Gay & Tonic
@deerene.bsky.social
Writer of fiction for the page and screen.
Artist. Queer. Black AF.
Professional whimsical skiddadler. Jewelry maximalist.
Geriatric millennial. ENM/Poly. Vers.
📍DC
Daniellerene.com
Myfrontporch39.substack.com
Artist. Queer. Black AF.
Professional whimsical skiddadler. Jewelry maximalist.
Geriatric millennial. ENM/Poly. Vers.
📍DC
Daniellerene.com
Myfrontporch39.substack.com
Pinned
SADs coming in with both hands swinging. Need to put some things in place to help navigate
November 14, 2025 at 7:27 PM
SADs coming in with both hands swinging. Need to put some things in place to help navigate
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socials give so much black & white thinking
it’s sad how rigidity — and the belief we’re owed constant comfort — gets in the way of real connection.
avoiding discomfort & conflict creates many of emotionally immature & unavailable folks.
it’s sad how rigidity — and the belief we’re owed constant comfort — gets in the way of real connection.
avoiding discomfort & conflict creates many of emotionally immature & unavailable folks.
November 14, 2025 at 5:50 AM
socials give so much black & white thinking
it’s sad how rigidity — and the belief we’re owed constant comfort — gets in the way of real connection.
avoiding discomfort & conflict creates many of emotionally immature & unavailable folks.
it’s sad how rigidity — and the belief we’re owed constant comfort — gets in the way of real connection.
avoiding discomfort & conflict creates many of emotionally immature & unavailable folks.
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folks are human.
people you love will hurt you.
rupture happens.
& not every rupture is a dealbreaker.
feeling hurt isn’t the same as being harmed.
we, collectively, have to learn how to repair our relationships.
speaking about misunderstanding, not malice.
abuse?
different thing.
people you love will hurt you.
rupture happens.
& not every rupture is a dealbreaker.
feeling hurt isn’t the same as being harmed.
we, collectively, have to learn how to repair our relationships.
speaking about misunderstanding, not malice.
abuse?
different thing.
November 14, 2025 at 5:50 AM
folks are human.
people you love will hurt you.
rupture happens.
& not every rupture is a dealbreaker.
feeling hurt isn’t the same as being harmed.
we, collectively, have to learn how to repair our relationships.
speaking about misunderstanding, not malice.
abuse?
different thing.
people you love will hurt you.
rupture happens.
& not every rupture is a dealbreaker.
feeling hurt isn’t the same as being harmed.
we, collectively, have to learn how to repair our relationships.
speaking about misunderstanding, not malice.
abuse?
different thing.
I need merch to be a true sports girlie if imma watch unrivaled this season.
Question — Why don’t they sell crop tops??
I know @uhohjaye.bsky.social is already tired of me and my questions 😂
Question — Why don’t they sell crop tops??
I know @uhohjaye.bsky.social is already tired of me and my questions 😂
November 14, 2025 at 5:58 PM
I need merch to be a true sports girlie if imma watch unrivaled this season.
Question — Why don’t they sell crop tops??
I know @uhohjaye.bsky.social is already tired of me and my questions 😂
Question — Why don’t they sell crop tops??
I know @uhohjaye.bsky.social is already tired of me and my questions 😂
So many typos my bad. But yall get it.
November 14, 2025 at 4:42 PM
So many typos my bad. But yall get it.
My simplest advice If you do set up an ancestor altar:
Treat it lik family you love.
Keep it clean. Change the water. Add things as it comes to you. And pick a some days to “visit” (pray), consistently.
Treat it lik family you love.
Keep it clean. Change the water. Add things as it comes to you. And pick a some days to “visit” (pray), consistently.
November 14, 2025 at 4:39 PM
My simplest advice If you do set up an ancestor altar:
Treat it lik family you love.
Keep it clean. Change the water. Add things as it comes to you. And pick a some days to “visit” (pray), consistently.
Treat it lik family you love.
Keep it clean. Change the water. Add things as it comes to you. And pick a some days to “visit” (pray), consistently.
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If you've been wanting to put up an ancestral altar, and you haven't, let this serve as your "DO IT"
November 14, 2025 at 3:40 PM
If you've been wanting to put up an ancestral altar, and you haven't, let this serve as your "DO IT"
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I’m a certified bread slut. I can’t resist a warm piece of bread.
November 14, 2025 at 12:28 PM
I’m a certified bread slut. I can’t resist a warm piece of bread.
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*laughs in everything I like is expensive*
November 14, 2025 at 2:16 PM
*laughs in everything I like is expensive*
Hamilton (DC) as the late night spot is so ridiculous. B/c why am I having sushi & a side of short rib pasta and all of it slaps at 1 am?? 😂
November 14, 2025 at 2:45 PM
Hamilton (DC) as the late night spot is so ridiculous. B/c why am I having sushi & a side of short rib pasta and all of it slaps at 1 am?? 😂
?????
The pilot said they don’t have the machine (program?) to start the engine so they are going to have to do it manually???
November 14, 2025 at 1:18 PM
?????
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Clean them ear pods out too
This is your reminder to disinfect your phone
November 14, 2025 at 12:42 AM
Clean them ear pods out too
Unsuccessful in shaking off the cloud but I did try. That counts
November 14, 2025 at 5:54 AM
Unsuccessful in shaking off the cloud but I did try. That counts
Ok let’s see if we can shake off this cloud.
November 13, 2025 at 11:18 PM
Ok let’s see if we can shake off this cloud.
A real yapper!
Not to say my lady is a true yapper, but one time in Cheers, she out talked two people that just did bumps of coke. She doesn't do any drugs and had no idea, just out yapped them boys with pure love for the game.
November 13, 2025 at 11:17 PM
A real yapper!
The “it must be me. I’m the problem” of things is beating my ass.
November 13, 2025 at 11:16 PM
The “it must be me. I’m the problem” of things is beating my ass.
Long live old Atlanta!! Whew yes.
atl is the 90s was just a place.
Black culture was so vibrant and undiluted.
hair culture and entrepreneurship.
stripper culture.
and freaknik.
and sexual libration.
skate culture and MUSIC.
HBCU culture.
the community was so alive.
i miss old atlanta bad.
Black culture was so vibrant and undiluted.
hair culture and entrepreneurship.
stripper culture.
and freaknik.
and sexual libration.
skate culture and MUSIC.
HBCU culture.
the community was so alive.
i miss old atlanta bad.
November 13, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Long live old Atlanta!! Whew yes.
I got dressed too early.
Now I wanna lay down 🫠🫠
Now I wanna lay down 🫠🫠
November 13, 2025 at 10:33 PM
I got dressed too early.
Now I wanna lay down 🫠🫠
Now I wanna lay down 🫠🫠
Putting on a vampy lip and my gawd we are so back!
November 13, 2025 at 10:32 PM
Putting on a vampy lip and my gawd we are so back!
Ok hol on. There’s a Jeezy version. & A Jeezy + latto version. Okay wait. I’ve only heard one lol
November 13, 2025 at 8:37 PM
Ok hol on. There’s a Jeezy version. & A Jeezy + latto version. Okay wait. I’ve only heard one lol
If I had known my last time at Marvin’s (DC) would be the last time I was there. I would have AYEEd a little harder. A post brought them up today and BABY,
A TIMEEEE.
A TIMEEEE.
November 13, 2025 at 8:33 PM
If I had known my last time at Marvin’s (DC) would be the last time I was there. I would have AYEEd a little harder. A post brought them up today and BABY,
A TIMEEEE.
A TIMEEEE.
I need it 😩
Chili was Monday, pho was yesterday, and crab bisque is tonight. Soup season is here.
November 13, 2025 at 6:01 PM
I need it 😩