That's horrible

This is spot on, Ann

So sorry, Ann. It never gets easier, only more complicated. I understand all your feelings. Just know you're not alone.

Oh and adoptive parents are legally allowed to change the date and location of the "birth" of their adopted child, too. They can also, and most always do, change the child's name. Completely unethical.

You're exactly correct. A new birth certificate is created with the adoptive parents listed as the parents of live birth.

We can care for kids without legally and permanently severing then from their first families. Legal guardians do it all the time. This should be the norm

I challenge your assertion that your daughter is truly an orphan. Many children who are abandoned/left in orphanages around the world have at least one living parent. Most also have other family. We need to shift how we help these children by supporting their families instead of jumping to adoption.

Oh yes. Lying and secrecy are at the heart of adoption

Yes. Like across the board. Adoption is a billion dollar industry rooted in racism & classism. I recommend reading Relinquished by @gretchensisson.bsky.social and Torn Apart by Dorothy Roberts. Scroll through #adopteesky for more insights, but please do your own research first before asking more.

Yes, they can, and many adoptive parents do just this. It's part of why birthdays never quite sit well with many of us. We're not really sure when or where we were born. Our origin stories don't belong to us. Never have. Most of us were told fictions designed to make our adoptive parents feel good

All the power to know the truth is given to adopters. I found out all sorts of things after my adoptive mom passed away. There was even a letter from my first mother telling me all about herself and my two siblings. She wanted me to have it. But my adoptive mom kept it from me my whole life.