Stefani Goerlich
@stefanigoerlich.bsky.social
Award-Winning Author, Certified Sex Therapist, Forensic Sexologist, Clinical Social Worker, BDSM/Kink expert ...and PhD student too. ✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️
Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme
November 4, 2025 at 9:21 PM
Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme
The three phases of womanhood:
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
November 1, 2025 at 6:00 PM
The three phases of womanhood:
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
“I’m a mouse, duh.”
“I’m the COOL coworker.”
“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”
Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
October 8, 2025 at 4:16 AM
Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.
I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!
September 5, 2025 at 8:57 PM
I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!
July 9, 2025 at 10:55 PM
So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷
March 1, 2025 at 11:34 PM
So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷
Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻♀️
January 25, 2025 at 12:39 AM
Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻♀️
You remind me of the sign that sits on my desk.
January 10, 2025 at 7:15 PM
You remind me of the sign that sits on my desk.
Iris Apfel died on March 1st of this year. I messaged my tattoo artist the day her passing was announced. He books 6-9 months out. Yesterday was finally “Iris Day.”
I hope we all can live as long, as joyfully, and as authentically. May we all have style. 👑
I hope we all can live as long, as joyfully, and as authentically. May we all have style. 👑
December 15, 2024 at 5:32 PM
Iris Apfel died on March 1st of this year. I messaged my tattoo artist the day her passing was announced. He books 6-9 months out. Yesterday was finally “Iris Day.”
I hope we all can live as long, as joyfully, and as authentically. May we all have style. 👑
I hope we all can live as long, as joyfully, and as authentically. May we all have style. 👑
Oh hey! Are you stuck on what to get your partner as a holiday gift this year? I’m giving away *five* autographed copies of my book for couples plus a special (for grown-ups only!) toy. Just follow me here, share this post, & comment below for a chance to receive a holiday gift from me! 🎁
December 13, 2024 at 10:29 PM
Oh hey! Are you stuck on what to get your partner as a holiday gift this year? I’m giving away *five* autographed copies of my book for couples plus a special (for grown-ups only!) toy. Just follow me here, share this post, & comment below for a chance to receive a holiday gift from me! 🎁
Kink (mental health) providers- quote post w a photo & your fav kinks
- Boundary setting
- Validating Big Feelings
- Cognitive Challenging
- Shame Reduction
- Normalization
- Administering Hard Truths
- BDSM psychoeducation
- Trauma Care
(Am I doing this right?)
- Boundary setting
- Validating Big Feelings
- Cognitive Challenging
- Shame Reduction
- Normalization
- Administering Hard Truths
- BDSM psychoeducation
- Trauma Care
(Am I doing this right?)
December 5, 2024 at 11:33 PM
Kink (mental health) providers- quote post w a photo & your fav kinks
- Boundary setting
- Validating Big Feelings
- Cognitive Challenging
- Shame Reduction
- Normalization
- Administering Hard Truths
- BDSM psychoeducation
- Trauma Care
(Am I doing this right?)
- Boundary setting
- Validating Big Feelings
- Cognitive Challenging
- Shame Reduction
- Normalization
- Administering Hard Truths
- BDSM psychoeducation
- Trauma Care
(Am I doing this right?)
Working on a paper for my PhD Social Stats class. We get to use our own area of research interest for each assignment; which is how I came to create this lil beauty right here. E.L. James might be a terrible writer; but she spawned a veritable kink science renaissance.
December 5, 2024 at 3:30 AM
Working on a paper for my PhD Social Stats class. We get to use our own area of research interest for each assignment; which is how I came to create this lil beauty right here. E.L. James might be a terrible writer; but she spawned a veritable kink science renaissance.
Hey Stef, do you cosplay?
No… I dress like Persephone pretty much every day, why?
No… I dress like Persephone pretty much every day, why?
December 3, 2024 at 2:36 AM
Hey Stef, do you cosplay?
No… I dress like Persephone pretty much every day, why?
No… I dress like Persephone pretty much every day, why?
🎶You wanna go where people know/that people are all the same🎶
🎶You wanna go where everybody/knows your name 🎶
November 30, 2024 at 9:48 PM
🎶You wanna go where people know/that people are all the same🎶
🎶You wanna go where everybody/knows your name 🎶
Thanksgiving is over! That means it’s time to bust out the awesome holiday shirt I designed.
November 30, 2024 at 5:14 PM
Thanksgiving is over! That means it’s time to bust out the awesome holiday shirt I designed.
Take it from a therapist:
Marriage is about compromise.
It’s about celebrating the mundane wins that sustain a relationship.
It’s about commitment.
It’s buying 50 AirWick Plug-Ins when you realize that the first scent you & your spouse have EVER agreed on is a limited edition for the holidays.
Marriage is about compromise.
It’s about celebrating the mundane wins that sustain a relationship.
It’s about commitment.
It’s buying 50 AirWick Plug-Ins when you realize that the first scent you & your spouse have EVER agreed on is a limited edition for the holidays.
November 28, 2024 at 4:39 AM
Take it from a therapist:
Marriage is about compromise.
It’s about celebrating the mundane wins that sustain a relationship.
It’s about commitment.
It’s buying 50 AirWick Plug-Ins when you realize that the first scent you & your spouse have EVER agreed on is a limited edition for the holidays.
Marriage is about compromise.
It’s about celebrating the mundane wins that sustain a relationship.
It’s about commitment.
It’s buying 50 AirWick Plug-Ins when you realize that the first scent you & your spouse have EVER agreed on is a limited edition for the holidays.
I did a shocking amount of dot-matrix Print Shop design work on that tiny lil screen!
November 19, 2024 at 3:52 PM
I did a shocking amount of dot-matrix Print Shop design work on that tiny lil screen!
I did the thing!! You’re awesome. Thank you for this!
November 18, 2024 at 4:14 PM
I did the thing!! You’re awesome. Thank you for this!
I’m making a Sexology Starter Pack for anyone who’s interested in following some of the coolest voices in Sex Therapy & Research. Here’s the link, if you wanna follow. Shoot me a message if you’d like to be added to the list!
November 16, 2024 at 7:49 PM
I’m making a Sexology Starter Pack for anyone who’s interested in following some of the coolest voices in Sex Therapy & Research. Here’s the link, if you wanna follow. Shoot me a message if you’d like to be added to the list!
Months ago, I found out I had $$ waiting for me in our state’s Unclaimed Money fund. I filed the claim and decided I was only going to be *partly* responsible with it when it came. My mini-splurges arrived yesterday and I couldn’t be more excited.
Behold: the two vibes of Stefani, in jewelry form:
Behold: the two vibes of Stefani, in jewelry form:
November 15, 2024 at 3:50 PM
Months ago, I found out I had $$ waiting for me in our state’s Unclaimed Money fund. I filed the claim and decided I was only going to be *partly* responsible with it when it came. My mini-splurges arrived yesterday and I couldn’t be more excited.
Behold: the two vibes of Stefani, in jewelry form:
Behold: the two vibes of Stefani, in jewelry form:
What can I say… he brought the receipts. 🤷🏻♀️
September 11, 2024 at 2:46 AM
What can I say… he brought the receipts. 🤷🏻♀️
I’m lucky @jwgoerlich.bsky.social loves me, because his talk for @bsides312.bsky.social just got waitlisted… while his tech adjacent sexpert wife was asked to be their keynote.
February 23, 2024 at 12:59 AM
I’m lucky @jwgoerlich.bsky.social loves me, because his talk for @bsides312.bsky.social just got waitlisted… while his tech adjacent sexpert wife was asked to be their keynote.
Me, watching the Schiaparelli S/S24 show and trying to convince @jwgoerlich.bsky.social that I need this dress to wear for my first RSA talk.
(Oh- I’m speaking at RSA this year!)
(Oh- I’m speaking at RSA this year!)
February 1, 2024 at 4:06 PM
Me, watching the Schiaparelli S/S24 show and trying to convince @jwgoerlich.bsky.social that I need this dress to wear for my first RSA talk.
(Oh- I’m speaking at RSA this year!)
(Oh- I’m speaking at RSA this year!)
Without downloading any new pics, where are you at mentally?
December 15, 2023 at 1:40 AM
Without downloading any new pics, where are you at mentally?