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I am a therapist and publishing my first book on May 9th called Heir of Narcissism that looks at ADHD through a lens of avoidance symptoms of PTSD related to Narcissistic abuse and/of highly critical parenting.
CPTSD often makes the survivors of it believe they are the problem. When they finally ask for help and disclose their pain, we do not need to question it in a way that makes them run back into the shadows. #BelieveThem #Trauma #Survivor #Healing #Support
August 22, 2025 at 6:30 PM
CPTSD often makes the survivors of it believe they are the problem. When they finally ask for help and disclose their pain, we do not need to question it in a way that makes them run back into the shadows. #BelieveThem #Trauma #Survivor #Healing #Support
Invalidation of emotions is often used to make the uncomfortable ones go away. It only makes one side of the relationship suffer, alone and in silence.
Advocate for yourself, set boundaries, and if after trying this hard nothing changes... #Safety #Codependency #Toxic #Relationships #Boundaries
Advocate for yourself, set boundaries, and if after trying this hard nothing changes... #Safety #Codependency #Toxic #Relationships #Boundaries
August 20, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Invalidation of emotions is often used to make the uncomfortable ones go away. It only makes one side of the relationship suffer, alone and in silence.
Advocate for yourself, set boundaries, and if after trying this hard nothing changes... #Safety #Codependency #Toxic #Relationships #Boundaries
Advocate for yourself, set boundaries, and if after trying this hard nothing changes... #Safety #Codependency #Toxic #Relationships #Boundaries
It is in these times we must pull the relationship like the cape of a bull fighter and be willing to step back until they respect the boundary. #Boundaries #Toxic #Relationships #Therapy #Narcissist
August 18, 2025 at 1:11 PM
It is in these times we must pull the relationship like the cape of a bull fighter and be willing to step back until they respect the boundary. #Boundaries #Toxic #Relationships #Therapy #Narcissist
Not everyone is the same. However, we tend to start off with the same equipment that changes based on experience. Validation often if understanding if my experience were the same as yours, I too would feel the way that you feel. #Validation #Therapy #Trauma #Healing
August 13, 2025 at 11:21 PM
Not everyone is the same. However, we tend to start off with the same equipment that changes based on experience. Validation often if understanding if my experience were the same as yours, I too would feel the way that you feel. #Validation #Therapy #Trauma #Healing
Boundaries can be hard to set, and we aren't always lucky enough to set them when everything is going right. In fact, many boundaries are set during times of stress in a relationship. We use these boundaries to build bridges that strengthen the relationship. Even if it's hard. #Boundaries #Healing
August 11, 2025 at 1:09 PM
Boundaries can be hard to set, and we aren't always lucky enough to set them when everything is going right. In fact, many boundaries are set during times of stress in a relationship. We use these boundaries to build bridges that strengthen the relationship. Even if it's hard. #Boundaries #Healing
Neurodivergence has some funny quirks. Sometimes a person with ADHD can look narcissistic (Hence my book Heir of Narcissism). I personally hate being perceived, but I feel there is value in the book. So at least for this week, I will be posting some tiktok's, reels, and skylight videos. #Marketing
May 8, 2025 at 1:38 PM
Neurodivergence has some funny quirks. Sometimes a person with ADHD can look narcissistic (Hence my book Heir of Narcissism). I personally hate being perceived, but I feel there is value in the book. So at least for this week, I will be posting some tiktok's, reels, and skylight videos. #Marketing
We grow up in homes with people who are emotionally immature with a fawning response that makes sure to hide our own feelings keeping the peace. We aren't allowed to feel anger toward others who we actually are mad at, we turn that anger inward and feel guilt. We start to beat ourselves up. #Trauma
May 7, 2025 at 1:57 PM
We grow up in homes with people who are emotionally immature with a fawning response that makes sure to hide our own feelings keeping the peace. We aren't allowed to feel anger toward others who we actually are mad at, we turn that anger inward and feel guilt. We start to beat ourselves up. #Trauma
Heir of Narcissism out Friday 5/9! The avoidant symptoms of CPTSD certainly could be seen as similar to the symptoms of ADHD listed in the DSM 5 and the symptoms beyond diagnosis. Complex trauma is a heavy thing to carry on top of neurodivergence. #ADHD #Book spacebetweenthewords.com/heirofnarcis...
May 6, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Heir of Narcissism out Friday 5/9! The avoidant symptoms of CPTSD certainly could be seen as similar to the symptoms of ADHD listed in the DSM 5 and the symptoms beyond diagnosis. Complex trauma is a heavy thing to carry on top of neurodivergence. #ADHD #Book spacebetweenthewords.com/heirofnarcis...
May 6, 2025 at 1:29 AM
May 6, 2025 at 12:11 AM
Here is more of my cover for the book I wrote on the possible connection between ADHD and CPTSD from narcissistic abuse. Heir of Narcissism comes out on 5/9. It contains much of my understanding as a therapist, as I fear it might be the only book I write due to ADHD. #Book #ADHD #PTSD #Trauma #Heir
May 5, 2025 at 1:09 PM
I wrote a book that looks at the correlation between ADHD and avoidant symptoms of CPTSD that can develop through the narcissistic abuse cycle.
Here's a taste of my cover if you haven't already been to the website and spoiled it like my ADHD does on Wikipedia anytime a show ends on a cliffhanger.
Here's a taste of my cover if you haven't already been to the website and spoiled it like my ADHD does on Wikipedia anytime a show ends on a cliffhanger.
May 4, 2025 at 1:01 PM
I wrote a book that looks at the correlation between ADHD and avoidant symptoms of CPTSD that can develop through the narcissistic abuse cycle.
Here's a taste of my cover if you haven't already been to the website and spoiled it like my ADHD does on Wikipedia anytime a show ends on a cliffhanger.
Here's a taste of my cover if you haven't already been to the website and spoiled it like my ADHD does on Wikipedia anytime a show ends on a cliffhanger.
We neurospicy folk take being told we aren't normal to mean so much is out fault, rather than a world that refuses to adjust. So I wrote a book that addresses this internalization of blame called Heir of Narcissism coming out on 5/9! #Book #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Healing #Shame
May 3, 2025 at 3:56 PM
We neurospicy folk take being told we aren't normal to mean so much is out fault, rather than a world that refuses to adjust. So I wrote a book that addresses this internalization of blame called Heir of Narcissism coming out on 5/9! #Book #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Healing #Shame
Symptoms of ADHD appear like the avoidant symptoms in PTSD. I wrote a book that explored these correlative connections between the development of ADHD and the environmental factors. Check out Heir of Narcissism set to release on 5/9! #CPTSD #Trauma #ADHD #Nurture #Narcissism
May 2, 2025 at 1:20 PM
Symptoms of ADHD appear like the avoidant symptoms in PTSD. I wrote a book that explored these correlative connections between the development of ADHD and the environmental factors. Check out Heir of Narcissism set to release on 5/9! #CPTSD #Trauma #ADHD #Nurture #Narcissism
The truth is that the knowledge is one aspect of therapy. Trauma disrupts the connection between what we know and what we feel. Therapy helps to integrate those two things again. Knowing is not enough. Now we have to feel. #Feelings #Rational #Emotional #Wise #Trauma
May 2, 2025 at 5:11 AM
The truth is that the knowledge is one aspect of therapy. Trauma disrupts the connection between what we know and what we feel. Therapy helps to integrate those two things again. Knowing is not enough. Now we have to feel. #Feelings #Rational #Emotional #Wise #Trauma
Your boundary controls other's access to you. Their manipulation controls their access to you. The true difference is about control.
Boundaries are a self-focused expectation. People are allowed to walk away if they don't agree with my boundary; no questions asked. #Boundaries #Consent #Control
Boundaries are a self-focused expectation. People are allowed to walk away if they don't agree with my boundary; no questions asked. #Boundaries #Consent #Control
April 28, 2025 at 1:09 PM
Your boundary controls other's access to you. Their manipulation controls their access to you. The true difference is about control.
Boundaries are a self-focused expectation. People are allowed to walk away if they don't agree with my boundary; no questions asked. #Boundaries #Consent #Control
Boundaries are a self-focused expectation. People are allowed to walk away if they don't agree with my boundary; no questions asked. #Boundaries #Consent #Control
Conditional love has expectations that are leveraged through affection and attention. It is different in the way we control love based on results. Conditional love is a form of codependency. It is intolerant of not meeting expectations. Unconditional love is tolerant, but doesn't accept harm. #Love
April 27, 2025 at 6:25 PM
Conditional love has expectations that are leveraged through affection and attention. It is different in the way we control love based on results. Conditional love is a form of codependency. It is intolerant of not meeting expectations. Unconditional love is tolerant, but doesn't accept harm. #Love
"I can't hurt the person I love if I am a good person or truly love this person." The solution seems easy; comfort the person you love. Too bad codependency is not that easy. It is intolerant of the other person being hurt and tries to force them into positive feelings or distance from the pain.
April 26, 2025 at 1:09 PM
"I can't hurt the person I love if I am a good person or truly love this person." The solution seems easy; comfort the person you love. Too bad codependency is not that easy. It is intolerant of the other person being hurt and tries to force them into positive feelings or distance from the pain.
Relationships that make use feel like everything is our fault and prevent every attempt we make to fix these "mistakes" are toxic. They are toxic because they cause us harm and don't allow us to fight, run, or ask for help. They tell us the only way to manage is to freeze and accept our punishment.
April 25, 2025 at 2:59 PM
Relationships that make use feel like everything is our fault and prevent every attempt we make to fix these "mistakes" are toxic. They are toxic because they cause us harm and don't allow us to fight, run, or ask for help. They tell us the only way to manage is to freeze and accept our punishment.
Expectations can be the doom of happiness. The difference is expectation. We set ourselves up to not experience joy. Let's have less expectation in life and start to enjoy what we find along the way. #Happiness #Expectations #Therapy #Acceptance
April 24, 2025 at 1:38 PM
Expectations can be the doom of happiness. The difference is expectation. We set ourselves up to not experience joy. Let's have less expectation in life and start to enjoy what we find along the way. #Happiness #Expectations #Therapy #Acceptance