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Graham Goulden
@grahamgoulden.bsky.social
· Sep 22
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo
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A timely reminder that 1. There’s a load of misinformation on here and 2. Police have since the beginning of policing found themselves in the middle of disputes.
Let them get on with their job and stop using these types of films to further your hate.
Let them get on with their job and stop using these types of films to further your hate.
West Midlands Police have slammed a "heavily-edited" and "misleading" video shared by accounts on X
September 22, 2025 at 9:13 PM
A timely reminder that 1. There’s a load of misinformation on here and 2. Police have since the beginning of policing found themselves in the middle of disputes.
Let them get on with their job and stop using these types of films to further your hate.
Let them get on with their job and stop using these types of films to further your hate.
Someone suggested to me recently that bystander approaches don't work. I dug deeper and it was clear that the the training they provided wasn't motivating action. Heres why many bystander type approaches 'fail to launch'
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When we act, everyone benefits
The use of bystander type trainings in organisations will have little or no effect when the message centres solely on protecting certain individuals or groups. In likes of policing, the focus…
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September 22, 2025 at 12:17 PM
Someone suggested to me recently that bystander approaches don't work. I dug deeper and it was clear that the the training they provided wasn't motivating action. Heres why many bystander type approaches 'fail to launch'
grahamgoulden.com/2025/09/22/w...
grahamgoulden.com/2025/09/22/w...
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo
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September 22, 2025 at 12:16 PM
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo
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Great points @mrjamesob.bsky.social
Do the media drive our readings and focus or does society drive the agenda.
I’m concerned about the number of cyber attacks just now. Are you?
Do we need to be talking more about this topic? If we do would the media report more?
Do the media drive our readings and focus or does society drive the agenda.
I’m concerned about the number of cyber attacks just now. Are you?
Do we need to be talking more about this topic? If we do would the media report more?
September 22, 2025 at 10:19 AM
Great points @mrjamesob.bsky.social
Do the media drive our readings and focus or does society drive the agenda.
I’m concerned about the number of cyber attacks just now. Are you?
Do we need to be talking more about this topic? If we do would the media report more?
Do the media drive our readings and focus or does society drive the agenda.
I’m concerned about the number of cyber attacks just now. Are you?
Do we need to be talking more about this topic? If we do would the media report more?
Important words from Timpson. Focus requires to be on those around victims and those who commit harm. When a culture instils a responsibility to act science says they will act early when harm is seen. Peer intervention is a tool to be considered
Prisons minister vows to end ‘toxic’ cover-up culture in England & Wales. James Timpson says he will fight ‘normalised’ sexual harassment, bullying & racism within prison service.
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Prisons minister vows to end ‘toxic’ cover-up culture in England and Wales
James Timpson says he will fight ‘normalised’ sexual harassment, bullying and racism within prison service
www.theguardian.com
May 7, 2025 at 7:02 AM
Important words from Timpson. Focus requires to be on those around victims and those who commit harm. When a culture instils a responsibility to act science says they will act early when harm is seen. Peer intervention is a tool to be considered
This weeks #SundayThread Every contact leaves a trace. Those in policing will recognise this saying. This principle is foundational in forensic science, as it implies that evidence is left behind in every interaction.
April 13, 2025 at 5:19 PM
This weeks #SundayThread Every contact leaves a trace. Those in policing will recognise this saying. This principle is foundational in forensic science, as it implies that evidence is left behind in every interaction.
I heard this piece earlier on the @mrjamesob.bsky.social show. It was emotional, raw, to the point and the sort of leadership that’s needed at this time. It made me stop the car and listen to every word.
Rep. Steven Horsford to Greer: "So the trade representative hasn't spoken to the POTUS about a global reordering of trade, but yet he announced it on a tweet? WTF! Who is in charge? It looks like your boss just pulled the rug out from under you. There is no strategy ... is this market manipulation?"
April 10, 2025 at 5:24 PM
I heard this piece earlier on the @mrjamesob.bsky.social show. It was emotional, raw, to the point and the sort of leadership that’s needed at this time. It made me stop the car and listen to every word.
What if? In #Adolescence What if Jamie’s friend Ryan had the tools and confidence to stop his friend. In this blog i look at the drama through the eyes of the bystander. grahamgoulden.com/2025/04/09/f...
Friends don’t let friends – the role of friends in preventing violence
Looking at an issue through a bystander lens provides another insight into a problem. When we think differently we help provide new ways to address the problem. To think differently we must first s…
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April 9, 2025 at 4:03 PM
What if? In #Adolescence What if Jamie’s friend Ryan had the tools and confidence to stop his friend. In this blog i look at the drama through the eyes of the bystander. grahamgoulden.com/2025/04/09/f...
For me the learning from #Adolescence is for adults not the kids in school. Some suggestions
1. Parents remember the internet is a place not a thing.
2. Coaches/teachers role model respect/kindness
3. All, be curious & ask questions
4. All, Address misogyny quickly
5. Correct misperceptions
1. Parents remember the internet is a place not a thing.
2. Coaches/teachers role model respect/kindness
3. All, be curious & ask questions
4. All, Address misogyny quickly
5. Correct misperceptions
April 2, 2025 at 8:12 AM
For me the learning from #Adolescence is for adults not the kids in school. Some suggestions
1. Parents remember the internet is a place not a thing.
2. Coaches/teachers role model respect/kindness
3. All, be curious & ask questions
4. All, Address misogyny quickly
5. Correct misperceptions
1. Parents remember the internet is a place not a thing.
2. Coaches/teachers role model respect/kindness
3. All, be curious & ask questions
4. All, Address misogyny quickly
5. Correct misperceptions
Natasha is in the mark here. Adolescence has created a whole load of empathy in our society. It’s clearly a drama society needs to engage with but leave it out of schools. How we engage boys in these issues is so crucial. It’s not simply about educating. Engagement comes first.
My thoughts on Adolescence being shown in schools are too nuanced to squash into a Bluesky post, so I wrote a Substack. Be interested in your opinions on this too - open.substack.com/pub/tashthin...
Adolescence in All British Schools...
....Some Thoughts
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April 1, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Natasha is in the mark here. Adolescence has created a whole load of empathy in our society. It’s clearly a drama society needs to engage with but leave it out of schools. How we engage boys in these issues is so crucial. It’s not simply about educating. Engagement comes first.
This weeks #SundayThread Snitches get stitches. I’m surprised I haven’t talked about this before. In a lot of my work I often ask groups to share the perceptions of people in orgs who report poor behaviour. I’m often met with terms such as snitch, grass, troublemaker.
March 30, 2025 at 4:54 PM
This weeks #SundayThread Snitches get stitches. I’m surprised I haven’t talked about this before. In a lot of my work I often ask groups to share the perceptions of people in orgs who report poor behaviour. I’m often met with terms such as snitch, grass, troublemaker.
To think differently, learn to see differently.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
March 28, 2025 at 9:51 AM
To think differently, learn to see differently.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
I wrote this to highlight a need for us to move beyond a good v evil discussion when talking about male violence grahamgoulden.com/2025/03/24/t...
The Power Of The Situation – Part 2
I’ve written before using this title. I applied it to a policing issue. I wanted to use the same title to explore how the power of the situation plays out in many different issues. A fo…
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March 24, 2025 at 8:13 PM
I wrote this to highlight a need for us to move beyond a good v evil discussion when talking about male violence grahamgoulden.com/2025/03/24/t...
This weeks #SundayThread A need for role models. I read this week about the speech given by @GarethSouthgate at the recent #RichardDimbleby lecture. He talked about a need for role models for men beyond online male influencers.
March 23, 2025 at 2:17 PM
This weeks #SundayThread A need for role models. I read this week about the speech given by @GarethSouthgate at the recent #RichardDimbleby lecture. He talked about a need for role models for men beyond online male influencers.
Radical action or evidence based responses. We know what works but we seldom follow what works Adolescence writer calls for 'radical action' not role models www.bbc.com/news/article...
Adolescence: Netflix series writer Jack Thorne wants 'radical action not role models'
The writer behind the year's most talked-about TV show discusses the changes he hopes it will inspire.
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March 22, 2025 at 8:25 PM
Radical action or evidence based responses. We know what works but we seldom follow what works Adolescence writer calls for 'radical action' not role models www.bbc.com/news/article...
What if we invested in the right conversations on challenges faced by YP. The biggest influence on a person isn’t themselves it’s peers. We must help young people see that their views and stresses are shared by the many not the few. A ban creates fear but won’t stop the issue
"The evidence is overwhelming of the impact that it has on our young people."
The shadow Education Secretary has told LBC she’ll be banning her children from having a smartphone until they’re 16.
The shadow Education Secretary has told LBC she’ll be banning her children from having a smartphone until they’re 16.
'I'm banning my children from having a smartphone until 16', shadow Education Secretary tells LBC
The shadow Education Secretary has told LBC she’ll be banning her children from having a smartphone until they’re 16 – but she will let them have a brick phone beforehand.
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March 20, 2025 at 3:27 PM
What if we invested in the right conversations on challenges faced by YP. The biggest influence on a person isn’t themselves it’s peers. We must help young people see that their views and stresses are shared by the many not the few. A ban creates fear but won’t stop the issue
It’s also about giving young men the skills to be role models in their peers groups. The biggest influence on a persons behaviour isn’t themselves or the famous person. It’s their peers.
"We have to show young men that character is more important than status."
Sir Gareth Southgate demands leaders step up to become positive role models for 'isolated' young men.
Sir Gareth Southgate demands leaders step up to become positive role models for 'isolated' young men.
March 20, 2025 at 3:26 PM
It’s also about giving young men the skills to be role models in their peers groups. The biggest influence on a persons behaviour isn’t themselves or the famous person. It’s their peers.
John is spot on here. Mkte wirk needed to better engage boys on these issues. The topic of my #SundayThread today bsky.app/profile/grah...
Binged Adolescence in one go; hard hitting. So relevant and current. We have so much work to do to a) fight Misogyny but more importantly b) to get boys and men to talk
March 16, 2025 at 7:46 PM
John is spot on here. Mkte wirk needed to better engage boys on these issues. The topic of my #SundayThread today bsky.app/profile/grah...
The power and influence of unity. The movement grows.
Serbians are sick of their authoritarian President Aleksandar Vučić.
Such crowds have not been seen in Belgrade since Slobodan Milošević was removed from power in 2000.
Such crowds have not been seen in Belgrade since Slobodan Milošević was removed from power in 2000.
March 16, 2025 at 2:09 PM
The power and influence of unity. The movement grows.
This weeks #SundayThread Beware wolves in sheep’s clothing Matthew 7:15 Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. Last weekend I spoke with @matthew-wright.bsky.social about male influencers & their skill of sucking men into toxic conversations
March 16, 2025 at 9:19 AM
This weeks #SundayThread Beware wolves in sheep’s clothing Matthew 7:15 Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. Last weekend I spoke with @matthew-wright.bsky.social about male influencers & their skill of sucking men into toxic conversations
When addressing harm I’ve come to a simple conclusion. Calling out assumes the worst. Calling in creates the environment needed to prevent the worst.
Most people affected by workplace incivility, #bullying or harassment just want it to stop, for the person to realise, apologise, and change their behaviour.
In this clip from episode 14 of #LifeAtTheSharpEnd, @grahamgoulden.bsky.social discusses the two types of active and passive harm doer.
In this clip from episode 14 of #LifeAtTheSharpEnd, @grahamgoulden.bsky.social discusses the two types of active and passive harm doer.
March 14, 2025 at 9:40 AM
When addressing harm I’ve come to a simple conclusion. Calling out assumes the worst. Calling in creates the environment needed to prevent the worst.
This is so true. The stress created in the world is leading to a lot of disregulated people out there. It is seen in different ways and includes how men see their lives. For me this is why we all need to 1. Be mindful of situation and 2. Work to better engage. Meet men where they are at.
The reason young men’s lives aren’t as good as they should be is the same reason NONE of our lives are as good as they should be and that’s about 5 multi-billionaires are hoarding the world’s resources and wealth.
'No-one is talking about young men' increasingly occupies the same space as 'we need an honest conversation about immigration'. We never shut up about young men. It's one of the only things we ever talk about, although admittedly only ever to say 'we need to be more reactionary'.
March 9, 2025 at 4:57 PM
This is so true. The stress created in the world is leading to a lot of disregulated people out there. It is seen in different ways and includes how men see their lives. For me this is why we all need to 1. Be mindful of situation and 2. Work to better engage. Meet men where they are at.
This weeks #SundayThread Notice - Decide - Act. In 1960’s 2 social scientists studied the actions of bystanders. What led people to move from a passive role to an active one. A 5 step process was identified. 1 Notice 2 See emergency 3 Take responsibility 4 Decide response 5 Act
March 9, 2025 at 8:26 AM
This weeks #SundayThread Notice - Decide - Act. In 1960’s 2 social scientists studied the actions of bystanders. What led people to move from a passive role to an active one. A 5 step process was identified. 1 Notice 2 See emergency 3 Take responsibility 4 Decide response 5 Act
It was a pleasure today to speak with @matthew-wright.bsky.social on @lbc.co.uk about Andrew Tate. My view is we need a more positive conversation with men. Most don’t support Tate. Many don’t realise that their mates think as they do. We even managed to discuss right wing political strategy.
March 8, 2025 at 6:18 PM
It was a pleasure today to speak with @matthew-wright.bsky.social on @lbc.co.uk about Andrew Tate. My view is we need a more positive conversation with men. Most don’t support Tate. Many don’t realise that their mates think as they do. We even managed to discuss right wing political strategy.
Correcting misperceptions is key. The research suggests most men don’t support T@te but the way he’s portrayed suggests most men do. This starting point is a big mistake and actually leads men who don’t support him feeling they need to (to fit in)
Just wrote something reflecting on my experience of having had quite a few conversations with teenage boys about Andrew T*te and how we might embrace a slightly different approach - open.substack.com/pub/tashthin...
"I don't agree with the misogyny...but he makes some good points about other stuff...."
...Tackling this defence of Andrew Tate et al
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March 7, 2025 at 7:36 PM
Correcting misperceptions is key. The research suggests most men don’t support T@te but the way he’s portrayed suggests most men do. This starting point is a big mistake and actually leads men who don’t support him feeling they need to (to fit in)