Rey (he/him) 🏴
@reydar.bsky.social
Mostly only post when feeling at my most unhinged. Queer, relationship anarchist, abolitionist. Cymro Cymraeg. He/him (ef/ei yng Gymraeg).
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Rey (he/him) 🏴
@reydar.bsky.social
· Apr 12
Sorry for using social media as my therapy journal again everyone! If you ever have insights into the stuff I'm posting they're always welcome :)
I wish I mattered enough to be anyone's priority ever
January 12, 2026 at 11:33 AM
I wish I mattered enough to be anyone's priority ever
Had an intake meeting with a couples counsellor today and my partner couldn't even be bothered to actually be on time. And has now explained how unfair of me it is to be upset with them about that because they weren't *very* late
January 9, 2026 at 2:31 PM
Had an intake meeting with a couples counsellor today and my partner couldn't even be bothered to actually be on time. And has now explained how unfair of me it is to be upset with them about that because they weren't *very* late
How to trust someone who spent 6 months lying that they loved you and wanted you when actually they've been thinking of breaking up with you since June but apparently don't want to break up anymore ?
January 6, 2026 at 1:14 PM
How to trust someone who spent 6 months lying that they loved you and wanted you when actually they've been thinking of breaking up with you since June but apparently don't want to break up anymore ?
I wish there was a single likeable thing about me
January 4, 2026 at 1:36 PM
I wish there was a single likeable thing about me
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call me crazy but it really feels like “World’s Richest Man Creates AI Chatbot That Generates Child Porn” would’ve been a huge international outrage requiring a governmental crackdown not even 24 months ago
January 2, 2026 at 7:06 AM
call me crazy but it really feels like “World’s Richest Man Creates AI Chatbot That Generates Child Porn” would’ve been a huge international outrage requiring a governmental crackdown not even 24 months ago
My bonus grandma has been put on end of life care and is expected to die in the next few days :( she's my mum's horrible ex's mum so I haven't really seen her for years, I saw her once for an afternoon maybe a year ago :(
December 30, 2025 at 2:38 PM
My bonus grandma has been put on end of life care and is expected to die in the next few days :( she's my mum's horrible ex's mum so I haven't really seen her for years, I saw her once for an afternoon maybe a year ago :(
My partner just told me about a tech bro who "invented" a grocery "optimization" system which is just "put a portion of grocery in a container so opening the container prompts you to add item to the list" but with "automation" (none of it is automatic) and it's legitimately pissed me off so much
December 30, 2025 at 1:28 PM
My partner just told me about a tech bro who "invented" a grocery "optimization" system which is just "put a portion of grocery in a container so opening the container prompts you to add item to the list" but with "automation" (none of it is automatic) and it's legitimately pissed me off so much
I feel curmudgeonly old men seem to quite like/respect me
December 27, 2025 at 12:02 PM
I feel curmudgeonly old men seem to quite like/respect me
Think I'm gonna quit my PhD and become a felter
December 25, 2025 at 2:35 AM
Think I'm gonna quit my PhD and become a felter
People seem to like the idea of me much more than they actually like *me*
December 21, 2025 at 8:22 PM
People seem to like the idea of me much more than they actually like *me*
I wish I mattered I wish I mattered I wish I mattered
December 21, 2025 at 4:26 PM
I wish I mattered I wish I mattered I wish I mattered
My partner doesn't seem to want to message me and barely replies to my messages :( they insisted it doesn't matter that they led their family to believe we broke up. I guess I'm slowly accepting that my partner doesn't love or want me and this probably means they will end our relationship soon :(
December 21, 2025 at 1:22 PM
My partner doesn't seem to want to message me and barely replies to my messages :( they insisted it doesn't matter that they led their family to believe we broke up. I guess I'm slowly accepting that my partner doesn't love or want me and this probably means they will end our relationship soon :(
I always said I'd keep my grubby puberty tache from T but honestly it looks so bad it might have to go
December 18, 2025 at 4:17 PM
I always said I'd keep my grubby puberty tache from T but honestly it looks so bad it might have to go
Held my coffee between my thighs to add my sugar and managed to tip it exactly into my crotch. I am wearing light grey sweatpants and tbh even last time I pissed myself it looked less like I had pissed myself than rn
December 18, 2025 at 3:09 PM
Held my coffee between my thighs to add my sugar and managed to tip it exactly into my crotch. I am wearing light grey sweatpants and tbh even last time I pissed myself it looked less like I had pissed myself than rn
I made a post on Reddit and it's got over 80 comments and I don't care for it. 7 comments tops please. I don't want to risk being on one of those "read Reddit posts" tiktok channels!
December 18, 2025 at 1:43 PM
I made a post on Reddit and it's got over 80 comments and I don't care for it. 7 comments tops please. I don't want to risk being on one of those "read Reddit posts" tiktok channels!
If Ur supposed to meet someone at 10 how long after 10 is it no longer rude to call and check where they are
December 16, 2025 at 10:09 AM
If Ur supposed to meet someone at 10 how long after 10 is it no longer rude to call and check where they are
I so so hate that I grew up in a family where any disagreement has to have a winner and a loser and one person was right and justified and one person was a bastard piece of shit. I try so hard not to fall into that thinking but it takes so much effort and when I'm really upset I forget and am awful
December 13, 2025 at 4:14 PM
I so so hate that I grew up in a family where any disagreement has to have a winner and a loser and one person was right and justified and one person was a bastard piece of shit. I try so hard not to fall into that thinking but it takes so much effort and when I'm really upset I forget and am awful
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Day 41 of Amu’s hunger strike.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
My constituent, Amu, is on Day 40 of their hunger strike in prison.
Last month, I requested an urgent meeting with the Justice Secretary to discuss their wellbeing.
He has now officially declined my request.
What an absolute disgrace.
Last month, I requested an urgent meeting with the Justice Secretary to discuss their wellbeing.
He has now officially declined my request.
What an absolute disgrace.
December 12, 2025 at 11:20 AM
Day 41 of Amu’s hunger strike.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
I feel like I'm letting down the entire trans community but I feel worse and uglier since my top surgery than I did before :(
December 10, 2025 at 2:02 PM
I feel like I'm letting down the entire trans community but I feel worse and uglier since my top surgery than I did before :(
Top tip to doctors if you ask someone if they're happy with their surgery results and they say "I was told to expect X and it didn't happen and I feel uncomfortable with my results because of it" don't say "well that's a good thing" and then kick the patient out when they get upset
December 10, 2025 at 10:55 AM
Top tip to doctors if you ask someone if they're happy with their surgery results and they say "I was told to expect X and it didn't happen and I feel uncomfortable with my results because of it" don't say "well that's a good thing" and then kick the patient out when they get upset
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Reading Rooms at the British Library are closed *all week* because so many of its workers refuse to work for pitiful wages in a contemptuously authoritarian and obliviously managed environment.
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
December 8, 2025 at 2:51 PM
Reading Rooms at the British Library are closed *all week* because so many of its workers refuse to work for pitiful wages in a contemptuously authoritarian and obliviously managed environment.
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
Weird fact about me is that when I was very young I knew the word "infantry" but not "infant" so the line in silent night "holy infant so tender and mild" was an absolute mind fuck
December 8, 2025 at 12:31 AM
Weird fact about me is that when I was very young I knew the word "infantry" but not "infant" so the line in silent night "holy infant so tender and mild" was an absolute mind fuck
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My dad abhors any negative comments about immigrants. Asked him recently why he’s so strong on it: ‘Because we’re always happy to take the rich and clever ones. Which means it’s not about disliking immigrants. It’s about disliking the poor and vulnerable. And that’s a bad human instinct.’
December 7, 2025 at 8:31 AM
My dad abhors any negative comments about immigrants. Asked him recently why he’s so strong on it: ‘Because we’re always happy to take the rich and clever ones. Which means it’s not about disliking immigrants. It’s about disliking the poor and vulnerable. And that’s a bad human instinct.’
It feels absolutely wild to me that I've been in therapy for 3 years and I've just realised there's like a whole huge chunk of my childhood I've only ever skimmed over
December 5, 2025 at 10:50 AM
It feels absolutely wild to me that I've been in therapy for 3 years and I've just realised there's like a whole huge chunk of my childhood I've only ever skimmed over
Top tip to organisers is please don't ask people if they're comfortable with doing something and then when they say no just pressure them into doing it. I won't be coming to another action for a while.
November 26, 2025 at 10:45 AM
Top tip to organisers is please don't ask people if they're comfortable with doing something and then when they say no just pressure them into doing it. I won't be coming to another action for a while.