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Boy, bye.
My boyfriend expects me to pay rent at his place but won't give me a key or let me have any say Advice Needed I've been staying at my boyfriend Marcus's (31M) apartment about 5 nights a week for the past 4 months. My lease ended and I've basically been living there while "looking for a place." Last week Marcus said since I'm there so much I should start paying rent. He wants $800/month which he says is "half of everything." I said okay, but if I'm paying rent I want a key and some say in the apartment. He said no, it's still his place and giving me a key would be "too serious." I said if I'm paying $800/month I'm a tenant and should have a key. He said I can just text him when I need to get in. I asked about decorating or having input on furniture since I'd be paying to live there. He said absolutely not, it's his apartment and his style. So basically he wants me to pay $800/month to live somewhere I can't access without permission, can't decorate, and have no actual rights to.
February 10, 2026 at 4:26 PM
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Take the promotion making yourself smaller against your wants to please someone else never ends well
AITAH for accepting a promotion my boyfriend doesnt want me to take because he says itll change our relationship I got offered a promotion at work. A real one. Not a lateral move not a fancy new title with the same pay. An actual step up. More responsibility better money and honestly something Ive been grinding toward for a long time. When they told me I almost cried in the meeting because Ive wanted this for years. I came home that night so excited to tell my boyfriend. Thought hed be happy for me. Thought wed celebrate. Maybe open a bottle of wine and talk about what this could mean for our future together. IG & Threads: @ask_aubry THE Instead he got quiet. Then he started asking questions. But not excited questions. Worried ones. Like how many more hours are you gonna be working. Does this mean no more spontaneous weekends. Are you gonna be stressed all the time now. He said this isnt the life I pictured for us. The life HE pictured. Not the life WE talked about. The life he decided we were supposed to have. Which apparently involves me staying exactly where I am professionally so that things stay comfortable and easy for him. He keeps talking about how he wants a simple life. Less stress. Less ambition. More time just hanging out and being chill. And I get that. I love our chill time too. But Im also a person with goals and this opportunity means something to me. Its not just about money its about me feeling like Im actually going somewhere. tried to reassure him. Told him a promotion doesnt mean I turn into some corporate robot who never comes home. I said wed figure out the balance together. I asked him to trust me that I can handle more responsibility without abandoning our relationship. He wasnt hearing it. He said hed seen it happen before with other couples and that once one person starts climbing the ladder the relationship always suffers. He said he didnt sign up for that. Didnt sign up for what. For me succeeding? For me wanting more than what I have right now? That part really stung. THE END Every time I bring up anything work related he gets this look on his face like Im already choosing my job over him just by being excited about it. And I feel like I cant even be happy about this huge thing that happened to me because his reaction has completely overshadowed it I havent officially accepted yet but I know Im going to. And I think he knows it too which is probably why things feel so weird between us right now. THE
February 10, 2026 at 2:42 PM
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She's not a priority for him at all
AlTA for considering a breakup after boyfriend bailed on being my surgery ride? I (29F) have been with my boyfriend (39M) for about a year and a half. He's kind, social, and really busy. Early on he told me he's "bad at planning," which I accepted. In reality, it meant I adapted to him. Our time together was usually "probably Friday" or "maybe Sunday," and I'd wait until the day of to know if we were actually seeing each other. IG & Threads: @ask Over time, I've noticed I was basically the only flexible part of his life. He never misses poker night, gym class, or frequent family dinners. Those are always set, but with me, plans stay loose. I stopped pushing and just opted to keep my schedule open, telling myself that if I wanted to see him, this was how it worked. There have been some occasions where plans were kept. We've been on two vacations, for instance, but when it comes to more routine life, this is the pattern I've noticed. Last night, I told him how bothered I was, he said I was being unfair because I know how he is with planning and that I hadn't really stressed the importance of this. To be fair, I don't think I had mentioned the uber thing to him prior. But, through the conversation, it just seemed to me that this was nothing to do with the details. I just wasn't being prioritized. I realized I've been enabling this by staying vague, available, and accepting scraps because it felt easier than asking for more. I told him I don't want to continue like this and that this affected my ability to trust him in a serious situation. He says I'm overreacting and punishing him for a one-time mistake that is partly on me. Some friends say I trained him to treat me this way and I should try to salvage. I feel done. It does bother me, but in the end, he is available and we see each other pretty frequently. And when we do see each other, he is focused and attentive. I guess that's why I put up with it. It felt like a planning issue not really a priorities issues, or a quality time issue. But last week, something changed in me. I had a medical procedure scheduled one morning, a minor surgery but I did go under, and I couldn't drive afterward (or take a ride share; bc the hospital won't let you). He had told me earlier in the week that he'd be free and would take me. That morning, he texted saying he'd forgotten and had already committed to helping a friend move. He suggested I take an Uber and said we'd "make it up another time." (??) I explained that I couldn't and that this was surgery and I'd really like to not have to worry about this at 6:30AM day of. He caved but was standoffish when he picked me up which obviously was not great after being intubated.
February 10, 2026 at 4:20 AM
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Creepy as hell.
Does anybody else have a male friend who tracks their period? So I've been friends with this guy for over a year now. He always used to say how much he was into me and everything but that mostly stopped. He does generally watch my eating habits and check the calendar and say things like "oh yeah I guess it's about that time." I hate it! The other day he tried to make a bet with me on weather I'll get it on Wednesday or not. Like bro who cares! I went to the bathroom earlier (we work together) and when I came back he was like "do you feel better now?" Bro can I not take ten minutes to shit in peace!? Sorry this turned into a mini rant but idk what to do.i don't wanna lose him as a friend but it gets old.
February 10, 2026 at 2:01 AM
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He knew how important that Hello Kitty shelf was to her.
AlTA for taking a coloring book back from my niece after she got attached to it? I (27F) live with my husband (31M). We've been married about a year and a half. Overall things are good, but we're still figuring out boundaries, especially around our stuff. I collect Hello Kitty and Sanrio items. Nothing extreme, but I have a small display shelf in the living room and a few related things on the bookshelf. Most of it is stuff I've picked up over the years. I fell in love with Hello Kitty as a kid when I lived in Japan, and after my family moved to the US I stopped seeing it around, so collecting it now feels a little nostalgic. IG & Threads: @ask Last year I went back to Japan to visit my grandparents and found these really nice Sanrio coloring books. They're not like the cheap kids' ones at the store. The paper is thicker, the art is really detailed, and I bought them more as nostalgic collectibles than something for random kids to use. Yesterday on my lunch break, I saw her looking at my shelf. She asked if she could touch some of the figures, and I said yes, as long as she was very careful and put them back. I assumed she meant the ones she could already reach/JUST the figures she was asking about at that exact moment. Later, I came out to grab a snack and saw her coloring at the table. At first I thought it was a normal coloring book, but then I realized it was one of the ones I brought back from Japan I didn't want to upset her, but I thought I set pretty clear guidelines and 6 seems old enough to understand that to me. I could be wrong. so I just said, "Maybe we can find another book for you to color in." She was really into it, and my husband laughed and said we should just let her keep it since she'd already started coloring in it. I quietly told him I'd rather not and that we could easily buy her a different book. He brushed it off and said I was overthinking it. I didn't want to argue in front of her, so I dropped it. That night, after she went to sleep, I saw he had packed the coloring book into her backpack. That bothered me, because it felt like he'd decided to give away something of mine without asking. So I took it out and shoved it under a couch cushion lol. I know it seems so dramatic but I just knew if I put it back on the shelf it would wind up back in her bag. The next morning she had a meltdown looking for it. Crying, screaming, meltdown. We explained when her mot You should be really disappointed in him. He gave away something that was important to you without a single thought. I would be locking up my collection after that. That's the type of blatant disregard that leads me to believe he would get rid of her stuff... he knew she didn't want him to give away her coloring book and tried to do it anyway. What will he do after this, now that she had the gall to take it back? One-T-Rex-ago-go 7h stahlseide 6h 2,838 326 Locking display cabinet Nah, I would take my stuff and leave. Maybe I would give him the courtesy of one final conversation but that depends on my mood that day. But I am turning 43 in 2 weeks and have been very happily single for 2 years - I'm done with disrespect for this lifetime
February 9, 2026 at 10:31 PM
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Christ on a bike
Text from my supposed Uncle that my father introduced to the family and insisted we made him feel welcomed. My father told us this guy is family after meeting him off Facebook. Never heard of him remotely mentioned before. It's been about a month, and I haven't really talked to him much, but my dad heavily insists that we treat him like he's been a part of the family forever. The aunt in question? Never heard of her before either. IG & Threads: @ Hey! Sending this message to everyone: will be out of the NICU Feb 11th! She's doing really well so the nurses say she won't have to be there for much longer Subject to change but and I are hopeful :) Please give us a few weeks of space when she's home to adjust properly Unread Lol are your breasts lactating yet let me breastfeed on her Your aunt boobies when our son was born haha
February 9, 2026 at 5:44 PM
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Good to hear about women finally not accepting less to keep the peace
AlTAH for ending things with my boyfriend after his dad told me I should quit my career to take care of his son I dont usually post stuff like this online but I cant stop thinking about it and I need people who dont know us to tell me if Im crazy. I was with my boyfriend for almost three years. I loved him. Like genuinely thought this was it for me. We lived together and I thought we were a team. I work full time and Im in school getting my degree because want to get into healthcare. Its been exhausting balancing both but I want a career and Im not giving that up for anyone. His dad lives far away so I never met him until a few weeks ago when he came to visit. First night we all sit down for dinner and his dad starts asking me all these questions. Am I cooking for his son. Am I keeping the house clean. Am I making sure hes comfortable when he gets home from work. I said yeah I do all of that. Which is true. I work all day go to class come home and still end up doing most of the hou Then his dad asked if I was planning to be a stay at home girlfriend. I said no. Told him about school and my career goals. He got this look on his face like I said something offensive and told me I should consider dropping out and focusing on taking care of his son full time. That thats what a good partner does. I laughed at first because I thought he was joking. He wasnt. Then he looked at my boyfriend and said you deserve someone who puts you first. And my boyfriend. The man I spent three years with. Just nodded. Didnt say a word to defend me. Didnt push back. Just sat there and agreed that he deserves a girlfriend whose whole life revolves around him. I finished dinner and went to our room. That night I told him were done. He looked confused and asked why. I said because apparently I dont meet the requirements and he should go find someone who does. He said I was making a big deal out of nothing and that his dad is just old fashioned. But he didnt disagree with him at that tabl AITAH for ending things with my boyfriend after h... 11 upvotes 6 comments Mysterious-Weight747 2h He didnt even flinch when his dad said you should give up your entire future for him. Thats not old fashioned thats a man telling you exactly where you stand and you were smart enough to listen 12 uwuforurmeat OP 2h thats what keeps replaying in my head like he didnt even hesitate he just nodded and I realized oh this is what he actually thinks he just never said it out loud before Internal_Emu 4879 10m anitram96 2h I applaud you! It's time all of us had enough self respect to leave when necessary. NTA. 7 Reply 2 IG & Threads
February 9, 2026 at 3:10 PM
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Oh she needs to move out.
AlO my boyfriend works harder so I have to handle all the household things? My boyfriend and I live together and both have full time jobs. My job is a true corporate 9-5 hybrid and i make decent money considering my position. He works for his families restaurant so his hours are way different, he comes home late and works 6 days a week and makes double the money that I do. Pretty quickly after we first met he bought a condo and that I then moved into with him and pay him rent. So far i've been taking care of all the cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, clothes shopping etc. pretty much everything except 50% of the time he takes out the trash. IG & Threads: @ask aubry Last night we got into a tiff because i told him that he needs to stop giving me crap (even though he says he's joking) about not heating up his food when he comes home late that i bought, cooked, and cleaned up after 5 hours earlier. All the other chores go this way, he asks me where his pants are after i wash them and he asks me to wake him up when he has to go into work early. I stopped doing some of the things for him and last night he said he needed me to do alll that to help him out He also added that he works so hard and so much and the fact that he pays more rent than I do that it should be me picking up the slack on all the household chores. This last comment was what sent me over the edge. AlO to be so mad at him for that comment? i know i'm appreciated and he spends a lot of quality time with me because it means a lot but do I have to suck it up and nag him about the chores? or is he out of line for saying he pays more so i have to do everything else on my own?
February 8, 2026 at 8:33 PM
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Not lonely enough
_imhim01 GoodMorning 5h Follow Your man being possessive over you is not "toxic". It's instinct. Women call it insecure because the modern world dislikes male authority. IG & Threads: @ask
February 8, 2026 at 5:45 PM
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The way he keeps saying "we are breastfeeding". And she lived with her parents for the first two months postpartum?
AlTA: Mid-30s couple with an 8-month-old: am I being unreasonable about a short camping trip? My wife and I are in our mid-30s. We have an 8- month-old baby and a dog. We do not have family help nearby, but we do have close friends who can help in an emergency. My wife is currently on full- time maternity leave, and we are breastfeeding. I (the husband) work from home full-time and love camping. I did not go on any camping trips during the first 8 months because I wanted to be fully present and adjust to life with a newborn. During this time, my wife and baby also spent a couple of months staying with her parents while I stayed back at home with the dog. I was fully supportive of this and encouraged her to spend as much time there as she wanted. I now have a 3-night (4-day) camping trip coming up. It feels like we have had time to settle into our new routine, and I feel it should be okay for me to go. I also have a couple of unavoidable 5-night work trips coming up in the next few months. To make sure my wife also gets a break, we have already done a couple of 2-night Airbnb trips close to our city. Right after my camping trip, I have planned a 3-night family trip so we can spend quality time together and so she can feel refreshed. Despite this, my wife keeps saying that other husbands would not go on a camping trip while they have an 8-month-old at home. I am struggling with this and feel hurt and frustrated that, despite being intentional about family time and planning trips for us, I still have to justify a short personal trip. Am I being unreasonable in thinking that an 8- month adjustment period is enough to take a 3- night camping trip, or am I missing something important here? Top-Tiger3479 7h Reply 1 RowResponsible8216 OP 7h Give your wife 4 days/3 nights away. Family trip or a few months away with still solely taking care of the baby doesn't seem "fair". So I'd see if she would be willing to be more OK with it if she had the same amount of time away without the baby. I'm more than happy to for her to take time off, but since we are breastfeeding, this has been very tough and not possible yet. There is dependency on her. To give her comfort, I keep telling her that once the baby if off feed, I'd love to take the baby away on one of the trips so that my wife gets a break and can enjoy the solitude (of course, I tell my wife to join me on camping trips if she'd like to)! No-Stranger-9483 6h Quit saying "we" are breastfeeding. You aren't breastfeeding.
February 8, 2026 at 3:08 PM
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And these same edgelord dudes will ask in the next breath "why don't females want me?"
r/67club u/PleasantHeart5897. 6d Epstein rizzing up a f0id rizz Blud rizzed up like mangos aura+++ Join the conversation
February 8, 2026 at 4:57 AM
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Funny when they forget which decade they are in.
itskingju44 55m Follow Women don't get to decide whether they are worth marrying or not... a man has to feel like you are valuable enough to be legally chained to you for life...
February 8, 2026 at 3:13 AM
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He can't look at his baby because his wife had a blood transfusion, but creeping on other women is just fine..
what he posts walterzoniga 8h My wife received a bl0Β©d transfus!on while she was in labΒ©ur without my permission. My religion does not allow blΒ©0d transfus!on and my wife knows this. I feel she did not respect my faith and went against it. IG & Threads what he posts I feel she did not respect my faith and went against it. Our baby is now two months old, but whenever I look at the child, I keep thinking about the bl0Β©d transfu$!on. This issue has badly affected our marriage, and I no longer feel like continuing the relationship. Jehovah witness member fumes what he comments + walterzoniga 01/19 You look beautiful 22 walterzoniga 01/21 You look more beautiful with Christ in your heart
February 7, 2026 at 11:44 PM
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How very Christian of him
February 7, 2026 at 8:19 PM
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"women my aged see through my bs"
coachgregadamstv Follow 3h One of the best things about dating younger women is they tend to be excited or impressed when introducing them to new things. Old broads over 28 have either over-dated and done it all or physically are incapable or doing normal things.
February 7, 2026 at 5:14 PM
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I make sure people know I hate my wife, why is she mad about it?
I make sure people know I hate my wife, why is she mad about it? r/marriageadvice u/BeyondStrict2958 34m Is it ok to tell someone my wife's weight? Or that she has a moustache? I told someone my wife's weight and she was mad. I also told someone she has a moustache. She was mad and feels like she can't trust me. Was I wrong?tl;dr: is it normally ok to tell someone my wife's weight or that she has a moustache if it's true IG & Threads: @ask
February 7, 2026 at 2:59 PM
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5'6 under 100lbs?
i'm fine with either one! i think i prefer the fruit flavors like sorbets tho Aight I gotta ask a question real quick what's up? So you're 5'6 right? How much do you weigh 104-109 depending on the day/time Oh I was thinking something under 100 so that's underweight idk if you know Your weight is fine for now, do you think you'll get over 110 any time soon? It's definitely a deal breaker for me It's definitely a deal breaker for me what the fuck? first of all you don't just say that to someone that's an inside thought and honestly a terrible perception of how much you think girls should weigh I don't want a girl bigger than me that's not a good look in general And if you can't match that then this is not going to work out yea you're right i cant match that it's a horrible expectation for you to have for people, go deal with your own insecurities before projecting them onto others Read 22
February 7, 2026 at 1:08 AM
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He was excited because he thought she was in high school
Man approaches me in polite conversation, stops talking to me when he realizes I am a college-educated adult I get approached by a lot of men who say "hello", "how are you doing", "the weather's nice today", and things of that nature on a regular basis. I also live in an area with very few black people, so I try to be polite when approached by another black person since it's so rare to see another black person in public. This man, who was black and appeared to be in his late thirties, struck up a conversation with me on my way to the grocery store. "Hello, how are you doing today?" he asks. I'm doing good." He notices I'm wearing a backpack. "Are you a student?" "Yes." "Cool, what school?" "*name of university I attend*" He looks surprised. "You're in college?" "Yup." This is a red flag for me since he approached me on the presumption that I was a high school student, so I give answers as brief as possible in hopes that he ends the conversation. He asks, "What do you study?" "Chemical engineering". "Nice! I used to study electrical engineering at UC Berkeley. Normally telling men my major is enough to deter them, but not today. I figured I was locked in this predicament for a minute. "Neat." I reply. He asks, "What year are you?" "4th year PhD Candidate." He appears genuinely shocked and stops making eye contact with me. "Wow! You must be really smart!" "Yup." "Well, guess I better head to the grocery store." He walks into the store. Even though we were shopping at the same store, he stopped looking at me and appeared to be actively avoiding me. I realized my major was not the thing that deterred him, but the revelation that I was old enough to be pursuing a PhD. Although I was still at least 10 years younger than him, he seemed to be intimidated by that fact. This has happened to me on multiple occasions, but this most recent interaction is the clearest example on how much easier it has been for me to avoid random men. My occupation has scared off way more men than the fact that I am queer or have a fiancΓ©. These types of men are not just interested in people that appear young, but have the immaturity and lack of life experience associated with youth. Does anyone else have an experience like this where someone approaches you on the assumption that you're young, and backtracks when realizing otherwise?
February 6, 2026 at 10:45 PM
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Mitchell D Webber, a partner at the Law firm Paul Weiss, using his Harvard email, asked about sex tourism targeting children.

He sits on the board of the Louis D. Brandeis Center for Human Rights Under Law.
Weiss Mitchell D. Webber jeeproject@yahoo.comRe: federal sex trafficking and states with lower ages of consent J J. Epstein <jeeproject@yahoo.com> to Mitch Webber <mwebber@law.harvard.edu> let's also look at sex tourism laws.. going someplace with specific intent ot have underage sex --- Mitch Webber mwebber@law.harvard.edu wrote: Mr. Epstein I'm sorry little con about what you were asking on the phone. I se what you were asking now. The question is: what would happen if one were to transport a minor for sex -- or transport oneself with the intent to have sex with a minor- into a state in which the age of consent is below eighteen (assuming the minor is above the age of consent in the given state)? And your intuition was right. The answer is that there is no violation of law. From 2019 to 2021, Mitch served as Associate Counsel and Special Assistant to the President in the Office of White House Counsel, where he advised and responded to congressional and other oversight of the President, senior White House staff, and several departments and agencies. In January 2021, Mitch was appointed to a five-year term on the United States Holocaust Memorial Council, the governing body of the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, where he serves on the Audit Committee and the Committee on Holocaust Denial and State- Sponsored Antisemitism. Mitch is also a member of the board of directors of the Louis D. Brandeis Center for Human Rights Under Law.
February 6, 2026 at 8:56 PM
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Alpha wants to know why women don't want to be mommy to their partners.
Why do women hate being mommy, to men? Question For Women Asking it on behalf of those men, who would want that. This is a double standard I often notice. They want husbands who are pliable and under their sphere of influence. They expect men to open the doors and, clean the house be equal. Basically be like their servant. But they run away the moment you expect them to show a bit more love and nurture you. They call you needy and what not. Underneath, all that, they just want to have the cake and eat it too. Women always want to be the one being coddled and spoilt, they hate when they see they have competition or have to do more labour, especially for men
February 6, 2026 at 7:35 PM
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Imagine thinking it's a plus that SA laws are lax
DavidCksss Japan is nice. Men aren't shamed for their sexuality here for one. SA punishment is very lax, so even a false accusation won't be too harmful. If feminine women are what you want theres lots of that aswell. Pretty bad for women who actually get SAed, but at least men aren't oppressed. IG & Threads: @ask
February 6, 2026 at 5:04 PM
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Single married mother
AlO - Pregnant and feel abandoned by husband relationship Today 8:01 AM I need a nap SOoo bad but baby won't let me. Is there any opportunity that I can nap please? I need to so bad. I can't keep my eyes open The SECOND you wake up.. can you please please please come massage my neck for a few minutes. I had the roughest night of my life and I'm in such a crippling pain. Please, I really need a partner right now. Text Message RCS Dude, I am not doing good.. I had a super rough night And I have shit from work, so no IG & Threads Am I overreacting? I am 35 weeks pregnant and my son (21 months) and I caught a stomach virus this week (throwing up and diarrhea). I am fatigued from not being able to eat, I am anemic, and I am extremely exhausted from pregnancy... and have been taking care of my son while my husband works from home. My husband sleep in two different bedrooms (he snores and I am a light sleeper). I also co-sleep with my son since lifting him in and out of the crib all night is too difficult with my belly (he has never slept through the night and I have some placenta complications so I am not supposed to be lifting him). My husband said he would start taking my son at night so that my son can become more comfortable with the crib, so that we can start preparing for when the new baby arrives... which I will 100% be on my own for night feedings since I am breastfeeding. IG & Threads: @ask aubry However, he always has an excuse on why he can't take him at night (he's too tired, he got bad sleep last night, he doesn't want to get sick and I'm already sick, etc). I am to the point of my pregnancy where it is very difficult to get comfortable at night (really bad heartburn, round ligament pain, hip pain, back pain) but I am still expected to do it. Last night I had to get up 3 times to change my toddlers diarrhea diaper and 4 times to give him Pedialyte. Between that I couldn't sleep due to my own discomforts of pregnancy. My neck is now extremely stiff from the rough night so I sent him this text and this was his response.... I said nothing in response but bawled my eyes out privately. I am told I'm "too emotional" when I'm pregnant. Am I just being emotional/dramatic? Or am I really alone
February 6, 2026 at 4:20 PM
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She had a difficult pregnancy and childbirth, but she needs to make it up to him?

Wow the weaponizing of therapy speak.
I don't want my wife, who changed her mind about having more kids, treat this decision as a neutral thing and made it clear I need her to hold space for my grief Before we got married, my wife and I were very aligned on having multiple children. We talked about it as a real part of our future. We're financially very comfortable, work isn't a limiting factor, and building a larger family was something I genuinely looked forward to and planned my life around. After our first child, my wife changed her mind. Pregnancy and childbirth were much harder on her than she expected and she now feels strongly that she's done. I respect that. I'm not trying to pressure her into another pregnancy or argue about her bodily autonomy. What I'm struggling with is everything after that decision. Her decision changed the course of my life too and what I envisioned so I need her to see it. For me, this wasn't just "okay, we'll have one instead of two or three." It felt like losing an entire future I had already mentally committed to. And I feel like I'm expected to just accept that quietly and move on, because she had a valid reason for changing her mind. Our couples therapist encouraged me to open up and I told her I need her to acknowledge that by changing her mind, I lost something real and that loss matters, even if she had every right to make the choice she did. I don't want this to be something I mull over while we pretend everything is fine. I need us to actually tend to it, not sweep it under the rug. Our therapist suggested to my wife she does regular check-ins about how I'm coping, and the ability to grieve without it being framed as me trying to pressure her or guilt her into changing her mind. I also told her that since the future we originally planned isn't happening, I need the new one to actively include things that give my life the meaning I thought a For example, I'd like us to be deeply involved in my niece's/nephew's life which means showing up consistently, helping with education, being a real secondary support system, not just seeing them on holidays. I also want our home to be a place where people gather regular dinners, holidays, open doors so life doesn't shrink inward into just the three of us. Where we really clash is emotional labor. I told her I need her not to shut the conversation down, minimize my feelings, or frame my sadness as manipulation. Instead, I need her to stay present even when it's uncomfortable, allow the topic to come up more than once, and sometimes acknowledge the loss herself something as simple as saying, "I know this cost you something real, and I don't want to pretend it didn't." also said that staying together means this can't be a situation where I absorb all the loss and she experiences this as neutral. That may mean accepting limits on other life preferences like career moves, lifestyle choices or making room for things that inconvenience her but help restore balance. I'm not asking for another child. What I didn't say was "have another baby or else." But I did say she can't say, "This was my choice, so deal with it," and still expect our relationship to stay the same. She feels like I'm asking for too much and that this makes her feel guilty for making a deeply personal decision after a difficult pregnancy. I disagree because I need her to work to get my trust after making such a big decision.
February 6, 2026 at 3:05 AM
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Skincare girlies, here is Peter Thomas Roth talking about victims.

He used your well earned money to abuse.
Re: Ups packaging arriving today DOJ 11 Peter Thomas Roth <Peter Thomas Roth> to P Feb 28, 2018 9:05 AM I sent you a little care package of six of each of my new Hungarian moisturizer and mask for your team to try. Also a dozen of the current February and March issues of the magazines my ads are in. Please note Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue, Vogue, Bazaar People etc. (my favorites) just to put a smile on your face! I'm having fun! Feb 28, 2018 11:38 AM thx. great. fun. who is the new victim? P Peter Thomas Roth <Peter Thomas Roth> to jeffrey E. Feb 28, 2018 4:42 PM I have none.
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