Host- D. Crew-Lola K.
@natblkpolyam.bsky.social
A video series written by a Black crew and hosted by D, a therapist and coach targeting general Polyamory and the Blackpolyamorous experience
https://youtube.com/@clinicallypolyamnatblk?si=gmxsQ_G80oLfkIxk
https://youtube.com/@clinicallypolyamnatblk?si=gmxsQ_G80oLfkIxk
You're partner not feeling/thinking the way you believe they should think/feel may not be gaslighting or lying.
It may be them having a different emotional experience than you.
It may be them having a different emotional experience than you.
December 11, 2025 at 7:09 PM
You're partner not feeling/thinking the way you believe they should think/feel may not be gaslighting or lying.
It may be them having a different emotional experience than you.
It may be them having a different emotional experience than you.
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“How can I show children that capitalism is bad? I know, I’ll make the villain in this cartoon named ‘Looten Plunder’”
November 25, 2025 at 5:08 PM
“How can I show children that capitalism is bad? I know, I’ll make the villain in this cartoon named ‘Looten Plunder’”
One of the most common things we learn about holidays is what is "normal". Often that involves obligation but we need to go beyond just assumption. We need to talk about expectation and why we get so hurt by the conversations we don't have
youtu.be/hF8mXeDNigM?...
youtu.be/hF8mXeDNigM?...
One critical tip for Surviving the Holidays: Polyamory, estranged families, and the Queer Community
YouTube video by Clinically Polyamorous, Naturally Black
youtu.be
November 25, 2025 at 6:52 PM
One of the most common things we learn about holidays is what is "normal". Often that involves obligation but we need to go beyond just assumption. We need to talk about expectation and why we get so hurt by the conversations we don't have
youtu.be/hF8mXeDNigM?...
youtu.be/hF8mXeDNigM?...
Cheating isn't a reason for polyamory. Cheating is a symptom of something else.
Can being in denial of a relationship style orientation contribute to cheating absolutely but yeah being poly isn't going to solve those issues even if it's part of the issue
Can being in denial of a relationship style orientation contribute to cheating absolutely but yeah being poly isn't going to solve those issues even if it's part of the issue
November 4, 2025 at 7:46 PM
Cheating isn't a reason for polyamory. Cheating is a symptom of something else.
Can being in denial of a relationship style orientation contribute to cheating absolutely but yeah being poly isn't going to solve those issues even if it's part of the issue
Can being in denial of a relationship style orientation contribute to cheating absolutely but yeah being poly isn't going to solve those issues even if it's part of the issue
Recently, we had someone reach out and ask why we don't consider hierarchy in polyamory innately unethical. And that's a very good question...
November 4, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Recently, we had someone reach out and ask why we don't consider hierarchy in polyamory innately unethical. And that's a very good question...
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Millennial and Gen Z women don’t want to be managers — it’s called ‘conscious unbossing’
They’re citing burnout, mismatched corporate values and a desire to redefine success on their own terms.
www.thestar.com/life/millenn...
They’re citing burnout, mismatched corporate values and a desire to redefine success on their own terms.
www.thestar.com/life/millenn...
Millennial and Gen Z women don’t want to be managers — it’s called ‘conscious unbossing’
They're citing burnout, mismatched corporate values and a desire to redefine success on their own terms.
www.thestar.com
November 3, 2025 at 11:55 AM
Millennial and Gen Z women don’t want to be managers — it’s called ‘conscious unbossing’
They’re citing burnout, mismatched corporate values and a desire to redefine success on their own terms.
www.thestar.com/life/millenn...
They’re citing burnout, mismatched corporate values and a desire to redefine success on their own terms.
www.thestar.com/life/millenn...
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A few very short poems written by me.
Here's one:
"Sometimes equality is…
Too quiet a word,
Too small a word,
A not-enough word,
A word not able to bear the weight of yesterday,
Not strong enough to carry tomorrow’s visions…
Sometimes equality does not say enough."
folukeafrica.com/equality-is-...
Here's one:
"Sometimes equality is…
Too quiet a word,
Too small a word,
A not-enough word,
A word not able to bear the weight of yesterday,
Not strong enough to carry tomorrow’s visions…
Sometimes equality does not say enough."
folukeafrica.com/equality-is-...
‘Equality is…’ and Other Very Short Verses
… the written word can also sing
folukeafrica.com
November 3, 2025 at 2:00 PM
A few very short poems written by me.
Here's one:
"Sometimes equality is…
Too quiet a word,
Too small a word,
A not-enough word,
A word not able to bear the weight of yesterday,
Not strong enough to carry tomorrow’s visions…
Sometimes equality does not say enough."
folukeafrica.com/equality-is-...
Here's one:
"Sometimes equality is…
Too quiet a word,
Too small a word,
A not-enough word,
A word not able to bear the weight of yesterday,
Not strong enough to carry tomorrow’s visions…
Sometimes equality does not say enough."
folukeafrica.com/equality-is-...
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Here are some independent New York City-based news outlets that are free from billionaire influence:
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This is the time to give to @thecity.nyc @nysfocus.bsky.social @forward.com @documentedny.bsky.social. Thanks to NewsMatch, all donations are matched by a coalition of funders, so you can double your impact!
Honorable mention to @hellgatenyc.com, which is not part of NewsMatch but worth giving to.
Honorable mention to @hellgatenyc.com, which is not part of NewsMatch but worth giving to.
I'm getting a lot of responses from blue wave accounts talking about Trump. Frankly, that is already a known threat. What I'm trying to raise the alarm about here are the NYT, The Atlantic, and other reactionary news outlets that still carry legitimacy in liberal urban circles for some reason.
November 3, 2025 at 12:27 AM
Here are some independent New York City-based news outlets that are free from billionaire influence:
bsky.app/profile/alex...
bsky.app/profile/alex...
Polyamory food for thought: Does hierarchy mean you are less than, or does it mean there are different dynamics in your relationship?
November 3, 2025 at 2:25 PM
Polyamory food for thought: Does hierarchy mean you are less than, or does it mean there are different dynamics in your relationship?
Being an interracial poly pair means interesting conversations
November 2, 2025 at 8:19 PM
Being an interracial poly pair means interesting conversations
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Heartened to see Indiana University resume print publication of Indiana Daily Student, dropping bizarre demand that newspaper not print news. I often say I learn from my students. Looks like the student editors of the IDS taught IU leaders something, too. https://loom.ly/JMYaFSU
LETTER FROM THE EDITORS: IDS to continue printing after IU reverses course
Our next edition will hit the stands Nov. 20.
www.idsnews.com
October 31, 2025 at 2:46 PM
Heartened to see Indiana University resume print publication of Indiana Daily Student, dropping bizarre demand that newspaper not print news. I often say I learn from my students. Looks like the student editors of the IDS taught IU leaders something, too. https://loom.ly/JMYaFSU
I had to share this reddit post because it perfectly captures the attitudes underlying why some folks are DEEPLY angry that anyone unlike them is visible in the world: They do not want their kids to know different people exist because knowledge is predatory. Knowledge is dangerous.
October 31, 2025 at 3:36 PM
I had to share this reddit post because it perfectly captures the attitudes underlying why some folks are DEEPLY angry that anyone unlike them is visible in the world: They do not want their kids to know different people exist because knowledge is predatory. Knowledge is dangerous.
Here's a decades old fact the tech industry won't tell you: Facial recognition software is less able to accurately detect people of color, specifically darker skin; in some cases it is better with certain Asian demographics bc they're the developer-test subjects. Can we see the problem with this?
After years of articles on inaccuracy...
“ICE officials have told us that an apparent biometric match.. is a ‘definitive’ determination of a person’s status and that an ICE officer may ignore evidence of American citizenship—including a birth certificate—if the app says the person is an alien,”
“ICE officials have told us that an apparent biometric match.. is a ‘definitive’ determination of a person’s status and that an ICE officer may ignore evidence of American citizenship—including a birth certificate—if the app says the person is an alien,”
New from 404 Media: you can't refuse to be scanned by ICE's new facial recognition app, according to internal DHS document I obtained. Photos captured by the app are stored for 15 years, including U.S. citizens. We've seen officers scanning faces w/ phones on streets
www.404media.co/you-cant-ref...
www.404media.co/you-cant-ref...
October 31, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Here's a decades old fact the tech industry won't tell you: Facial recognition software is less able to accurately detect people of color, specifically darker skin; in some cases it is better with certain Asian demographics bc they're the developer-test subjects. Can we see the problem with this?
How many folks have felt this way?
Excluding everyone.
Excluding everyone.
I saw this and had to share this because it made me choke laughing.
September 24, 2025 at 6:57 PM
How many folks have felt this way?
Excluding everyone.
Excluding everyone.
This is an interesting thing to explore, especially in the context of working with and being in relationships with neurodivergent people because both things can be very true: Patriarchy makes women micro-managers AND their partners may truly not understand and fear getting it wrong
Good on her husband to be open and taking in stride. How many stories have we heard of the opposite?
September 24, 2025 at 6:52 PM
This is an interesting thing to explore, especially in the context of working with and being in relationships with neurodivergent people because both things can be very true: Patriarchy makes women micro-managers AND their partners may truly not understand and fear getting it wrong
Polyamory isn’t about collecting partners. It’s about building relationships that fit your values. What does ethical non-monogamy mean to you? What have monogamy and polyamory taught you about your relationship values?
September 24, 2025 at 6:45 PM
Polyamory isn’t about collecting partners. It’s about building relationships that fit your values. What does ethical non-monogamy mean to you? What have monogamy and polyamory taught you about your relationship values?
Tips, tricks, and perspectives on handling loneliness in Polyamory!
Being Polyamorous can be so fulfilling, but that doesn't mean it isn't hard when we're the one at home alone. Let me share what I have learned over the years with you...
youtu.be/n-_sQQi3sTM?...
Being Polyamorous can be so fulfilling, but that doesn't mean it isn't hard when we're the one at home alone. Let me share what I have learned over the years with you...
youtu.be/n-_sQQi3sTM?...
Lonely? Bored? What to do when your partner is out?
YouTube video by Clinically Polyamorous, Naturally Black
youtu.be
August 26, 2025 at 2:21 AM
Tips, tricks, and perspectives on handling loneliness in Polyamory!
Being Polyamorous can be so fulfilling, but that doesn't mean it isn't hard when we're the one at home alone. Let me share what I have learned over the years with you...
youtu.be/n-_sQQi3sTM?...
Being Polyamorous can be so fulfilling, but that doesn't mean it isn't hard when we're the one at home alone. Let me share what I have learned over the years with you...
youtu.be/n-_sQQi3sTM?...
New book in the cue!
June 17, 2025 at 1:13 AM
New book in the cue!
A very odd thing on polyamorous spaces is you can get second hand drama exhaustion from folks asking for advice. Take a break from the serious stuff between being helpful to others! It helps you!
June 17, 2025 at 1:13 AM
A very odd thing on polyamorous spaces is you can get second hand drama exhaustion from folks asking for advice. Take a break from the serious stuff between being helpful to others! It helps you!
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I shed no tears for a deer laying broken alongside the road, and harbor no animosity for the crows feasting on her carcass. This universe is brutal by design. Who am I to question something so large my simple mind cannot comprehend?
#vss365 #shed
#vss365 #shed
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Alt: a purple background with a purple light coming out of it .
media.tenor.com
June 13, 2025 at 2:27 PM
One thing that is constantly used to disparage polyamorous folks and other alternative communities is this idea that somehow not being conventionally attractive is the reason for being alternative.. and I've always found that very strange
June 13, 2025 at 6:46 PM
One thing that is constantly used to disparage polyamorous folks and other alternative communities is this idea that somehow not being conventionally attractive is the reason for being alternative.. and I've always found that very strange
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I’m not saying anything new, but more people should read about what happened AFTER Reconstruction. That’s the most instructive example of what Trump is doing.
March 29, 2025 at 2:07 PM
I’m not saying anything new, but more people should read about what happened AFTER Reconstruction. That’s the most instructive example of what Trump is doing.
This approach can be helpful for tapping into compassion and also releasing people pleasing.
1) i learned to detach myself from feeling responsible for other ppl's choices + outcomes
2) i don't assume malice. most ppl are just doing their best
3) adults need patience, affirmation, + support like kids do. kids need respect, autonomy, + dignity like adults do. all people are simply people
2) i don't assume malice. most ppl are just doing their best
3) adults need patience, affirmation, + support like kids do. kids need respect, autonomy, + dignity like adults do. all people are simply people
10. How can you become more patient & tolerant with others?
March 27, 2025 at 6:51 PM
This approach can be helpful for tapping into compassion and also releasing people pleasing.
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new story in the new Iowa Review called "be the dog." 🐶
December 9, 2024 at 1:23 PM
new story in the new Iowa Review called "be the dog." 🐶