love this a lot 🩷

So, patriarchy very much wants *us* to see trans(het) women as a kind of hypersexual gay "man", but we can see them as women, and the synthesis of this leads us to transmisogynistic degendering, a more interesting conclusion than "they're just gay" or "it's only misogyny, they're valid women"

On the one hand, patriachy very much wants to see trans men as a kind of embarrassed woman, but we can see them for men, and the synthesis is of this leads us "transemasculation" a more interesting conclusion than just "its misogyny, they're just women" or "its never misogyny, they're super valid"

What paradox cases like this ask us to do is reconsider our standing views of reality.

Trans men are legitimately men but are oppressed by misogyny.

Het trans women are legitimately het but oppressed by homophobia.

It can feel bad to talk about this way, because it seems to be ceding to misgendering, and so I don't blame anyone who dislikes that.

But it's a simple case of the spiral principle—something that's contradictory on one level can be harmonious on another.