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I am a therapist and publishing my first book on May 9th called Heir of Narcissism that looks at ADHD through a lens of avoidance symptoms of PTSD related to Narcissistic abuse and/of highly critical parenting.
Deconstructing: Incels

The term "incel" refers to men who are involuntarily celibate and often align with toxic masculinity. They blame feminism for their situation, embodying a "black pill" mindset filled with resentment and aggression towards women. Deconstructing this identity involves…
Deconstructing: Incels
The term "incel" refers to men who are involuntarily celibate and often align with toxic masculinity. They blame feminism for their situation, embodying a "black pill" mindset filled with resentment and aggression towards women. Deconstructing this identity involves addressing deep-seated issues rather than projecting blame onto others. Societal sympathy exists, but healing requires personal responsibility.
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December 8, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Heir of Narcissism: Exploring ADHD in the Context of Complex Trauma Audiobook

Living with ADHD can feel like the world wasn't made for you. But what if it's really a superpower in the wrong context? Too often, a neurodivergent person can feel like the world wasn't made for them. They take this…
Heir of Narcissism: Exploring ADHD in the Context of Complex Trauma Audiobook
Living with ADHD can feel like the world wasn't made for you. But what if it's really a superpower in the wrong context? Too often, a neurodivergent person can feel like the world wasn't made for them. They take this perspective and blame themselves for issues they can't fix in others, and yet they rarely take credit for their successes. Clinicians, people with ADHD, and their family may struggle to understand this disorder beyond the diagnostic criteria.
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December 7, 2025 at 11:47 PM
Heir of Narcissism: Exploring ADHD in the Context of Complex Trauma Ebook

Living with ADHD can feel like the world wasn't made for you. But what if it's really a superpower in the wrong context? Too often, a neurodivergent person can feel like the world wasn't made for them. They take this…
Heir of Narcissism: Exploring ADHD in the Context of Complex Trauma Ebook
Living with ADHD can feel like the world wasn't made for you. But what if it's really a superpower in the wrong context? Too often, a neurodivergent person can feel like the world wasn't made for them. They take this perspective and blame themselves for issues they can't fix in others, and yet they rarely take credit for their successes. Clinicians, people with ADHD, and their family may struggle to understand this disorder beyond the diagnostic criteria.
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November 27, 2025 at 3:56 PM
Deconstructing: Toxic Masculinity

Toxic masculinity perpetuates a hierarchy where men are ranked, fostering harmful behaviors and validating aggression toward others. It misguides young men, often radicalizing them by blaming women for their struggles, while discouraging self-reflection. This…
Deconstructing: Toxic Masculinity
Toxic masculinity perpetuates a hierarchy where men are ranked, fostering harmful behaviors and validating aggression toward others. It misguides young men, often radicalizing them by blaming women for their struggles, while discouraging self-reflection. This oppressive system stifles individual growth and promotes violence instead of personal empowerment and true masculinity.
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November 26, 2025 at 2:12 AM
Deceit as a defense mechanism.

Lying often stems from early experiences where truth and deceit faced punishment, leading individuals to choose lies for emotional safety. Building trust with a liar is challenging; loved ones may need to prioritize their emotional well-being. Therapy can help both…
Deceit as a defense mechanism.
Lying often stems from early experiences where truth and deceit faced punishment, leading individuals to choose lies for emotional safety. Building trust with a liar is challenging; loved ones may need to prioritize their emotional well-being. Therapy can help both the liar and those affected, emphasizing the importance of creating safe environments for honesty.
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November 25, 2025 at 1:58 AM
What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the intentional act of paying attention to oneself, sensations, emotions, and surroundings without judgment. It involves exploring internal emotions and can be practiced by reframing experiences with less biased language. Simple exercises, like observing the…
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the intentional act of paying attention to oneself, sensations, emotions, and surroundings without judgment. It involves exploring internal emotions and can be practiced by reframing experiences with less biased language. Simple exercises, like observing the world for a minute, can enhance mindfulness skills and perspective.
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November 11, 2025 at 1:16 AM
Trauma: I went through it so…

The post discusses two responses to trauma: the belief that others should struggle for growth and the desire to protect children from pain. It advocates for a balance that fosters autonomy while providing emotional support. This helps children develop resilience and…
Trauma: I went through it so…
The post discusses two responses to trauma: the belief that others should struggle for growth and the desire to protect children from pain. It advocates for a balance that fosters autonomy while providing emotional support. This helps children develop resilience and prevents feelings of isolation or inadequacy, promoting healthier outcomes in life.
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November 4, 2025 at 1:34 AM
Can I bring someone to my therapy session?

Bringing someone to therapy can be beneficial but should be agreed upon with your therapist. Partners or family members may assist communication or support boundary-setting. However, their presence can also be manipulative. Always discuss the intention…
Can I bring someone to my therapy session?
Bringing someone to therapy can be beneficial but should be agreed upon with your therapist. Partners or family members may assist communication or support boundary-setting. However, their presence can also be manipulative. Always discuss the intention and goals with your therapist to ensure a constructive outcome in the session.
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October 28, 2025 at 12:46 AM
Why Burnout is Bad for Business

Burnout arises from harsh work conditions and unrealistic self-expectations, negatively impacting both individuals and companies. Recent research indicates that employee burnout costs businesses significant amounts annually—potentially up to $5.04 million for 1,000…
Why Burnout is Bad for Business
Burnout arises from harsh work conditions and unrealistic self-expectations, negatively impacting both individuals and companies. Recent research indicates that employee burnout costs businesses significant amounts annually—potentially up to $5.04 million for 1,000 employees. Ethically and financially, promoting healthy work environments is crucial, as burnout can lead to lawsuits and reduced employee retention.
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October 15, 2025 at 1:45 PM
The appeal of sad expression

A recent study explored the reasons we might enjoy engaging in sad media. Eric W. Dolan writes about these studies on PsyPost. It explored the ideas that we might enjoy engaging with sad material based on the reality of said material, whether or not it would be…
The appeal of sad expression
A recent study explored the reasons we might enjoy engaging in sad media. Eric W. Dolan writes about these studies on PsyPost. It explored the ideas that we might enjoy engaging with sad material based on the reality of said material, whether or not it would be considered art, and how likely our own appropriation of the media was. It turns out that we like sad art that we can believe is real (rather than fictional) as it allows us to feel the art is speaking our own sadness into the world.
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October 13, 2025 at 11:41 PM
What is resentment?

In the world of Narcotics Anonymous (NA) or Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) it is often said that resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. Resentment is an anger that we feel toward others and is often unspoken. Thus the only person suffering from this…
What is resentment?
In the world of Narcotics Anonymous (NA) or Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) it is often said that resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. Resentment is an anger that we feel toward others and is often unspoken. Thus the only person suffering from this anger is ourselves. Over time, this anger turns to poison that eats us from the inside.
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September 29, 2025 at 12:28 PM
What is vulnerability?

Vulnerability involves being open with others, sharing personal aspects that could be used against us, ultimately fostering trust and deeper emotional connections. While it strengthens relationships, boundaries are essential to avoid overwhelming others. Gradual sharing…
What is vulnerability?
Vulnerability involves being open with others, sharing personal aspects that could be used against us, ultimately fostering trust and deeper emotional connections. While it strengthens relationships, boundaries are essential to avoid overwhelming others. Gradual sharing promotes secure attachments. Engaging in conversations about vulnerability can enhance relationships further.
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September 22, 2025 at 12:31 PM
Reframing “Me time”

Reframing is a powerful perspective-changing tool that influences how we perceive situations, distinguishing between good and bad based on our judgment. By altering context and language, we can shift feelings about experiences, like alone time, thereby enhancing wellbeing. As…
Reframing “Me time”
Reframing is a powerful perspective-changing tool that influences how we perceive situations, distinguishing between good and bad based on our judgment. By altering context and language, we can shift feelings about experiences, like alone time, thereby enhancing wellbeing. As demonstrated in Shakespeare's Hamlet, perception shapes our reality and mental health.
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September 15, 2025 at 12:59 PM
Support systems: war of attrition.

Mental health issues like depression and anxiety can be alleviated with a strong support system. Relationships are vital but tend to fade over time. It's essential to continually cultivate new connections, as relying on one person can lead to codependency.…
Support systems: war of attrition.
Mental health issues like depression and anxiety can be alleviated with a strong support system. Relationships are vital but tend to fade over time. It's essential to continually cultivate new connections, as relying on one person can lead to codependency. Engaging in social activities and reaching out to others can help rebuild support networks effectively.
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September 9, 2025 at 12:42 AM
Reading the room: Social Norms.

Emotional feedback from close relationships can create fluctuating rules that complicate interactions, particularly with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals. It's essential to reassess rules made in anger once emotions stabilize, ensuring expectations…
Reading the room: Social Norms.
Emotional feedback from close relationships can create fluctuating rules that complicate interactions, particularly with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals. It's essential to reassess rules made in anger once emotions stabilize, ensuring expectations are agreed upon and not imposed through emotional manipulation. Open communication is key to addressing these issues effectively.
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September 2, 2025 at 12:49 AM
Porn Addiction and Self-Esteem

Exploring the unique aspects of pornography addiction compared self-esteem. It highlights a correlation between lower self-esteem, vulnerability issues, and problematic pornography usage. It suggests that increased self-acceptance reduces such usage, while guilt and…
Porn Addiction and Self-Esteem
Exploring the unique aspects of pornography addiction compared self-esteem. It highlights a correlation between lower self-esteem, vulnerability issues, and problematic pornography usage. It suggests that increased self-acceptance reduces such usage, while guilt and shame can create a cycle of addiction. Confronting vulnerability is essential for recovery.
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August 25, 2025 at 4:20 PM
CPTSD often makes the survivors of it believe they are the problem. When they finally ask for help and disclose their pain, we do not need to question it in a way that makes them run back into the shadows. #BelieveThem #Trauma #Survivor #Healing #Support
August 22, 2025 at 6:30 PM
Invalidation of emotions is often used to make the uncomfortable ones go away. It only makes one side of the relationship suffer, alone and in silence.

Advocate for yourself, set boundaries, and if after trying this hard nothing changes... #Safety #Codependency #Toxic #Relationships #Boundaries
August 20, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Harm Reduction: Cannabis v Prescription

Ashley Bradford's article highlights a study indicating that cannabis legalization is linked to reduced prescription refill rates for anxiety medications, such as benzos and antidepressants. This suggests that cannabis, being non-addictive and having a low…
Harm Reduction: Cannabis v Prescription
Ashley Bradford's article highlights a study indicating that cannabis legalization is linked to reduced prescription refill rates for anxiety medications, such as benzos and antidepressants. This suggests that cannabis, being non-addictive and having a low overdose risk, may serve as a safer alternative for anxiety treatment, advocating for further acceptance and potential insurance coverage.
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August 18, 2025 at 1:53 PM
It is in these times we must pull the relationship like the cape of a bull fighter and be willing to step back until they respect the boundary. #Boundaries #Toxic #Relationships #Therapy #Narcissist
August 18, 2025 at 1:11 PM
We don't need to thank people for not hurting us. Not harming others is the norm, or it should be. #Abuse #Violence #Trauma #Therapy #Healing
August 15, 2025 at 11:23 PM
Not everyone is the same. However, we tend to start off with the same equipment that changes based on experience. Validation often if understanding if my experience were the same as yours, I too would feel the way that you feel. #Validation #Therapy #Trauma #Healing
August 13, 2025 at 11:21 PM
Thoughts and prayers and alcohol

Bianca Setionago's article in PsyPost highlights the overlooked consequences of mass shootings, noting a two-year increase in alcohol sales in affected communities. A University of Wisconsin-Madison study links this rise to community trauma and vicarious…
Thoughts and prayers and alcohol
Bianca Setionago's article in PsyPost highlights the overlooked consequences of mass shootings, noting a two-year increase in alcohol sales in affected communities. A University of Wisconsin-Madison study links this rise to community trauma and vicarious traumatization, emphasizing that thoughts and prayers can suppress open expressions of grief and exacerbate coping through alcohol.
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August 11, 2025 at 1:56 PM
Boundaries can be hard to set, and we aren't always lucky enough to set them when everything is going right. In fact, many boundaries are set during times of stress in a relationship. We use these boundaries to build bridges that strengthen the relationship. Even if it's hard. #Boundaries #Healing
August 11, 2025 at 1:09 PM
The childhood brain and addiction

The article from PsyPost explores brain differences in substance users that precede addiction, challenging the notion that addiction is solely genetic. Dr. Gabor Maté emphasizes emotional needs and brain responses in treating addiction, suggesting effective…
The childhood brain and addiction
The article from PsyPost explores brain differences in substance users that precede addiction, challenging the notion that addiction is solely genetic. Dr. Gabor Maté emphasizes emotional needs and brain responses in treating addiction, suggesting effective approaches beyond genetics. Understanding these factors can improve treatment and support for those struggling with addiction.
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August 4, 2025 at 11:39 AM