Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
@gregkilpatrick.com
Psychotherapist & Certified Sex Therapist
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Therapy for Sex and Sexuality, Relationships, Religious Trauma and Existential Anxiety
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🌱 Heal Shame
❤️🔥 Deepen Intimacy
🕊️ Reclaim Yourself
Therapy for Sex and Sexuality, Relationships, Religious Trauma and Existential Anxiety
𝗪𝗲𝗯𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗲: www.gregkilpatrick.com
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You’re not betraying the revolution if you want to be ruined.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
I, too, pray for their Rapture.
(And no, Rapture theologies generally do not allow for pets to join the “saved”. All the better for their pets. 👼)
(And no, Rapture theologies generally do not allow for pets to join the “saved”. All the better for their pets. 👼)
September 22, 2025 at 6:20 PM
I, too, pray for their Rapture.
(And no, Rapture theologies generally do not allow for pets to join the “saved”. All the better for their pets. 👼)
(And no, Rapture theologies generally do not allow for pets to join the “saved”. All the better for their pets. 👼)
I will say this until I am blue in the face. The horror we feel from school shootings should not be turned toward marginalized groups.
The hatred must be turned into energy to create a safer society where mental health is paid attention to.
This is true regardless of the identity of the shooter
The hatred must be turned into energy to create a safer society where mental health is paid attention to.
This is true regardless of the identity of the shooter
August 28, 2025 at 6:58 PM
I will say this until I am blue in the face. The horror we feel from school shootings should not be turned toward marginalized groups.
The hatred must be turned into energy to create a safer society where mental health is paid attention to.
This is true regardless of the identity of the shooter
The hatred must be turned into energy to create a safer society where mental health is paid attention to.
This is true regardless of the identity of the shooter
Reposted by Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
The craven reactionary centrists at Third Way are advising Democrats not to use the term LGBTQ, BIPOC, allyship, or intersectionality. They're erasing the entire language used to describe minority communities.
www.thirdway.org/memo/was-it-...
www.thirdway.org/memo/was-it-...
August 22, 2025 at 3:17 PM
The craven reactionary centrists at Third Way are advising Democrats not to use the term LGBTQ, BIPOC, allyship, or intersectionality. They're erasing the entire language used to describe minority communities.
www.thirdway.org/memo/was-it-...
www.thirdway.org/memo/was-it-...
@hillaryclinton.bsky.social doesn't sound hopeful.
But, this doesn't mean you should immediately run out and get married tomorrow.
It does mean that you may want to start thinking about and talking about options.
Might marriage be a good fit for your relationship? 🧵
thehill.com/homenews/lgb...
But, this doesn't mean you should immediately run out and get married tomorrow.
It does mean that you may want to start thinking about and talking about options.
Might marriage be a good fit for your relationship? 🧵
thehill.com/homenews/lgb...
Hillary Clinton: Supreme Court ‘will do to gay marriage what they did to abortion’
2016 Democratic presidential nominee and former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton says she believes the Supreme Court is poised to overturn its landmark ruling in Obergefell v. Hodges, which effec…
thehill.com
August 21, 2025 at 8:23 PM
@hillaryclinton.bsky.social doesn't sound hopeful.
But, this doesn't mean you should immediately run out and get married tomorrow.
It does mean that you may want to start thinking about and talking about options.
Might marriage be a good fit for your relationship? 🧵
thehill.com/homenews/lgb...
But, this doesn't mean you should immediately run out and get married tomorrow.
It does mean that you may want to start thinking about and talking about options.
Might marriage be a good fit for your relationship? 🧵
thehill.com/homenews/lgb...
Reposted by Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
May James Dobson burn and rot below for all eternity. A cruel, venal man who caused grave harm with every breath he took.
August 21, 2025 at 5:39 PM
May James Dobson burn and rot below for all eternity. A cruel, venal man who caused grave harm with every breath he took.
Excellent article by Drew Atkins at @usatoday.com.
It asks some great questions about influencer relationships, and begs an additional question: When we look at the lives of influencers, do we admire their lives or do we admire the lives we believe them to have?
www.usatoday.com/story/opinio...
It asks some great questions about influencer relationships, and begs an additional question: When we look at the lives of influencers, do we admire their lives or do we admire the lives we believe them to have?
www.usatoday.com/story/opinio...
Gay influencer couple Probably This broke up. The response is alarming at best. | Opinion
The reality is that we never should've been idolizing relationships like Probably This – or the people who actually live them – to begin with.
www.usatoday.com
August 20, 2025 at 7:57 PM
Excellent article by Drew Atkins at @usatoday.com.
It asks some great questions about influencer relationships, and begs an additional question: When we look at the lives of influencers, do we admire their lives or do we admire the lives we believe them to have?
www.usatoday.com/story/opinio...
It asks some great questions about influencer relationships, and begs an additional question: When we look at the lives of influencers, do we admire their lives or do we admire the lives we believe them to have?
www.usatoday.com/story/opinio...
If your state doesn’t already protect same-sex marriage at the state level, now’s the time to act. 🏳️🌈
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
August 19, 2025 at 10:40 PM
If your state doesn’t already protect same-sex marriage at the state level, now’s the time to act. 🏳️🌈
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the place of humor and play in serious conversations. I think the fundamentalist underpinnings of our culture tell us that “sternness” is the best/only way to approach serious conversations.
I think this is wrong. And the neuroscience backs me up.
I think this is wrong. And the neuroscience backs me up.
August 19, 2025 at 8:39 PM
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the place of humor and play in serious conversations. I think the fundamentalist underpinnings of our culture tell us that “sternness” is the best/only way to approach serious conversations.
I think this is wrong. And the neuroscience backs me up.
I think this is wrong. And the neuroscience backs me up.
A big part of relational wisdom/health comes from knowing your own emotions. And knowing when the particularly spicy (responses to historical trauma) ones are sneaking up on you. Pausing to notice these ones in particular does yourself, your relationship and your partner(s) a world of favors.
August 16, 2025 at 3:39 AM
A big part of relational wisdom/health comes from knowing your own emotions. And knowing when the particularly spicy (responses to historical trauma) ones are sneaking up on you. Pausing to notice these ones in particular does yourself, your relationship and your partner(s) a world of favors.
“The very word ‘erotic’ comes from the Greek word eros, the personification of love in all its aspects—born of Chaos, and personifying creative power and harmony.”
-Audre Lorde
-Audre Lorde
August 13, 2025 at 10:26 PM
“The very word ‘erotic’ comes from the Greek word eros, the personification of love in all its aspects—born of Chaos, and personifying creative power and harmony.”
-Audre Lorde
-Audre Lorde
It seems like there is this prevailing thought in activism that says “if I’m not pissed off or enraged and acting out of that, I am not engaged enough.”
Here’s the reality: the most emotionally dysregulated movement is not the one that succeeds. It’s the one that can sustain that succeeds.
Here’s the reality: the most emotionally dysregulated movement is not the one that succeeds. It’s the one that can sustain that succeeds.
August 13, 2025 at 8:01 PM
It seems like there is this prevailing thought in activism that says “if I’m not pissed off or enraged and acting out of that, I am not engaged enough.”
Here’s the reality: the most emotionally dysregulated movement is not the one that succeeds. It’s the one that can sustain that succeeds.
Here’s the reality: the most emotionally dysregulated movement is not the one that succeeds. It’s the one that can sustain that succeeds.
Saw a post today (pretty sure the post is fake) about platforms like Grindr outing gay closeted politicians.
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
August 13, 2025 at 1:10 AM
Saw a post today (pretty sure the post is fake) about platforms like Grindr outing gay closeted politicians.
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
As a seminary graduate and a marriage and family therapist, can I just say that the version of “biblical marriage“ that is being pushed by the right is really not biblical marriage. (As tho that concept is a monolith.)
Really what they’re talking about is subjugation veiled in ecclesial language.
Really what they’re talking about is subjugation veiled in ecclesial language.
August 12, 2025 at 10:15 PM
As a seminary graduate and a marriage and family therapist, can I just say that the version of “biblical marriage“ that is being pushed by the right is really not biblical marriage. (As tho that concept is a monolith.)
Really what they’re talking about is subjugation veiled in ecclesial language.
Really what they’re talking about is subjugation veiled in ecclesial language.
There’s a lot of good guides on how to “do a relationship right.” But, at the end of the day it’s really important to just get in and LIVE your relationship.
True therapy is not about coaching your relationship, but getting into thick of it with you.
True therapy is not about coaching your relationship, but getting into thick of it with you.
August 11, 2025 at 11:49 PM
There’s a lot of good guides on how to “do a relationship right.” But, at the end of the day it’s really important to just get in and LIVE your relationship.
True therapy is not about coaching your relationship, but getting into thick of it with you.
True therapy is not about coaching your relationship, but getting into thick of it with you.
You crave to be chased, but panic when they get close.
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
August 11, 2025 at 9:09 PM
You crave to be chased, but panic when they get close.
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
Sometimes I think we forget how incredibly contextual relationships are.
It might sound obvious, but different relationships have different yearnings, needs, boundaries and vibes.
This isn’t duplicity. This is specificity.
It might sound obvious, but different relationships have different yearnings, needs, boundaries and vibes.
This isn’t duplicity. This is specificity.
August 11, 2025 at 7:17 PM
Sometimes I think we forget how incredibly contextual relationships are.
It might sound obvious, but different relationships have different yearnings, needs, boundaries and vibes.
This isn’t duplicity. This is specificity.
It might sound obvious, but different relationships have different yearnings, needs, boundaries and vibes.
This isn’t duplicity. This is specificity.
You’re not betraying the revolution if you want to be ruined.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
August 10, 2025 at 5:09 PM
You’re not betraying the revolution if you want to be ruined.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
It’s not love if it disappears the moment you set a boundary.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
August 8, 2025 at 11:55 PM
It’s not love if it disappears the moment you set a boundary.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
Historically one of the primary goals of psychotherapy has been to increase tolerance of intolerable emotions. This viewpoint was delightfully challenged by @xtaffi.bsky.social at the annual @aasect.bsky.social conference this summer. 🧵
August 8, 2025 at 7:23 PM
Historically one of the primary goals of psychotherapy has been to increase tolerance of intolerable emotions. This viewpoint was delightfully challenged by @xtaffi.bsky.social at the annual @aasect.bsky.social conference this summer. 🧵
Reposted by Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
From this month's edition of The Onion.
August 7, 2025 at 4:32 PM
From this month's edition of The Onion.
I think we often times neglect erotic mindsets. We think about having sex, but we don’t think about thinking or feeling about sex.
August 7, 2025 at 9:54 PM
I think we often times neglect erotic mindsets. We think about having sex, but we don’t think about thinking or feeling about sex.
Reposted by Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
Americans are relearning the lesson we learned during the Gilded Age of the late 1890s, when robber barons ran the government and the economy for their own benefit: Oligarchy is incompatible with the common good.
I'm hopeful we'll respond with a new progressive movement.
I'm hopeful we'll respond with a new progressive movement.
August 6, 2025 at 11:01 PM
Americans are relearning the lesson we learned during the Gilded Age of the late 1890s, when robber barons ran the government and the economy for their own benefit: Oligarchy is incompatible with the common good.
I'm hopeful we'll respond with a new progressive movement.
I'm hopeful we'll respond with a new progressive movement.
When obedience was holiness, submission became survival.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
August 7, 2025 at 4:06 AM
When obedience was holiness, submission became survival.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
People often come to me asking how to have more sex. The question I often have in return is “How can we help your mind wander more erratically?”
Curiosity and fantasy fuel good sex
Curiosity and fantasy fuel good sex
August 6, 2025 at 10:59 PM
People often come to me asking how to have more sex. The question I often have in return is “How can we help your mind wander more erratically?”
Curiosity and fantasy fuel good sex
Curiosity and fantasy fuel good sex