AskAubry 🦝 🐆
LightNews LightNews
banner
askaubry.com
AskAubry 🦝 🐆
@askaubry.com
85K followers 6.7K following 8.7K posts
Curator of Nice Guys™, WTFs, & Trash Takes

Submission? DM me

DMs are subject to the public

Buy me a coffee? https://ko-fi.com/askaubry

Follow≠endorse

TL=TW
Posts Replies Media Videos
askaubry.com
He took the thermostat with him
Original poster Awful Xmas day now this namechangeforthisstory Today 01:16 So Xmas day has been argumentative all day when the kids weren't around. He never brought me any gifts (I know it's not about that) but had no thanks of him for his gifts. He had a Xmas card in the side tha he'd brought for the kids to write me. He never asked them to do it but was able to get the kids to do one for his parents and presents. He went to bed at 7:30 as I was watching tv and he didn't like that as he wanted to watch something. I said watch it on your phone or in the kitchen like I have to normally do. I've now just gone to turn the heating up and he's taken the thermostat of the stand. Is this some sort of abusive behaviour?! Who even takes the thermostat
December 27, 2025 at 2:07 AM
askaubry.com
Domestic violence increases by 10% primarily affecting women during NFL games.

But women are told we are the "emotional" ones.
1 NBC NEWS SUBSCRIBE GUNS IN AMERICA Florida man kills wife and then self after argument over 'Monday Night Football,' authorities say Jason Kenney, 47, fatally shot Crystal Kenney and critically wounded her 13-year-old daughter in dispute over what to watch on TV, according to law enforcement. A Florida man fatally shot his wife, critically wounded his stepdaughter and then killed himself after the parents argued over changing the channel from "Monday Night Football," authorities said. Jason Kenney, 47, had been watching his favorite team, the San Francisco 49ers, beat the Indianapolis Colts when his 38-year-old wife, Crystal Kenney, "told him that she did not want to watch football" anymore, according to a statement from the Polk County Sheriff's Office. Jason Kenney had "been drinking during the evening" in Lakeland, and at about 11 p.m., with the game well in hand for San Francisco, "an argument began when Crystal Kenney suggested they watch something else on television and the argument got really heated," Sheriff Grady Judd told reporters. Crystal Kenney told her son, 12, to go to a neighbor to call 911, and as the boy was "leaving the house, he hears a gunshot," Grady added. Responding deputies found Crystal Kenney's body and her critically wounded 13-year-old daugh
December 26, 2025 at 11:46 PM
askaubry.com
Because men catching feelings for exotic dancers is never heard of though.
A woman can catch feelings for the man who fixed her car on the road and forget the man who bought the car. Welcome to Female nature. Likes
December 26, 2025 at 9:46 PM
askaubry.com
This is giving, I compete with my own daughters energy
wende_reid 19h Follow I had 4 girls, they're adults now. I could write a book on daughters. Just wanted to let y'all know that girls have an attitude for no reason. FOR NO REASON!!! ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS!!
December 26, 2025 at 7:00 PM
askaubry.com
Not one original thought.
Normalize humbling women in 2026.
December 26, 2025 at 5:50 PM
askaubry.com
Sleep deprecation is abuse
AITA for taking a 1hr nap on days i work? Not the A-hole My (30 F) fiancee (35 NB) has been giving me grief for taking a 45min-1hr naps before I go to work each day. I work 2p-11p, they work 7a-3:30p and has a 4 y/o daughter who I watch while they work until I need to work myself. IG & Threads: @ask They expect me to wake up at 6-ish to make her breakfast and be ready for the day. I normally don't mind, but some days, if not every day I work, I need an hour nap. I get home around 11:30, stay awake for an hour, maybe an hour and a half because my body is wired from working. I have two days off and we nap together even sometimes (as does the little). They're starting to feel lonely, citing that I sleep EVERY day when I do not. I currently am in therapy and see a psychiatrist to help with my alcohol addiction (I'm 2 months clean!!) and my ADHD symptoms with impulse control and other issues. I'm a sleepy girl. I don't do it on purpose, and I'm not checking out because I feel they would be fine if I did. I literally will fall asleep sitting up if I am that tired. They're acting like I'm never awake/ around....which work pulls me away a lot, but I barely hit 40 hours each week. Same as them. My schedule is set, and Friday/Saturday are my off days, while theirs are sat/sun. I feel like shit for sleeping already, and that I have to sleep at all but I wake up so early. I get maybe 6 hours each day pre-nap, if I'm lucky. I spoke to my psychiatrist in case this is a side effect of my meds and she literally told me "get more sleep." Am I the asshole for napping because my body is literally forcing me to?? Quick edit; partner works from home at a very relaxed job while I have to travel 30 mins both way to go to mine and its very pressure centered. IG & Threads: @ask
December 26, 2025 at 4:30 PM
askaubry.com
But he said he values his time alone, though.

Anyways congrats to the girlies who realized that they don't have to deal with less.
AlO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he was angry I was crying the day after my cat died? For context: I had to put my beloved cat down on Thursday night after a long battle with kidney disease. I went to work the next morning, and I told my bf I would hang out when I got off, but once I was off, I lost it. It hadn't even been 24 hours yet. Then I received this first text. I broke up with him. He messaged the next day, and that's when the second and third screenshots happened. I don't like getting nasty but... he says I cried over my cat to inconvenience him. This isn't the first time he's done something like this either. Ok ok Are you ready Like I don't wanna be rude but you said soon and I did nothing for like 30 minutes just waiting on you Now I'm playing games cause idk what soon means anymore Yeah go for it Like I just don't wanna be dicked around My cat died in my arms last night, give me a breaks I'm sitting here bawling. Sorry, but I don't care if you feel dicked around. Yeah well half of all you do is bawl Like handle your self Alright I'm done Bye Read 9:07 PM Grow up You're extra as fck All I was asking is for you to hop in a party or say you couldn't But you dicked me around for an hour That's fine if you need to grieve I understand Just don't lie to me and make me wait on you I honestly think your feelings do that stuff on purpose to make sure I'm inconvenienced I honestly think you do that* Yeah you're right I totally do it to inconvenience you. Because that's absolutely logical Yeah here's the thought process- you think "man my boyfriend isn't being caring enough about my thing". I'm going to make sure he has to care! That's always how it feels from you That's just how it seems. Like oh I have a boyfriend! I'm entitled to sympathy!! He's not showing his sympathy very well.. better force him! definitely me Fuck this I wish I could see the look on someone's face. Yeah my boyfriend dumped me when my cat died right before Christmas Wow he must be evil huh? Nope just tired of your shit I'm tired of yours Seek professional help And you didn't dump me I dumped you. I had no intention of wanting to get back together. You've fucked with me and treated me like shit enough; I'm done. I have lots of people. Playing with and right now as we speak. You have no one, because you're a selfish asshole. I value my time alone Good. Should have a lot of
December 26, 2025 at 3:43 AM
askaubry.com
Gisèle Pelicot was just the tip of the iceberg.
Sport Culture Lifestyle UK UK politics Education Media Society Law Scotland UK news Man in UK charged alongside five others with sexual offences against his wife Philip Young, 49, is accused of 56 sexual offences, including drugging and raping his now ex A former Tory councillor has been charged with drugging and raping his then wife over a period of 13 years, with five other men also charged with sexual offences against her. Philip Young, 49, a white British national, formerly from Swindon but now living in Enfield in north London, has been charged with 56 sexual offences. Police have released the ethnicity of each man charged. They include multiple counts of rape, administering a substance to overpower his victim to allow sexual activity, voyeurism, possession of indecent images of children and possession of extreme images. The alleged victim, Young's now ex-wife, Joanne Young, 48, has waived her right to anonymity. Young was previously a Conservative councillor from 2007 to 2010 on Swindon borough council. He was the cabinet member for culture, regeneration and economic development until 6 May 2010. More recently he was the chief operating officer at the consultancy firm Pracedo. Five other men have also been charged with offen Norman Macksoni, 47, of Sharnbrook, who police described as a black British national, has been charged with one count of rape and possession of extreme images. Dean Hamilton, 46, of no fixed abode, who police said was white British, has been charged with one count of rape and sexual assault by penetration and two counts of sexual touching. Conner Sanderson Doyle, 31, of Swindon, described as white British, has been charged with sexual assault by penetration and sexual touching. Richard Wilkins, 61, of Toothill, Swindon, who police also said was white British, has been charged with one count of rape and sexual touching. Mohammed Hassan, 37, of Swindon, described by police as British Asian, has been charged with sexual touching. The offences are alleged to have taken place between 2010 and 2023. Det Supt Geoff Smith of Wiltshire police said: "This is a significant update in what is a complex and extensive investigation. "The victim in this case, Joanne, has taken the decision to waiv
December 26, 2025 at 2:30 AM
askaubry.com
Behold, the type of person who thinks they are superior.
travelwithmrmichael 18h One reason why Los Angeles is a terrible, third-world city is because it has third world demographics. Whites represent only 28% of the city of Los Angeles. My view is in America, that number should be closer to 88%. Asian percentage is 11-12: that's fine. Not so fine: Hispanic population of 47%. This is America, not Mexico. Let the deportations increase!
December 26, 2025 at 1:43 AM
askaubry.com
Retroactive jealousy will destroy a relationship.

He need therapy and get to work or she needs to drop him.
My husband is ashamed of me because of my body count. For context. We've been together since we were 19 and we're 26. When we first got together and we were getting to know each other. I had revealed to him that my body count was 7. His being one. Which he regret entirely. I was honestly from the start and he did mention that it bothered him but he would be fine with it given that he really liked me. Fast forwards 6 years he revealed to me that he doesn't like having sex with me sometimes because all he can imagine is me being with someone. He's rubbing it in my face that he was waiting for the right one. That he was considerate of his one. That he was considerate of his future partner. I should also mention that we have two kids. I told him he had every opportunity to let me go when we met but now he has a problem when we have two kids and been together for years. I do want to prefix this by saying he is an amazing father and man. Has never cheated never had wondering eyes. Provides for us and over all a great guy. We've been arguing on and off about this for a couple months now and I'm just tired of being shamed and put down. I don't know what to do to help him cope and move on. He also admitted to me that some days it's hard to look at me or be affectionate towards me. That he has nightmares about me with other guys. Today was my breaking point with the argument because he called me a whore and said I'm hard to love because of my past. I do truly love him and wish to work things out. What do I do?
December 25, 2025 at 11:48 PM
askaubry.com
You can be your own best company
AlTJ for refusing to attend weekly family dinners because they always turn into debates about my life choices? My family has weekly dinners, and I used to attend regularly. Over time, though, every dinner turned into an interrogation about my career, my relationship status, and whether I'm "behind" compared to my cousins. I've asked multiple times to keep conversations lighter, but it never sticks. Someone always brings up how I could be earning more or settling down faster. After the last dinner, where I was compared to a younger cousin who just bought a house, I decided to stop attending for a while. I told my parents why. They said I'm being overly sensitive and that family dinners are about "honest conversations." Now they're upset and saying I'm isolating myself.
December 25, 2025 at 9:38 PM
askaubry.com
The mindset of a predator.
Posted by Limp-Drink-1098 Submiss s at Wed, Dec 24, 2025 8:27 AM in Askindia Orignal Reddit Link Do you guys think rape victims overexaggerate thier suffering/pain (especially women) https://wv ments/1pundax/do_you_guys _victims_overexaggerate/ 1 1 Comments Like okay you had sex when you don't want to for once. Move on! It's life things happen. Not every intimate moment is perfectly timed or driven by equal enthusiasm on both sides. Some survivors report long-term psychological damage, while others say they were able to process it and move forward without it defining their entire life.
December 25, 2025 at 8:24 PM
askaubry.com
Oh and that $500 purchase was for a metal detector for his hobby that he spends inordinate amount of time on. You know all that time he says he doesn't have.
AITAH for saying my wife has ot easy? M wife always complains that she's burnt out and needs time to herself after watching our son. She does online college and works 2 to 3 days a week 5-hour shifts. At least once a week she goes to a friend from work's house and hangs out and has girl time for a few hours. She gets paid to do online college through a program for her dad's military retirement. the main reason she goes to work is to get out as she does not need to. But I think the main reason she does is because i got my own bank account instead of my checks going into her. Also our son goes to daycare 5 days a week till atleast 3pm. My issue is she's constantly saying she feels burnt out and needs time to herself but forgets that her 5-hour shift is only half of one of my days. I work 5 days a week 10 hours a day and go on call every few weeks for a week at a time. I don't have time to go hang out with friends and either am at work or home. I never complain or tell her she's not doing enough but she has a lot more free time than I do. Mind you even on the weekends she works Sunday so I have our son on Sunday from 4:00 in the afternoon to whenever she gets home after her friends and her hang out. So I get one Saturday a week of free time which is usually spent doing whatever it is she wants to do because she's been home a lot of the week and doesn't leave time for me to do much of anything I want or need to do such as cleaning up the yard, cutting the grass, washing cars Etc. Am I the a****** for not caring anymore when she complains? AITAH for saying my wife has ot easy? YTA. Hey OP you know we can see your post history right? So not even a month ago you made a post with concern about your wife's weight as she apparently skips meals at work (would contribute to burnout I imagine). But what's even more interesting is you making a $500 purchase and wanting to lie to her about it. Not related to having your own bank account right? Also totally no reason for her, an adult woman with a child to want her own money? /s Based on some other comments you've made it's pretty clear that you view women as lesser than, and your wife is no exception. You're absolutely one of those men who only brings up men's issues when a woman brings up her's first.
December 25, 2025 at 5:46 PM
askaubry.com
I'm happy he has removed himself out of the dating pool since he can't see the difference between a relationship and transactional sex act.
supermannman 2h my brothers friend says he doesnt want to date. nagging daily, usually vanilla boring sex. too much money and time. his words he pays for call girls to his house 1-2 a month. and I saw some of these women. my jaw dropped. european model level. sheesh. he said he cant go back to dating women. most women are mediocre and horrible in bed. bad bodies vs the call girls. the ROI is bad is what he says.
December 25, 2025 at 4:00 PM
askaubry.com
So his value is no. More than a $5 gadget, got it.
soulfuxher 10h Follow For all you women who don't need a man, who's gonna twist that lid off dem jars for you?
December 25, 2025 at 3:30 PM
askaubry.com
This must be anti-marriage propaganda.
margauxxyelich 10h Women, dont ever let Satan confuse you into thinking that once you get married, you still have a choice whether you'll want children or not. You are created for this very purpose, to bear and raise children! Its not even optional.
December 25, 2025 at 2:20 PM
askaubry.com
The way they can't help but to show their true self
gregcarrbcchristian 7m Okay fine yes I have known men who raped and I have heard bar tenders joke about it and say Bill Cosby was innocent. Also know men who don't use porn and know men who have raised other mens children. Read stories numerous times of men who drove off rapists to help a female unknown to them. Know men who walked a girl home. Best you know how to handle yourself. Most rape victims are on booze or drugs.
December 25, 2025 at 3:53 AM
askaubry.com
Cheating. He is cheating.
I (F25) just got a positive STD test in a 3 year monogamous relationship, any advice is very appreciated Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I (F25) have been with my boyfriend (M30), let's call him Randy, for 3 years. There have been some issues with trust in the past, but I've chosen to move past them and believe him that he's faithful to me and wants a long term, monogamous relationship with me For context, I've had issues with BV infections and had multiple appointments with my gynecologist about them. Whenever I was tested, swab STD tests were also included, so I can see that I've had negative STD tests over the course of the last 3 years. One was negative in July 2023, I had two negative tests in the summer/ fall of 2024, and another negative test this year, April 2025. I never paid much mind to the negative STD tests because I was only concerned about the BV, but yesterday my boyfriend called and said he had a doctors appointment and tested positive for gonorrhea. I instantly panicked, and couldn't understand where this came from. I immediately accused him of cheating on me, and he insisted that he's been fully faithful to me. He said that his theory is that he had gonorrhea and didn't know about it since before we started dating, and just now found out. rushed to get tested myself, and got a positive result back. The doctor that tested me told me she thinks that this was a recent infection, because the likelihood of having gonorrhea for 3 years and not testing positive is slim to none. Randy, however, insists that there must be some other explanation for this, but can't provide any. I am convinced he cheated on me, because I can't understand how he could've had gonorrhea this whole time, had me test negative 4 times over the course of 2.5 years, and then suddenly test positive at the same time he did. He's expecting me to believe I didn't catch one of the most contagious STDs after 2.5 years of unprotected sex, and said that all 4 of those tests could've been false negatives, or I just now contracted it. I have serious doubts about what he's saying, but he seems earnest, and I'm not detecting that he's trying to lie or deceive me. That being said, I understand that gonorrhea is highly contagious, and if he had it this whole time, the likelihood of me catching it would've been extremely high. From what I've researched, women having sex with men infected with gonorrhea have a 60-90% of catching it per sexual act, which would make it practically impossible for me to have negative tests over the last few years. Am I missing something here, or am I justified in my conclusion that he has to have cheated on me? Any advice is very appreciated. Tl;dr: my boyfriend suddenly tested positive for gonorrhea after being in a relationship with me for 3 years, trying to determine if I'm being cheated on
December 25, 2025 at 2:01 AM
askaubry.com
These are the same dudes who keep telling us they are going to go their own way yet we are still waiting for them to leave.
kenp_keys Relationships 2h Men do not align with the selfish, narcissistic female mindset that EVERYTHING in a relationship has to be about the woman: what she wants, her happiness, her financial needs. This basic truth is impossible for modern women to comprehend. Men would rather be by themselves, enjoying their peace, building their wealth, than have to accept insufferable foolishness from a woman.
December 25, 2025 at 1:16 AM
askaubry.com
Hear that fellas? No dessert if you want to be manly man!
texaslawdaddy Was eating at a nice restaurant (as I usually do). I'm chilling, just got my steak with truffle butter. I'm enjoying my food until A GROWN MAN sitting next to me orders a dessert. The energy in the room shifted. It's something's that should be kept to women and children.
December 25, 2025 at 12:09 AM
askaubry.com
Yup
Guess who has a better social and romantic life? ⚫ learned skills such as sql, python, tableau, google analytics ⚫works six figure tech job ⚫ has his own place ⚫ has a nice car • works commission only sales ⚫ has a mid salary rents a studio the size of a walk in closet • drives a beater pinkelephant0040 1d Edited Woman picks man on the left: Incel shouts "You GOLD DIGGER!". Woman picks man on the right: "You only care ABOUT LOOKS!" There's no winning. Add: Geesh this got complicated. Do men know what sapiosexuality is?
December 24, 2025 at 10:25 PM
askaubry.com
This dude: the problem with women is they won't endure abuse anymore.
manahilz_ 17h The rising divorce rate is a sign of a soft generation. In the past women knew how to endure and sacrifice for the sake of the family name, but today they leave at the first sign of discomfort because they lack discipline and aren't simply women enough. Fragile femininity ruined
December 24, 2025 at 9:47 PM
askaubry.com
He only mentions murder and not all the other horrible things that could happen to women.

That said, what is the one connection of both violence he mentions?
zac_woodby 13h Follow There's a new social media trend of women saying they're not dating anymore because they're afraid of being murdered on a first date. The statistical probability of that is microscopic, the man they'd go on a first date with is 16 times more likely to go home and shoot himself than harm them. Social media is fucking toxic.
December 24, 2025 at 7:44 PM
askaubry.com
So he provides the BARE MINIMUM.
pw_hayes 18h TABLE TALK: If he pay child support and up to date with child support, should he still buy the kid(s) Christmas gifts?
December 24, 2025 at 6:34 PM
askaubry.com
Okay Nicki Minaj deactivated her Instagram, but has she paid Thomas Weidenmuller his $500k she owes him?
NEWS NICKI MINAJ DELETES HER INSTAGRAM AFTER LOSING NEARLY 10M FOLLOWERS
December 24, 2025 at 6:11 PM