I know that we had our differences over the years and my difficult transition path didn't make it easy to be around. I have always respected you and you brought much joy to Jennell. You will be missed and both you and she will not be forgotten.

That's a cool one. It was recovered and restored a few years ago and when put in service over a century ago synchronized to the US Naval Observatory at noon every day.

I'm glad to hear that you are doing better.

Shit. I'm just so sorry. We all deserve better than that. I hope you are able to have whatever healing you need after this.

While not absolving this country it was more directly my then spouse who decided that there was no way the short-term disability claim would be denied so spent what I saved to cover my unpaid FMLA leave.

One divorce plus a lot of therapy over the past decade and I'm doing a lot better.

Now that's a name I haven't heard in a long time.

When I was struggling with bottom surgery recovery and regretting having it (mostly due to enduring DV during recovery) a mod on Susan's Place suggested that his website was a better place for me to get support. That was definitely less than helpful

Informed Consent became available in my area a few months before I had bottom surgery and I switched Drs at that time. I was struck by one fact about the IC paperwork: that it contained information that neither my therapist nor either of my previous endos had shared over the preceding 5 years.

FWIW I'm glad you did what is right for you.

I have regrets for having bottom surgery. They're complicated but all come down to the fact that I had it with various people pressuring my decision over the course of years, including a violent threat in response to me trying to cancel surgery.

I don't have the words to convey how much I appreciate you saying this. I ended up regretting having surgery (but not regretting surgery itself) because my recovery experience was so bad I wound up having a mental breakdown. By comparison my subsequent, unfortunately bitter divorce was a cake walk!

Congratulations on surgery and your recovery progress!

I feel a lot of it. I ended up being forced to go back to work, commuting to an office, less than 4 weeks after surgery and that was far too soon for me.

Also good call on the toys. I waited too long to start exploring, though not by choice.

Just came across this and wanted to say that I'm so sorry you ended up in that place. I know it more than I would like to admit, though in my case it was because the person who promised to care for me instead abused me during recovery.

I hate how many of us end up having the experience tainted so.

incidentally the whole thing about "your brain is still developing until youre 25" that is the basis of weirdo adult age discourse is based on a study that only examined brains up to 25 years old. ie brain developing was still happening at every age within the scope, they never found some "it stops"

I will always wonder where I would be if I got a hormone letter and endo referral instead of being denied and publicly outed by a psych in 94