Greg Kilpatrick, CST, LMFT
@gregkilpatrick.com
Psychotherapist & Certified Sex Therapist
🌱 Heal Shame
❤️🔥 Deepen Intimacy
🕊️ Reclaim Yourself
Therapy for Sex and Sexuality, Relationships, Religious Trauma and Existential Anxiety
𝗪𝗲𝗯𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗲: www.gregkilpatrick.com
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🌱 Heal Shame
❤️🔥 Deepen Intimacy
🕊️ Reclaim Yourself
Therapy for Sex and Sexuality, Relationships, Religious Trauma and Existential Anxiety
𝗪𝗲𝗯𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗲: www.gregkilpatrick.com
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If your state doesn’t already protect same-sex marriage at the state level, now’s the time to act. 🏳️🌈
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
August 19, 2025 at 10:40 PM
If your state doesn’t already protect same-sex marriage at the state level, now’s the time to act. 🏳️🌈
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
📢 Call your state lawmakers. Tell them to pass protections now. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Saw a post today (pretty sure the post is fake) about platforms like Grindr outing gay closeted politicians.
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
August 13, 2025 at 1:10 AM
Saw a post today (pretty sure the post is fake) about platforms like Grindr outing gay closeted politicians.
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
It’s my belief that this type of sexual violence is never acceptable regardless of who it’s aimed at.
What do you think?
You crave to be chased, but panic when they get close.
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
August 11, 2025 at 9:09 PM
You crave to be chased, but panic when they get close.
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
You want devotion, but only if you don’t have to ask.
That’s not a flaw. However, it's something to pay attention to.
Is it play or is it re-enacted trauma?
You’re not betraying the revolution if you want to be ruined.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
August 10, 2025 at 5:09 PM
You’re not betraying the revolution if you want to be ruined.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
You don’t owe the world a TED Talk on your kinks.
If it’s consensual and it still feels good even as the scene fades, it belongs.
It’s not love if it disappears the moment you set a boundary.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
August 8, 2025 at 11:55 PM
It’s not love if it disappears the moment you set a boundary.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
Big words. Big gestures. No follow-through.
Therapy teaches you to stop calling crumbs a feast.
When obedience was holiness, submission became survival.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
August 7, 2025 at 4:06 AM
When obedience was holiness, submission became survival.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
If you crave control now, you’re not twisted—you’re integrating.
Desire has a way of redeeming what dogma tried to bury.
Some couples do brunch. Others negotiate power dynamics.
One isn’t deeper than the other.
Cuffs can mean “I trust you.” Protocol can mean “I see you.”
Let’s stop pretending only softness counts as care.
One isn’t deeper than the other.
Cuffs can mean “I trust you.” Protocol can mean “I see you.”
Let’s stop pretending only softness counts as care.
August 4, 2025 at 9:09 PM
Some couples do brunch. Others negotiate power dynamics.
One isn’t deeper than the other.
Cuffs can mean “I trust you.” Protocol can mean “I see you.”
Let’s stop pretending only softness counts as care.
One isn’t deeper than the other.
Cuffs can mean “I trust you.” Protocol can mean “I see you.”
Let’s stop pretending only softness counts as care.
Ugly moans. Awkward silence. That one time you cried halfway through?
Still valid. Still erotic. Still hot.
Pleasure and connection do not come from polish (unless maybe it's "polishing"), it comes from presence and embodiment.
Still valid. Still erotic. Still hot.
Pleasure and connection do not come from polish (unless maybe it's "polishing"), it comes from presence and embodiment.
August 3, 2025 at 5:09 PM
Ugly moans. Awkward silence. That one time you cried halfway through?
Still valid. Still erotic. Still hot.
Pleasure and connection do not come from polish (unless maybe it's "polishing"), it comes from presence and embodiment.
Still valid. Still erotic. Still hot.
Pleasure and connection do not come from polish (unless maybe it's "polishing"), it comes from presence and embodiment.
Command doesn’t always come from confidence.
Sometimes it’s panic in a bright neoprene harness.
Do you run the scene to avoid being caught off guard? To feel safe?
Let’s talk about what you’re protecting underneath all that control.
Sometimes it’s panic in a bright neoprene harness.
Do you run the scene to avoid being caught off guard? To feel safe?
Let’s talk about what you’re protecting underneath all that control.
August 1, 2025 at 11:55 PM
Command doesn’t always come from confidence.
Sometimes it’s panic in a bright neoprene harness.
Do you run the scene to avoid being caught off guard? To feel safe?
Let’s talk about what you’re protecting underneath all that control.
Sometimes it’s panic in a bright neoprene harness.
Do you run the scene to avoid being caught off guard? To feel safe?
Let’s talk about what you’re protecting underneath all that control.
If you are conditioned to think sex had to be wild to count, then tenderness can be revolutionary.
You don’t need to impress anyone with how loud, rough, or kink-literate you are.
Bring yourseld and be present in your body. That’s the main act.
You don’t need to impress anyone with how loud, rough, or kink-literate you are.
Bring yourseld and be present in your body. That’s the main act.
July 30, 2025 at 10:06 PM
If you are conditioned to think sex had to be wild to count, then tenderness can be revolutionary.
You don’t need to impress anyone with how loud, rough, or kink-literate you are.
Bring yourseld and be present in your body. That’s the main act.
You don’t need to impress anyone with how loud, rough, or kink-literate you are.
Bring yourseld and be present in your body. That’s the main act.
That “too much” feeling? That might just be your body finally exhaling.
“Clingy” is what people call it when you’ve never had safe attachment modeled.
But needing someone isn’t the problem. Never being held without consequence is.
Therapy can help you determine tell the difference.
“Clingy” is what people call it when you’ve never had safe attachment modeled.
But needing someone isn’t the problem. Never being held without consequence is.
Therapy can help you determine tell the difference.
July 28, 2025 at 9:09 PM
That “too much” feeling? That might just be your body finally exhaling.
“Clingy” is what people call it when you’ve never had safe attachment modeled.
But needing someone isn’t the problem. Never being held without consequence is.
Therapy can help you determine tell the difference.
“Clingy” is what people call it when you’ve never had safe attachment modeled.
But needing someone isn’t the problem. Never being held without consequence is.
Therapy can help you determine tell the difference.
Kinks don't need to send a message or teach a lesson. Sometimes, we enjoy them simply because they're exciting and arouse us. That's perfectly okay. #KinkAcceptance #JustForFun
July 26, 2025 at 10:01 PM
Kinks don't need to send a message or teach a lesson. Sometimes, we enjoy them simply because they're exciting and arouse us. That's perfectly okay. #KinkAcceptance #JustForFun
Healing is an ongoing journey. Waiting for perfection before accepting love might mean missing out on the love that really brings you alive. The key isn't completing the process but finding someone(s) who can walk with you through it.
#LoveHeals #JourneyTogether
#LoveHeals #JourneyTogether
July 23, 2025 at 11:36 PM
Healing is an ongoing journey. Waiting for perfection before accepting love might mean missing out on the love that really brings you alive. The key isn't completing the process but finding someone(s) who can walk with you through it.
#LoveHeals #JourneyTogether
#LoveHeals #JourneyTogether
You’re not your fantasies, even though they’re an important part of who you are.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
July 6, 2025 at 1:35 AM
You’re not your fantasies, even though they’re an important part of who you are.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
There’s a lot of self-help books, pop, psych therapists, and coaches who pedal simple fixes to trauma.
But, the reality is that most trauma is chronic. It took a long time develop and it’s going to be a bit of a process to rewrite it.
It’s messy and it takes time. 🧵
But, the reality is that most trauma is chronic. It took a long time develop and it’s going to be a bit of a process to rewrite it.
It’s messy and it takes time. 🧵
February 5, 2025 at 1:52 AM
There’s a lot of self-help books, pop, psych therapists, and coaches who pedal simple fixes to trauma.
But, the reality is that most trauma is chronic. It took a long time develop and it’s going to be a bit of a process to rewrite it.
It’s messy and it takes time. 🧵
But, the reality is that most trauma is chronic. It took a long time develop and it’s going to be a bit of a process to rewrite it.
It’s messy and it takes time. 🧵
When I was in caught up in Conservative Christianity, I got a lot of messages about “Suffering for the Kingdom” from the pulpit. Looking back, I (and many of my friends) were suffering for fear of the consequences of not falling in line.
Not for some grand purpose.
Don’t put up with that shit.
Not for some grand purpose.
Don’t put up with that shit.
January 25, 2025 at 9:06 PM
When I was in caught up in Conservative Christianity, I got a lot of messages about “Suffering for the Kingdom” from the pulpit. Looking back, I (and many of my friends) were suffering for fear of the consequences of not falling in line.
Not for some grand purpose.
Don’t put up with that shit.
Not for some grand purpose.
Don’t put up with that shit.
When I am first working with relationships exploring non-monogamy, they often ask what "rules" they should have in place. This is only part of a more important framework—trust.
🧵
#NonMonogamySupport #HealthyRelationships #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport #RelationshipWellness
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#NonMonogamySupport #HealthyRelationships #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport #RelationshipWellness
January 22, 2025 at 7:05 PM
When I am first working with relationships exploring non-monogamy, they often ask what "rules" they should have in place. This is only part of a more important framework—trust.
🧵
#NonMonogamySupport #HealthyRelationships #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport #RelationshipWellness
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#NonMonogamySupport #HealthyRelationships #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport #RelationshipWellness
Your body has carried you through so much—every high, every low, and every chapter of your story. It’s not something to fix; it’s your home. What’s one kind thing you can do for your body today?
#BodyLove #SelfAcceptance #QueerSupport #RadicalSelfLove
#BodyLove #SelfAcceptance #QueerSupport #RadicalSelfLove
January 19, 2025 at 8:09 PM
Your body has carried you through so much—every high, every low, and every chapter of your story. It’s not something to fix; it’s your home. What’s one kind thing you can do for your body today?
#BodyLove #SelfAcceptance #QueerSupport #RadicalSelfLove
#BodyLove #SelfAcceptance #QueerSupport #RadicalSelfLove
One of the biggest disservices of psychology to culture is the belief that a label is required for validity. Psychology and even sexology have just barely scraped the surface with understanding desire, much less describing it!
#DesireMatters #SexualWellness
#RadicalSelfAcceptance #LGBTQTherapist
#DesireMatters #SexualWellness
#RadicalSelfAcceptance #LGBTQTherapist
January 12, 2025 at 10:39 PM
One of the biggest disservices of psychology to culture is the belief that a label is required for validity. Psychology and even sexology have just barely scraped the surface with understanding desire, much less describing it!
#DesireMatters #SexualWellness
#RadicalSelfAcceptance #LGBTQTherapist
#DesireMatters #SexualWellness
#RadicalSelfAcceptance #LGBTQTherapist
Love is built through trust and care, not luck. What will you nurture today? #HealthyRelationships #BuildingLove #TherapyForConnection
January 9, 2025 at 9:15 PM
Love is built through trust and care, not luck. What will you nurture today? #HealthyRelationships #BuildingLove #TherapyForConnection
The messages you received about your worth are not the truth. Healing is possible. Therapy offers a space to reclaim your truth and rebuild your sense of self. #ReligiousTraumaHealing #ReclaimYourTruth #RadicalSelfLove #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport
January 7, 2025 at 11:00 PM
The messages you received about your worth are not the truth. Healing is possible. Therapy offers a space to reclaim your truth and rebuild your sense of self. #ReligiousTraumaHealing #ReclaimYourTruth #RadicalSelfLove #TherapyForYou #LGBTQSupport
Exploring your desires is not selfish—it’s necessary for authentic connection. When you embrace your wants, you create space for real intimacy with yourself and others.
January 7, 2025 at 10:59 PM
Exploring your desires is not selfish—it’s necessary for authentic connection. When you embrace your wants, you create space for real intimacy with yourself and others.
Good sex begins with honest conversations. Share your needs, your boundaries, and your desires. Connection grows when we feel safe to be seen and heard. #SexTherapy #IntimacyMatters #CommunicationIsKey #ConsentIsSexy #TherapyForGrowth
January 7, 2025 at 10:58 PM
Good sex begins with honest conversations. Share your needs, your boundaries, and your desires. Connection grows when we feel safe to be seen and heard. #SexTherapy #IntimacyMatters #CommunicationIsKey #ConsentIsSexy #TherapyForGrowth
Pride is a celebration of authenticity, a stand against erasure, and a reminder that joy is resistance. Your story matters. Let's honor it together. #PrideSolidarity #QueerJoy #LGBTQSupport #RadicalSelfLove #HealingTogether
January 7, 2025 at 10:58 PM
Pride is a celebration of authenticity, a stand against erasure, and a reminder that joy is resistance. Your story matters. Let's honor it together. #PrideSolidarity #QueerJoy #LGBTQSupport #RadicalSelfLove #HealingTogether