Ready for Polyamory
@readyforpolyamory.bsky.social
Author of Monogamy? In this Economy?; podcaster; relationship coach; polyamorous with a relationship anarchist bent. Parent, disabled, and probably too tired for this. Laura Boyle if you’re looking for a name.
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If you’re just meeting me here, I’m a polyamorous parent, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?, loud fat sex positive leftist, & I take up space. I practice my nonmonogamy from a relationship anarchist philosophy, my kids have three parents,& I don’t pathologize intentional relationships of any kind
Class is tomorrow afternoon and almost sold out, grab your spot while you can! Me and @annie_undone are excited to see you there! 1/2
March 9, 2025 at 1:45 AM
Class is tomorrow afternoon and almost sold out, grab your spot while you can! Me and @annie_undone are excited to see you there! 1/2
I was very excited to see my advance copy of Tuck Malloy’s forthcoming book “Expansive Love” landed in my mailbox while I was in Chicago. I’m halfway through it and can already confidently tell you that if you’re looking for a practical guide to Relationship Anarchy, you should pre-order it.
February 1, 2025 at 2:20 AM
I was very excited to see my advance copy of Tuck Malloy’s forthcoming book “Expansive Love” landed in my mailbox while I was in Chicago. I’m halfway through it and can already confidently tell you that if you’re looking for a practical guide to Relationship Anarchy, you should pre-order it.
“But her emails!” www.reuters.com/world/us/mus...
Exclusive: Musk aides lock government workers out of computer systems at US agency, sources say
Aides to Elon Musk charged with running the U.S. government human resources agency have locked career civil servants out of computer systems that contain the personal data of millions of federal employees, according to two agency officials.
www.reuters.com
February 1, 2025 at 2:00 AM
“But her emails!” www.reuters.com/world/us/mus...
Join us Thu. Feb. 13 at 4pm PT/7pm ET for the “Winning Local Protections” Advocacy Workshop. Learn how cities like Berkeley & Oakland passed relationship rights protections - and how your community can be next.
Register: www.open-love.org/rsvp/advocacyworkshop
Register: www.open-love.org/rsvp/advocacyworkshop
Winning Local Protections Advocacy Workshop — OPEN (Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy)
www.open-love.org
January 30, 2025 at 3:44 AM
Join us Thu. Feb. 13 at 4pm PT/7pm ET for the “Winning Local Protections” Advocacy Workshop. Learn how cities like Berkeley & Oakland passed relationship rights protections - and how your community can be next.
Register: www.open-love.org/rsvp/advocacyworkshop
Register: www.open-love.org/rsvp/advocacyworkshop
Y’all know the only immigrant making your lives worse is Elon Musk, right??
January 29, 2025 at 8:23 PM
Y’all know the only immigrant making your lives worse is Elon Musk, right??
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Federal abortion ban has been introduced.
www.congress.gov/bill/119th-c...
www.congress.gov/bill/119th-c...
www.congress.gov
January 29, 2025 at 5:15 PM
Federal abortion ban has been introduced.
www.congress.gov/bill/119th-c...
www.congress.gov/bill/119th-c...
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If you’re a straight, cis person who has ever posted some version of a rainbow with “you’re safe with me” or similar, it’s time to back up the words with action— contact your reps and ask them what they’re going to do to protect trans people from this administration, particularly trans kids.
January 29, 2025 at 6:10 PM
If you’re a straight, cis person who has ever posted some version of a rainbow with “you’re safe with me” or similar, it’s time to back up the words with action— contact your reps and ask them what they’re going to do to protect trans people from this administration, particularly trans kids.
What’s your relationship to change like?
Does it make you excited? Anxious? Do you run through all the possible outcomes to psych yourself up? Are you a go with the flow kind of human?
Does it make you excited? Anxious? Do you run through all the possible outcomes to psych yourself up? Are you a go with the flow kind of human?
January 29, 2025 at 6:32 PM
What’s your relationship to change like?
Does it make you excited? Anxious? Do you run through all the possible outcomes to psych yourself up? Are you a go with the flow kind of human?
Does it make you excited? Anxious? Do you run through all the possible outcomes to psych yourself up? Are you a go with the flow kind of human?
There is no form of polyamory that offers a magic bullet for insecurity and people who feel aligned with the style and ethics of polyamory but struggle with insecurity practice in all formats, from deeply entangled kitchen table polycules to very parallel relationships.
January 27, 2025 at 2:34 PM
There is no form of polyamory that offers a magic bullet for insecurity and people who feel aligned with the style and ethics of polyamory but struggle with insecurity practice in all formats, from deeply entangled kitchen table polycules to very parallel relationships.
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The Inspectors General refuse to leave until the action is taken legally, which they do not believe it was, and neither do senators like Chuck Grassley. This is what not backing down looks like.
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static.politico.com/b3/3e/5baf92...
January 25, 2025 at 6:48 PM
The Inspectors General refuse to leave until the action is taken legally, which they do not believe it was, and neither do senators like Chuck Grassley. This is what not backing down looks like.
static.politico.com/b3/3e/5baf92...
static.politico.com/b3/3e/5baf92...
Friendly reminder: there is no obligation to be trying to date all the time or to date every person who is interesting to you, even (or especially) if you are polyamorous
January 26, 2025 at 12:46 AM
Friendly reminder: there is no obligation to be trying to date all the time or to date every person who is interesting to you, even (or especially) if you are polyamorous
Friendly reminder: the only way to do polyamory wrong is to gatekeep that your way is the only right way.
January 12, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Friendly reminder: the only way to do polyamory wrong is to gatekeep that your way is the only right way.
Relationship agreements can be temporary and can be “let’s see how this works until our next check in and if that’s actually how we want to support this boundary of mine (or yours)” — they aren’t Forever and Immovable and they aren’t all The Biggest Subjects of the relationship.
January 12, 2025 at 2:36 PM
Relationship agreements can be temporary and can be “let’s see how this works until our next check in and if that’s actually how we want to support this boundary of mine (or yours)” — they aren’t Forever and Immovable and they aren’t all The Biggest Subjects of the relationship.
Confirmed that I’m going to be teaching at the Rochester Erotic Arts Fest in April - I know that’s a couple months away, but who will I be seeing there?
January 8, 2025 at 2:08 PM
Confirmed that I’m going to be teaching at the Rochester Erotic Arts Fest in April - I know that’s a couple months away, but who will I be seeing there?
Friendly reminder: don’t include your kids in your dating app profile photos.
January 6, 2025 at 3:01 PM
Friendly reminder: don’t include your kids in your dating app profile photos.
Claiming censorship is “defending children” is one of the worst but most common things the right does because it makes voting AGAINST censorship much harder.
One day after effectively banning porn in the state, SC uses the same "harmful to minors" argument to make it a felony, punishable by up to 10 years in prison, to allow someone under 18 to view a drag show.
It's called "The Defense of Children's Innocence Act"
www.scstatehouse.gov/sess126_2025...
It's called "The Defense of Children's Innocence Act"
www.scstatehouse.gov/sess126_2025...
January 2, 2025 at 7:34 PM
Claiming censorship is “defending children” is one of the worst but most common things the right does because it makes voting AGAINST censorship much harder.
Unpopular opinion: “rule” is not a dirty word in polyamorous relationships. You can have rules. There is not magic power in calling them all agreements or rephrasing your agreements as personal boundaries when possible.
January 2, 2025 at 7:15 PM
Unpopular opinion: “rule” is not a dirty word in polyamorous relationships. You can have rules. There is not magic power in calling them all agreements or rephrasing your agreements as personal boundaries when possible.
I am, in fact, a LOT like other girls
January 2, 2025 at 7:15 PM
I am, in fact, a LOT like other girls
Promiscuity isn’t evil 😘
January 2, 2025 at 7:15 PM
Promiscuity isn’t evil 😘
It’s ok to be fat.
(No matter why.)
(No matter why.)
January 2, 2025 at 7:14 PM
It’s ok to be fat.
(No matter why.)
(No matter why.)
Coming out is not a “once and done” process - no matter what you’re coming out about. Whether it’s sexuality or relationship orientation or status you end up sharing it with people in your life gradually and repeatedly.
December 15, 2024 at 4:15 PM
Coming out is not a “once and done” process - no matter what you’re coming out about. Whether it’s sexuality or relationship orientation or status you end up sharing it with people in your life gradually and repeatedly.
Cheating is based on an ethics of people as property and relating from that position of ownership of one another - so “what is cheating in polyamory?” Is kind of the wrong question as we try to deconstruct from the idea of owning our partners to begin with
December 13, 2024 at 11:09 PM
Cheating is based on an ethics of people as property and relating from that position of ownership of one another - so “what is cheating in polyamory?” Is kind of the wrong question as we try to deconstruct from the idea of owning our partners to begin with
Since cheating is again at the front of people’s minds, a reminder: polyamory does not “fix” cheating and there are lots of cheaters who are not better at polyamory than monogamy, because what they like is the secrecy and ability to get away with it
December 13, 2024 at 11:08 PM
Since cheating is again at the front of people’s minds, a reminder: polyamory does not “fix” cheating and there are lots of cheaters who are not better at polyamory than monogamy, because what they like is the secrecy and ability to get away with it
If I see one more dating profile that says someone is sapiosexual I’m going to scream.
December 13, 2024 at 11:08 PM
If I see one more dating profile that says someone is sapiosexual I’m going to scream.
I know that sex is just games for adults and we can’t take ourselves too seriously and yadda yadda… but can I please get new better names for these positions??? My favorite cannot possibly be called the deck chair
December 6, 2024 at 11:35 PM
I know that sex is just games for adults and we can’t take ourselves too seriously and yadda yadda… but can I please get new better names for these positions??? My favorite cannot possibly be called the deck chair