Graham Goulden
@grahamgoulden.bsky.social
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo
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September 22, 2025 at 12:16 PM
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo
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Locard’s Principle of Exchange states that “every contact leaves a trace,” meaning when two objects come into contact, there is always a transfer of material, such as fibers, hair, or other substances.
April 13, 2025 at 5:19 PM
Locard’s Principle of Exchange states that “every contact leaves a trace,” meaning when two objects come into contact, there is always a transfer of material, such as fibers, hair, or other substances.
This weeks #SundayThread Every contact leaves a trace. Those in policing will recognise this saying. This principle is foundational in forensic science, as it implies that evidence is left behind in every interaction.
April 13, 2025 at 5:19 PM
This weeks #SundayThread Every contact leaves a trace. Those in policing will recognise this saying. This principle is foundational in forensic science, as it implies that evidence is left behind in every interaction.
All terms are negative and suggest bad outcomes for those who do speak up. The result is often a group silence. Silence is a major issue in organisations. It continues harm. It tells victims we don’t care and tells harm doers keep going. Silence must be addressed.
March 30, 2025 at 4:54 PM
All terms are negative and suggest bad outcomes for those who do speak up. The result is often a group silence. Silence is a major issue in organisations. It continues harm. It tells victims we don’t care and tells harm doers keep going. Silence must be addressed.
This weeks #SundayThread Snitches get stitches. I’m surprised I haven’t talked about this before. In a lot of my work I often ask groups to share the perceptions of people in orgs who report poor behaviour. I’m often met with terms such as snitch, grass, troublemaker.
March 30, 2025 at 4:54 PM
This weeks #SundayThread Snitches get stitches. I’m surprised I haven’t talked about this before. In a lot of my work I often ask groups to share the perceptions of people in orgs who report poor behaviour. I’m often met with terms such as snitch, grass, troublemaker.
To think differently, learn to see differently.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
March 28, 2025 at 9:51 AM
To think differently, learn to see differently.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
Let’s use our empathy to act & create needed conversations with boys. Don’t shout or lecture them. I see many using very neg & gloomy language. The Golem Effect is a psychological phenomenon in which lower expectations placed upon individuals leads to poorer outcomes.
March 23, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Let’s use our empathy to act & create needed conversations with boys. Don’t shout or lecture them. I see many using very neg & gloomy language. The Golem Effect is a psychological phenomenon in which lower expectations placed upon individuals leads to poorer outcomes.
When it’s strong it helps us to not get involved in bad behaviour. Helping young men develop this will help provide them and us with a powerful weapon to address the likes of Andrew Tate and others. I love this quote from Ferdinand Foch. It’s true.
March 23, 2025 at 2:17 PM
When it’s strong it helps us to not get involved in bad behaviour. Helping young men develop this will help provide them and us with a powerful weapon to address the likes of Andrew Tate and others. I love this quote from Ferdinand Foch. It’s true.
This weeks #SundayThread A need for role models. I read this week about the speech given by @GarethSouthgate at the recent #RichardDimbleby lecture. He talked about a need for role models for men beyond online male influencers.
March 23, 2025 at 2:17 PM
This weeks #SundayThread A need for role models. I read this week about the speech given by @GarethSouthgate at the recent #RichardDimbleby lecture. He talked about a need for role models for men beyond online male influencers.
Next find some “me time”. Be selfish. Take some deep breaths to get your brain back into a critical state. We know it’s never good to act when you are emotional. In the hijack the upper part of brain storing your beliefs, values is shutting down. You are less smart in this state
February 2, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Next find some “me time”. Be selfish. Take some deep breaths to get your brain back into a critical state. We know it’s never good to act when you are emotional. In the hijack the upper part of brain storing your beliefs, values is shutting down. You are less smart in this state
The gorilla is the amygdala hijack that impacts every human being when stressed. Your heart is racing. You are sweaty or your vision is tunnelled. The good news is that we can overcome this. The first step is to recognise the signs I describe above.
February 2, 2025 at 3:41 PM
The gorilla is the amygdala hijack that impacts every human being when stressed. Your heart is racing. You are sweaty or your vision is tunnelled. The good news is that we can overcome this. The first step is to recognise the signs I describe above.
This weeks #SundayThread Caging The Gorilla. This week I’ve been skiing in France. The other night I found myself eavesdropping a fascinating conversation about human decision making when stressed. The men were fighter pilots. I introduced myself & we kept talking
February 2, 2025 at 3:41 PM
This weeks #SundayThread Caging The Gorilla. This week I’ve been skiing in France. The other night I found myself eavesdropping a fascinating conversation about human decision making when stressed. The men were fighter pilots. I introduced myself & we kept talking
Safe out and safe in. Great weeks skiing in Val D’Isere with my daughter. So grateful for this time with her.
January 31, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Safe out and safe in. Great weeks skiing in Val D’Isere with my daughter. So grateful for this time with her.
When you look for helpers you will find them. When you find them you will be inspired by them. When you help you complete the circle.
January 28, 2025 at 10:44 AM
When you look for helpers you will find them. When you find them you will be inspired by them. When you help you complete the circle.
The power of kindness
1. You make someone else feel better
2. You feel better
3. People who see your kindness feel better and inspired to be kind.
Circle complete
1. You make someone else feel better
2. You feel better
3. People who see your kindness feel better and inspired to be kind.
Circle complete
January 25, 2025 at 11:38 AM
The power of kindness
1. You make someone else feel better
2. You feel better
3. People who see your kindness feel better and inspired to be kind.
Circle complete
1. You make someone else feel better
2. You feel better
3. People who see your kindness feel better and inspired to be kind.
Circle complete
Empathy is a key trait of moral rebels. This weekend #TheStarOfTheShow paused to remember the village snowman. Empathy isn’t innate, it can be trained.
January 20, 2025 at 6:23 PM
Empathy is a key trait of moral rebels. This weekend #TheStarOfTheShow paused to remember the village snowman. Empathy isn’t innate, it can be trained.
When you tell someone they are wrong you haven’t won the argument. How do you know you’re right. Surely the point of the discussion is to influence another person. Help them see what you see. Maybe even see what they see. Lots of that recently on topic of masculinity.
January 15, 2025 at 12:34 PM
When you tell someone they are wrong you haven’t won the argument. How do you know you’re right. Surely the point of the discussion is to influence another person. Help them see what you see. Maybe even see what they see. Lots of that recently on topic of masculinity.
I often ask this question of those I work with. In our lives we develop a moral compass. It may come from parents, wider family, teacher, sports coach or a combination of all. Surely we owe it to them not to ever forget to use it when we witness injustice or harm.
January 10, 2025 at 8:43 AM
I often ask this question of those I work with. In our lives we develop a moral compass. It may come from parents, wider family, teacher, sports coach or a combination of all. Surely we owe it to them not to ever forget to use it when we witness injustice or harm.
See that smile, the thank you or the well done. Don’t under estimate its power when used with a colleague or friend. This ‘therapeutic dose” is a great buffer helping another deal with ongoing stress in their lives. It’s good for you as well as you get a hit of oxytocin as well
January 3, 2025 at 5:42 PM
See that smile, the thank you or the well done. Don’t under estimate its power when used with a colleague or friend. This ‘therapeutic dose” is a great buffer helping another deal with ongoing stress in their lives. It’s good for you as well as you get a hit of oxytocin as well
Up in Inverness for a couple of days. Met Davy as a cop when working with VRU in 2011. Kept in touch ever since. That’s dry January goosed then.
January 2, 2025 at 9:36 PM
Up in Inverness for a couple of days. Met Davy as a cop when working with VRU in 2011. Kept in touch ever since. That’s dry January goosed then.
And 5. As an individual tell your colleague you want them to act should you be struggling with your wellbeing or if you are making a mistake that could lead to harm.
December 29, 2024 at 3:31 PM
And 5. As an individual tell your colleague you want them to act should you be struggling with your wellbeing or if you are making a mistake that could lead to harm.
4. Correct misperceptions- help individuals see that others think as they think. When you do you create a culture where it’s safe to intervene on a colleague. Your action is seen as supportive. It’s a good thing.
December 29, 2024 at 3:31 PM
4. Correct misperceptions- help individuals see that others think as they think. When you do you create a culture where it’s safe to intervene on a colleague. Your action is seen as supportive. It’s a good thing.
3. Leaders require to make it ok for staff to act early. As leaders, talk to your teams. Make it ok for them to act early. Role model the behaviour. That’s what effective leaders do Remember when you act early you don’t always need to report to likes of HR or your line manager.
December 29, 2024 at 3:31 PM
3. Leaders require to make it ok for staff to act early. As leaders, talk to your teams. Make it ok for them to act early. Role model the behaviour. That’s what effective leaders do Remember when you act early you don’t always need to report to likes of HR or your line manager.
2. Equip friends with the tools to have these important conversations. Move from a calling out culture to one where we learn to call a friend in. I know from my work with police many find it hard to have early conversations around poor wellbeing. Train them
December 29, 2024 at 3:31 PM
2. Equip friends with the tools to have these important conversations. Move from a calling out culture to one where we learn to call a friend in. I know from my work with police many find it hard to have early conversations around poor wellbeing. Train them
1. Redefine loyalty - loyalty can be misplaced meaning we fail to be honest with a friend. Critical loyalty is needed and it’s when you tell a friend what they need to hear not what they want to hear. Gavin showed this type of loyalty
December 29, 2024 at 3:31 PM
1. Redefine loyalty - loyalty can be misplaced meaning we fail to be honest with a friend. Critical loyalty is needed and it’s when you tell a friend what they need to hear not what they want to hear. Gavin showed this type of loyalty