Just saw this! Thanks for the tag, I’ll have to check it out! 💜

I don’t know if they’re outside your food profile for some other reason, but a third of a can of chickpeas has about the same protein as an egg, and they are precooked and keep seasoned up in a container well. while they’re better a little seasoned they’re also acceptable taste just rinsed and eaten

Peaceful Polyamory is the workshop and it comes with a new workbook and a recording if you can’t make it live- 2pm eastern time March 9

peacefulpoly.eventbrite.com

“Identifying as a relationship anarchist is not a requirement for practicing something that could be described as relationship anarchy. In fact, rejecting the labels and terms of something to tailor it for your needs is perhaps the most relationship anarchist thing you can do!” -Tuck Malloy

Here’s the preorder link they shared with me: Expansive Love: A Practical Guide to Relationship Anarchy a.co/d/7dMu7Bs

Everyone should practice the way they want! I just see a lot of judgement for people who want a different style than one another with assumptions about what drives that instead of curiosity about each others’ motivations.

- but the social pressure to also be or stay in connection because “asking for parallel is a sign of insecurity” also impacts me.

In me, personally, these two tendencies are at odds because my personal experiences that I project onto others are with past relationships where intensity of kitchen table or higher entanglement relationships was mandated by metamours to manage their feelings-

There is a tendency in community to judge people who practice different styles than we do and attribute their choices to insecurity- and also one to idealize more entangled relationships. I want to gently nudge people to question both of these tendencies when they pop up.

But abuse is doing monogamy wrong and we don’t make tons of content laying out that it’s “doing monogamy wrong” we just call it abuse. I’m happy to talk about abuse/bad high control situations in polyamory- without waving a flag of “your polyamory is wrong” at folks

This afternoon I’m teaching a class, New Year, New Relationships- grab tickets before 2pm ET and you can attend live then or watch the recording on your own time. Newagreements.eventbrite.com

but you might also make them about someone feeling more supported with a good morning text ☀️ or using a nickname exclusively.

Like, yes, you might have some that are A Big Deal about, eg, sexual health practices or labeling your relationship or “what is cheating” (but even those will likely change with time and circumstance! Just over longer time scales)