Stefani Goerlich
@stefanigoerlich.bsky.social
Award-Winning Author, Certified Sex Therapist, Forensic Sexologist, Clinical Social Worker, BDSM/Kink expert ...and PhD student too. ✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️
Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme
November 4, 2025 at 9:21 PM
Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme
The three phases of womanhood:
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
November 1, 2025 at 6:00 PM
The three phases of womanhood:
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
Does anyone have a Sora invite code they can send my way? I’m trying to prove a point in one of my PhD classes.
October 27, 2025 at 3:53 PM
Does anyone have a Sora invite code they can send my way? I’m trying to prove a point in one of my PhD classes.
Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
October 8, 2025 at 4:16 AM
Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
Proving my point:
He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩🎓
He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩🎓
“You could argue with me. But if you did? You’d be wrong.”
A lesson in confidence, by @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social.
A lesson in confidence, by @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social.
September 27, 2025 at 3:05 PM
Proving my point:
He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩🎓
He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩🎓
Talking about today’s Rapture news and I find out that @jwgoerlich.bsky.social unironically watched the Left Behind movies in the early aughts w/ *no* religious context at all… and kept waiting for the aliens to arrive & explain where all the people went.
My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.
My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.
September 23, 2025 at 3:05 AM
Talking about today’s Rapture news and I find out that @jwgoerlich.bsky.social unironically watched the Left Behind movies in the early aughts w/ *no* religious context at all… and kept waiting for the aliens to arrive & explain where all the people went.
My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.
My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.
Hey, question:
Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.
Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.
September 22, 2025 at 6:44 PM
Hey, question:
Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.
Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.
I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!
September 5, 2025 at 8:57 PM
I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!
Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out!
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers
August 1, 2025 at 3:56 PM
Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out!
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers
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LeGuin wrote about the desire for 'unassailable safety' as one of the deep roots of evil, and I think about that a lot.
We need to teach people the difference between being uncomfortable and being unsafe. Because the discomfort of the safest people is endangering the most vulnerable, all day every day.
July 29, 2025 at 12:22 PM
LeGuin wrote about the desire for 'unassailable safety' as one of the deep roots of evil, and I think about that a lot.
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There's a direct line from "no kink at Pride" and "no sex in movies and books unless it Serves The Plot" to payment processors feeling completely empowered to censor art globally
July 24, 2025 at 7:44 AM
There's a direct line from "no kink at Pride" and "no sex in movies and books unless it Serves The Plot" to payment processors feeling completely empowered to censor art globally
Very niche question:
Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.
Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.
a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .
Alt: a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .
media.tenor.com
July 18, 2025 at 3:07 AM
July 9, 2025 at 10:55 PM
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Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, helps therapist, coaches, activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives.
July 7, 2025 at 10:32 PM
Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, helps therapist, coaches, activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives.
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Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.”
May 10, 2025 at 10:05 PM
Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.”
So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷
March 1, 2025 at 11:34 PM
So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷
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Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻♀️
January 25, 2025 at 12:39 AM
Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻♀️
I have both a pull-quote and the last word in this new article from EuroNews! Happy birthday to me!
www.euronews.com/culture/2025...
www.euronews.com/culture/2025...
Kink and consent: The new era of sex on screen
At a time when sex-on-screen is dwindling, Halina Reijn’s erotic drama has revived audiences' desire for eroticism and kink-positive cinema.
www.euronews.com
January 17, 2025 at 8:06 PM
I have both a pull-quote and the last word in this new article from EuroNews! Happy birthday to me!
www.euronews.com/culture/2025...
www.euronews.com/culture/2025...
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Someone once casually dropped “Abusers groom allies too” into a conversation and my entire worldview shifted in that instant.
January 13, 2025 at 12:53 PM
Someone once casually dropped “Abusers groom allies too” into a conversation and my entire worldview shifted in that instant.
2 people are in the bedroom. One says “put this in FRONT of the bedroom door, so I remember to take it with me.” Where would you put the thing:
A ) Inside the bedroom, where you’d open the door to exit.
B ) Outside the bedroom in the hallway, where you’d see it once you’d opened the door to exit.
A ) Inside the bedroom, where you’d open the door to exit.
B ) Outside the bedroom in the hallway, where you’d see it once you’d opened the door to exit.
January 10, 2025 at 4:04 AM
2 people are in the bedroom. One says “put this in FRONT of the bedroom door, so I remember to take it with me.” Where would you put the thing:
A ) Inside the bedroom, where you’d open the door to exit.
B ) Outside the bedroom in the hallway, where you’d see it once you’d opened the door to exit.
A ) Inside the bedroom, where you’d open the door to exit.
B ) Outside the bedroom in the hallway, where you’d see it once you’d opened the door to exit.
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Join Midori for an exclusive Patreon dive into controversial A24 film, Babygirl, w/ forensic s*xologist & clinical social worker @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social
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bit.ly/3BYA7N7
January 7, 2025 at 11:33 PM
Join Midori for an exclusive Patreon dive into controversial A24 film, Babygirl, w/ forensic s*xologist & clinical social worker @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social
bit.ly/3BYA7N7
bit.ly/3BYA7N7
In my 1st PhD cognate class (a non-Social Work subject related to my research) & in the profs introduction she tells us that she got her degree in this field & after realizing that she wouldn't succeed in her 1st-choice major: Social Work.
...I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut this term. 🤐
...I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut this term. 🤐
January 7, 2025 at 4:06 AM
In my 1st PhD cognate class (a non-Social Work subject related to my research) & in the profs introduction she tells us that she got her degree in this field & after realizing that she wouldn't succeed in her 1st-choice major: Social Work.
...I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut this term. 🤐
...I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut this term. 🤐
Me: I’m so sad we’re not going back to Israel next month for my birthday.
My Israeli friends: SURPRISE! We’re gonna be in Detroit next month, just in time for your birthday!
Me: 🥰
My Israeli friends: SURPRISE! We’re gonna be in Detroit next month, just in time for your birthday!
Me: 🥰
December 28, 2024 at 6:22 PM
Me: I’m so sad we’re not going back to Israel next month for my birthday.
My Israeli friends: SURPRISE! We’re gonna be in Detroit next month, just in time for your birthday!
Me: 🥰
My Israeli friends: SURPRISE! We’re gonna be in Detroit next month, just in time for your birthday!
Me: 🥰