We need to be careful with those assumptions.

You can want to burn a bad system down without wanting to burn a person down.

Not all anger is bad or cruel. It does need to be controlled, and how we direct our anger is our own responsibility.
Controlled fires exist to prevent devastating ones.

fall back into something that was harmful when you thought you were finally into something good.

To repeat: nobody thinks you are terrible if you misjudged someone.

Someone's anger at someone else's harmful behavior isn't necessarily malicious.

we are learning how to trust ourselves and develop a sense of listening to our gut.

We were taught to ignore things before, so this is a skill that needs time to be developed too.

It can be really scary if you are trying to learn to trust yourself and

It's OK if we are wrong for a while. It might be embarrassing to think we fell for the same patterns again, but it's normal human nature to take a while to break a habit.

As evangelicals, we were taught not to trust ourselves, and so when we come out of that,

that people are just giddy to be right instead of profoundly disturbed by abuse.

We can learn better and do better. Make mistakes and move on.

Heck, most of us end up repeating mistakes and patterns for a while before learning a new way forward.

and that puts you in a defense mode it might be helpful to recognize that it's evangelicalism that taught us those habits of needing to be right too or else we are terrible.

And if we still assume the latter, then it's also easier to assume the former, we can assume...

They might be glad that finally people will have a chance to understand what they have been trying to say.

If you are afraid people might think you are a terrible person for not picking the right side right away ...

An important article for the deconstruction community.

This really sums it up well for those who want to stay informed but are overwhelmed by a 94 page GRACE report. This article brings to light the important and relevant details. Thanks Rick.

instead of making it all about you, why not tell people that follow you and adore you and jump into comments to ridicule and dismiss the victim to stop?!!!

Especially if you have such a massive platform that their coming forward will result in so much extra stress on them?!!! Hmmmmm ❓️

Stop them from worshipping you to the point that while you are admitting you are wrong people are still lashing out at them on social media cause they don't want to believe your behavior is a big deal.

I mean if this is about the victim and reconciliation with them for the harm you did,

when they do address their community to admit wrong-doing, why not address the comments on social media blaming and attacking the victim??!

And I don't mean giving cruel victim blamers validation. Quite the opposite!

If you are made to worry that holding people accountable for abuse in power means people can go after you for any of your small mistakes and that you have no place to talk ever because you are not perfect, that's cult thinking too.

If you feel yourself downplaying and writing off abuse or misconduct or defending it even after your leaders who have been found out acknowledge they were in the wrong, it's cult thinking.

After how the Tony Jones situation was handled, the video that was put up by Tim and then taken down because of the board without any real acknowledgment how that was problematic and then what went down in that Facebook TNE group I'm not surprised.

TNE has responded dms open but not comments.

Full disclosure, I'm posting becuz I care about this community. My friends was a volunteer listed in this report. Not the main person but having been up close to it all after giving so much of her time. I want those who spoke out to know I think you are brave.

www.instagram.com/tnereckoning...

I have Urbana stories. 2012 and 2009 🤣

Podcast episode here: podcasts.apple.com/mt/podcast/b...

who was harassing Blake got to work she was in awe of how well it was working to smear Blake!

"It’s actually sad because it just shows you how people really want to hate on women.”

Women working hard to bury and smear other women are somewhat surprised by the results.