Bryn Toby
@medabeaks.bsky.social
Writer, maker, dog-haver, trans guy, larp player, larp creator, cook, organiser, holder of an unimportant day job. Half of the Bluff Check Games founding duo, creating shared hallucinations and emotional SFX.
ALSO: in the UK, if your trade union funds the Labour Party, opt the fuck out immediately. You can. You must.
The Labour Party are transphobic Tory-lites, and you must not fund them. You must not campaign for them.
They are not friends to the Trade Union Movement any more.
The Labour Party are transphobic Tory-lites, and you must not fund them. You must not campaign for them.
They are not friends to the Trade Union Movement any more.
April 22, 2025 at 11:25 AM
ALSO: in the UK, if your trade union funds the Labour Party, opt the fuck out immediately. You can. You must.
The Labour Party are transphobic Tory-lites, and you must not fund them. You must not campaign for them.
They are not friends to the Trade Union Movement any more.
The Labour Party are transphobic Tory-lites, and you must not fund them. You must not campaign for them.
They are not friends to the Trade Union Movement any more.
I support trade unions. I'm in one. I used to be a branch officer.
But also, many are failing through top-heavy structures, lack of accountability at a local level and rampant cronyism.
My local branch doesn't have an LGBTQIA officer at all, because they hounded out the last three.
But also, many are failing through top-heavy structures, lack of accountability at a local level and rampant cronyism.
My local branch doesn't have an LGBTQIA officer at all, because they hounded out the last three.
April 22, 2025 at 11:20 AM
I support trade unions. I'm in one. I used to be a branch officer.
But also, many are failing through top-heavy structures, lack of accountability at a local level and rampant cronyism.
My local branch doesn't have an LGBTQIA officer at all, because they hounded out the last three.
But also, many are failing through top-heavy structures, lack of accountability at a local level and rampant cronyism.
My local branch doesn't have an LGBTQIA officer at all, because they hounded out the last three.
Reposted by Bryn Toby
Stop saying "Will trans men be welcomed into women's spaces?" as some kind of rhetorical gotcha, as though trans men have not been beaten and KILLED after being FORCED into women's spaces.
Your ignorance of trans men's oppression due to their invisiblisation does NOT a clever comeback make.
Your ignorance of trans men's oppression due to their invisiblisation does NOT a clever comeback make.
April 19, 2025 at 9:43 AM
Stop saying "Will trans men be welcomed into women's spaces?" as some kind of rhetorical gotcha, as though trans men have not been beaten and KILLED after being FORCED into women's spaces.
Your ignorance of trans men's oppression due to their invisiblisation does NOT a clever comeback make.
Your ignorance of trans men's oppression due to their invisiblisation does NOT a clever comeback make.
If you say you are a trans ally, a "safe person", a supporter of human rights, you better be doing your best to get to a protest this weekend. You'd better be actively looking for your nearest rally or march or demo. You'd better be ready to stand at our sides.
April 17, 2025 at 1:08 PM
If you say you are a trans ally, a "safe person", a supporter of human rights, you better be doing your best to get to a protest this weekend. You'd better be actively looking for your nearest rally or march or demo. You'd better be ready to stand at our sides.
@whatthetrans.com this has been posted on FB
April 17, 2025 at 11:56 AM
@whatthetrans.com this has been posted on FB
@unisoncymru.bsky.social
Are you planning any demonstrations in Cardiff in support of your trans members?
Are you planning any demonstrations in Cardiff in support of your trans members?
April 17, 2025 at 11:13 AM
@unisoncymru.bsky.social
Are you planning any demonstrations in Cardiff in support of your trans members?
Are you planning any demonstrations in Cardiff in support of your trans members?
Does anyone know of Cardiff protests this weekend? I can't travel further, but by gawd I wanna wave a placard or *something*.
(Tonight I'm drinking and eating and being around friends)
(Tonight I'm drinking and eating and being around friends)
April 16, 2025 at 4:18 PM
Does anyone know of Cardiff protests this weekend? I can't travel further, but by gawd I wanna wave a placard or *something*.
(Tonight I'm drinking and eating and being around friends)
(Tonight I'm drinking and eating and being around friends)
Also, to try and fight the wave of doom: that speech included reinforcement of the concept of "discrimination by association". In blunt terms, if a trans woman is harassed for being trans OR being a woman, the EA protected characteristics apply.
April 16, 2025 at 10:24 AM
Also, to try and fight the wave of doom: that speech included reinforcement of the concept of "discrimination by association". In blunt terms, if a trans woman is harassed for being trans OR being a woman, the EA protected characteristics apply.
Oh good, a gas leak. That'll possibly be why I've had headaches whenever I've been costume-sewing, then, as it seems there's been a slow gas leak into my sewing room for "maybe weeks".
(It's found, it's being fixed, I'm safe. Still panicky because wtf even is a sensible response, but safe.)
(It's found, it's being fixed, I'm safe. Still panicky because wtf even is a sensible response, but safe.)
April 14, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Oh good, a gas leak. That'll possibly be why I've had headaches whenever I've been costume-sewing, then, as it seems there's been a slow gas leak into my sewing room for "maybe weeks".
(It's found, it's being fixed, I'm safe. Still panicky because wtf even is a sensible response, but safe.)
(It's found, it's being fixed, I'm safe. Still panicky because wtf even is a sensible response, but safe.)
I listened to ep1 today and it was *delightful*. The kind of podcast where you catch yourself nodding along and grinning :)
(And then adding books to your already too-long list!)
(And then adding books to your already too-long list!)
Still banging on about this!
Big, somewhat leftfield news: I am kicking off a podcast with the wonderful @emmanewman.bsky.social under the title Starship Alexandria. It's a cosy book and film recommendation show where we take it in turns to rec things to one another and discuss them.
April 10, 2025 at 7:53 PM
I listened to ep1 today and it was *delightful*. The kind of podcast where you catch yourself nodding along and grinning :)
(And then adding books to your already too-long list!)
(And then adding books to your already too-long list!)
Wild ride of (UK) Mother's Day, TDoV and April Fools on three consecutive days.
Makes me side-eye my mother's complete refusal to acknowledge my transition pretty hard, gotta say.
Anyway, I need to go bake her a cake for the grovelling over not seeing her for a few days...
Makes me side-eye my mother's complete refusal to acknowledge my transition pretty hard, gotta say.
Anyway, I need to go bake her a cake for the grovelling over not seeing her for a few days...
April 1, 2025 at 10:28 AM
Wild ride of (UK) Mother's Day, TDoV and April Fools on three consecutive days.
Makes me side-eye my mother's complete refusal to acknowledge my transition pretty hard, gotta say.
Anyway, I need to go bake her a cake for the grovelling over not seeing her for a few days...
Makes me side-eye my mother's complete refusal to acknowledge my transition pretty hard, gotta say.
Anyway, I need to go bake her a cake for the grovelling over not seeing her for a few days...
Happy T-day to me
Happy T-day to me
Gonna have a treat at lunchtime
Happy T-day to me!
(I'm only... 8 months behind the schedule I was promised. Could be worse.)
Happy T-day to me
Gonna have a treat at lunchtime
Happy T-day to me!
(I'm only... 8 months behind the schedule I was promised. Could be worse.)
March 18, 2025 at 11:49 AM
Happy T-day to me
Happy T-day to me
Gonna have a treat at lunchtime
Happy T-day to me!
(I'm only... 8 months behind the schedule I was promised. Could be worse.)
Happy T-day to me
Gonna have a treat at lunchtime
Happy T-day to me!
(I'm only... 8 months behind the schedule I was promised. Could be worse.)
On the one hand, I talk about trans issues/ my stuff a whole lot.
On the other hand, it's because this is the thing about me most likely to make me a target, and I'm scared.
On the other hand, it's because this is the thing about me most likely to make me a target, and I'm scared.
March 16, 2025 at 11:01 PM
On the one hand, I talk about trans issues/ my stuff a whole lot.
On the other hand, it's because this is the thing about me most likely to make me a target, and I'm scared.
On the other hand, it's because this is the thing about me most likely to make me a target, and I'm scared.
Reposted by Bryn Toby
Press release from his lawyers! (In English)
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(Sorry, I got the copy-paste wrong on the first try; this should be the correct one)
en.hatter.hu/news/court-o...
(Sorry, I got the copy-paste wrong on the first try; this should be the correct one)
March 16, 2025 at 6:34 PM
Press release from his lawyers! (In English)
en.hatter.hu/news/court-o...
(Sorry, I got the copy-paste wrong on the first try; this should be the correct one)
en.hatter.hu/news/court-o...
(Sorry, I got the copy-paste wrong on the first try; this should be the correct one)
Very disappointed to hear John Lithgow is attached to the HP series.
I will be INCREDIBLY angry at any actor choosing to actively support JKR. And yes, I do believe that acting in a show based on her work is an active endorsement of her hateful choices.
I will be INCREDIBLY angry at any actor choosing to actively support JKR. And yes, I do believe that acting in a show based on her work is an active endorsement of her hateful choices.
February 13, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Very disappointed to hear John Lithgow is attached to the HP series.
I will be INCREDIBLY angry at any actor choosing to actively support JKR. And yes, I do believe that acting in a show based on her work is an active endorsement of her hateful choices.
I will be INCREDIBLY angry at any actor choosing to actively support JKR. And yes, I do believe that acting in a show based on her work is an active endorsement of her hateful choices.
I had a meeting with a senior leader in my org today to discuss ways forward for the staff LGBTQIA+ network. I'm genuinely shaken by openly he discussed the fear and horror of our current situation. Shaken, because I've grown used to being told I'm over-reacting, that I'm too pessimistic. 1/
February 5, 2025 at 4:18 PM
I had a meeting with a senior leader in my org today to discuss ways forward for the staff LGBTQIA+ network. I'm genuinely shaken by openly he discussed the fear and horror of our current situation. Shaken, because I've grown used to being told I'm over-reacting, that I'm too pessimistic. 1/
Sometimes I think I need a day without rage. Realistically, that means a day entirely disconnected from all social and news media.
It's my birthday next week, and I'm gonna aim for that. One day without gnawing horror, aching fear, burning rage and overwhelming sadness. One day.
It's my birthday next week, and I'm gonna aim for that. One day without gnawing horror, aching fear, burning rage and overwhelming sadness. One day.
January 31, 2025 at 8:15 AM
Sometimes I think I need a day without rage. Realistically, that means a day entirely disconnected from all social and news media.
It's my birthday next week, and I'm gonna aim for that. One day without gnawing horror, aching fear, burning rage and overwhelming sadness. One day.
It's my birthday next week, and I'm gonna aim for that. One day without gnawing horror, aching fear, burning rage and overwhelming sadness. One day.
Tell you what: a final mission on The Traitors that i not only *could* do, but actively *want* to do? My reasons not to apply are shrinking.
(The whole "it is too dangerous to be that publically trans, tho" thing is unlikely to go away)
(The whole "it is too dangerous to be that publically trans, tho" thing is unlikely to go away)
January 24, 2025 at 10:17 PM
Tell you what: a final mission on The Traitors that i not only *could* do, but actively *want* to do? My reasons not to apply are shrinking.
(The whole "it is too dangerous to be that publically trans, tho" thing is unlikely to go away)
(The whole "it is too dangerous to be that publically trans, tho" thing is unlikely to go away)
Went to a new gym today and honestly, I'm so excited about the locker room. One, unisex locker room. There are individual (lockable) shower/ change cubicles.
You know why this is so exciting? TERFs would fucking *implode* at the sight of it. My feeling of safety here is through the *roof*.
You know why this is so exciting? TERFs would fucking *implode* at the sight of it. My feeling of safety here is through the *roof*.
January 22, 2025 at 10:50 PM
Went to a new gym today and honestly, I'm so excited about the locker room. One, unisex locker room. There are individual (lockable) shower/ change cubicles.
You know why this is so exciting? TERFs would fucking *implode* at the sight of it. My feeling of safety here is through the *roof*.
You know why this is so exciting? TERFs would fucking *implode* at the sight of it. My feeling of safety here is through the *roof*.
I'm starting a new course via work. Mostly box-ticking rather than expecting new info, but my hopes are further lowered by having to do MBTI and "emotional intelligence" tests before we even start. Oh look, pseudo-science!
January 13, 2025 at 3:07 PM
I'm starting a new course via work. Mostly box-ticking rather than expecting new info, but my hopes are further lowered by having to do MBTI and "emotional intelligence" tests before we even start. Oh look, pseudo-science!
Happy New Year!
My resolutions include nurturing a daily writing habit, continuing to love my darlings, being more of a man than every penis-wearing transphobe in the world, and ruthlessly telling everyone who offers me hate how they should fuck all the way off.
My resolutions include nurturing a daily writing habit, continuing to love my darlings, being more of a man than every penis-wearing transphobe in the world, and ruthlessly telling everyone who offers me hate how they should fuck all the way off.
January 1, 2025 at 12:37 AM
Happy New Year!
My resolutions include nurturing a daily writing habit, continuing to love my darlings, being more of a man than every penis-wearing transphobe in the world, and ruthlessly telling everyone who offers me hate how they should fuck all the way off.
My resolutions include nurturing a daily writing habit, continuing to love my darlings, being more of a man than every penis-wearing transphobe in the world, and ruthlessly telling everyone who offers me hate how they should fuck all the way off.
Just to be clear: I'm not a follow-back guy. I follow folk who post stuff I like/ care about.
I post for *me*. If you choose to follow, cool. If you don't, also fine.
Demanding follow-back is bullshit behaviour, and I'm not interested.
I post for *me*. If you choose to follow, cool. If you don't, also fine.
Demanding follow-back is bullshit behaviour, and I'm not interested.
December 31, 2024 at 4:32 AM
Just to be clear: I'm not a follow-back guy. I follow folk who post stuff I like/ care about.
I post for *me*. If you choose to follow, cool. If you don't, also fine.
Demanding follow-back is bullshit behaviour, and I'm not interested.
I post for *me*. If you choose to follow, cool. If you don't, also fine.
Demanding follow-back is bullshit behaviour, and I'm not interested.
Yesterday I wrote (by hand!) a huge chunk for the novel I've been stuck on for three years.
Today I've realised a looming deadline on another project, so I've got to put my notebook down... but fuck me, that cork BLEW!
Today I've realised a looming deadline on another project, so I've got to put my notebook down... but fuck me, that cork BLEW!
December 28, 2024 at 11:17 AM
Yesterday I wrote (by hand!) a huge chunk for the novel I've been stuck on for three years.
Today I've realised a looming deadline on another project, so I've got to put my notebook down... but fuck me, that cork BLEW!
Today I've realised a looming deadline on another project, so I've got to put my notebook down... but fuck me, that cork BLEW!
Something I really loved this xmas? For the first time, my partner has a car so we could just leave family-time if wanted. Not feeling trapped was BLISSFUL.
(My family just refuse to acknowledge my gender or name, it's rough)
(My family just refuse to acknowledge my gender or name, it's rough)
December 27, 2024 at 9:16 AM
Something I really loved this xmas? For the first time, my partner has a car so we could just leave family-time if wanted. Not feeling trapped was BLISSFUL.
(My family just refuse to acknowledge my gender or name, it's rough)
(My family just refuse to acknowledge my gender or name, it's rough)
Muppets, booze, cheeses for meeses, wrasslin', too much food, YouTube nonsense.
Aw yeah, it Xmas!
Aw yeah, it Xmas!
December 24, 2024 at 9:57 PM
Muppets, booze, cheeses for meeses, wrasslin', too much food, YouTube nonsense.
Aw yeah, it Xmas!
Aw yeah, it Xmas!