Politics of Attachment | Dylan Smeder
@dylansmeder.bsky.social
Conversations about attachment theory stay personal.
But the work runs deeper—through politics, power, and the ways they shape how we love and feel safe.
I help people cultivate compassion and clarity that includes those realities.
dylansmeder.com
But the work runs deeper—through politics, power, and the ways they shape how we love and feel safe.
I help people cultivate compassion and clarity that includes those realities.
dylansmeder.com
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am I a feminist?
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
MAGA is a cult
November 17, 2025 at 1:43 AM
MAGA is a cult
Did rogan just turn on trump?
November 15, 2025 at 3:16 PM
Did rogan just turn on trump?
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am I a feminist?
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
November 15, 2025 at 11:52 AM
am I a feminist?
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
feminism is protecting you from gods wrath.
the second women realize that they can just enjoy the miserable lives of anyone who doesn't have their respect. Its easy to "play" submissive.
good luck. i don't matter. also, fuck capital letters
#AnxiousAttachment can shape every decision we make.
Fear enters the process early — Will this push them away? Will I be abandoned?
Without a map for healthy connection, it’s hard to know what’s reasonable.
Seeing the pattern doesn’t erase it, but it gives us agency.
Fear enters the process early — Will this push them away? Will I be abandoned?
Without a map for healthy connection, it’s hard to know what’s reasonable.
Seeing the pattern doesn’t erase it, but it gives us agency.
November 14, 2025 at 7:56 PM
#AnxiousAttachment can shape every decision we make.
Fear enters the process early — Will this push them away? Will I be abandoned?
Without a map for healthy connection, it’s hard to know what’s reasonable.
Seeing the pattern doesn’t erase it, but it gives us agency.
Fear enters the process early — Will this push them away? Will I be abandoned?
Without a map for healthy connection, it’s hard to know what’s reasonable.
Seeing the pattern doesn’t erase it, but it gives us agency.
Megyn Kelly should join the Olympics with the backflips she’s doing for the president.
November 14, 2025 at 7:22 PM
Megyn Kelly should join the Olympics with the backflips she’s doing for the president.
Will trump have his nixon moment?
November 14, 2025 at 7:16 PM
Will trump have his nixon moment?
We talk about #grief with death, but #healing #attachment wounds also involves grief.
Some people bury the pain until it becomes numbness.
Others feel it right on the surface.
Both are survival responses. Grief is your system trying to heal what it couldn’t hold back then.
Some people bury the pain until it becomes numbness.
Others feel it right on the surface.
Both are survival responses. Grief is your system trying to heal what it couldn’t hold back then.
November 13, 2025 at 8:26 PM
We talk about #grief with death, but #healing #attachment wounds also involves grief.
Some people bury the pain until it becomes numbness.
Others feel it right on the surface.
Both are survival responses. Grief is your system trying to heal what it couldn’t hold back then.
Some people bury the pain until it becomes numbness.
Others feel it right on the surface.
Both are survival responses. Grief is your system trying to heal what it couldn’t hold back then.
People with consent issues think everything is an either-or.
But consent is what makes certain doors safe to open and unsafe without it.
But consent is what makes certain doors safe to open and unsafe without it.
November 13, 2025 at 6:01 PM
People with consent issues think everything is an either-or.
But consent is what makes certain doors safe to open and unsafe without it.
But consent is what makes certain doors safe to open and unsafe without it.
Everyone else: If Democrats or Republicans are on the
Epstein list, lock them up.
MAGA: You’re just saying that to get rid of Trump.
Everyone else: …
MAGA: He’s not even on the list.
Epstein list, lock them up.
MAGA: You’re just saying that to get rid of Trump.
Everyone else: …
MAGA: He’s not even on the list.
November 13, 2025 at 5:10 AM
Everyone else: If Democrats or Republicans are on the
Epstein list, lock them up.
MAGA: You’re just saying that to get rid of Trump.
Everyone else: …
MAGA: He’s not even on the list.
Epstein list, lock them up.
MAGA: You’re just saying that to get rid of Trump.
Everyone else: …
MAGA: He’s not even on the list.
Your #attachmentStyle was your best survival strategy — it still thinks it’s saving your life.
The behaviors that sabotage relationships were once the smartest moves you had as a child.
The reaching, the shutdowns, the hyperthinking — emergency systems that don’t know the war has ended.
The behaviors that sabotage relationships were once the smartest moves you had as a child.
The reaching, the shutdowns, the hyperthinking — emergency systems that don’t know the war has ended.
November 12, 2025 at 8:51 PM
Your #attachmentStyle was your best survival strategy — it still thinks it’s saving your life.
The behaviors that sabotage relationships were once the smartest moves you had as a child.
The reaching, the shutdowns, the hyperthinking — emergency systems that don’t know the war has ended.
The behaviors that sabotage relationships were once the smartest moves you had as a child.
The reaching, the shutdowns, the hyperthinking — emergency systems that don’t know the war has ended.
This is why so many women struggle in relationships.
In a system run by men, he mistakes the scraps of compassion women get for “neglect.”
It’s that trad wife energy — but rebranded as victimhood.
In a system run by men, he mistakes the scraps of compassion women get for “neglect.”
It’s that trad wife energy — but rebranded as victimhood.
November 11, 2025 at 4:35 PM
This is why so many women struggle in relationships.
In a system run by men, he mistakes the scraps of compassion women get for “neglect.”
It’s that trad wife energy — but rebranded as victimhood.
In a system run by men, he mistakes the scraps of compassion women get for “neglect.”
It’s that trad wife energy — but rebranded as victimhood.
The man who’s sued company after company — purely out of civic duty, of course — definitely isn’t extorting the public with his tariffs.
November 11, 2025 at 8:02 AM
The man who’s sued company after company — purely out of civic duty, of course — definitely isn’t extorting the public with his tariffs.
Just a reminder —
Your racist boss isn't a good person and their unkindness towards you is a reflection of their soul and not yours.
You don't have to be perfect to be a good person but they ain't it.
Your racist boss isn't a good person and their unkindness towards you is a reflection of their soul and not yours.
You don't have to be perfect to be a good person but they ain't it.
November 11, 2025 at 7:54 AM
Just a reminder —
Your racist boss isn't a good person and their unkindness towards you is a reflection of their soul and not yours.
You don't have to be perfect to be a good person but they ain't it.
Your racist boss isn't a good person and their unkindness towards you is a reflection of their soul and not yours.
You don't have to be perfect to be a good person but they ain't it.
So much of #communication is about learning to speak in ways our partner can truly hear us — not just talk at them.
We repeat patterns from childhood without realizing it.
Finding safety within helps us show love while protecting ourselves.
#attachment #healing #boundaries
We repeat patterns from childhood without realizing it.
Finding safety within helps us show love while protecting ourselves.
#attachment #healing #boundaries
November 10, 2025 at 8:16 PM
So much of #communication is about learning to speak in ways our partner can truly hear us — not just talk at them.
We repeat patterns from childhood without realizing it.
Finding safety within helps us show love while protecting ourselves.
#attachment #healing #boundaries
We repeat patterns from childhood without realizing it.
Finding safety within helps us show love while protecting ourselves.
#attachment #healing #boundaries
Attachment theory without a conscience for equity severs your connection with humanity.
#attachmentTheory #equity
#attachmentTheory #equity
November 10, 2025 at 5:52 AM
Attachment theory without a conscience for equity severs your connection with humanity.
#attachmentTheory #equity
#attachmentTheory #equity
Healing asks us to make choices when there’s still a gaping wound.
That’s what makes it so hard.
We heal in relationship — by learning to protect ourselves and by owning the choices that didn’t work out.
#healing #attachmenthealing
That’s what makes it so hard.
We heal in relationship — by learning to protect ourselves and by owning the choices that didn’t work out.
#healing #attachmenthealing
November 9, 2025 at 7:59 PM
Healing asks us to make choices when there’s still a gaping wound.
That’s what makes it so hard.
We heal in relationship — by learning to protect ourselves and by owning the choices that didn’t work out.
#healing #attachmenthealing
That’s what makes it so hard.
We heal in relationship — by learning to protect ourselves and by owning the choices that didn’t work out.
#healing #attachmenthealing
Musk’s “eliminate poverty” talk feels like a Tinder guy promising marriage to get in your pants. Words are cheap.
November 9, 2025 at 5:43 AM
Musk’s “eliminate poverty” talk feels like a Tinder guy promising marriage to get in your pants. Words are cheap.
Yeah, when Trump owns the Supreme Court, do they really have to?
November 9, 2025 at 5:33 AM
Yeah, when Trump owns the Supreme Court, do they really have to?
The missing piece of #attachmentTheory is systemic oppression. Disconnection from our humanity isn’t healing — it’s the wound itself.
November 9, 2025 at 5:29 AM
The missing piece of #attachmentTheory is systemic oppression. Disconnection from our humanity isn’t healing — it’s the wound itself.
“The billionaire class has sought to convince those making $30-an-hour that their enemies are those earning $20-an-hour. They want the people to fight amongst ourselves so that we remain distracted from the work of remaking a long, broken system.”
— Zohran Mamdani
— Zohran Mamdani
November 8, 2025 at 8:59 PM
“The billionaire class has sought to convince those making $30-an-hour that their enemies are those earning $20-an-hour. They want the people to fight amongst ourselves so that we remain distracted from the work of remaking a long, broken system.”
— Zohran Mamdani
— Zohran Mamdani
That deep-seated feeling of #shame that appears when you say no or feel “too vulnerable” is a protection mechanism, learned early to survive unpredictability
For #anxious, #avoidant, or #fearfulavoidant attachers, it can look different
How does it come up in you?
Where do you feel it in your body?
For #anxious, #avoidant, or #fearfulavoidant attachers, it can look different
How does it come up in you?
Where do you feel it in your body?
November 7, 2025 at 7:36 PM
That deep-seated feeling of #shame that appears when you say no or feel “too vulnerable” is a protection mechanism, learned early to survive unpredictability
For #anxious, #avoidant, or #fearfulavoidant attachers, it can look different
How does it come up in you?
Where do you feel it in your body?
For #anxious, #avoidant, or #fearfulavoidant attachers, it can look different
How does it come up in you?
Where do you feel it in your body?
The folks pushing Trump to repeal the 22nd Amendment are gonna lose it when @barackobama.bsky.social is back in the White House.
November 7, 2025 at 3:14 PM
The folks pushing Trump to repeal the 22nd Amendment are gonna lose it when @barackobama.bsky.social is back in the White House.
People say “SNAP is for lazy people” or “for those with 8 baby daddies.”
#SNAP is attacked from every angle — by politicians who claim they can’t fund it because the government is shut down, while still funding ICE.
We could build safety nets that protect dignity instead of shame.
#SNAP is attacked from every angle — by politicians who claim they can’t fund it because the government is shut down, while still funding ICE.
We could build safety nets that protect dignity instead of shame.
November 6, 2025 at 9:04 PM
People say “SNAP is for lazy people” or “for those with 8 baby daddies.”
#SNAP is attacked from every angle — by politicians who claim they can’t fund it because the government is shut down, while still funding ICE.
We could build safety nets that protect dignity instead of shame.
#SNAP is attacked from every angle — by politicians who claim they can’t fund it because the government is shut down, while still funding ICE.
We could build safety nets that protect dignity instead of shame.