At the end of the day we do have a duty to ourselves and to protect ourselves. If something that someone is doing is distressing to us, provided it’s not actually harmful, it’s our job to step away. Maybe this person needs to understand that. Regardless none of it is on you. 💗

Having seen your posts for a while you’ve always been conscientious of what you say, so I really don’t think any duty or responsibility sits with you here. I’m sure they’re struggling but it was unnecessary for them to say that to you and maybe just unkind?

You can’t possibly anticipate the triggers of a stranger who chooses to read your post. I feel for them, but… mental illness isn’t your fault but it is your responsibility. We can’t ask people not to speak freely (within reason) on the internet in fear that somebody somewhere may be distressed by it

Yeah, this sucks. It may well have been genuinely really triggering for them but you can’t hold the responsibility for that. Triggers can be literally anything, they’re individual to each person. We owe each other kindness and have responsibility to be mindful of what we post, but only to a point

I wish A&Es had an actual protocol for supporting autistic people and had things like fidgets/earplugs/ear defenders available, because this is genuinely a hostile environment. There’s also very little structure to my day which I’m finding very difficult. #MadSky #AutisticSky

…just as I’d said would be necessary weeks ago. But now I’m stuck 1-1 in A&E until they find a bed. I seem to have hit the magic button that means they’re seeing me as ill and needing help rather than hysterical. Which is nice but I don’t trust it will last.

In updates.. I was sent to a crisis house, quickly deemed too high risk to be there, htt messed about so ended up with them calling an ambulance as didn’t feel able to keep me safe. So that’s CMHRS messing up. Psychiatrist and psych liaison team all agreeing I need an inpatient admission.

Having my stick now is part of me - I coordinate it to my outfits, have a bit of fun with it. I can do a bit without my stick but even if I don’t necessarily need it when I leave the house.. I definitely do by the time I’m getting back!

It gets easier. Love from someone further along 💗

When I first used my stick I felt the same. I’m 5-6 years in now and you do get used to the impostor syndrome. Remember that using a stick is a pain in the arse - takes up one of your hands all the time - and if it helps you more than it hinders; that’s because you need it.

She’s from my area and was the same age as Fern when she died, as well, so this one hits close to home. And family represented by our solicitor! Caleb is fabulous.

All my love to her family and her friends. Just an awful situation all round.

www.leighday.co.uk/news/news/20...

In fact, I believe Wallace himself was a victim of CSA.

These are the things you take to rehabilitative therapy and probation reports, not what you use to defend someone online.

But regardless of all of this, his behaviour went unchecked. That's rape culture, not autism. Simple as.