Heather Costa
@heathercosta.bsky.social
34, Graduate Student, Awkward Trans Woman, Millennial Malcontent
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This is actually the original definition of emotional labor, as defined by Arlie Hochschild, the sociologist who coined the term. It refers to the labor of performing emotions in order to do your job. It is not enough to just do your job, you have to put on a performance
There is something really wrong with people who need workers to be not just competent, but slavishly fake-happy. "Slavishly" used on purpose, bc that's where this grotesquerie comes from.
"Store employees are now required to smile if they are within 10 feet of a shopper.
They also must make eye contact with and wave to or greet the customer.
If they’re within four feet, the employee should ask how the customer’s day is going or if they need help."
🙄 Won't stop the boycott, y'all.
They also must make eye contact with and wave to or greet the customer.
If they’re within four feet, the employee should ask how the customer’s day is going or if they need help."
🙄 Won't stop the boycott, y'all.
November 9, 2025 at 12:23 AM
This is actually the original definition of emotional labor, as defined by Arlie Hochschild, the sociologist who coined the term. It refers to the labor of performing emotions in order to do your job. It is not enough to just do your job, you have to put on a performance
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Charles Entertainment Schumer.
November 4, 2025 at 10:41 PM
Charles Entertainment Schumer.
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Still need more baseball?
We found a CD in our archives containing dozens of unused voice lines from MLB Slugfest 20-03 rejected by the MLB. Here's some of our favorites.
We found a CD in our archives containing dozens of unused voice lines from MLB Slugfest 20-03 rejected by the MLB. Here's some of our favorites.
November 3, 2025 at 7:31 PM
Still need more baseball?
We found a CD in our archives containing dozens of unused voice lines from MLB Slugfest 20-03 rejected by the MLB. Here's some of our favorites.
We found a CD in our archives containing dozens of unused voice lines from MLB Slugfest 20-03 rejected by the MLB. Here's some of our favorites.
Estrogen is powerful.
Side note, I believe I had the former picture taken about 2 months into HRT when I was very much boymoding and would do so for the next 18 months or so.
Side note, I believe I had the former picture taken about 2 months into HRT when I was very much boymoding and would do so for the next 18 months or so.
November 3, 2025 at 1:32 AM
Estrogen is powerful.
Side note, I believe I had the former picture taken about 2 months into HRT when I was very much boymoding and would do so for the next 18 months or so.
Side note, I believe I had the former picture taken about 2 months into HRT when I was very much boymoding and would do so for the next 18 months or so.
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Me too, babe. Me too.
November 1, 2025 at 2:10 PM
Me too, babe. Me too.
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They literally ruin everything they touch
October 31, 2025 at 3:44 AM
They literally ruin everything they touch
"And on the first night we met, you said, 'Well, darling, let's make a deal.
If anybody ever asks us, let's just tell them that we met in jail.'"
-Frank Turner
If anybody ever asks us, let's just tell them that we met in jail.'"
-Frank Turner
October 30, 2025 at 3:57 PM
"And on the first night we met, you said, 'Well, darling, let's make a deal.
If anybody ever asks us, let's just tell them that we met in jail.'"
-Frank Turner
If anybody ever asks us, let's just tell them that we met in jail.'"
-Frank Turner
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Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Questioning? Either 14 or 18, with 18 being a conservative estimate.
Came Out? 31
Now? 33, turning 34 next Monday.
I was closeted for a long ass time.
Questioning? Either 14 or 18, with 18 being a conservative estimate.
Came Out? 31
Now? 33, turning 34 next Monday.
I was closeted for a long ass time.
Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Questioning? 35
Came out? 35
Now? 40
It's normal to not have known. 💜
Questioning? 35
Came out? 35
Now? 40
It's normal to not have known. 💜
Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Questioning? 10
Trans? 40
Actual coming out? TBA
Questioning? 10
Trans? 40
Actual coming out? TBA
October 28, 2025 at 8:47 PM
Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Questioning? Either 14 or 18, with 18 being a conservative estimate.
Came Out? 31
Now? 33, turning 34 next Monday.
I was closeted for a long ass time.
Questioning? Either 14 or 18, with 18 being a conservative estimate.
Came Out? 31
Now? 33, turning 34 next Monday.
I was closeted for a long ass time.
Who has two thumbs and a 12 hour ER wait before my next grippy sock vacation? This girl! I swear I’ve been on more of those than actual fucking vacations.
October 22, 2025 at 8:12 AM
Who has two thumbs and a 12 hour ER wait before my next grippy sock vacation? This girl! I swear I’ve been on more of those than actual fucking vacations.
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I am an average American millennial man. I had a libertarian phase when I was a politically illiterate teenager, and then steadily moved left as I experienced real life. I don't feel like this is an unusual trajectory.
i actually don’t think the “average” american millennial man had a nazi phase. it’s not some boys will be boys shit. this makes me side eye you and your friend group, sounds like a personal problem
October 21, 2025 at 2:47 PM
I am an average American millennial man. I had a libertarian phase when I was a politically illiterate teenager, and then steadily moved left as I experienced real life. I don't feel like this is an unusual trajectory.
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women do not have a right to put me in danger.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
October 20, 2025 at 5:39 PM
women do not have a right to put me in danger.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
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This. I get told all the time that "women shouldn't have to share a bathroom with someone with a penis" - as though we see anyone else's genitals in the toilets anyway, they're called CUBICLES!!
But we're not a threat to cis women, we are however 8x more likely to be raped or beaten in the men's
But we're not a threat to cis women, we are however 8x more likely to be raped or beaten in the men's
women do not have a right to put me in danger.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
women do not have a right to dictate my healthcare.
women do not have a right to get me raped.
women do not have a right to segregate me from the general population.
transphobia is not women’s rights. transphobia is not feminism.
October 20, 2025 at 5:42 PM
This. I get told all the time that "women shouldn't have to share a bathroom with someone with a penis" - as though we see anyone else's genitals in the toilets anyway, they're called CUBICLES!!
But we're not a threat to cis women, we are however 8x more likely to be raped or beaten in the men's
But we're not a threat to cis women, we are however 8x more likely to be raped or beaten in the men's
I genuinely believe in bringing back Hamilton-Burr style duels. Between grifters, corrupt politicians and general assholes, we've gotten way too comfortable with talking shit without the fear of getting hit.
Do everything above board and mutually agreed upon and society will change pretty quickly.
Do everything above board and mutually agreed upon and society will change pretty quickly.
Do you have any extremely niche, but serious, ethical stances?
October 20, 2025 at 12:48 AM
I genuinely believe in bringing back Hamilton-Burr style duels. Between grifters, corrupt politicians and general assholes, we've gotten way too comfortable with talking shit without the fear of getting hit.
Do everything above board and mutually agreed upon and society will change pretty quickly.
Do everything above board and mutually agreed upon and society will change pretty quickly.
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people playing music/videos on their phone speakers in public is more than just mildly annoying and is instead a leading indicator of the decline of community and empath
Do you have any extremely niche, but serious, ethical stances?
October 19, 2025 at 8:54 PM
people playing music/videos on their phone speakers in public is more than just mildly annoying and is instead a leading indicator of the decline of community and empath
You do know that long COVID causes significant health problems, including literal brain damage. Each infection is like playing Russian Roulette. Do you think you could win 3 games of Russian Roulette in a row? That's what getting COVID multiple times is like.
October 19, 2025 at 9:03 PM
You do know that long COVID causes significant health problems, including literal brain damage. Each infection is like playing Russian Roulette. Do you think you could win 3 games of Russian Roulette in a row? That's what getting COVID multiple times is like.
Define your music taste in eight artists:
Ruston Kelly
Spanish Love Songs
Propagandhi
The Weakerthans / John K Samson
Boysetsfire
Frank Turner
Jason Isbell (and the 400 Unit)
The Wonder Years
Ruston Kelly
Spanish Love Songs
Propagandhi
The Weakerthans / John K Samson
Boysetsfire
Frank Turner
Jason Isbell (and the 400 Unit)
The Wonder Years
Define your music taste in eight artists:
the mountain goats
jeff rosenstock (and associated projects)
100 gecs
underscores
lady gaga
david bowie
sophie
guns n' roses
the mountain goats
jeff rosenstock (and associated projects)
100 gecs
underscores
lady gaga
david bowie
sophie
guns n' roses
Define your music taste in eight artists:
Deftones
Sleater-Kinney
Mars Volta
Melvins
Bjork
Fugazi
Tool
Callous Daoboys
Deftones
Sleater-Kinney
Mars Volta
Melvins
Bjork
Fugazi
Tool
Callous Daoboys
October 18, 2025 at 3:31 AM
Define your music taste in eight artists:
Ruston Kelly
Spanish Love Songs
Propagandhi
The Weakerthans / John K Samson
Boysetsfire
Frank Turner
Jason Isbell (and the 400 Unit)
The Wonder Years
Ruston Kelly
Spanish Love Songs
Propagandhi
The Weakerthans / John K Samson
Boysetsfire
Frank Turner
Jason Isbell (and the 400 Unit)
The Wonder Years
If you see this repost with a game that was released the year you were born.
Honestly, I prefer Sonic 2 but I was born about 5 months after Sonic 1 came out. God, I'm old.
Honestly, I prefer Sonic 2 but I was born about 5 months after Sonic 1 came out. God, I'm old.
October 13, 2025 at 2:00 AM
If you see this repost with a game that was released the year you were born.
Honestly, I prefer Sonic 2 but I was born about 5 months after Sonic 1 came out. God, I'm old.
Honestly, I prefer Sonic 2 but I was born about 5 months after Sonic 1 came out. God, I'm old.
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Make no mistake, when the state imprisons a trans woman in a men's prison, it intentionally procures her for the purpose of having her raped. The statistics are extremely clear-cut and consistent in every jurisdiction where they have been collected. There is no way around them
October 10, 2025 at 12:42 PM
Make no mistake, when the state imprisons a trans woman in a men's prison, it intentionally procures her for the purpose of having her raped. The statistics are extremely clear-cut and consistent in every jurisdiction where they have been collected. There is no way around them
This is the single most full-throated defense of trans rights that I can remember a Democrat doing. This is the future, not Starmerism/Streetingism.
UNTIL IT’S DONE, Ep. 4: Sylvia Rivera
In the 1970s, queer New Yorkers had been pushed to the margins of NYC. Our trans neighbors faced immense cruelty. But in Sylvia Rivera, they found a champion.
As we combat Trump’s politics of darkness, her legacy can light the path forward.
In the 1970s, queer New Yorkers had been pushed to the margins of NYC. Our trans neighbors faced immense cruelty. But in Sylvia Rivera, they found a champion.
As we combat Trump’s politics of darkness, her legacy can light the path forward.
October 11, 2025 at 6:13 PM
This is the single most full-throated defense of trans rights that I can remember a Democrat doing. This is the future, not Starmerism/Streetingism.
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I think Drake is the first person in the history of the art form to have lost a rap battle so badly that it's legally binding.
October 9, 2025 at 10:06 PM
I think Drake is the first person in the history of the art form to have lost a rap battle so badly that it's legally binding.
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Libs of Tiktok, Elon Musk, and Robbie Starbuck put everything they had into trying to push a boycott of Netflix over LGBTQ characters in their shows.
Netflix ignored them and the stock is back up. Turns out bots don't actually cancel accounts.
Netflix ignored them and the stock is back up. Turns out bots don't actually cancel accounts.
October 7, 2025 at 8:18 PM
Libs of Tiktok, Elon Musk, and Robbie Starbuck put everything they had into trying to push a boycott of Netflix over LGBTQ characters in their shows.
Netflix ignored them and the stock is back up. Turns out bots don't actually cancel accounts.
Netflix ignored them and the stock is back up. Turns out bots don't actually cancel accounts.
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working on a new unified theory of american reality i'm calling "everyone is twelve now"
September 8, 2025 at 12:37 AM
working on a new unified theory of american reality i'm calling "everyone is twelve now"
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Regretfully we must announce that the CEO has ghosted us on our co-branding campaign.
October 6, 2025 at 5:30 PM
Regretfully we must announce that the CEO has ghosted us on our co-branding campaign.