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I would like it known that my parents don't know who I am. They never did. Not only because I'm trans. They never knew my little sister, either. They, too, talk like this.

When you are trans, outliving your parents is far from a given. When you are trans, there is a great likelihood that your own funeral will be held under a fake name by people who have no regard for who you were or what you wanted. I am lucky to have people in my life I can trust to fight that.

Anti trans radicals have long targeted parents because they know parents are the most potent figures of authoritarian violence against queer kids. Esther Ghey is merely their latest weapon.

Esther Ghey is of this parental decision, and her decision to bemoan her daughter's ability to be trans, befriend the family of her murderers, and deadname her throughout a book is because she's a fucking ghoul of a transphobe. She grieved the loss of her son, not daughter, let's be real.

The parents of trans people are notoriously unreliable figures in our lives. The phrase "deadname" arises from our communal knowledge that our own parents will erase our transition and very lives for their own narrative convenience when the world conspired to kill us before our own parents die.

The BBC has been making an effort to distance itself from Stonewall since 2021

Pulling out of a workplace diversity scheme, and emphasising it never had to support Stonewall’s campaigns or policies
www.bbc.co.uk/news/enterta...

Despite saturating the airwaves with reactionary anti-trans screeds for over a decade, the British media effectively considers anything short of openly advocating for trans genocide to be unnacceptable woke gender ideology gone mad.

All this while the island actively falls apart.

This YouTube video by the Telegraph alleges that the BBC was captured by "a small group of people promoting the 'Stonewall view' of the debate" on trans rights.

The same BBC that never actually gives any airtime to actual trans people and frequently brings on anti-trans zealots.

This is literally what the slogan "nothing about us without us" originated out of in the disabled people's movement and I think trans rights organising can sometimes miss our connections to the social harms of medical authority and disablement.

So the "Her own loved ones" line gets me there, because it precisely is the line that is used to get trans people and gay people in patterns of minimal acceptance that can cause a lot of self-harm. It's a pattern of abuse that is hard to identify because it's done under the guise of acceptance.

I mean the hardline version of that is essentially what you see in this "My husband is not gay" TV show: people "accepting" that someone is a homosexual, but hey, that shouldn't stop them from living a normal straight life, right?

They think if queer people made an effort, they could just "fit in", be "normal", and they want to push their kids toward what they perceive this "normalcy" to be, which is often a life where you are as little queer as humanly possible.

These families have often never had to code switch. They've never had to use cultural subtext to navigate life. They live in the "What you see is what you get" of heterosexuality, and do not care to learn that other people have to live differently.

A part of this actually echoes with practices that were set in the transmedicalist era, where trans people were more or less ordered not to hang out with or seek to meet other trans people, that they do not become "one of the bad ones".

Accepting parents are great, better than non-accepting ones for sure, but they are still themselves and they can very easily slip into a "Let's tolerate minimal change until my child wakes up from this delusion" mentality.

People also take offence when told that their child has a right to privacy, and in some cases, that their child's carer, in the case of a therapist or a doctor for instance, has a confidentiality duty with their patients. You can't go about demanding summaries of your kid's therapy sessions.