Politics of Attachment | Dylan Smeder
@dylansmeder.bsky.social
Conversations about attachment theory stay personal.
But the work runs deeper—through politics, power, and the ways they shape how we love and feel safe.
I help people cultivate compassion and clarity that includes those realities.
dylansmeder.com
But the work runs deeper—through politics, power, and the ways they shape how we love and feel safe.
I help people cultivate compassion and clarity that includes those realities.
dylansmeder.com
We can’t stay connected to ourselves while disconnecting from the suffering around us.
Attachment trauma is, at its core, disconnection from self and that disconnection doesn’t exist outside the systems we live in.
#attachmentTheory
Attachment trauma is, at its core, disconnection from self and that disconnection doesn’t exist outside the systems we live in.
#attachmentTheory
November 13, 2025 at 5:41 AM
We can’t stay connected to ourselves while disconnecting from the suffering around us.
Attachment trauma is, at its core, disconnection from self and that disconnection doesn’t exist outside the systems we live in.
#attachmentTheory
Attachment trauma is, at its core, disconnection from self and that disconnection doesn’t exist outside the systems we live in.
#attachmentTheory
#Healing isn’t about always getting it right.
It’s about showing yourself that you won’t abandon you.
#attachmenttheory #reparenting #innerchildwork
It’s about showing yourself that you won’t abandon you.
#attachmenttheory #reparenting #innerchildwork
November 9, 2025 at 8:01 PM
#Healing isn’t about always getting it right.
It’s about showing yourself that you won’t abandon you.
#attachmenttheory #reparenting #innerchildwork
It’s about showing yourself that you won’t abandon you.
#attachmenttheory #reparenting #innerchildwork
When something doesn’t work out the way I hoped,
I remind myself: I made an informed choice.
It’s mine to take responsibility for — not my wounds’.
That small acknowledgment helps cool the #anxiety that follows.
I remind myself: I made an informed choice.
It’s mine to take responsibility for — not my wounds’.
That small acknowledgment helps cool the #anxiety that follows.
November 9, 2025 at 8:01 PM
When something doesn’t work out the way I hoped,
I remind myself: I made an informed choice.
It’s mine to take responsibility for — not my wounds’.
That small acknowledgment helps cool the #anxiety that follows.
I remind myself: I made an informed choice.
It’s mine to take responsibility for — not my wounds’.
That small acknowledgment helps cool the #anxiety that follows.
When I’m talking to the wounded parts of myself,
taking ownership of my choices helps rebuild #selftrust —
especially with the child inside who’s afraid of being blamed.
taking ownership of my choices helps rebuild #selftrust —
especially with the child inside who’s afraid of being blamed.
November 9, 2025 at 8:01 PM
When I’m talking to the wounded parts of myself,
taking ownership of my choices helps rebuild #selftrust —
especially with the child inside who’s afraid of being blamed.
taking ownership of my choices helps rebuild #selftrust —
especially with the child inside who’s afraid of being blamed.
I wrote this thinking about a question that comes up often:
“How do I know if the person I’m seeing is worth the effort?”
Sometimes the answer is clear.
Sometimes it’s not.
#relationships #attachment
“How do I know if the person I’m seeing is worth the effort?”
Sometimes the answer is clear.
Sometimes it’s not.
#relationships #attachment
November 9, 2025 at 8:00 PM
I wrote this thinking about a question that comes up often:
“How do I know if the person I’m seeing is worth the effort?”
Sometimes the answer is clear.
Sometimes it’s not.
#relationships #attachment
“How do I know if the person I’m seeing is worth the effort?”
Sometimes the answer is clear.
Sometimes it’s not.
#relationships #attachment
To be the parent to ourselves that we never had.
To take responsibility for our decisions — not to blame ourselves,
but to show our wounded parts they’re not the ones at fault.
#reparenting #innerchild
To take responsibility for our decisions — not to blame ourselves,
but to show our wounded parts they’re not the ones at fault.
#reparenting #innerchild
November 9, 2025 at 8:00 PM
To be the parent to ourselves that we never had.
To take responsibility for our decisions — not to blame ourselves,
but to show our wounded parts they’re not the ones at fault.
#reparenting #innerchild
To take responsibility for our decisions — not to blame ourselves,
but to show our wounded parts they’re not the ones at fault.
#reparenting #innerchild
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