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I think it's important that people examine their fears.
If you think people are giddy or glad when someone being harmful is exposed, it might be your assumption. They may have spoken out before out of concern and been attacked for it and dismissed.
If you think people are giddy or glad when someone being harmful is exposed, it might be your assumption. They may have spoken out before out of concern and been attacked for it and dismissed.
March 20, 2025 at 5:45 PM
I think it's important that people examine their fears.
If you think people are giddy or glad when someone being harmful is exposed, it might be your assumption. They may have spoken out before out of concern and been attacked for it and dismissed.
If you think people are giddy or glad when someone being harmful is exposed, it might be your assumption. They may have spoken out before out of concern and been attacked for it and dismissed.
If we find ourselves with the tendency to give the benefit of the doubt to the person with a lot more power and influence when abusive behavior is the topic and we are seeing "both sides," we have not fully deconstructed hierarchy from our evangelical past.
March 18, 2025 at 4:23 AM
If we find ourselves with the tendency to give the benefit of the doubt to the person with a lot more power and influence when abusive behavior is the topic and we are seeing "both sides," we have not fully deconstructed hierarchy from our evangelical past.
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Together with progressive partners, we’re planning a massive mobilization in the streets to translate the anger with Trump’s power grab into a nationwide show of defiance.
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March 17, 2025 at 11:00 PM
📢 SAVE THE DATE: Saturday, April 5.
Together with progressive partners, we’re planning a massive mobilization in the streets to translate the anger with Trump’s power grab into a nationwide show of defiance.
Find a Hands Off! event near you or plan one: handsoff2025.com?SQF_SOURCE=i...
Together with progressive partners, we’re planning a massive mobilization in the streets to translate the anger with Trump’s power grab into a nationwide show of defiance.
Find a Hands Off! event near you or plan one: handsoff2025.com?SQF_SOURCE=i...
You know what leaders in a community could do if they were caught in a scandal to show they were sincere and not simply about saving face to their audience? (I mean apart from reaching out faster to their victims than their platforms!)...
March 17, 2025 at 8:05 PM
You know what leaders in a community could do if they were caught in a scandal to show they were sincere and not simply about saving face to their audience? (I mean apart from reaching out faster to their victims than their platforms!)...
If you have to support someone after they have been abusive because otherwise "the bad guys will win," that's the cult thinking.
If you're in a group & it's the norm around you to defend a leader even as they apologize instead of letting them get to the work of fixing things, that's cult thinking.
If you're in a group & it's the norm around you to defend a leader even as they apologize instead of letting them get to the work of fixing things, that's cult thinking.
March 17, 2025 at 1:56 PM
If you have to support someone after they have been abusive because otherwise "the bad guys will win," that's the cult thinking.
If you're in a group & it's the norm around you to defend a leader even as they apologize instead of letting them get to the work of fixing things, that's cult thinking.
If you're in a group & it's the norm around you to defend a leader even as they apologize instead of letting them get to the work of fixing things, that's cult thinking.
It's one thing to leave evangelicalism and talk a lot about abuse and accountability. But we need to be willing to do that within our own deconstruction community first.
G.R.A.C.E report just released about The New Evangelicals
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G.R.A.C.E report just released about The New Evangelicals
www.tnereckoning.com/s/TNE-Final-...
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March 17, 2025 at 2:25 AM
It's one thing to leave evangelicalism and talk a lot about abuse and accountability. But we need to be willing to do that within our own deconstruction community first.
G.R.A.C.E report just released about The New Evangelicals
www.tnereckoning.com/s/TNE-Final-...
G.R.A.C.E report just released about The New Evangelicals
www.tnereckoning.com/s/TNE-Final-...
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and I were listening to this podcast episode on how social media PR campaigns target female celebrities.
How men with money pay to have women smeared when they might talk about how those men have abused them.
and I were listening to this podcast episode on how social media PR campaigns target female celebrities.
How men with money pay to have women smeared when they might talk about how those men have abused them.
January 14, 2025 at 7:31 PM
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and I were listening to this podcast episode on how social media PR campaigns target female celebrities.
How men with money pay to have women smeared when they might talk about how those men have abused them.
and I were listening to this podcast episode on how social media PR campaigns target female celebrities.
How men with money pay to have women smeared when they might talk about how those men have abused them.
It makes me queasy to know how much humanity and empathy my former belief system was trying to suck out of me!!!
This is basically what evangelicals think about the afterlife. They're going to be eating, drinking, and having pleasures forevermore in their house while all their neighbors burn. 1/2
January 14, 2025 at 6:11 PM
It makes me queasy to know how much humanity and empathy my former belief system was trying to suck out of me!!!
A lot of us have considered it and have issues with being on an app where the rules are changing to allow gay people to be spoken of as "mentally ill" in the name of free speech.
I think keeping community is important, but
I think keeping community is important, but
January 14, 2025 at 5:29 PM
A lot of us have considered it and have issues with being on an app where the rules are changing to allow gay people to be spoken of as "mentally ill" in the name of free speech.
I think keeping community is important, but
I think keeping community is important, but
This gives me evangelical church vibes.
Where the problems with the church is blamed by guys like Mark Driscoll on church being too feminine even though men are all the ones in charge, teaching, preaching and running the show!
Where the problems with the church is blamed by guys like Mark Driscoll on church being too feminine even though men are all the ones in charge, teaching, preaching and running the show!
My favorite part of Zuckerberg's Joe Rogan interview is when he suggests there is not enough masculine energy at his company, where two out of every three employees is a man.
January 14, 2025 at 5:27 PM
This gives me evangelical church vibes.
Where the problems with the church is blamed by guys like Mark Driscoll on church being too feminine even though men are all the ones in charge, teaching, preaching and running the show!
Where the problems with the church is blamed by guys like Mark Driscoll on church being too feminine even though men are all the ones in charge, teaching, preaching and running the show!
And we are in therapy now.
Working on not believing we are evil at our core. Fearful that every mistake is proof we are bad to the bone.
Or working on being allowed to take up space and *have needs* because we were told that the only thing we "deserved" was "the flames of hellfire."
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Working on not believing we are evil at our core. Fearful that every mistake is proof we are bad to the bone.
Or working on being allowed to take up space and *have needs* because we were told that the only thing we "deserved" was "the flames of hellfire."
1/
January 9, 2025 at 7:50 PM
And we are in therapy now.
Working on not believing we are evil at our core. Fearful that every mistake is proof we are bad to the bone.
Or working on being allowed to take up space and *have needs* because we were told that the only thing we "deserved" was "the flames of hellfire."
1/
Working on not believing we are evil at our core. Fearful that every mistake is proof we are bad to the bone.
Or working on being allowed to take up space and *have needs* because we were told that the only thing we "deserved" was "the flames of hellfire."
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If you are loved for who you are by your parents, you are blessed.
In high control religious groups, everything about you can be overshadowed by one thing.
One wrong belief and who you are is reduced to that. Nothing else matters.
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In high control religious groups, everything about you can be overshadowed by one thing.
One wrong belief and who you are is reduced to that. Nothing else matters.
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January 9, 2025 at 5:25 PM
If you are loved for who you are by your parents, you are blessed.
In high control religious groups, everything about you can be overshadowed by one thing.
One wrong belief and who you are is reduced to that. Nothing else matters.
1/
In high control religious groups, everything about you can be overshadowed by one thing.
One wrong belief and who you are is reduced to that. Nothing else matters.
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The 'facts not feelings' people are often the most emotionally driven while ironically having no guage on their feelings at all. No self-awareness on what drives them. It's why they are able to step over others with ease and without seeing it.
Church systems often teach this disembodiment...
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Church systems often teach this disembodiment...
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January 6, 2025 at 4:03 PM
The 'facts not feelings' people are often the most emotionally driven while ironically having no guage on their feelings at all. No self-awareness on what drives them. It's why they are able to step over others with ease and without seeing it.
Church systems often teach this disembodiment...
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Church systems often teach this disembodiment...
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Someone I know said it was a "French culture issue." It's easier than possibly thinking it might be too many of the men all around us, as well.
That we are not safe either.
But the USA literally elected a rapist, so the problem with men isn't a problem with just the French.
That we are not safe either.
But the USA literally elected a rapist, so the problem with men isn't a problem with just the French.
January 6, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Someone I know said it was a "French culture issue." It's easier than possibly thinking it might be too many of the men all around us, as well.
That we are not safe either.
But the USA literally elected a rapist, so the problem with men isn't a problem with just the French.
That we are not safe either.
But the USA literally elected a rapist, so the problem with men isn't a problem with just the French.
It's January 6th.
Remembering the people who died in the insurrection and the people who all got away with it.
The largest mass assault on police officers in USA history, the people responsible are called "patriots" and "hostages" by the "back the blue" crowd
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Remembering the people who died in the insurrection and the people who all got away with it.
The largest mass assault on police officers in USA history, the people responsible are called "patriots" and "hostages" by the "back the blue" crowd
1/
January 6, 2025 at 2:29 PM
It's January 6th.
Remembering the people who died in the insurrection and the people who all got away with it.
The largest mass assault on police officers in USA history, the people responsible are called "patriots" and "hostages" by the "back the blue" crowd
1/
Remembering the people who died in the insurrection and the people who all got away with it.
The largest mass assault on police officers in USA history, the people responsible are called "patriots" and "hostages" by the "back the blue" crowd
1/
Thankful to have conversations about how the holidays can be hard when you are deconstructing and going through faith shifts.
Glad you were willing to come on and share both thoughts and coping strategies @muzach.bsky.social and @goforthboldly.bsky.social (better than thoughts and prayers! 🤣)
Glad you were willing to come on and share both thoughts and coping strategies @muzach.bsky.social and @goforthboldly.bsky.social (better than thoughts and prayers! 🤣)
Gail and @natenakao.com had me back on their @fullmutuality.com podcast to talk about my changing relationship with Christmas, having gone from "Jesus is the Reason for the Season" to "it's complicated". Check it out, especially if you're feeling anxious today.
fullmutuality.com/episode/s2e1...
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S2E16: Taking Christ out of Christmas — with Jessica Goforth and Zach Malm | Full Mutuality | An Exvangelical Podcast from Dauntless Media Collective
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December 24, 2024 at 4:08 PM
Thankful to have conversations about how the holidays can be hard when you are deconstructing and going through faith shifts.
Glad you were willing to come on and share both thoughts and coping strategies @muzach.bsky.social and @goforthboldly.bsky.social (better than thoughts and prayers! 🤣)
Glad you were willing to come on and share both thoughts and coping strategies @muzach.bsky.social and @goforthboldly.bsky.social (better than thoughts and prayers! 🤣)
The hatred of women in society is staggering. Abuse rarely happens in a vacuum. He recruited 50 other men who didn't go to the police but participated. These men had people who defended them because their family/friends/partners didn't want to believe this could be true of the men in their lives.
Anyone else following Gisèle Pelicot's story? I think everyone should know about it, but it's probably one of the most disturbing stories I've ever read in my life. If you look it up, be warned (SA).
December 20, 2024 at 6:51 PM
The hatred of women in society is staggering. Abuse rarely happens in a vacuum. He recruited 50 other men who didn't go to the police but participated. These men had people who defended them because their family/friends/partners didn't want to believe this could be true of the men in their lives.
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When are Christians going to realize that "let the children come to me" isn't supposed to happen through gun violence?
December 17, 2024 at 4:10 PM
When are Christians going to realize that "let the children come to me" isn't supposed to happen through gun violence?
Awful.
December 12, 2024 at 1:43 PM
Awful.
I'm not sure when simple kindness and empathy to people with a different life experience to yours became
"woke nonsense".
But I did make a chart yesterday to help explain when and what evangelicals & Christian nationalists are allowed to care about.
"woke nonsense".
But I did make a chart yesterday to help explain when and what evangelicals & Christian nationalists are allowed to care about.
Evangelicalism & Empathy is a tricky-thing!
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
December 12, 2024 at 1:37 PM
I'm not sure when simple kindness and empathy to people with a different life experience to yours became
"woke nonsense".
But I did make a chart yesterday to help explain when and what evangelicals & Christian nationalists are allowed to care about.
"woke nonsense".
But I did make a chart yesterday to help explain when and what evangelicals & Christian nationalists are allowed to care about.
Evangelicalism & Empathy is a tricky-thing!
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
December 12, 2024 at 1:24 AM
Evangelicalism & Empathy is a tricky-thing!
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
So I made a helpful chart to figure out when you are supposed to care and when it's sinful to care.
But also, empathy is not for those denied coverage. Empathy is only needed for the ultra wealthy and powerful.
Remember when Christian nationalist were like "empathy is a sin."
Then a CEO who makes a living by denying healthcare gets unalived and they are like "have some empathy."
Then a CEO who makes a living by denying healthcare gets unalived and they are like "have some empathy."
December 11, 2024 at 9:32 PM
But also, empathy is not for those denied coverage. Empathy is only needed for the ultra wealthy and powerful.
Asked on fb "How have u been punished for speaking up? What has your autonomy & your own voice costed u?"
In 1 hr,
7 replies: lost family, friends, jobs for standing up for trans friends, standing against homophobia, speaking up against child predators.
Guess how many were shunned by Christians?
In 1 hr,
7 replies: lost family, friends, jobs for standing up for trans friends, standing against homophobia, speaking up against child predators.
Guess how many were shunned by Christians?
December 11, 2024 at 7:23 PM
Asked on fb "How have u been punished for speaking up? What has your autonomy & your own voice costed u?"
In 1 hr,
7 replies: lost family, friends, jobs for standing up for trans friends, standing against homophobia, speaking up against child predators.
Guess how many were shunned by Christians?
In 1 hr,
7 replies: lost family, friends, jobs for standing up for trans friends, standing against homophobia, speaking up against child predators.
Guess how many were shunned by Christians?
The God of evangelicalism is an abusive husband.
Also, he loves you so much, but you are nothing without him, and if you don't see things the same ways as he does, he will torture you in hell for eternity.
Also, he loves you so much, but you are nothing without him, and if you don't see things the same ways as he does, he will torture you in hell for eternity.
December 10, 2024 at 2:50 PM
The God of evangelicalism is an abusive husband.
Also, he loves you so much, but you are nothing without him, and if you don't see things the same ways as he does, he will torture you in hell for eternity.
Also, he loves you so much, but you are nothing without him, and if you don't see things the same ways as he does, he will torture you in hell for eternity.