Sheila Wray Gregoire
@sheilagregoire.bsky.social
Changing the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage! Author of The Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. Find me at BareMarriage.com. Twitter/X handle @sheilagregoire
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August 22, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Thank you @sheilagregoire.bsky.social!
Wilson insists that children read Hitler's defence of himself, and justification for the Holocaust.
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
August 15, 2025 at 2:41 PM
Wilson insists that children read Hitler's defence of himself, and justification for the Holocaust.
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
In our new book The Marriage You Want, we’re not trying to convince you that marriage is a huge slog that you have to stay in until you die.
We’re trying to show you how to create a marriage that you love—because evidence shows that, when you both work at it, this is very possible!
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We’re trying to show you how to create a marriage that you love—because evidence shows that, when you both work at it, this is very possible!
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July 31, 2025 at 1:15 PM
In our new book The Marriage You Want, we’re not trying to convince you that marriage is a huge slog that you have to stay in until you die.
We’re trying to show you how to create a marriage that you love—because evidence shows that, when you both work at it, this is very possible!
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We’re trying to show you how to create a marriage that you love—because evidence shows that, when you both work at it, this is very possible!
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I wish this was more widely understood.
And I pray The Marriage You Want changes the convo about marriage, just like our book The Great Sex Rescue changed the convo about sex!
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And I pray The Marriage You Want changes the convo about marriage, just like our book The Great Sex Rescue changed the convo about sex!
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July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
I wish this was more widely understood.
And I pray The Marriage You Want changes the convo about marriage, just like our book The Great Sex Rescue changed the convo about sex!
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And I pray The Marriage You Want changes the convo about marriage, just like our book The Great Sex Rescue changed the convo about sex!
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It doesn’t need to be complicated.
It does need to be talked about.
Just like you can’t talk about sex well without mentioning that, it’s supposed to feel good for her too, you similarly can’t talk about marital satisfaction without mentioning uneven mental load.
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It does need to be talked about.
Just like you can’t talk about sex well without mentioning that, it’s supposed to feel good for her too, you similarly can’t talk about marital satisfaction without mentioning uneven mental load.
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July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
It doesn’t need to be complicated.
It does need to be talked about.
Just like you can’t talk about sex well without mentioning that, it’s supposed to feel good for her too, you similarly can’t talk about marital satisfaction without mentioning uneven mental load.
6/7
It does need to be talked about.
Just like you can’t talk about sex well without mentioning that, it’s supposed to feel good for her too, you similarly can’t talk about marital satisfaction without mentioning uneven mental load.
6/7
The peer-reviewed literature is FILLED with articles on how important mental load is.
And Christian books ignore it.
Our new book The Marriage You Want shows how important sharing mental load and dividing up household tasks fairly is. And we present super practical ways you can do this!
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And Christian books ignore it.
Our new book The Marriage You Want shows how important sharing mental load and dividing up household tasks fairly is. And we present super practical ways you can do this!
5/7
July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
The peer-reviewed literature is FILLED with articles on how important mental load is.
And Christian books ignore it.
Our new book The Marriage You Want shows how important sharing mental load and dividing up household tasks fairly is. And we present super practical ways you can do this!
5/7
And Christian books ignore it.
Our new book The Marriage You Want shows how important sharing mental load and dividing up household tasks fairly is. And we present super practical ways you can do this!
5/7
Bestselling books His Needs Her Needs and Marriage on the Rock both claim that men have a GOD-GIVEN NEED for “domestic support”, as if God put into each man the need for his wife to vacuum.
Other books just simply ignore it.
Yet it's the biggest driver of women’s marital unhappiness by far.
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Other books just simply ignore it.
Yet it's the biggest driver of women’s marital unhappiness by far.
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July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
Bestselling books His Needs Her Needs and Marriage on the Rock both claim that men have a GOD-GIVEN NEED for “domestic support”, as if God put into each man the need for his wife to vacuum.
Other books just simply ignore it.
Yet it's the biggest driver of women’s marital unhappiness by far.
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Other books just simply ignore it.
Yet it's the biggest driver of women’s marital unhappiness by far.
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How often have you heard that money and sex are the two biggest marriage issues?
Well, housework and mental load overshadow both of them, by far.
Yet how do evangelical marriage books handle this?
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Well, housework and mental load overshadow both of them, by far.
Yet how do evangelical marriage books handle this?
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July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
How often have you heard that money and sex are the two biggest marriage issues?
Well, housework and mental load overshadow both of them, by far.
Yet how do evangelical marriage books handle this?
3/7
Well, housework and mental load overshadow both of them, by far.
Yet how do evangelical marriage books handle this?
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In our latest study for our book The Marriage You Want, we found something ELSE they’re all ignoring.
We couldn’t find an evangelical marriage book that talked realistically about mental load, even though we found that it impacts marital satisfaction 3x more than sex, and 6x more than money.
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We couldn’t find an evangelical marriage book that talked realistically about mental load, even though we found that it impacts marital satisfaction 3x more than sex, and 6x more than money.
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July 30, 2025 at 2:36 PM
In our latest study for our book The Marriage You Want, we found something ELSE they’re all ignoring.
We couldn’t find an evangelical marriage book that talked realistically about mental load, even though we found that it impacts marital satisfaction 3x more than sex, and 6x more than money.
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We couldn’t find an evangelical marriage book that talked realistically about mental load, even though we found that it impacts marital satisfaction 3x more than sex, and 6x more than money.
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I don’t think so—since these authors are the ones who, through the grapevine, I’ve heard are the most angry at us.
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July 7, 2025 at 1:43 PM
I don’t think so—since these authors are the ones who, through the grapevine, I’ve heard are the most angry at us.
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In a follow-up book, when Fred Stoeker recounts a woman saying “I feel like a human toilet for s3m3n”, he tells her she just needs to understand men.
Do they understand the damage they caused? Do they care?
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Do they understand the damage they caused? Do they care?
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July 7, 2025 at 1:43 PM
In a follow-up book, when Fred Stoeker recounts a woman saying “I feel like a human toilet for s3m3n”, he tells her she just needs to understand men.
Do they understand the damage they caused? Do they care?
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Do they understand the damage they caused? Do they care?
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Yep. And Every Man’s Battle actually has pages and pages about how when the authors told these “truths” to women about men (including their wives) the wives were disgusted and wanted nothing to do with them. And yet they wrote the book anyway, saying women just had to understand how men are.
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July 7, 2025 at 1:43 PM
Yep. And Every Man’s Battle actually has pages and pages about how when the authors told these “truths” to women about men (including their wives) the wives were disgusted and wanted nothing to do with them. And yet they wrote the book anyway, saying women just had to understand how men are.
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I couldn't go to church without assuming the pastor was probably just lusting after every woman in the room or go out in public without feeling like “every man” was just eye-r p ng me. I truly hated men! I've since got through all of that, but that book only made my marriage worse at the time.”
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July 7, 2025 at 1:43 PM
I couldn't go to church without assuming the pastor was probably just lusting after every woman in the room or go out in public without feeling like “every man” was just eye-r p ng me. I truly hated men! I've since got through all of that, but that book only made my marriage worse at the time.”
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