Sheila Wray Gregoire
@sheilagregoire.bsky.social
Changing the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage! Author of The Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. Find me at BareMarriage.com. Twitter/X handle @sheilagregoire
Marriages that harm us are not God’s will.
Marriages that hurt our children are not God’s will.
And marriages where staying together enables someone else to be selfish and cruel—not God’s will.
We make a mockery of God, and of marriage, when we treat it like it is!
Marriages that hurt our children are not God’s will.
And marriages where staying together enables someone else to be selfish and cruel—not God’s will.
We make a mockery of God, and of marriage, when we treat it like it is!
August 26, 2025 at 1:17 PM
Marriages that harm us are not God’s will.
Marriages that hurt our children are not God’s will.
And marriages where staying together enables someone else to be selfish and cruel—not God’s will.
We make a mockery of God, and of marriage, when we treat it like it is!
Marriages that hurt our children are not God’s will.
And marriages where staying together enables someone else to be selfish and cruel—not God’s will.
We make a mockery of God, and of marriage, when we treat it like it is!
Wilson insists that children read Hitler's defence of himself, and justification for the Holocaust.
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
August 15, 2025 at 2:41 PM
Wilson insists that children read Hitler's defence of himself, and justification for the Holocaust.
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
Note how he frames Hitler's rise to power--"a fire broke out in a major public building..."
In Doug Wilson's Omnibus III curriculum, meant for 14-year-olds, he assigns Mein Kampf (by Hitler!).
August 15, 2025 at 2:41 PM
In Doug Wilson's Omnibus III curriculum, meant for 14-year-olds, he assigns Mein Kampf (by Hitler!).
"Marriage is hard." That's taught constantly in evangelical circles!
We need to change that narrative.
LIFE is hard. And marriage adds complexities.
But marriage should make burdens lighter--not be the cause of those burdens.
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We need to change that narrative.
LIFE is hard. And marriage adds complexities.
But marriage should make burdens lighter--not be the cause of those burdens.
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July 31, 2025 at 1:15 PM
"Marriage is hard." That's taught constantly in evangelical circles!
We need to change that narrative.
LIFE is hard. And marriage adds complexities.
But marriage should make burdens lighter--not be the cause of those burdens.
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We need to change that narrative.
LIFE is hard. And marriage adds complexities.
But marriage should make burdens lighter--not be the cause of those burdens.
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I mean, you don't have to consent to lots of things! But we really need to change the narrative.
Sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both.
If sex is only for him--YOU are the one being deprived. It's okay to say, "I won't be treated like a sex toy anymore."
Sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both.
If sex is only for him--YOU are the one being deprived. It's okay to say, "I won't be treated like a sex toy anymore."
July 10, 2025 at 3:25 PM
I mean, you don't have to consent to lots of things! But we really need to change the narrative.
Sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both.
If sex is only for him--YOU are the one being deprived. It's okay to say, "I won't be treated like a sex toy anymore."
Sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both.
If sex is only for him--YOU are the one being deprived. It's okay to say, "I won't be treated like a sex toy anymore."
Don’t use prayer as an excuse not to draw boundaries!
July 8, 2025 at 1:27 PM
Don’t use prayer as an excuse not to draw boundaries!
At first glance this logic makes no sense. How can women be these sexually ravenous temptresses, and at the same time be asexual in marriage?
But there is a commonality, and when you see it, you can’t unsee it: women are at fault for everything, and women exist to serve men.
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But there is a commonality, and when you see it, you can’t unsee it: women are at fault for everything, and women exist to serve men.
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June 17, 2025 at 1:06 PM
At first glance this logic makes no sense. How can women be these sexually ravenous temptresses, and at the same time be asexual in marriage?
But there is a commonality, and when you see it, you can’t unsee it: women are at fault for everything, and women exist to serve men.
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But there is a commonality, and when you see it, you can’t unsee it: women are at fault for everything, and women exist to serve men.
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Ever noticed this?
We’re told simultaneously that the purpose for marriage is holiness, not happiness, but we’re ALSO told that we need to keep our husband happy.
Just an interesting dichotomy, and thank you to commenter LH on Facebook today for pointing this out!
We’re told simultaneously that the purpose for marriage is holiness, not happiness, but we’re ALSO told that we need to keep our husband happy.
Just an interesting dichotomy, and thank you to commenter LH on Facebook today for pointing this out!
June 5, 2025 at 8:31 PM
Ever noticed this?
We’re told simultaneously that the purpose for marriage is holiness, not happiness, but we’re ALSO told that we need to keep our husband happy.
Just an interesting dichotomy, and thank you to commenter LH on Facebook today for pointing this out!
We’re told simultaneously that the purpose for marriage is holiness, not happiness, but we’re ALSO told that we need to keep our husband happy.
Just an interesting dichotomy, and thank you to commenter LH on Facebook today for pointing this out!
If a woman is "choosing" to have sex, but also doesn't want to climax, then she's likely having sex she doesn't really want to have.
Listen in to episode 284 of the Bare Marriage podcast for more on the issues with the book His Needs, Her Needs!
The podcast dropped today!
Listen in to episode 284 of the Bare Marriage podcast for more on the issues with the book His Needs, Her Needs!
The podcast dropped today!
May 22, 2025 at 5:10 PM
If a woman is "choosing" to have sex, but also doesn't want to climax, then she's likely having sex she doesn't really want to have.
Listen in to episode 284 of the Bare Marriage podcast for more on the issues with the book His Needs, Her Needs!
The podcast dropped today!
Listen in to episode 284 of the Bare Marriage podcast for more on the issues with the book His Needs, Her Needs!
The podcast dropped today!
Lying for Jesus isn’t cool.
And just because you think a fake stat “tells a true story” doesn’t mean you get to spread that fake stat.
Instead, it’s worth asking, “if the research doesn’t support what I’m saying, then could it be that I’m actually wrong?”
And just because you think a fake stat “tells a true story” doesn’t mean you get to spread that fake stat.
Instead, it’s worth asking, “if the research doesn’t support what I’m saying, then could it be that I’m actually wrong?”
May 17, 2025 at 1:19 AM
Lying for Jesus isn’t cool.
And just because you think a fake stat “tells a true story” doesn’t mean you get to spread that fake stat.
Instead, it’s worth asking, “if the research doesn’t support what I’m saying, then could it be that I’m actually wrong?”
And just because you think a fake stat “tells a true story” doesn’t mean you get to spread that fake stat.
Instead, it’s worth asking, “if the research doesn’t support what I’m saying, then could it be that I’m actually wrong?”
Biblical counseling doesn’t just mean counseling done by Christians. Instead, it’s a specific school, or type, of counseling which frames problems through a faith/sin lens.
So when you’re at your lowest and most desperate, you’re told that you’re failing God.
So when you’re at your lowest and most desperate, you’re told that you’re failing God.
May 13, 2025 at 3:17 PM
Biblical counseling doesn’t just mean counseling done by Christians. Instead, it’s a specific school, or type, of counseling which frames problems through a faith/sin lens.
So when you’re at your lowest and most desperate, you’re told that you’re failing God.
So when you’re at your lowest and most desperate, you’re told that you’re failing God.
It’s time for something healthy and evidence-based!
Plus it’s time for women’s perspective on marriage to matter too.
Check out The Marriage You Want!
Plus it’s time for women’s perspective on marriage to matter too.
Check out The Marriage You Want!
May 8, 2025 at 8:04 PM
It’s time for something healthy and evidence-based!
Plus it’s time for women’s perspective on marriage to matter too.
Check out The Marriage You Want!
Plus it’s time for women’s perspective on marriage to matter too.
Check out The Marriage You Want!
Woo hoo! And we made the Evangelical Christian Publishers' Association bestselling list too!
Thank you everyone! And if you haven't read it yet--pick it up. It's the book that can change how evangelicals talk about marriage! Now there's finally a healthy alternative.
Thank you everyone! And if you haven't read it yet--pick it up. It's the book that can change how evangelicals talk about marriage! Now there's finally a healthy alternative.
May 6, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Woo hoo! And we made the Evangelical Christian Publishers' Association bestselling list too!
Thank you everyone! And if you haven't read it yet--pick it up. It's the book that can change how evangelicals talk about marriage! Now there's finally a healthy alternative.
Thank you everyone! And if you haven't read it yet--pick it up. It's the book that can change how evangelicals talk about marriage! Now there's finally a healthy alternative.
Debi Pearl thinks the pinnacle for women is staying in a marriage they hate.
Encouraging women to look away when so-called Christian husbands ignore their vows has nothing to do with Jesus.
We can do better.
Check out HEALTHY marriage books like The Marriage You Want instead!
Encouraging women to look away when so-called Christian husbands ignore their vows has nothing to do with Jesus.
We can do better.
Check out HEALTHY marriage books like The Marriage You Want instead!
May 2, 2025 at 5:47 PM
Debi Pearl thinks the pinnacle for women is staying in a marriage they hate.
Encouraging women to look away when so-called Christian husbands ignore their vows has nothing to do with Jesus.
We can do better.
Check out HEALTHY marriage books like The Marriage You Want instead!
Encouraging women to look away when so-called Christian husbands ignore their vows has nothing to do with Jesus.
We can do better.
Check out HEALTHY marriage books like The Marriage You Want instead!
Some of the WORST quotes from the book The Love Dare that we touched on in our podcast today (Bare Marriage episode 280!)
Church: We can do better than this. Let's stop publishing, reading, and recommending marriage books that say such drivel.
Church: We can do better than this. Let's stop publishing, reading, and recommending marriage books that say such drivel.
April 25, 2025 at 1:07 AM
Some of the WORST quotes from the book The Love Dare that we touched on in our podcast today (Bare Marriage episode 280!)
Church: We can do better than this. Let's stop publishing, reading, and recommending marriage books that say such drivel.
Church: We can do better than this. Let's stop publishing, reading, and recommending marriage books that say such drivel.
The book series Every Man’s Battle sold 4 million copies, and revolved around the problems with male lust and porn use.
And yet did it EVER show any compassion for the women who were used in porn?
No. Instead, the “victim” of porn was the man’s purity.
And yet did it EVER show any compassion for the women who were used in porn?
No. Instead, the “victim” of porn was the man’s purity.
April 22, 2025 at 1:41 PM
The book series Every Man’s Battle sold 4 million copies, and revolved around the problems with male lust and porn use.
And yet did it EVER show any compassion for the women who were used in porn?
No. Instead, the “victim” of porn was the man’s purity.
And yet did it EVER show any compassion for the women who were used in porn?
No. Instead, the “victim” of porn was the man’s purity.
From my husband Keith, who often says it best!
Making men the default authority doesn't make a healthy marriage. It reminds me how, in Love & Respect, Eggerichs labels everything he doesn’t like “disrespect.” If his wife brings up an issue he doesn't like, he can just refuse to listen.
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Making men the default authority doesn't make a healthy marriage. It reminds me how, in Love & Respect, Eggerichs labels everything he doesn’t like “disrespect.” If his wife brings up an issue he doesn't like, he can just refuse to listen.
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April 9, 2025 at 7:03 PM
From my husband Keith, who often says it best!
Making men the default authority doesn't make a healthy marriage. It reminds me how, in Love & Respect, Eggerichs labels everything he doesn’t like “disrespect.” If his wife brings up an issue he doesn't like, he can just refuse to listen.
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Making men the default authority doesn't make a healthy marriage. It reminds me how, in Love & Respect, Eggerichs labels everything he doesn’t like “disrespect.” If his wife brings up an issue he doesn't like, he can just refuse to listen.
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DATA is FUN!
Everything we do at Bare Marriage is based on data, not our own personal opinions.
If you’ve followed me for a while, but you’ve never bought any of our books, can I ask you to change that? Our books make the point so much better than social media posts ever can.
Everything we do at Bare Marriage is based on data, not our own personal opinions.
If you’ve followed me for a while, but you’ve never bought any of our books, can I ask you to change that? Our books make the point so much better than social media posts ever can.
April 9, 2025 at 3:44 PM
DATA is FUN!
Everything we do at Bare Marriage is based on data, not our own personal opinions.
If you’ve followed me for a while, but you’ve never bought any of our books, can I ask you to change that? Our books make the point so much better than social media posts ever can.
Everything we do at Bare Marriage is based on data, not our own personal opinions.
If you’ve followed me for a while, but you’ve never bought any of our books, can I ask you to change that? Our books make the point so much better than social media posts ever can.
Being married doesn’t make you an expert on marriage or sex. Being a pastor doesn’t make you an expert on marriage or sex. Being a former sex addict doesn’t make you an expert on porn.
Yet Christian publishers constantly tout authors as “experts”—when they’re not.
Let’s demand more.
Yet Christian publishers constantly tout authors as “experts”—when they’re not.
Let’s demand more.
March 19, 2025 at 6:20 PM
Being married doesn’t make you an expert on marriage or sex. Being a pastor doesn’t make you an expert on marriage or sex. Being a former sex addict doesn’t make you an expert on porn.
Yet Christian publishers constantly tout authors as “experts”—when they’re not.
Let’s demand more.
Yet Christian publishers constantly tout authors as “experts”—when they’re not.
Let’s demand more.
This isn’t rocket science, right? If he has the tie-breaking vote, then her opinions don’t matter as much.
And when she feels like her opinions don’t matter? Marital satisfaction craters.
Check it out in The Marriage You Want!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
And when she feels like her opinions don’t matter? Marital satisfaction craters.
Check it out in The Marriage You Want!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
March 19, 2025 at 2:32 PM
This isn’t rocket science, right? If he has the tie-breaking vote, then her opinions don’t matter as much.
And when she feels like her opinions don’t matter? Marital satisfaction craters.
Check it out in The Marriage You Want!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
And when she feels like her opinions don’t matter? Marital satisfaction craters.
Check it out in The Marriage You Want!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
We actually take Jesus at His word when He said to judge things by their fruit.
We surveyed 7000 people to see what actually creates intimacy, closeness, and fun for our new book The Marriage You Want!
Learn what aspect of marriage dwarfs sex and money in importance!
We surveyed 7000 people to see what actually creates intimacy, closeness, and fun for our new book The Marriage You Want!
Learn what aspect of marriage dwarfs sex and money in importance!
March 17, 2025 at 5:48 PM
We actually take Jesus at His word when He said to judge things by their fruit.
We surveyed 7000 people to see what actually creates intimacy, closeness, and fun for our new book The Marriage You Want!
Learn what aspect of marriage dwarfs sex and money in importance!
We surveyed 7000 people to see what actually creates intimacy, closeness, and fun for our new book The Marriage You Want!
Learn what aspect of marriage dwarfs sex and money in importance!
As Justin said in his Amazon review (so glad men are reading it too!): “I've found most to be a mix of good advice, weird ideas, cringy tips, and some harmful teachings. And while every marriage book says it's different, The Marriage You Want actually is…”
March 16, 2025 at 7:19 PM
As Justin said in his Amazon review (so glad men are reading it too!): “I've found most to be a mix of good advice, weird ideas, cringy tips, and some harmful teachings. And while every marriage book says it's different, The Marriage You Want actually is…”
The Marriage You Want is evidence-based: We’ve got tons of data from our FOURTH big survey, this time of couples (including a matched pair sample!). But all of our findings are also backed up by OTHER peer reviewed studies.
Check it out!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
Check it out!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
March 16, 2025 at 7:19 PM
The Marriage You Want is evidence-based: We’ve got tons of data from our FOURTH big survey, this time of couples (including a matched pair sample!). But all of our findings are also backed up by OTHER peer reviewed studies.
Check it out!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
Check it out!
baremarriage.com/the-marriage...
THANK YOU to everyone who has helped us be the #1 new release in Christian marriage!
My prayer is that The Marriage You Want will disrupt the Christian marriage world—so that we can stop with harmful advice, and start publishing books that are evidence-based, healthy, and Jesus-centred.
My prayer is that The Marriage You Want will disrupt the Christian marriage world—so that we can stop with harmful advice, and start publishing books that are evidence-based, healthy, and Jesus-centred.
March 16, 2025 at 7:19 PM
THANK YOU to everyone who has helped us be the #1 new release in Christian marriage!
My prayer is that The Marriage You Want will disrupt the Christian marriage world—so that we can stop with harmful advice, and start publishing books that are evidence-based, healthy, and Jesus-centred.
My prayer is that The Marriage You Want will disrupt the Christian marriage world—so that we can stop with harmful advice, and start publishing books that are evidence-based, healthy, and Jesus-centred.
When we’re equals & support each other, marriage gives the energy needed to fulfill God’s calling on your life!
But when you’re merely a sidekick? Then so much energy goes into convincing yourself that you’re fulfilled when you’re not.
Check out our new book The Marriage You Want for more!
But when you’re merely a sidekick? Then so much energy goes into convincing yourself that you’re fulfilled when you’re not.
Check out our new book The Marriage You Want for more!
March 15, 2025 at 8:26 PM
When we’re equals & support each other, marriage gives the energy needed to fulfill God’s calling on your life!
But when you’re merely a sidekick? Then so much energy goes into convincing yourself that you’re fulfilled when you’re not.
Check out our new book The Marriage You Want for more!
But when you’re merely a sidekick? Then so much energy goes into convincing yourself that you’re fulfilled when you’re not.
Check out our new book The Marriage You Want for more!