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Why do you still feel bad after therapy?
Because insight does not stop nervous system activation.
You are human.
The win is recovering faster, not never getting triggered.
I shared a body first protocol to stop the spiral and return to your values.
untappedkeg.substack.com/p/why-you-st...
Because insight does not stop nervous system activation.
You are human.
The win is recovering faster, not never getting triggered.
I shared a body first protocol to stop the spiral and return to your values.
untappedkeg.substack.com/p/why-you-st...
You Did the Work. Why Do You Still Feel Like Shit?
You can do everything right and still feel hurt. The work is not about preventing emotions.
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January 14, 2026 at 10:58 AM
Why do you still feel bad after therapy?
Because insight does not stop nervous system activation.
You are human.
The win is recovering faster, not never getting triggered.
I shared a body first protocol to stop the spiral and return to your values.
untappedkeg.substack.com/p/why-you-st...
Because insight does not stop nervous system activation.
You are human.
The win is recovering faster, not never getting triggered.
I shared a body first protocol to stop the spiral and return to your values.
untappedkeg.substack.com/p/why-you-st...
Authenticity is Understanding Yourself.
Acceptance is Allowing yourself to be that Understanding.
Acceptance is Allowing yourself to be that Understanding.
January 7, 2026 at 3:15 AM
Authenticity is Understanding Yourself.
Acceptance is Allowing yourself to be that Understanding.
Acceptance is Allowing yourself to be that Understanding.
The hardest cravings to manage? The ones that show up during joyful moments. Because nobody teaches you how to feel good WITHOUT numbing yourself first.
December 21, 2025 at 1:28 PM
The hardest cravings to manage? The ones that show up during joyful moments. Because nobody teaches you how to feel good WITHOUT numbing yourself first.
A craving isn't a sign that you're failing; it is just data.
It is information.
When we approach that feeling with curiosity instead of shame, we stop fighting ourselves and start learning what we actually need in that moment.
It is information.
When we approach that feeling with curiosity instead of shame, we stop fighting ourselves and start learning what we actually need in that moment.
December 19, 2025 at 2:40 PM
A craving isn't a sign that you're failing; it is just data.
It is information.
When we approach that feeling with curiosity instead of shame, we stop fighting ourselves and start learning what we actually need in that moment.
It is information.
When we approach that feeling with curiosity instead of shame, we stop fighting ourselves and start learning what we actually need in that moment.
Months, or years, sober and still romanticizing alcohol?
You are not broken.... your brain is doing what it learned.
In my free Cravings workshop I will show you why cravings hit, why they move to sugar or work, and the exact tools to turn triggers into choices.
You are not broken.... your brain is doing what it learned.
In my free Cravings workshop I will show you why cravings hit, why they move to sugar or work, and the exact tools to turn triggers into choices.
HOW TO CRUSH HOLIDAY CRAVINGS WITHOUT WILLPOWER
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December 18, 2025 at 12:20 PM
Months, or years, sober and still romanticizing alcohol?
You are not broken.... your brain is doing what it learned.
In my free Cravings workshop I will show you why cravings hit, why they move to sugar or work, and the exact tools to turn triggers into choices.
You are not broken.... your brain is doing what it learned.
In my free Cravings workshop I will show you why cravings hit, why they move to sugar or work, and the exact tools to turn triggers into choices.
If you get a craving this holiday season, don’t shame yourself.
A craving isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s just your nervous system asking for a state change.
It’s information… not a threat.
A craving isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s just your nervous system asking for a state change.
It’s information… not a threat.
December 18, 2025 at 1:28 AM
If you get a craving this holiday season, don’t shame yourself.
A craving isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s just your nervous system asking for a state change.
It’s information… not a threat.
A craving isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s just your nervous system asking for a state change.
It’s information… not a threat.
You have the tools. You know why. So why are the holidays so hard to not drink alcohol?
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You Know What to Do. So Why Can’t You Actually Do It When Your Mom Asks That Question?
You’ve been sober for months.
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November 25, 2025 at 2:22 PM
You have the tools. You know why. So why are the holidays so hard to not drink alcohol?
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No matter how hard you try to control the cards you’re going to be dealt… You’re still NOT the dealer.
November 19, 2025 at 11:06 PM
No matter how hard you try to control the cards you’re going to be dealt… You’re still NOT the dealer.
I used to be resigned to the fact that I had a massive Inner Asshole that was never going to shut up. Especially when I stopped drinking alcohol. Turns out it wasn’t true, I just had to learn new skills, specifically how to ask myself questions effectively. #SelfDiscovery #Sober
November 18, 2025 at 9:46 PM
I used to be resigned to the fact that I had a massive Inner Asshole that was never going to shut up. Especially when I stopped drinking alcohol. Turns out it wasn’t true, I just had to learn new skills, specifically how to ask myself questions effectively. #SelfDiscovery #Sober
I wrote a blog about myself and my story. It’s really about where I started and where I am now… from Hating myself and resenting my kids for loving a “piece of shit” (Me! Their Dad…) to being a friend to myself.
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Finding Myself After Quitting Drinking: From Numb to Present
How I discovered myself during the worst years of my life
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November 11, 2025 at 12:19 PM
I wrote a blog about myself and my story. It’s really about where I started and where I am now… from Hating myself and resenting my kids for loving a “piece of shit” (Me! Their Dad…) to being a friend to myself.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
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In realistic trauma recovery, we need to remind ourselves, over & over, that it's safe to make mistakes. That doesn't mean we love it, or we're cavalier about it-- it means we're not going to punish or shame ourselves for being human.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
October 1, 2025 at 8:11 PM
In realistic trauma recovery, we need to remind ourselves, over & over, that it's safe to make mistakes. That doesn't mean we love it, or we're cavalier about it-- it means we're not going to punish or shame ourselves for being human.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
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Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
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That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic isn’t trying to help you. It’s trying to keep you safe by keeping you small.
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October 2, 2025 at 5:30 PM
That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
What if… we changed the definition of Perfection to taking Messy Action?
At least internally for ourselves.
At least internally for ourselves.
September 27, 2025 at 6:39 PM
What if… we changed the definition of Perfection to taking Messy Action?
At least internally for ourselves.
At least internally for ourselves.
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"Letting go" isn't a decision. It's a skill that involves acknowledging & honoring our feelings, coupled w/ redirecting our focus & affirming our new story.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
August 23, 2025 at 3:10 PM
"Letting go" isn't a decision. It's a skill that involves acknowledging & honoring our feelings, coupled w/ redirecting our focus & affirming our new story.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
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Friendliness isn't always a sign of trustworthiness. Warmth is easy to fake.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
August 2, 2025 at 4:54 PM
Friendliness isn't always a sign of trustworthiness. Warmth is easy to fake.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
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People who cheat on their spouses are more likely to cheat at work, too.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
July 24, 2025 at 2:01 PM
People who cheat on their spouses are more likely to cheat at work, too.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
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I AM SHRIEKING 💀🤣
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
July 22, 2025 at 7:16 PM
I AM SHRIEKING 💀🤣
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Think of your subconscious beliefs like Filters. Everything you take in for information is run through them. Everything.
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
July 6, 2025 at 6:29 PM
Think of your subconscious beliefs like Filters. Everything you take in for information is run through them. Everything.
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
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The best way to gauge others’ values isn’t to ask them directly. It’s to find out who they respect.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
June 27, 2025 at 4:04 PM
The best way to gauge others’ values isn’t to ask them directly. It’s to find out who they respect.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
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Making amends w/ the "parts" of ourselves we've been conditioned to ignore or belittle is an ongoing part of daily recovery for many trauma survivors.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
June 7, 2025 at 1:31 AM
Making amends w/ the "parts" of ourselves we've been conditioned to ignore or belittle is an ongoing part of daily recovery for many trauma survivors.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
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3 years ago, my 4-year-old understood emotions better than I did at 35.
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
May 30, 2025 at 1:33 AM
3 years ago, my 4-year-old understood emotions better than I did at 35.
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
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The most important part of an apology is not saying sorry. It's taking responsibility for what you did wrong and taking action to make it right.
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
May 28, 2025 at 2:42 PM
The most important part of an apology is not saying sorry. It's taking responsibility for what you did wrong and taking action to make it right.
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
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Hello twitter emigres! If you are here, poking around, a bit confused—a lot of the football folks you know are already on this app! Smash the subscribe button on this starter pack and you’ll instantly have a timeline 👇
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May 24, 2025 at 2:38 PM
Hello twitter emigres! If you are here, poking around, a bit confused—a lot of the football folks you know are already on this app! Smash the subscribe button on this starter pack and you’ll instantly have a timeline 👇
go.bsky.app/8RH6KbH
go.bsky.app/8RH6KbH