Sandy Ernest Allen
@sandyernestallen.bsky.social
author/journalist covering mental health. trans. tired.
📝: Esquire, Eater, Cosmo, The Cut, This American Life, 99PI ...
📖: akomp.info (Scribner)
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📝: Esquire, Eater, Cosmo, The Cut, This American Life, 99PI ...
📖: akomp.info (Scribner)
https://whats-helping-today.beehiiv.com/
https://www.sandyernestallen.com
https://linktr.ee/hellosandyallen
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Burn Harry Burn: Reckoning With My Harry Potter Fandom as a Trans Person
During the spring of 2020, as the world locked down and people were dead and dying and breaking apart and mourning and afraid and hiding, the British author J.K. Rowling decided to publish an open …
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"And so, having long debated what to do about this situation, I dug a fire pit in my backyard and burned my complete set of hardcover Harry Potters."
I have a lengthy and long in the works piece live this morning, from @literaryhub.bsky.social
Hope you all enjoy ...
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I have a lengthy and long in the works piece live this morning, from @literaryhub.bsky.social
Hope you all enjoy ...
lithub.com/burn-harry-b...
Alright folks. I gotta focus on stuff that actually matters. Reminder into the void to ... log out! Touch grass so to speak! Drink some water! Those good things.
February 9, 2026 at 12:03 PM
Alright folks. I gotta focus on stuff that actually matters. Reminder into the void to ... log out! Touch grass so to speak! Drink some water! Those good things.
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Evergreen advice.
Fellow DV/SA survivors in particular ... sending you all love. Reminder that logging out and like, focusing on other things is good to do. Especially if you feel like reading the news is basically self harm, logging out is never a bad call IMO.
February 8, 2026 at 1:09 PM
Evergreen advice.
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Kacey Musgraves weighs in on Bad Bunny, Kid Rock, and the Super Bowl on Twitter.
February 9, 2026 at 5:09 AM
Kacey Musgraves weighs in on Bad Bunny, Kid Rock, and the Super Bowl on Twitter.
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Researchers estimate that the life expectancy for people forced to work in cane fields was mid 20s.
They were slaughterhouses. Being sent to one was functionally a death sentence.
They were slaughterhouses. Being sent to one was functionally a death sentence.
Mortality rates were so high on sugar plantations during slavery that slaveholders used to coerce enslaved people working other crops like cotton with threats to sell them or their loved ones to sugar plantations.
That’s where the term “sold down the river” came from.
That’s where the term “sold down the river” came from.
February 9, 2026 at 5:02 AM
Researchers estimate that the life expectancy for people forced to work in cane fields was mid 20s.
They were slaughterhouses. Being sent to one was functionally a death sentence.
They were slaughterhouses. Being sent to one was functionally a death sentence.
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A reminder that Kate Manne and I have a lecture coming up at Princeton…
More needs to be written on the connections between this, fascism, and gen ai.
'Mar-a-Lago Face' Is Everywhere — And The Reason It's So Popular Is Kind Of Sinister
It's a caricature of femininity, and a must for any woman who wants to climb the ranks in MAGA world. But there are deeper reasons the look is so in demand, experts say.
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February 8, 2026 at 10:03 PM
A reminder that Kate Manne and I have a lecture coming up at Princeton…
first thought was LOL, second was probably wouldn't hurt
my favorite self-care ritual is repeating “I am not evil” in the mirror 100 times every morning and night
February 9, 2026 at 11:51 AM
first thought was LOL, second was probably wouldn't hurt
"disturbingly detailed" is a hilarious phrase. fun thread.
Disturbingly detailed analysis of my first rewatch incoming
February 9, 2026 at 11:49 AM
"disturbingly detailed" is a hilarious phrase. fun thread.
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Omg this is so good I missed this! VERY intentional shot lingering on two men grinding on each other
Throughout his career Benito has been an ally to the LGBTQ community and has tried to push back against the machismo prevalent in Latin music
Throughout his career Benito has been an ally to the LGBTQ community and has tried to push back against the machismo prevalent in Latin music
February 9, 2026 at 3:27 AM
Omg this is so good I missed this! VERY intentional shot lingering on two men grinding on each other
Throughout his career Benito has been an ally to the LGBTQ community and has tried to push back against the machismo prevalent in Latin music
Throughout his career Benito has been an ally to the LGBTQ community and has tried to push back against the machismo prevalent in Latin music
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I cannot emphasize enough that what he's singing here, obscured by beeps, is "If your boyfriend doesn't eat your ass, he'd better fuck off"
February 9, 2026 at 3:05 AM
I cannot emphasize enough that what he's singing here, obscured by beeps, is "If your boyfriend doesn't eat your ass, he'd better fuck off"
exactly.
I'm hardly the first person to note this, but it's enormously instructive that our President and his followers saw the message "THE ONLY THING MORE POWERFUL THAN HATE IS LOVE" and understood it, correctly, as an attack on them
What a moment.
February 9, 2026 at 11:45 AM
exactly.
LMAO and: truth
I don't know why conservatives complain about Bad Bunny singing in Spanish. They never listen to lyrics anyway. They think "Born in the USA" is an upbeat patriotic song. They played "We will rock you" on Trump's rallies to rev up the crowd. Trump jerks off two invisible dicks to YMCA.
February 9, 2026 at 11:44 AM
LMAO and: truth
Is she that big of a who still that they had to type "Lesbian singer"?
Lesbian singer Brandi Carlile sets up $25k grant to support Minnesota ICE detainees https://www.thepinknews.com/2026/02/05/lesbian-singer-brandi-carlile-sets-up-25k-grant-to-support-minnesota-ice-detainees/?utm_content=1770616800&utm_medium=social&utm_source=bluesky
Brandi Carlile sets up $25k grant to support Minnesota ICE detainees
Lesbian rock and country star Brandi Carlile has announced that she set up a $25,000 grant to help people detained by ICE in Minnesota.
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February 9, 2026 at 11:34 AM
Is she that big of a who still that they had to type "Lesbian singer"?
I gotta say, my timeline this morning hasn't said a single thing about the actual football game. It's 100% the halftime show.
February 9, 2026 at 11:32 AM
I gotta say, my timeline this morning hasn't said a single thing about the actual football game. It's 100% the halftime show.
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it’s really hard to find a previous super bowl halftime that had so much meaning and symbolism embedded into every nook and cranny of the performance
February 9, 2026 at 6:29 AM
it’s really hard to find a previous super bowl halftime that had so much meaning and symbolism embedded into every nook and cranny of the performance
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get the fuck off substack!! www.theguardian.com/media/2026/f...
Revealed: How Substack makes money from hosting Nazi newsletters
Exclusive: Site takes a cut of subscriptions to content that promotes far-right ideology, white supremacy and antisemitism
www.theguardian.com
February 9, 2026 at 6:36 AM
get the fuck off substack!! www.theguardian.com/media/2026/f...
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For anyone interested, Sarah Gerard wrote a book about Caroline’s murder that includes a section on how Botstein’s indifference enabled violence against women at Bard. It includes a discussion of his one book, on the education of adolescents, which includes his thoughts on girls’ “menarche.”
February 7, 2026 at 2:59 PM
For anyone interested, Sarah Gerard wrote a book about Caroline’s murder that includes a section on how Botstein’s indifference enabled violence against women at Bard. It includes a discussion of his one book, on the education of adolescents, which includes his thoughts on girls’ “menarche.”
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Sex between faculty and undergraduates was permitted and tacitly encouraged. He berated a consent activist. Title IX proceedings were known to have his scorn. He personally intervened on behalf of male students accused of violence against women, including the man who murdered my friend Caroline.
February 7, 2026 at 2:55 PM
Sex between faculty and undergraduates was permitted and tacitly encouraged. He berated a consent activist. Title IX proceedings were known to have his scorn. He personally intervened on behalf of male students accused of violence against women, including the man who murdered my friend Caroline.
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Hard to overstate the extent to which Leon Botstein’s personal scorn for feminist anti-rape politics permeated Bard College’s culture while I was there. www.nytimes.com/2026/02/06/u...
A $50,000 Watch and Friendly Notes: One College Leader’s Ties to Epstein
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February 7, 2026 at 2:55 PM
Hard to overstate the extent to which Leon Botstein’s personal scorn for feminist anti-rape politics permeated Bard College’s culture while I was there. www.nytimes.com/2026/02/06/u...
I didn't realize he sucks
Joseph Gordon-Levitt went to the Senate claiming to "hold big tech accountable" while promoting The Heritage Foundation's tech policy agenda and boosting groups like Morality in Media (aka NCOSE), which has sought to criminalize LGBTQ sex, w board members that support conversion therapy
February 9, 2026 at 11:25 AM
I didn't realize he sucks
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“I’m mad I can’t understand Bad Bunny’s lyrics because they’re not in English”
my brother millions of metalheads around the world have been happily listening to incomprehensible Finnish shrieks and Japanese death grunts since we were teens, you’re just boring and racist
my brother millions of metalheads around the world have been happily listening to incomprehensible Finnish shrieks and Japanese death grunts since we were teens, you’re just boring and racist
February 9, 2026 at 5:46 AM
“I’m mad I can’t understand Bad Bunny’s lyrics because they’re not in English”
my brother millions of metalheads around the world have been happily listening to incomprehensible Finnish shrieks and Japanese death grunts since we were teens, you’re just boring and racist
my brother millions of metalheads around the world have been happily listening to incomprehensible Finnish shrieks and Japanese death grunts since we were teens, you’re just boring and racist
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oh my god this is even lower than the funniest low number I was imagining
Yikes: the alternative TPUSA “All-American” Halftime Show had fewer than 14,000 views.
February 9, 2026 at 6:23 AM
oh my god this is even lower than the funniest low number I was imagining
Anyway, this post blew up kinda so my replies are too much and I'm gonna bow out. Thanks to those who get it and who've said kind things. There's a lot of us, is the truth, who do get it.
I think for a lot of survivors of abuse, these are immensely activating times. I know for myself, I have trouble knowing whether to engage or disengage from soaking in the stream of horrific news.
February 8, 2026 at 12:51 PM
Anyway, this post blew up kinda so my replies are too much and I'm gonna bow out. Thanks to those who get it and who've said kind things. There's a lot of us, is the truth, who do get it.
Yeah it's really hard to like, insulate oneself from his image and the sound of his voice, both of which I would rather not encounter, for similar reasons. Like I stopped listening to NPR back around 2016 because of not wanting to hear him talk.
As a survivor of childhood and adult DV/SA, I started blocking anyone who posts any picture or cartoon of him, as well as any videos or recordings, becuase it causes all kinds of bad reactions in my mind and body. Trigger after trigger, & people just don't seem to care.
We NEVER get over it.
We NEVER get over it.
February 8, 2026 at 12:50 PM
Yeah it's really hard to like, insulate oneself from his image and the sound of his voice, both of which I would rather not encounter, for similar reasons. Like I stopped listening to NPR back around 2016 because of not wanting to hear him talk.
Yup. I sure feel all this.
I've had to disengage frequently for self-care, but remain determined to fight back whenever and wherever I can. Survivors KNOW this mentality. But just like when we tried to get help as kids, too often dismissed because hearing about abuse is so uncomfy... while denial serves multiple purposes.
I think for a lot of survivors of abuse, these are immensely activating times. I know for myself, I have trouble knowing whether to engage or disengage from soaking in the stream of horrific news.
February 8, 2026 at 12:48 PM
Yup. I sure feel all this.