Lydia “Massive Prideful Female”
@petticoatshrink.bsky.social
Social worker, trauma therapist, mom, musician, nerdy Jew. Consummate pinko cuz I’m too commie for the libs and too lib for the commies. Married to @joelhs.bsky.social. Gotta remember to post about medieval food history and fun stuff to preserve sanity.
The article said something about how a lot of the training course they sell is just about how to find your own clients. So…taking a page out of the MLM book, I guess.
November 23, 2025 at 4:34 AM
The article said something about how a lot of the training course they sell is just about how to find your own clients. So…taking a page out of the MLM book, I guess.
Nobody anywhere did it it like this in the olden days. Everybody everywhere has always known that birth attendants are necessary.
November 23, 2025 at 4:24 AM
Nobody anywhere did it it like this in the olden days. Everybody everywhere has always known that birth attendants are necessary.
It’s too much risk for me personally but a home birth with a qualified midwife is still vastly, vastly better than…this.
November 23, 2025 at 3:59 AM
It’s too much risk for me personally but a home birth with a qualified midwife is still vastly, vastly better than…this.
times in the human lifespan and that women needed to be supported through it with whatever skill and knowledge was available. This isn’t RETVRNing to anything.
November 23, 2025 at 3:22 AM
times in the human lifespan and that women needed to be supported through it with whatever skill and knowledge was available. This isn’t RETVRNing to anything.
True but it can’t be emphasized enough that there’s no historical precedent for this. Nobody anywhere ever “trusted birth” or viewed birthing women as “sovereign” or “radically responsible” for their own birth. Everybody recognized that giving birth and being born are some of the most vulnerable
November 23, 2025 at 3:22 AM
True but it can’t be emphasized enough that there’s no historical precedent for this. Nobody anywhere ever “trusted birth” or viewed birthing women as “sovereign” or “radically responsible” for their own birth. Everybody recognized that giving birth and being born are some of the most vulnerable
Are you saying you think these policies are insufficient or incorrect? Genuinely asking. To show my hand more, I’m skeptical of the framing of being “in control of birth” because…you’re just not. Being respected and being in control are not the same and I think it’s an important distinction.
November 23, 2025 at 1:21 AM
Are you saying you think these policies are insufficient or incorrect? Genuinely asking. To show my hand more, I’m skeptical of the framing of being “in control of birth” because…you’re just not. Being respected and being in control are not the same and I think it’s an important distinction.
Everyone is a rando on social media and that’s why scrolling social media is not a great way to inform yourself about major social problems. At least not without other sources.
November 23, 2025 at 12:23 AM
Everyone is a rando on social media and that’s why scrolling social media is not a great way to inform yourself about major social problems. At least not without other sources.
I don’t know if that’s “historical myth” so much as “white people making up weird racist shit about how non-white women give birth like animals” which really was a Thing for a hot minute (and sadly still popular in some corners).
November 22, 2025 at 11:56 PM
I don’t know if that’s “historical myth” so much as “white people making up weird racist shit about how non-white women give birth like animals” which really was a Thing for a hot minute (and sadly still popular in some corners).
Except that in this case, obstetric violence and trauma are very real, as opposed to the type of “vaccine injury” that anti-vaxxers talk about. These people are exploiting real suffering that is too often dismissed and ignored.
November 22, 2025 at 11:52 PM
Except that in this case, obstetric violence and trauma are very real, as opposed to the type of “vaccine injury” that anti-vaxxers talk about. These people are exploiting real suffering that is too often dismissed and ignored.
focus on the many real problems and not the made up ones you hear about from too much scrolling. The latter is driving the exact sinister forces we are talking about here.
November 22, 2025 at 11:21 PM
focus on the many real problems and not the made up ones you hear about from too much scrolling. The latter is driving the exact sinister forces we are talking about here.
Some may encourage them more than others but most hospitals allow them. And I’ve never heard of a woman being forced to have an epidural and am not inclined to trust the authority of a rando on social media on that one. An important part of any effort to improve things for birthing people is to
November 22, 2025 at 11:21 PM
Some may encourage them more than others but most hospitals allow them. And I’ve never heard of a woman being forced to have an epidural and am not inclined to trust the authority of a rando on social media on that one. An important part of any effort to improve things for birthing people is to
I just don’t know how what you are proposing actually changes the status quo? Providers already have to document anything that would cause them to go against a birth plan. It’s not like they’re doing it just for fun.
November 22, 2025 at 10:39 PM
I just don’t know how what you are proposing actually changes the status quo? Providers already have to document anything that would cause them to go against a birth plan. It’s not like they’re doing it just for fun.
Pretty sure any medical professional involved in a birth is already required to chart emergencies that may cause things to not go as planned?
November 22, 2025 at 10:11 PM
Pretty sure any medical professional involved in a birth is already required to chart emergencies that may cause things to not go as planned?
17th century people would have thought that birthing without an attendant was completely fucking insane. This has never been A Thing. Not in any time or place or society.
November 22, 2025 at 10:09 PM
17th century people would have thought that birthing without an attendant was completely fucking insane. This has never been A Thing. Not in any time or place or society.
This group discourages having backup plans and failsafes because they demand total adherence to the ideology of “trusting birth.” Backup plans show imperfect faith. It’s straight cult shit.
November 22, 2025 at 10:08 PM
This group discourages having backup plans and failsafes because they demand total adherence to the ideology of “trusting birth.” Backup plans show imperfect faith. It’s straight cult shit.
cocky about that. The truth is, everyone has a breaking point and pregnancy, birth, and postpartum get a lot more people than most people want to acknowledge (and that is part of the problem).
November 22, 2025 at 10:06 PM
cocky about that. The truth is, everyone has a breaking point and pregnancy, birth, and postpartum get a lot more people than most people want to acknowledge (and that is part of the problem).
And to the extent that I feel confident that I’d have not gone this far, it mostly has to do with the presence of a lot of protective factors in my life and support system that many people do not have. I like to think I have a good bullshit detector but you can get yourself in trouble getting too
November 22, 2025 at 10:06 PM
And to the extent that I feel confident that I’d have not gone this far, it mostly has to do with the presence of a lot of protective factors in my life and support system that many people do not have. I like to think I have a good bullshit detector but you can get yourself in trouble getting too
I don’t think I’d have ever gone this far off the deep end. But man, when I was in the thick of processing some birth trauma of my own while sleep deprived with a newborn and loopy from postpartum hormones, there is definitely some shit you could have gotten me to do that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
November 22, 2025 at 10:06 PM
I don’t think I’d have ever gone this far off the deep end. But man, when I was in the thick of processing some birth trauma of my own while sleep deprived with a newborn and loopy from postpartum hormones, there is definitely some shit you could have gotten me to do that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
Yeah, they kinda blew right past that little detail…
November 22, 2025 at 9:54 PM
Yeah, they kinda blew right past that little detail…
critical thinking skills and make you susceptible to this kind of manipulation. Presumably some of these women are finding this group in the throes of untreated postpartum trauma and other mental health issues, just trying to find help or witness. These monsters are truly preying on the vulnerable.
November 22, 2025 at 9:51 PM
critical thinking skills and make you susceptible to this kind of manipulation. Presumably some of these women are finding this group in the throes of untreated postpartum trauma and other mental health issues, just trying to find help or witness. These monsters are truly preying on the vulnerable.
In some cases but it sounds a lot of the ones who already have children are motivated by severe past birth trauma, which is nothing to sneeze at. I still want to smack them upside the head but I can also understand how the sheer terror of reliving a traumatic birth experience could compromise your
November 22, 2025 at 9:51 PM
In some cases but it sounds a lot of the ones who already have children are motivated by severe past birth trauma, which is nothing to sneeze at. I still want to smack them upside the head but I can also understand how the sheer terror of reliving a traumatic birth experience could compromise your
Sadly, germ theory denialism is very much a thing (and a thing these women are into).
November 22, 2025 at 9:38 PM
Sadly, germ theory denialism is very much a thing (and a thing these women are into).
But sadly not surprising. Your two options in a situation like that are to become even more radicalized or to fully confront not only your responsibility in your own child’s death, but the fact that you visited this hell on countless others. Of course she’s going with Option A.
November 22, 2025 at 9:36 PM
But sadly not surprising. Your two options in a situation like that are to become even more radicalized or to fully confront not only your responsibility in your own child’s death, but the fact that you visited this hell on countless others. Of course she’s going with Option A.
What a monstrous thing to say
November 22, 2025 at 8:00 PM
What a monstrous thing to say
I want to be immersed in a world that is not my own (and yet is poignantly similar to it in some ways). And that can be made “relatable” with skill and creativity.
November 21, 2025 at 8:27 PM
I want to be immersed in a world that is not my own (and yet is poignantly similar to it in some ways). And that can be made “relatable” with skill and creativity.