Jen “cool older trans lady trying her best”
@transducer.bsky.social
40, she/her. 🏳️⚧️💊24-12-06; 🏳️⚧️💉25-06-24
This is basically just my transition diary. 🤷🏻♀️ Feel free to read along, if you’re chill! But my posts are about me, not you. 😉💖 Write your own—and start HRT already 🫂😜
There is still time. The time will pass either way.
This is basically just my transition diary. 🤷🏻♀️ Feel free to read along, if you’re chill! But my posts are about me, not you. 😉💖 Write your own—and start HRT already 🫂😜
There is still time. The time will pass either way.
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Well y’all, a bish welcomes any thoughts on the matter, bc it do be that time lol
Again, I’m most looking for tactical advice in doing this as an out trans woman, which is the new part for me this go-round 🏳️⚧️🚺🤷🏻♀️ Some of y’all are uniquely qualified, among my friends, to share that perspective!
Again, I’m most looking for tactical advice in doing this as an out trans woman, which is the new part for me this go-round 🏳️⚧️🚺🤷🏻♀️ Some of y’all are uniquely qualified, among my friends, to share that perspective!
Feeling the opposite of this today (as I take my, what, third break from the Opal block I promised would be until tonight?)—I don’t want to be an adult and respond to emails and make appointments and clean things today, being an adult is hard, I just want to play Pokémon 😫
For all that I am genuinely having a blast with the new Pokémon game I’m finding myself just as drawn to chatting with my trans friends or even doing dishes & otherwise taking care of my life?! WHO AM I oh right im finally transitioning, and also I’m forty lol
November 10, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Feeling the opposite of this today (as I take my, what, third break from the Opal block I promised would be until tonight?)—I don’t want to be an adult and respond to emails and make appointments and clean things today, being an adult is hard, I just want to play Pokémon 😫
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This is once again why transphobia is anti-feminist: it's based on the idea that men are inherently better at everything than women are.
when a trans woman excels at something, cis society considers her a cheating man
November 10, 2025 at 3:21 PM
This is once again why transphobia is anti-feminist: it's based on the idea that men are inherently better at everything than women are.
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The positive thing I can say is that every minute people spent trying to “toughen me up” was wasted and those people will never get them back.
A lot of well meaning cis allies will still be under the impression that your average trans girl grew up just like the boys around her. I don't think many actually understand just how frequently people picked up on how we are different and considered hurting as a victimless action
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Related: I remember telling stories about my childhood to my therapist and her just staring at me through the Zoom call with a thousand yard look in her eyes and then just slowly shaking her head when I said I had a typical childhood
Related: I remember telling stories about my childhood to my therapist and her just staring at me through the Zoom call with a thousand yard look in her eyes and then just slowly shaking her head when I said I had a typical childhood
November 10, 2025 at 1:46 PM
The positive thing I can say is that every minute people spent trying to “toughen me up” was wasted and those people will never get them back.
Jon Cryer reposted my political shitpost. Didn’t have that on my bingo card this morning
November 10, 2025 at 1:08 AM
Jon Cryer reposted my political shitpost. Didn’t have that on my bingo card this morning
Called @markwarner.bsky.social, left a message. Warner, s2g, you better not cave or I’ll primary you myself
Campaign slogans:
“she’ll definitely fund trans healthcare”
“honesty’s quicker than lying & she’s late to the Pokémon Go meetup”
“can’t ‘October surprise’ her, it’s already all on Bluesky”
Campaign slogans:
“she’ll definitely fund trans healthcare”
“honesty’s quicker than lying & she’s late to the Pokémon Go meetup”
“can’t ‘October surprise’ her, it’s already all on Bluesky”
November 10, 2025 at 12:31 AM
Called @markwarner.bsky.social, left a message. Warner, s2g, you better not cave or I’ll primary you myself
Campaign slogans:
“she’ll definitely fund trans healthcare”
“honesty’s quicker than lying & she’s late to the Pokémon Go meetup”
“can’t ‘October surprise’ her, it’s already all on Bluesky”
Campaign slogans:
“she’ll definitely fund trans healthcare”
“honesty’s quicker than lying & she’s late to the Pokémon Go meetup”
“can’t ‘October surprise’ her, it’s already all on Bluesky”
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there we go, this isn't a crash-out, it's an object lesson
(which is also my favorite Fall Out Boy song)
(which is also my favorite Fall Out Boy song)
My entire self-definition is helping other people. 40 years of it. I'm *still* doing it. I don't know how to not do it.
This could very well be a sign. Thank you for that!
This could very well be a sign. Thank you for that!
November 9, 2025 at 10:46 PM
there we go, this isn't a crash-out, it's an object lesson
(which is also my favorite Fall Out Boy song)
(which is also my favorite Fall Out Boy song)
God, it really sucks that the chair of the board of directors of USA Fencing has pretty good views on trans people, and backs them up… bc he plays Pokémon Go like an absolute ass
(he cheats. he’s got some kind of botnet setup to instantly take back any gym you knock him out of. Just to be a dick)
(he cheats. he’s got some kind of botnet setup to instantly take back any gym you knock him out of. Just to be a dick)
November 9, 2025 at 10:51 PM
God, it really sucks that the chair of the board of directors of USA Fencing has pretty good views on trans people, and backs them up… bc he plays Pokémon Go like an absolute ass
(he cheats. he’s got some kind of botnet setup to instantly take back any gym you knock him out of. Just to be a dick)
(he cheats. he’s got some kind of botnet setup to instantly take back any gym you knock him out of. Just to be a dick)
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I shouldn't have to have my senators on speed dial but I guess I do:
November 9, 2025 at 10:41 PM
I shouldn't have to have my senators on speed dial but I guess I do:
i did not correctly scan this the first time, and i bet you didn’t either
in fairness, that is the joke
nonetheless i’m slightly disappointed in myself
in fairness, that is the joke
nonetheless i’m slightly disappointed in myself
November 9, 2025 at 7:29 PM
i did not correctly scan this the first time, and i bet you didn’t either
in fairness, that is the joke
nonetheless i’m slightly disappointed in myself
in fairness, that is the joke
nonetheless i’m slightly disappointed in myself
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would anyone like to give me large quantities of money
I think this might fix a lot of my current issues
I think this might fix a lot of my current issues
November 9, 2025 at 3:56 PM
would anyone like to give me large quantities of money
I think this might fix a lot of my current issues
I think this might fix a lot of my current issues
This whole thread feels on the same lines (but better-written) as what I’ve been fumbling with this morning, but mostly i just love the poetry of the last clause in this post specifically.
(and the one about her personal goofus & gallant, that one’s particularly good too)
(and the one about her personal goofus & gallant, that one’s particularly good too)
the bleak irony of the jeremiads against "queer joy" is that in fact a major form of joy that has become nearly unimaginable in this climate is the joy of provocation, the curl of contempt in a sneering lip ill-formed to kiss the right asses to live
November 9, 2025 at 1:01 PM
This whole thread feels on the same lines (but better-written) as what I’ve been fumbling with this morning, but mostly i just love the poetry of the last clause in this post specifically.
(and the one about her personal goofus & gallant, that one’s particularly good too)
(and the one about her personal goofus & gallant, that one’s particularly good too)
New 🧵 bc this isn’t really about the book I just read—I’ve been thinking a lot about what someone said, “what happens if you put a straight trans woman in a Hallmark Christmas movie?”
What does a romance novel look like for a trans woman closeted at 39? What if the heroine thinks she’s the hero?
What does a romance novel look like for a trans woman closeted at 39? What if the heroine thinks she’s the hero?
The ludicrous aspects helped tbh. I can accept “she came out at 19 to her instantly supportive mother & she’s had the best possible transition since” bc to me that feels on par with “and HE’s the heir to *two separate* French cooking dynasties, somehow.”
Even though, y’know. One of those can happen
Even though, y’know. One of those can happen
November 9, 2025 at 8:18 AM
New 🧵 bc this isn’t really about the book I just read—I’ve been thinking a lot about what someone said, “what happens if you put a straight trans woman in a Hallmark Christmas movie?”
What does a romance novel look like for a trans woman closeted at 39? What if the heroine thinks she’s the hero?
What does a romance novel look like for a trans woman closeted at 39? What if the heroine thinks she’s the hero?
Sweetie: “and we will have delicious Chinese food, and I’ll eat crab Rangoon, and…”
Me: “‘you’re telling me a crab ran this goon?’ 😃”
Sweetie: “that’s the worst thing you’ve ever said.”
Me: “‘you’re telling me a crab ran this goon?’ 😃”
Sweetie: “that’s the worst thing you’ve ever said.”
insisting Sweetie come with me to pick up dinner bc I haven’t shaved today, I don’t want to put my skin through that for just one errand, and i have a deep emotional investment in not boymoding at our local Chinese takeout place
November 9, 2025 at 12:29 AM
Sweetie: “and we will have delicious Chinese food, and I’ll eat crab Rangoon, and…”
Me: “‘you’re telling me a crab ran this goon?’ 😃”
Sweetie: “that’s the worst thing you’ve ever said.”
Me: “‘you’re telling me a crab ran this goon?’ 😃”
Sweetie: “that’s the worst thing you’ve ever said.”
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Well-meaning ally, seeing "any/all pronouns": Any is such a cool person! I'm so glad I'm friends with all.
November 8, 2025 at 11:02 PM
Well-meaning ally, seeing "any/all pronouns": Any is such a cool person! I'm so glad I'm friends with all.
insisting Sweetie come with me to pick up dinner bc I haven’t shaved today, I don’t want to put my skin through that for just one errand, and i have a deep emotional investment in not boymoding at our local Chinese takeout place
November 8, 2025 at 10:54 PM
insisting Sweetie come with me to pick up dinner bc I haven’t shaved today, I don’t want to put my skin through that for just one errand, and i have a deep emotional investment in not boymoding at our local Chinese takeout place
Having offered a bunch of advice on how to make in-person friends, I’m now going to turn my attention back to the denouement of the story mode in Pokémon Legends ZA. Single-player ✌️🫥
My general advice is:
1. be a regular, reliable presence. Have a place where people know you by a long string of small, pleasant interactions, even if it’s just “every Saturday morning she’s here for a large iced latte”
2. Make friends with your friends’ friends. That’s how I met my sweetie 🤷🏻♀️
1. be a regular, reliable presence. Have a place where people know you by a long string of small, pleasant interactions, even if it’s just “every Saturday morning she’s here for a large iced latte”
2. Make friends with your friends’ friends. That’s how I met my sweetie 🤷🏻♀️
November 8, 2025 at 7:29 PM
Having offered a bunch of advice on how to make in-person friends, I’m now going to turn my attention back to the denouement of the story mode in Pokémon Legends ZA. Single-player ✌️🫥
Thank you to everyone who was so supportive & kind as I low-key crashed out on main last night 😅 time changes, amirite?
Just before I went to sleep I made a little list of “things that were good about today,” and that helped. As did the nice long sleep itself, lol
Just before I went to sleep I made a little list of “things that were good about today,” and that helped. As did the nice long sleep itself, lol
November 8, 2025 at 4:20 PM
Thank you to everyone who was so supportive & kind as I low-key crashed out on main last night 😅 time changes, amirite?
Just before I went to sleep I made a little list of “things that were good about today,” and that helped. As did the nice long sleep itself, lol
Just before I went to sleep I made a little list of “things that were good about today,” and that helped. As did the nice long sleep itself, lol
One of the nice things about bad brain nights in the Openly Jen Era is, in previous eras my bad brain’s final blow, greatest hit, encore song was “and you’re a coward who won’t ever actually come out and/or transition!”
now I get to be like ha ha depression, you don’t fuckin have that one anymore 😛
now I get to be like ha ha depression, you don’t fuckin have that one anymore 😛
November 8, 2025 at 4:55 AM
One of the nice things about bad brain nights in the Openly Jen Era is, in previous eras my bad brain’s final blow, greatest hit, encore song was “and you’re a coward who won’t ever actually come out and/or transition!”
now I get to be like ha ha depression, you don’t fuckin have that one anymore 😛
now I get to be like ha ha depression, you don’t fuckin have that one anymore 😛
some days it feels more like being the old timey wine-making person who stomps on the grapes with gross bare feet to make the grape into juice that becomes wine, and also being the grape
but yes
but yes
Being both the potter and the clay is one of the great joys of being trans.
November 8, 2025 at 3:35 AM
some days it feels more like being the old timey wine-making person who stomps on the grapes with gross bare feet to make the grape into juice that becomes wine, and also being the grape
but yes
but yes
honestly this feels like optimistic version numbering; this week particularly it feels more like my transition is in open beta 😣
but we’re working on it! We’re working on it 😮💨
but we’re working on it! We’re working on it 😮💨
😮💨 yeah, that’s a good call. We’ll see if we can get that into the 1.2 transition update
November 8, 2025 at 2:41 AM
honestly this feels like optimistic version numbering; this week particularly it feels more like my transition is in open beta 😣
but we’re working on it! We’re working on it 😮💨
but we’re working on it! We’re working on it 😮💨
And after all the trials of my “beyond the apartment” time today, when I got back the fucking Mormons were outside again 😓
NGL, getting the “ma’am” from those kids when I’m tired & cranky & not wearing a speck of eyeliner? Fine line between feeling “gender-affirmed” vs feeling “condescended at” 😒
NGL, getting the “ma’am” from those kids when I’m tired & cranky & not wearing a speck of eyeliner? Fine line between feeling “gender-affirmed” vs feeling “condescended at” 😒
November 8, 2025 at 1:25 AM
And after all the trials of my “beyond the apartment” time today, when I got back the fucking Mormons were outside again 😓
NGL, getting the “ma’am” from those kids when I’m tired & cranky & not wearing a speck of eyeliner? Fine line between feeling “gender-affirmed” vs feeling “condescended at” 😒
NGL, getting the “ma’am” from those kids when I’m tired & cranky & not wearing a speck of eyeliner? Fine line between feeling “gender-affirmed” vs feeling “condescended at” 😒
It’s really too bad that cocksucking is a morally-neutral-to-good activity, because there’s just no other profanity that hits the same phonetically. I’m trying to switch to “shitfucker” but it simply isn’t as satisfying of a word to hurl at an idiot driver
“Cocksucker” has a unique… well… mouthfeel
“Cocksucker” has a unique… well… mouthfeel
November 7, 2025 at 10:47 PM
It’s really too bad that cocksucking is a morally-neutral-to-good activity, because there’s just no other profanity that hits the same phonetically. I’m trying to switch to “shitfucker” but it simply isn’t as satisfying of a word to hurl at an idiot driver
“Cocksucker” has a unique… well… mouthfeel
“Cocksucker” has a unique… well… mouthfeel
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man what we really need some day is a political figure that takes office and then slowly starts transitioning
November 7, 2025 at 9:16 PM
man what we really need some day is a political figure that takes office and then slowly starts transitioning
Muffins!
November 7, 2025 at 7:21 PM
Muffins!
[Annie Potts voice] “we GOT one!”
#Pokémon #PokémonLegendsZA #Tyrunt #ShinyTyrunt #FossilPokemon #ShinyPokemon
#Pokémon #PokémonLegendsZA #Tyrunt #ShinyTyrunt #FossilPokemon #ShinyPokemon
November 7, 2025 at 6:48 PM
[Annie Potts voice] “we GOT one!”
#Pokémon #PokémonLegendsZA #Tyrunt #ShinyTyrunt #FossilPokemon #ShinyPokemon
#Pokémon #PokémonLegendsZA #Tyrunt #ShinyTyrunt #FossilPokemon #ShinyPokemon