Men Are Not Ok
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Question for women: what a man's name that just sounds like he'd be a selfish lover? I was going to use Mark as my female character's counterpart, but I know people named Mark and I don't want to throw shade.
#writing #names #characters
#writing #names #characters
Merry Bitchmas. How did everyone's returns go?
December 27, 2025 at 7:47 AM
Merry Bitchmas. How did everyone's returns go?
Made a comment on Instagram how the Confederacy could have been punished so that we'd be better off today (more rope, disenfranchising mil & gov leaders, asset forfeiture, dissolution of states & reorg w/ different boundaries). I swear to god this MFer is defending chattel slavery to me.
December 26, 2025 at 6:54 AM
Made a comment on Instagram how the Confederacy could have been punished so that we'd be better off today (more rope, disenfranchising mil & gov leaders, asset forfeiture, dissolution of states & reorg w/ different boundaries). I swear to god this MFer is defending chattel slavery to me.
I kind of hate holidays, but if you celebrate Xmas religiously or just culturally, I hope it is going well. I hope you never receive a "gift" that is just a bribe in disguise, or will be used against you later.
December 25, 2025 at 8:00 PM
I kind of hate holidays, but if you celebrate Xmas religiously or just culturally, I hope it is going well. I hope you never receive a "gift" that is just a bribe in disguise, or will be used against you later.
One thing I see guys saying on other platforms that I am sick to death of seeing is "only fans detected, opinion invalid" ... People, I don't give a shit. I don't care if she paints erotica with her period blood. If she has a good point about the militarization of police, it's still a good point.
December 25, 2025 at 8:35 AM
One thing I see guys saying on other platforms that I am sick to death of seeing is "only fans detected, opinion invalid" ... People, I don't give a shit. I don't care if she paints erotica with her period blood. If she has a good point about the militarization of police, it's still a good point.
Mr. Lif - Santa's Got A Muthafuckin' Uzi
YouTube video by jamutka777
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December 25, 2025 at 7:38 AM
I told my wife that if anything ever happened to me, to please not tell my family. She's not comfortable with that, but did agree not to say anything until some time after the funeral. I can accept that I suppose.
#estrangement #dysfunctionalfamiles
#estrangement #dysfunctionalfamiles
December 23, 2025 at 8:19 AM
I told my wife that if anything ever happened to me, to please not tell my family. She's not comfortable with that, but did agree not to say anything until some time after the funeral. I can accept that I suppose.
#estrangement #dysfunctionalfamiles
#estrangement #dysfunctionalfamiles
Can someone tell this moron that battleships were obsolete during WWII
catch me and the girls hoopin on the back of this
Trump Class battleship illustration, as released by the White House.
December 23, 2025 at 3:46 AM
Can someone tell this moron that battleships were obsolete during WWII
AI is only good when it sucks. If it isn't full of eldritch horrors beyond human comprehension, miss me with that shit.
The most annoying thing about genAI is that eventually the genAI proponents are going to get to the end of the novelty of it, realize its limitations, and then claim to be the innovators of doing things the long way without genAI. Call it "slow productivity" or something.
December 22, 2025 at 12:57 AM
AI is only good when it sucks. If it isn't full of eldritch horrors beyond human comprehension, miss me with that shit.
December 21, 2025 at 9:05 AM
Land Lines released a perfect album with The Natural World. It is what convinced me to collect vinyl. No skips. Cohesive. Excellent flow. Mellow if you don't pay close attention, yet captivated and engaging if you do. Can not recommend highly enough.
youtube.com/playlist?lis...
youtube.com/playlist?lis...
The Natural World - YouTube
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December 20, 2025 at 6:04 AM
Land Lines released a perfect album with The Natural World. It is what convinced me to collect vinyl. No skips. Cohesive. Excellent flow. Mellow if you don't pay close attention, yet captivated and engaging if you do. Can not recommend highly enough.
youtube.com/playlist?lis...
youtube.com/playlist?lis...
I love music in non-english languages, particularly from places like Mali. Songs can never be ruined by stupid lyrics if I don't understand WTF they are saying.
I listen to a lot of music I dont relate to, I just love music :).
December 19, 2025 at 7:06 AM
I love music in non-english languages, particularly from places like Mali. Songs can never be ruined by stupid lyrics if I don't understand WTF they are saying.
When I was 17-19 yo I read that 70% of hetero ppl fantasize about sex as the opposite sex for a psych class (I think). More recently saw around 1/3. Still incredibly common. That does not make a person gay, or trans, not even a kink. For men especially its an evolutionary survival strategy.
December 18, 2025 at 7:35 PM
When I was 17-19 yo I read that 70% of hetero ppl fantasize about sex as the opposite sex for a psych class (I think). More recently saw around 1/3. Still incredibly common. That does not make a person gay, or trans, not even a kink. For men especially its an evolutionary survival strategy.
I on the other hand:
Writing fiction got me hating myself
It's a joke people, don't freak
Writing fiction got me hating myself
It's a joke people, don't freak
writing fiction got me liking girls
December 17, 2025 at 5:08 PM
I on the other hand:
Writing fiction got me hating myself
It's a joke people, don't freak
Writing fiction got me hating myself
It's a joke people, don't freak
I'm never going to call myself an ally. I am not doing anything. I'm not providing critical air support while you storm the beaches of Normandy. I'm just trying, and often failing, to not be an asshole.
December 17, 2025 at 7:13 AM
I'm never going to call myself an ally. I am not doing anything. I'm not providing critical air support while you storm the beaches of Normandy. I'm just trying, and often failing, to not be an asshole.
The most ominous nursery rhyme feels relevant
There was a crooked man
Who walked a crooked mile
And he found a crooked sixpence
Upon a crooked stile
He bought a crooked cat
Who caught a crooked mouse
And they lived together in a crooked house
There was a crooked man
Who walked a crooked mile
And he found a crooked sixpence
Upon a crooked stile
He bought a crooked cat
Who caught a crooked mouse
And they lived together in a crooked house
December 14, 2025 at 4:43 AM
The most ominous nursery rhyme feels relevant
There was a crooked man
Who walked a crooked mile
And he found a crooked sixpence
Upon a crooked stile
He bought a crooked cat
Who caught a crooked mouse
And they lived together in a crooked house
There was a crooked man
Who walked a crooked mile
And he found a crooked sixpence
Upon a crooked stile
He bought a crooked cat
Who caught a crooked mouse
And they lived together in a crooked house
I am not wealthy. So I feel like we are, or at least we can be, in this together. I'm not saying I'm good at it.
December 13, 2025 at 3:13 AM
I am not wealthy. So I feel like we are, or at least we can be, in this together. I'm not saying I'm good at it.
We find it too hard to apologize
Earliest ex: is I offended the first girl I had a crush on. I sat behind her for a couple years. Got easier when they mixed the seats up. Ended up at the same table 1 day. Said a joking, but mean spirited thing. She said Fuck you, MRNOK. I said nothing.
Earliest ex: is I offended the first girl I had a crush on. I sat behind her for a couple years. Got easier when they mixed the seats up. Ended up at the same table 1 day. Said a joking, but mean spirited thing. She said Fuck you, MRNOK. I said nothing.
December 12, 2025 at 8:24 PM
We find it too hard to apologize
Earliest ex: is I offended the first girl I had a crush on. I sat behind her for a couple years. Got easier when they mixed the seats up. Ended up at the same table 1 day. Said a joking, but mean spirited thing. She said Fuck you, MRNOK. I said nothing.
Earliest ex: is I offended the first girl I had a crush on. I sat behind her for a couple years. Got easier when they mixed the seats up. Ended up at the same table 1 day. Said a joking, but mean spirited thing. She said Fuck you, MRNOK. I said nothing.
I am wondering where male pathos ends and conservative pathos begins. What came first, male dysfunction or right wing dysfunction?
ultimately, no one even grieved Charlie Kirk. he was just another thing for the worst people on earth to get outraged over. and when the outrage of real events wasn't enough, they invented new ones.
not even his wife saw his death as anything other than an opportunity.
not even his wife saw his death as anything other than an opportunity.
my read is they were trying to whip up the usual frenzy, but then the effort got blown up by Candace Owens saying The Jews did it
December 12, 2025 at 6:32 PM
I am wondering where male pathos ends and conservative pathos begins. What came first, male dysfunction or right wing dysfunction?
I am writing a chapter out of sequence, and I may have written a candidate for the shortest tragedy ever.
"I want a divorce."
"Why?!"
"Because I want to die, and you won't let me "
This is a dark comedy. Don't freak out.
"I want a divorce."
"Why?!"
"Because I want to die, and you won't let me "
This is a dark comedy. Don't freak out.
December 12, 2025 at 6:21 AM
I am writing a chapter out of sequence, and I may have written a candidate for the shortest tragedy ever.
"I want a divorce."
"Why?!"
"Because I want to die, and you won't let me "
This is a dark comedy. Don't freak out.
"I want a divorce."
"Why?!"
"Because I want to die, and you won't let me "
This is a dark comedy. Don't freak out.
Us XY folks are in a bad way. The way we're conditioned seems to make us much more susceptible to AI breaking our brains than women seem to be. Check on your people.
December 10, 2025 at 8:26 AM
Us XY folks are in a bad way. The way we're conditioned seems to make us much more susceptible to AI breaking our brains than women seem to be. Check on your people.
Question for women: what a man's name that just sounds like he'd be a selfish lover? I was going to use Mark as my female character's counterpart, but I know people named Mark and I don't want to throw shade.
#writing #names #characters
#writing #names #characters
December 10, 2025 at 5:40 AM
Question for women: what a man's name that just sounds like he'd be a selfish lover? I was going to use Mark as my female character's counterpart, but I know people named Mark and I don't want to throw shade.
#writing #names #characters
#writing #names #characters
I wonder how much fiction is just the author externalizing their maladaptive day dreaming.
#writing #literature #mentalhealth #men_are_not_ok
#writing #literature #mentalhealth #men_are_not_ok
December 8, 2025 at 6:22 PM
I wonder how much fiction is just the author externalizing their maladaptive day dreaming.
#writing #literature #mentalhealth #men_are_not_ok
#writing #literature #mentalhealth #men_are_not_ok