2025 at 6:45 PM
Do you need support from your loved ones but don't know how to get them to listen?
Do they want to support you but don't have the tools?
My workshop for the families and allies of autistic adults is a 5-week space that will guide them in allyship.
www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...
Do they want to support you but don't have the tools?
My workshop for the families and allies of autistic adults is a 5-week space that will guide them in allyship.
www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
December 7, 2025 at 11:30 PM
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
If you've recently understood that you're autistic, it's time for a homecoming.
It's never easy, but it does become less hard with the right tools and community.
With being seen.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
It's never easy, but it does become less hard with the right tools and community.
With being seen.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
December 8, 2025 at 4:40 PM
If you've recently understood that you're autistic, it's time for a homecoming.
It's never easy, but it does become less hard with the right tools and community.
With being seen.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
It's never easy, but it does become less hard with the right tools and community.
With being seen.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
Got started on the parasha early this week
Parashat Vayeshev: A Coat of Many Wounds
Joseph’s Visibility, Vulnerability and the Collapse of a Traumatised Family
theautisticcoach.substack.com
December 8, 2025 at 3:24 PM
Got started on the parasha early this week
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
The Neuronormativr world is all about…
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
December 7, 2025 at 1:08 PM
The Neuronormativr world is all about…
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Tickets still available
I'll hosting a seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout in London on January 17.
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
December 8, 2025 at 12:07 PM
Tickets still available
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
the autistic experience of everyone speaking and sharing their ideas, but when you do...crickets at best and "why are you talking?!?!" at worst
December 8, 2025 at 11:19 AM
the autistic experience of everyone speaking and sharing their ideas, but when you do...crickets at best and "why are you talking?!?!" at worst
this is coming up on Dec 22 for those in North & South America
Are you interested in exploring the intersection of gender and autism?
My colleague Dan is hosting a free space on December 22 at Noon PST.
Whether you’re non-binary, trans, genderfluid, autigender, genderqueer, or just figuring things out, you’re invited to join the conversation.
My colleague Dan is hosting a free space on December 22 at Noon PST.
Whether you’re non-binary, trans, genderfluid, autigender, genderqueer, or just figuring things out, you’re invited to join the conversation.
Exploring the Intersection: Autism & Gender
To register for this free discussion circle, please read the description and fill out the form below:
Are you someone who identifies as autistic and also experiences gender in a way that differs from...
docs.google.com
December 8, 2025 at 11:10 AM
this is coming up on Dec 22 for those in North & South America
ah yes, blame the parents (again)
Why are diagnoses of ADHD soaring? There are no easy answers – but empathy is the place to start | Gabor Maté
Some say it’s overdiagnosis, others say it’s greater recognition. But it’s clear we must think about how our society is impacting human development, says author and retired physician Gabor Maté
www.theguardian.com
December 8, 2025 at 11:07 AM
ah yes, blame the parents (again)
Being AuDHD isn't a curse - but it certainly isn't easy either.
Over 6 weeks we will dig into what it means to be AuDHD and develop a tool kit to live our best lives.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
Over 6 weeks we will dig into what it means to be AuDHD and develop a tool kit to live our best lives.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
December 8, 2025 at 11:00 AM
Being AuDHD isn't a curse - but it certainly isn't easy either.
Over 6 weeks we will dig into what it means to be AuDHD and develop a tool kit to live our best lives.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
Over 6 weeks we will dig into what it means to be AuDHD and develop a tool kit to live our best lives.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
People forget that neurodivergent isn’t a fixed biological category.
It’s a social position as much as it is something neurological.
It shifts with trauma, injury, age, and circumstance.
It can also be something you’re born as.
Anyone can become ND.
Just like anyone can become disabled.
It’s a social position as much as it is something neurological.
It shifts with trauma, injury, age, and circumstance.
It can also be something you’re born as.
Anyone can become ND.
Just like anyone can become disabled.
December 8, 2025 at 9:34 AM
People forget that neurodivergent isn’t a fixed biological category.
It’s a social position as much as it is something neurological.
It shifts with trauma, injury, age, and circumstance.
It can also be something you’re born as.
Anyone can become ND.
Just like anyone can become disabled.
It’s a social position as much as it is something neurological.
It shifts with trauma, injury, age, and circumstance.
It can also be something you’re born as.
Anyone can become ND.
Just like anyone can become disabled.
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
December 5, 2025 at 2:50 PM
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
I'll hosting a seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout in London on January 17.
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
December 7, 2025 at 1:10 PM
I'll hosting a seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout in London on January 17.
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
December 7, 2025 at 11:30 PM
Understanding that you're autistic later in life isn't about discovering someone new.
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's about uncovering who you've always been.
You need a space, a team, and the tools.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
We've had our self-confidence and belief in ourselves taken away from us for a long time.
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
December 6, 2025 at 3:20 PM
We've had our self-confidence and belief in ourselves taken away from us for a long time.
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
It's time to take back autonomy in a neuroaffirming way.
www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
You weren’t “overreacting”
You were overwhelmed.
You weren’t “too sensitive”
You were accurate.
You weren’t “difficult”
You were dysregulated.
They pathologised your pain
because it made them uncomfortable.
You aren’t wrong.
You were overwhelmed.
You weren’t “too sensitive”
You were accurate.
You weren’t “difficult”
You were dysregulated.
They pathologised your pain
because it made them uncomfortable.
You aren’t wrong.
December 6, 2025 at 12:49 PM
You weren’t “overreacting”
You were overwhelmed.
You weren’t “too sensitive”
You were accurate.
You weren’t “difficult”
You were dysregulated.
They pathologised your pain
because it made them uncomfortable.
You aren’t wrong.
You were overwhelmed.
You weren’t “too sensitive”
You were accurate.
You weren’t “difficult”
You were dysregulated.
They pathologised your pain
because it made them uncomfortable.
You aren’t wrong.
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
Wes Streeting is a fascist, a transphobe, and an ableist.
Pass it on.
Pass it on.
December 7, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Wes Streeting is a fascist, a transphobe, and an ableist.
Pass it on.
Pass it on.
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
You just understood that you're autistic.
Now what?
Be in community with others on the same path.
Don't over-index on reels and blogs.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
Now what?
Be in community with others on the same path.
Don't over-index on reels and blogs.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
December 6, 2025 at 7:00 PM
You just understood that you're autistic.
Now what?
Be in community with others on the same path.
Don't over-index on reels and blogs.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
Now what?
Be in community with others on the same path.
Don't over-index on reels and blogs.
www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...
I'll hosting a seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout in London on January 17.
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
December 7, 2025 at 1:10 PM
I'll hosting a seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout in London on January 17.
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
We'll dig into what they really are - how to go thru them with grace - and how to recover with love
www.theautisticcoach.com/the-autistic...
The Neuronormativr world is all about…
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
December 7, 2025 at 1:08 PM
The Neuronormativr world is all about…
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Productivity as morality.
Compliance as maturity.
Shame as motivation.
We need a better model folx
Reposted by The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they)
AuDHD is a different experience.
Monotropism doesn't fit cleanly onto our experience.
The typical autistic "hacks" don't cut it.
Let's work on something tailored for you.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
Monotropism doesn't fit cleanly onto our experience.
The typical autistic "hacks" don't cut it.
Let's work on something tailored for you.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
December 6, 2025 at 12:40 PM
AuDHD is a different experience.
Monotropism doesn't fit cleanly onto our experience.
The typical autistic "hacks" don't cut it.
Let's work on something tailored for you.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
Monotropism doesn't fit cleanly onto our experience.
The typical autistic "hacks" don't cut it.
Let's work on something tailored for you.
www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...
You know what’s exhausting?
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
December 7, 2025 at 11:16 AM
You know what’s exhausting?
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Not meltdowns - they’re part of life.
But the pretending.
The holding it in so everyone else stays comfortable.
Do my autistic comrades feel abandoned?
December 7, 2025 at 5:20 AM
Do my autistic comrades feel abandoned?