Everything we do to fight fascism will be seen as too extreme, and too early. In reality, history shows that things were usually too late and too moderate.

And like...i get it. You were raised to believe that protecting yourself was disrespect. I'm not trying to change your belief. I just happen to believe that letting anyone hit me is disrespect, too.

I'm laughing because every time i tell that story people go "uh oh! I know she tore that ass up after that!"

And no. I would never hit my mother. But i also decided she would never hit me again, either. And she hasn't. Nobody on earth is hitting me and i just LET them.

Ass whippings teach the child not to tear up the store from fear of you and getting their ass whipped. I would like the child to learn not tear up the store because there are more appropriate ways of dealing with their emotions and…

Proactive and preventive parenting instead of reactive parenting 🖤🖤🖤

That ain’t taught with ass whippings. That’s the problem, we want easy solutions. It’s taught with time, modeling, and work of incorporating and enforcing structure and discipline

That child doesn’t need an ass whipping but that may need some firm limits, boundaries, and consequences along with love and connection. That child may need lessons in respect, consideration, and community.

However, I need us to sit with the truth that unmet needs can come in the form of lack of limits, boundaries, and consequences too. 🖤🖤🖤

Misbehavior (acting out and acting is is communicating unmet needs, BioPsychoSocial.