KayelaWrites
@kwrights.bsky.social
I write #kidlit stories about finding hope and strength during times of darkness. Nonfiction Enthusiast. Story Collector. Library Lover. Adult ELL teacher. #Childhoodcancer Hater. #Adoptee for family preservation.
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KayelaWrites
@kwrights.bsky.social
· Jan 23
So let's fight against family separation in any form.
It's all devastating and causes life-long trauma.
Get angry about all of it!
#adoption
#familypolicing
#immigrants
It's all devastating and causes life-long trauma.
Get angry about all of it!
#adoption
#familypolicing
#immigrants
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the truth is that i probably wouldn’t have a relationship with anyone on my bio father’s side of my family tree without the independent verification of familial connection i got through ancestry dot com. again, this sucks. but so, in too many ways, does the world we live in.
i feel duty-bound as ever to point out that those who are the victims of another colonialist practice—plenary adoption—often have no other way to discover their genuine ancestry than by resorting to these databases. it shouldn’t be this way, but it is. 🥚
ya'll, please remember DNA kits/genealogy are white supremacist colonial tools. do you really think they're going to stop at AI? when they have the data set and full permission to use your genes, your body, your DNA?
Please use genealogy kits with CAUTION. It's a serious choice.
Please use genealogy kits with CAUTION. It's a serious choice.
November 29, 2025 at 6:33 PM
the truth is that i probably wouldn’t have a relationship with anyone on my bio father’s side of my family tree without the independent verification of familial connection i got through ancestry dot com. again, this sucks. but so, in too many ways, does the world we live in.
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i feel duty-bound as ever to point out that those who are the victims of another colonialist practice—plenary adoption—often have no other way to discover their genuine ancestry than by resorting to these databases. it shouldn’t be this way, but it is. 🥚
ya'll, please remember DNA kits/genealogy are white supremacist colonial tools. do you really think they're going to stop at AI? when they have the data set and full permission to use your genes, your body, your DNA?
Please use genealogy kits with CAUTION. It's a serious choice.
Please use genealogy kits with CAUTION. It's a serious choice.
November 29, 2025 at 6:21 PM
i feel duty-bound as ever to point out that those who are the victims of another colonialist practice—plenary adoption—often have no other way to discover their genuine ancestry than by resorting to these databases. it shouldn’t be this way, but it is. 🥚
Individual experiences don't matter when they occur within racist and oppressive systems.
If the system is harmful, it shouldn't exist.
#adoption 🥚
If the system is harmful, it shouldn't exist.
#adoption 🥚
the standard pro-#adoption propaganda tactic, which we saw all over social media this month, is to highlight adoptees who share “good adoption experiences.” But the issue, as with all injustices, isn’t whether the practice permits “good experiences,” but what other kinds of experiences it permits.
November 30, 2025 at 2:00 PM
Individual experiences don't matter when they occur within racist and oppressive systems.
If the system is harmful, it shouldn't exist.
#adoption 🥚
If the system is harmful, it shouldn't exist.
#adoption 🥚
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Plenary adoption, as practiced in the western world, involves the "good experiences" of misogyny, racism, classism, and xian supremacy. 😲
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the standard pro-#adoption propaganda tactic, which we saw all over social media this month, is to highlight adoptees who share “good adoption experiences.” But the issue, as with all injustices, isn’t whether the practice permits “good experiences,” but what other kinds of experiences it permits.
November 29, 2025 at 7:15 PM
Plenary adoption, as practiced in the western world, involves the "good experiences" of misogyny, racism, classism, and xian supremacy. 😲
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“openness” isn’t really a “kind” of adoption. it is an arrangement between adopters and original parents—which the former are generally free to break off with no legal consequences whatever.
adoption itself is as hermetically sealed a form of legal identity erasure as it ever was.
adoption itself is as hermetically sealed a form of legal identity erasure as it ever was.
November 29, 2025 at 7:24 PM
“openness” isn’t really a “kind” of adoption. it is an arrangement between adopters and original parents—which the former are generally free to break off with no legal consequences whatever.
adoption itself is as hermetically sealed a form of legal identity erasure as it ever was.
adoption itself is as hermetically sealed a form of legal identity erasure as it ever was.
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i want people to understand that “open” #adoption does not mean an end to the erasure of identity that makes secrecy possible. almost without exception, finalization of an adoption still results in the issuance of a new or “amended” birth certificate in which the natal parents’ names are replaced. +
November 29, 2025 at 7:24 PM
i want people to understand that “open” #adoption does not mean an end to the erasure of identity that makes secrecy possible. almost without exception, finalization of an adoption still results in the issuance of a new or “amended” birth certificate in which the natal parents’ names are replaced. +
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Yep. Open adoption is not really for the adopted person. It doesn’t maintain our rights. It’s also rarely enforceable or respected. If you are considering terminating your parental rights ànd have been promised àn open adoption? Go talk to people at Concerned United Birthparents.
i want people to understand that “open” #adoption does not mean an end to the erasure of identity that makes secrecy possible. almost without exception, finalization of an adoption still results in the issuance of a new or “amended” birth certificate in which the natal parents’ names are replaced. +
November 29, 2025 at 8:51 PM
Yep. Open adoption is not really for the adopted person. It doesn’t maintain our rights. It’s also rarely enforceable or respected. If you are considering terminating your parental rights ànd have been promised àn open adoption? Go talk to people at Concerned United Birthparents.
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So it's "let's buy dna test kits to gift people with" time of the year and the "don't use dna testing kits because evil people will one day figure out how to use your dna against you" folks are giving their annual warnings. As an adoptee who needed to use one to find her parents, please don't. 🥚
November 29, 2025 at 8:34 PM
So it's "let's buy dna test kits to gift people with" time of the year and the "don't use dna testing kits because evil people will one day figure out how to use your dna against you" folks are giving their annual warnings. As an adoptee who needed to use one to find her parents, please don't. 🥚
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NAAM is ending, but adoptees’ truths don’t fit into a once a year campaign.
Awareness shouldn’t end on November 30th. Tell the full story — all year.
#adopteesky
Awareness shouldn’t end on November 30th. Tell the full story — all year.
#adopteesky
November 28, 2025 at 3:02 PM
NAAM is ending, but adoptees’ truths don’t fit into a once a year campaign.
Awareness shouldn’t end on November 30th. Tell the full story — all year.
#adopteesky
Awareness shouldn’t end on November 30th. Tell the full story — all year.
#adopteesky
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A new study finds many adult adoptees face challenges in health care because clinicians lack training on adoption and its lifelong impacts, highlighting the need for adoption‑competent care. 🥚
Clinicians' lack of adoption knowledge interferes with adoptees' patient-clinician relationship, analysis indicates
Researchers examined health care challenges faced by adult adoptees and how being adopted affects relationships with their clinicians. U.S. adult adoptees completed a mixed-methods online survey. A…
medicalxpress.com
November 29, 2025 at 2:01 PM
A new study finds many adult adoptees face challenges in health care because clinicians lack training on adoption and its lifelong impacts, highlighting the need for adoption‑competent care. 🥚
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What the hell, BBC?! Are we feeling sorry for the adopters now and literally blaming the adoptees?!
🥚 #adoption
www.bbc.com/news/article...
🥚 #adoption
www.bbc.com/news/article...
Parents threatened by authorities as 1,000 adopted children returned to care
Families seeking help for their children’s complex needs describe threats of police action against them.
www.bbc.com
November 29, 2025 at 8:12 AM
What the hell, BBC?! Are we feeling sorry for the adopters now and literally blaming the adoptees?!
🥚 #adoption
www.bbc.com/news/article...
🥚 #adoption
www.bbc.com/news/article...
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Don’t worry! If your Thanksgiving dinner conversation turns from pie to prisons, or from cranberries to crime, we’ve got you covered. 🧵
November 27, 2025 at 2:15 PM
Don’t worry! If your Thanksgiving dinner conversation turns from pie to prisons, or from cranberries to crime, we’ve got you covered. 🧵
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What in the world does this even mean? Who is rescued? Who is redeemed. Bastards? Biomothers? Adopters? The Adoption Industry, which is desperate for new product. If we all work together we can redeem the purpose of adoption. $$$$ bit.ly/44B6SuL
NAM/NAAM Day 26. Adoption Affirmations: Adoption is Redemption | The Daily Bastardette
What in the world does this even mean? Who is rescued? Who is redeemed. Bastards? Biomothers? Adopters? The Adoption Industry, which is desperate for new product. If we all work together we can rede...
bit.ly
November 27, 2025 at 5:14 AM
What in the world does this even mean? Who is rescued? Who is redeemed. Bastards? Biomothers? Adopters? The Adoption Industry, which is desperate for new product. If we all work together we can redeem the purpose of adoption. $$$$ bit.ly/44B6SuL
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What I've learned at my advanced age is that I rarely have the full story about anything.
November 26, 2025 at 9:31 PM
What I've learned at my advanced age is that I rarely have the full story about anything.
Absolutely agree with this!
Poverty isn’t neglect.
Most kids in foster care aren’t there because of abuse, they’re there because their parents couldn’t afford food, housing, or childcare.
The solution isn’t foster care. It’s ending poverty.
#adopteesky
Most kids in foster care aren’t there because of abuse, they’re there because their parents couldn’t afford food, housing, or childcare.
The solution isn’t foster care. It’s ending poverty.
#adopteesky
November 26, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Absolutely agree with this!
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Lack of resources is the primary reason families struggle to stay together. Building healthy communities is what is truly pro-family. Affordable childcare, housing, food, transportation, education, and healthcare helps everyone. #affordability #resources #adopteerights #familypreservation
OMG #adopteesky. Read this! 🥚
"But a small, growing network of centers like Maddie’s Place is proving a simple point: when mothers and babies stay together, outcomes improve, foster placements fall and long-term costs decline."
"But a small, growing network of centers like Maddie’s Place is proving a simple point: when mothers and babies stay together, outcomes improve, foster placements fall and long-term costs decline."
She was pregnant and addicted to fentanyl. Getting to keep her baby saved them both
November 26, 2025 at 3:21 PM
Lack of resources is the primary reason families struggle to stay together. Building healthy communities is what is truly pro-family. Affordable childcare, housing, food, transportation, education, and healthcare helps everyone. #affordability #resources #adopteerights #familypreservation
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November 23, 2025 at 10:11 PM
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as with every tale the colonizer tells about the people they have vanquished, every adopter’s story is a variant on “it had to be this way; it was for the best.”
November 25, 2025 at 2:05 PM
as with every tale the colonizer tells about the people they have vanquished, every adopter’s story is a variant on “it had to be this way; it was for the best.”
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adoption cannot be understood without its underpinnings in colonization and conquest. it is strategic forgetting. an adopted child’s history begins at the point of acquisition; everything prior is set aside, obscured in myth.
November 25, 2025 at 2:03 PM
adoption cannot be understood without its underpinnings in colonization and conquest. it is strategic forgetting. an adopted child’s history begins at the point of acquisition; everything prior is set aside, obscured in myth.
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"Have you searched for your birth family?"
Simple question, not a simple answer.
Understand that the industry that sold us has deliberately made it very difficult, if not impossible, for us to find our families. We cannot just decide to find them. 🥚 #adoption
Simple question, not a simple answer.
Understand that the industry that sold us has deliberately made it very difficult, if not impossible, for us to find our families. We cannot just decide to find them. 🥚 #adoption
November 25, 2025 at 1:43 PM
"Have you searched for your birth family?"
Simple question, not a simple answer.
Understand that the industry that sold us has deliberately made it very difficult, if not impossible, for us to find our families. We cannot just decide to find them. 🥚 #adoption
Simple question, not a simple answer.
Understand that the industry that sold us has deliberately made it very difficult, if not impossible, for us to find our families. We cannot just decide to find them. 🥚 #adoption
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no one is willing to be genuinely radical about #adoption—to go to the root of it. we criticize calling adoption “trafficking” so we can evade the truth that adoption is chattelization. we marketize parenthood. we re-engineer children’s very identities for the sake of fulfilling our own dreams.
almost no one looks squarely at #adoption as a central issue of children’s rights. Even people who see themselves as espousing the most radical left liberationist stance toward the rights of children to affirm their voices & identities typically ignore how adoption denies this right to children.
November 25, 2025 at 1:55 PM
no one is willing to be genuinely radical about #adoption—to go to the root of it. we criticize calling adoption “trafficking” so we can evade the truth that adoption is chattelization. we marketize parenthood. we re-engineer children’s very identities for the sake of fulfilling our own dreams.
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there is no more blatant a stamp of ownership over a person’s identity than the “amended” birth certificate that erases a child’s genealogical history and substitutes a fictitious one for the benefit of the child’s adopters. this document is a property deed to the child’s identity.
November 25, 2025 at 12:26 PM
there is no more blatant a stamp of ownership over a person’s identity than the “amended” birth certificate that erases a child’s genealogical history and substitutes a fictitious one for the benefit of the child’s adopters. this document is a property deed to the child’s identity.
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almost no one looks squarely at #adoption as a central issue of children’s rights. Even people who see themselves as espousing the most radical left liberationist stance toward the rights of children to affirm their voices & identities typically ignore how adoption denies this right to children.
November 25, 2025 at 12:26 PM
almost no one looks squarely at #adoption as a central issue of children’s rights. Even people who see themselves as espousing the most radical left liberationist stance toward the rights of children to affirm their voices & identities typically ignore how adoption denies this right to children.
Saw another post cheering about how children found their forever homes during this ridiculousness that is #adoption awareness month.
What is this gastly garbage?!
It sounds like a great pairing to Gotcha Day.
Gross.
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What is this gastly garbage?!
It sounds like a great pairing to Gotcha Day.
Gross.
🥚
November 24, 2025 at 10:53 PM
Saw another post cheering about how children found their forever homes during this ridiculousness that is #adoption awareness month.
What is this gastly garbage?!
It sounds like a great pairing to Gotcha Day.
Gross.
🥚
What is this gastly garbage?!
It sounds like a great pairing to Gotcha Day.
Gross.
🥚
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Week 2 is up on Substack.
This one is about what the podcast has taught me, about the system, about grief, and about telling the truth even when people don’t want to hear it.
Read it here: adopteescrossinglines.substack.com
#adopteesky
This one is about what the podcast has taught me, about the system, about grief, and about telling the truth even when people don’t want to hear it.
Read it here: adopteescrossinglines.substack.com
#adopteesky
November 24, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Week 2 is up on Substack.
This one is about what the podcast has taught me, about the system, about grief, and about telling the truth even when people don’t want to hear it.
Read it here: adopteescrossinglines.substack.com
#adopteesky
This one is about what the podcast has taught me, about the system, about grief, and about telling the truth even when people don’t want to hear it.
Read it here: adopteescrossinglines.substack.com
#adopteesky