Cis men-the best thing you can do to dismantle the patriarchy is to support marginalized men and masculinity. In addition to supporting women/femininity. It is vitally important to do these things in tangent. THAT is what breaks the patriarchy.

and I would love to just, like, be wrong about this

but I see it hurting trans men so often

who feel villainized and unwelcome in trans spaces because of this rhetoric that paints them as dangerous

who feel they can't defend themselves without being painted as transmisogynist

queerness is so varied, and so case by case, that you can't make such sweeping analysis that just flatly paints nbs and trans men as being an oppressor class towards trans women, that's not how it works at all

Like dawg, your whole purpose was for a safe space for LGBT people especially trans people. Yet, these guidelines would even potentially block discussions of diy hrt. Its so vague. Does discussing how to arm others count as "how to procure dangerous weapons"?

it matters a lot to me because the "youre not really trans if you don't go all the way", the entire question of "am i girl enough tho???", is what KEPT ME from transitioning myself because i didn't think i needed it that bad. it kept me in the closet for decades. i can never get that time back.

20 years ago the truscum were like "if you haven't gone through all the surgery and jumped through the existing system then youre Not Really Trans, youre just a weirdo" and now the New Truscum are like "if you haven't DIYed hormones from Vanautu you're not really trans and just ✨🌈VaLiD✨😘"

Yeah! Yeah! Like holy shit, bodily autonomy and self determination are fucking vital

but there are some who actually do say shit like not looking the part is **harmful** to those who do

Which is literally "I am not like those freaks"
Hatred towards gendernonconformity as a concept.

Fuuuuuuuuuuck

Which I obviously know isn't true, but, like I said, we're erased and I also have a shit memory, and even when I *do* remember cool shit it's all "oh yeah people mock us for some of this shit" and I just Need More

I wish there was something I could do to direct them to a healthier outlet/coping mechanism, but I know some stranger, esp someone not transfem, coming up and telling them what they think is the best way to handle their dysphoria would be incredibly unhelpful at best

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