Most company cultures aren’t burned out — they’re dehydrated.
And the “leadership advice” they’re drinking is making it worse.
And the “leadership advice” they’re drinking is making it worse.
November 18, 2025 at 11:08 PM
Most company cultures aren’t burned out — they’re dehydrated.
And the “leadership advice” they’re drinking is making it worse.
And the “leadership advice” they’re drinking is making it worse.
Awaken the Inner Toddler & Get Ferocious Competence!
But it's not supported in our organizations-
Work’s Hot Stoves tame our drive for competency.
We’ve created so many hot stoves, no wonder we lose the drive for competence.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/blog/2017/4/22/awaken-the-inner-toddle
But it's not supported in our organizations-
Work’s Hot Stoves tame our drive for competency.
We’ve created so many hot stoves, no wonder we lose the drive for competence.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/blog/2017/4/22/awaken-the-inner-toddle
November 18, 2025 at 4:28 AM
Awaken the Inner Toddler & Get Ferocious Competence!
But it's not supported in our organizations-
Work’s Hot Stoves tame our drive for competency.
We’ve created so many hot stoves, no wonder we lose the drive for competence.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/blog/2017/4/22/awaken-the-inner-toddle
But it's not supported in our organizations-
Work’s Hot Stoves tame our drive for competency.
We’ve created so many hot stoves, no wonder we lose the drive for competence.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/blog/2017/4/22/awaken-the-inner-toddle
Join me tomorrow for an hour of beer & talking about tapping into the #1 driver of your performance & well-being — belonging.
📍 The Beverage Place Pub (dog-friendly!)
📅 Tuesdays | 4–5 PM
6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
📍 The Beverage Place Pub (dog-friendly!)
📅 Tuesdays | 4–5 PM
6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
November 18, 2025 at 3:42 AM
Join me tomorrow for an hour of beer & talking about tapping into the #1 driver of your performance & well-being — belonging.
📍 The Beverage Place Pub (dog-friendly!)
📅 Tuesdays | 4–5 PM
6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
📍 The Beverage Place Pub (dog-friendly!)
📅 Tuesdays | 4–5 PM
6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
Most founders think perks lift performance — outings, snacks, happy hours.
Feels good… but...
dopamine spikes, then drops fast & then
performance with it.
No Feel-Own-Care → No Team OS → No sustained performance.
The FOC’n fix that moves the needle:
https://getteamos.com/
Feels good… but...
dopamine spikes, then drops fast & then
performance with it.
No Feel-Own-Care → No Team OS → No sustained performance.
The FOC’n fix that moves the needle:
https://getteamos.com/
November 17, 2025 at 12:02 AM
Most founders think perks lift performance — outings, snacks, happy hours.
Feels good… but...
dopamine spikes, then drops fast & then
performance with it.
No Feel-Own-Care → No Team OS → No sustained performance.
The FOC’n fix that moves the needle:
https://getteamos.com/
Feels good… but...
dopamine spikes, then drops fast & then
performance with it.
No Feel-Own-Care → No Team OS → No sustained performance.
The FOC’n fix that moves the needle:
https://getteamos.com/
Founders chase outcomes over everything — thinking that drives performance. It doesn’t.
Cortisol spikes & shuts down your Team OS.
No values = no belonging, slow thinking, weak decisions, stalled execution.
Here’s the FOC’n fix for pain-free outcomes.
https://getteamos.com/
Cortisol spikes & shuts down your Team OS.
No values = no belonging, slow thinking, weak decisions, stalled execution.
Here’s the FOC’n fix for pain-free outcomes.
https://getteamos.com/
November 14, 2025 at 4:59 AM
Founders chase outcomes over everything — thinking that drives performance. It doesn’t.
Cortisol spikes & shuts down your Team OS.
No values = no belonging, slow thinking, weak decisions, stalled execution.
Here’s the FOC’n fix for pain-free outcomes.
https://getteamos.com/
Cortisol spikes & shuts down your Team OS.
No values = no belonging, slow thinking, weak decisions, stalled execution.
Here’s the FOC’n fix for pain-free outcomes.
https://getteamos.com/
Can you tell my mom's not wearing her hearing aids? #tweenerproblems #momhumor #ilovemymom #choostohavefunwithit #belonging
November 13, 2025 at 4:43 AM
Can you tell my mom's not wearing her hearing aids? #tweenerproblems #momhumor #ilovemymom #choostohavefunwithit #belonging
You don't get high-performing teams from low-performance neurochemistry.
Belonging activates the Team OS.
Predictability blocks it.
Belonging activates the Team OS.
Predictability blocks it.
November 13, 2025 at 1:08 AM
You don't get high-performing teams from low-performance neurochemistry.
Belonging activates the Team OS.
Predictability blocks it.
Belonging activates the Team OS.
Predictability blocks it.
One exists in the choice and vulnerability, and the other works to eradicate vulnerability.
Advancing performance only happens in the 1st type —
the trust we get from feel-own-care belonging.
It's neurobiology, and our choice.
Advancing performance only happens in the 1st type —
the trust we get from feel-own-care belonging.
It's neurobiology, and our choice.
November 13, 2025 at 1:08 AM
One exists in the choice and vulnerability, and the other works to eradicate vulnerability.
Advancing performance only happens in the 1st type —
the trust we get from feel-own-care belonging.
It's neurobiology, and our choice.
Advancing performance only happens in the 1st type —
the trust we get from feel-own-care belonging.
It's neurobiology, and our choice.
Belonging is the neurobiological bidirectional choice that drives and creates high-performing trust.
There are two types of trust.
1. "Faith in" each other (left side of the diagram - BCOS)
2. Predictability (right side of the diagram - OOS)
There are two types of trust.
1. "Faith in" each other (left side of the diagram - BCOS)
2. Predictability (right side of the diagram - OOS)
November 13, 2025 at 1:08 AM
Belonging is the neurobiological bidirectional choice that drives and creates high-performing trust.
There are two types of trust.
1. "Faith in" each other (left side of the diagram - BCOS)
2. Predictability (right side of the diagram - OOS)
There are two types of trust.
1. "Faith in" each other (left side of the diagram - BCOS)
2. Predictability (right side of the diagram - OOS)
Feeling the pressure, CEOs & founders go all in on AI. They define it, drive it, sell it — squeezing out belonging.
Their AI over-investing kills 56% of their team's performance.
No belonging = No Team OS.
Here's the FOC'n fix for even higher performance.
https://getteamos.com
Their AI over-investing kills 56% of their team's performance.
No belonging = No Team OS.
Here's the FOC'n fix for even higher performance.
https://getteamos.com
November 11, 2025 at 4:20 AM
Feeling the pressure, CEOs & founders go all in on AI. They define it, drive it, sell it — squeezing out belonging.
Their AI over-investing kills 56% of their team's performance.
No belonging = No Team OS.
Here's the FOC'n fix for even higher performance.
https://getteamos.com
Their AI over-investing kills 56% of their team's performance.
No belonging = No Team OS.
Here's the FOC'n fix for even higher performance.
https://getteamos.com
Don't be a Founder looking in the wrong place.
You'll make these five mistakes that kill scaling your company, guaranteed.
You'll make these five mistakes that kill scaling your company, guaranteed.
October 30, 2025 at 6:18 PM
Don't be a Founder looking in the wrong place.
You'll make these five mistakes that kill scaling your company, guaranteed.
You'll make these five mistakes that kill scaling your company, guaranteed.
Look to you 1st. A trusted person in your belonging, 2nd. AI, 3rd.
You can borrow self-belief from #belonging with others.
Not AI.
Then, take that cool sh!# you wanna do, and start using AI for technical effectiveness & scale.
Don't look to AI, to scale hearts
Look to each other
You can borrow self-belief from #belonging with others.
Not AI.
Then, take that cool sh!# you wanna do, and start using AI for technical effectiveness & scale.
Don't look to AI, to scale hearts
Look to each other
October 30, 2025 at 6:18 PM
Look to you 1st. A trusted person in your belonging, 2nd. AI, 3rd.
You can borrow self-belief from #belonging with others.
Not AI.
Then, take that cool sh!# you wanna do, and start using AI for technical effectiveness & scale.
Don't look to AI, to scale hearts
Look to each other
You can borrow self-belief from #belonging with others.
Not AI.
Then, take that cool sh!# you wanna do, and start using AI for technical effectiveness & scale.
Don't look to AI, to scale hearts
Look to each other
Teams in Feel, Own, Care Belonging take faster action and with more care!
Curious?
DM "BELONG" to me. I'll send you a free 5-day email class about overcoming the founder mistakes that mess up high-performance belonging.
Curious?
DM "BELONG" to me. I'll send you a free 5-day email class about overcoming the founder mistakes that mess up high-performance belonging.
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
Teams in Feel, Own, Care Belonging take faster action and with more care!
Curious?
DM "BELONG" to me. I'll send you a free 5-day email class about overcoming the founder mistakes that mess up high-performance belonging.
Curious?
DM "BELONG" to me. I'll send you a free 5-day email class about overcoming the founder mistakes that mess up high-performance belonging.
Teams that stop feeling, owning, and caring for each other eventually stop serving the company’s purpose.
Because when you’ve gotta fix your belonging, you can’t protect the customer. #belongingsmagicquadrant
Because when you’ve gotta fix your belonging, you can’t protect the customer. #belongingsmagicquadrant
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
Teams that stop feeling, owning, and caring for each other eventually stop serving the company’s purpose.
Because when you’ve gotta fix your belonging, you can’t protect the customer. #belongingsmagicquadrant
Because when you’ve gotta fix your belonging, you can’t protect the customer. #belongingsmagicquadrant
When teammates Feel, Own, and Care, everything changes.
Our neurobiology shifts:
From fear of → fear for.
From aspire at the expense of → aspire with.
#fearbelongingaspiration
Our neurobiology shifts:
From fear of → fear for.
From aspire at the expense of → aspire with.
#fearbelongingaspiration
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
When teammates Feel, Own, and Care, everything changes.
Our neurobiology shifts:
From fear of → fear for.
From aspire at the expense of → aspire with.
#fearbelongingaspiration
Our neurobiology shifts:
From fear of → fear for.
From aspire at the expense of → aspire with.
#fearbelongingaspiration
There’s no choice if it’s just the leader giving those things.
Belonging requires the two-way street of choosing "We are each other’s."
Where we feel, own, and care for each other in our successes, dreams, and failures. #feelowncare
Belonging requires the two-way street of choosing "We are each other’s."
Where we feel, own, and care for each other in our successes, dreams, and failures. #feelowncare
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
There’s no choice if it’s just the leader giving those things.
Belonging requires the two-way street of choosing "We are each other’s."
Where we feel, own, and care for each other in our successes, dreams, and failures. #feelowncare
Belonging requires the two-way street of choosing "We are each other’s."
Where we feel, own, and care for each other in our successes, dreams, and failures. #feelowncare
In that autonomy-and-influence dynamic, employees are powerless.
And that kills their "real belonging," the #1 driver of performance.
(Indeed Workplace Wellbeing Study 25 million Submissions)
And that kills their "real belonging," the #1 driver of performance.
(Indeed Workplace Wellbeing Study 25 million Submissions)
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
In that autonomy-and-influence dynamic, employees are powerless.
And that kills their "real belonging," the #1 driver of performance.
(Indeed Workplace Wellbeing Study 25 million Submissions)
And that kills their "real belonging," the #1 driver of performance.
(Indeed Workplace Wellbeing Study 25 million Submissions)
Laid off by @Amazon? Live in West Seattle? Come to the Beverage Place Pub for support in navigating being unbelonged. 4:00 to 5:00 p.m. tonight.
October 28, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Laid off by @Amazon? Live in West Seattle? Come to the Beverage Place Pub for support in navigating being unbelonged. 4:00 to 5:00 p.m. tonight.
10. Each bid lives inside Feel-Own-Care.
Feel: the reach — “They offer their emotional state.”
Own: the choice — “You choose them in the moment.”
Care: the act — “You respond on their behalf.”
That’s belonging made visible.
Feel: the reach — “They offer their emotional state.”
Own: the choice — “You choose them in the moment.”
Care: the act — “You respond on their behalf.”
That’s belonging made visible.
October 28, 2025 at 2:22 AM
10. Each bid lives inside Feel-Own-Care.
Feel: the reach — “They offer their emotional state.”
Own: the choice — “You choose them in the moment.”
Care: the act — “You respond on their behalf.”
That’s belonging made visible.
Feel: the reach — “They offer their emotional state.”
Own: the choice — “You choose them in the moment.”
Care: the act — “You respond on their behalf.”
That’s belonging made visible.
8. These are your organizational “turns toward" lead measures
Track them.
They moved the needle towards increased Team OS — the chemistry of belonging before performance ever shows up on a scoreboard, the Lag Measure.
Track them.
They moved the needle towards increased Team OS — the chemistry of belonging before performance ever shows up on a scoreboard, the Lag Measure.
October 28, 2025 at 2:22 AM
8. These are your organizational “turns toward" lead measures
Track them.
They moved the needle towards increased Team OS — the chemistry of belonging before performance ever shows up on a scoreboard, the Lag Measure.
Track them.
They moved the needle towards increased Team OS — the chemistry of belonging before performance ever shows up on a scoreboard, the Lag Measure.
7. That’s why belonging needs lead measures — daily, human behaviors you can count before disconnection sets in:
• Daily check-ins
• Gratitude moments
• Story sharing
• Growth conversations
• Repair in real time
• Daily check-ins
• Gratitude moments
• Story sharing
• Growth conversations
• Repair in real time
October 28, 2025 at 2:22 AM
7. That’s why belonging needs lead measures — daily, human behaviors you can count before disconnection sets in:
• Daily check-ins
• Gratitude moments
• Story sharing
• Growth conversations
• Repair in real time
• Daily check-ins
• Gratitude moments
• Story sharing
• Growth conversations
• Repair in real time
Here's the definition that empowers you!
Belonging, it’s a state of being, in relationship with others:
When you feel, own, and care for them, in their successes, dreams, and failures. And, they feel, own, and care for you in yours. It’s a two-way relational street.
Belonging, it’s a state of being, in relationship with others:
When you feel, own, and care for them, in their successes, dreams, and failures. And, they feel, own, and care for you in yours. It’s a two-way relational street.
October 27, 2025 at 4:47 AM
Here's the definition that empowers you!
Belonging, it’s a state of being, in relationship with others:
When you feel, own, and care for them, in their successes, dreams, and failures. And, they feel, own, and care for you in yours. It’s a two-way relational street.
Belonging, it’s a state of being, in relationship with others:
When you feel, own, and care for them, in their successes, dreams, and failures. And, they feel, own, and care for you in yours. It’s a two-way relational street.
1 It’s a one-way, passive receive mode, a must-get affirmation transaction
2 limits hour self-narrative — we only belong with someone who gives us those four things
3 Yet, those four things aren’t necessarily indicative of belonging
4 Ultimately, leaving us chronically stressed
2 limits hour self-narrative — we only belong with someone who gives us those four things
3 Yet, those four things aren’t necessarily indicative of belonging
4 Ultimately, leaving us chronically stressed
October 27, 2025 at 4:47 AM
1 It’s a one-way, passive receive mode, a must-get affirmation transaction
2 limits hour self-narrative — we only belong with someone who gives us those four things
3 Yet, those four things aren’t necessarily indicative of belonging
4 Ultimately, leaving us chronically stressed
2 limits hour self-narrative — we only belong with someone who gives us those four things
3 Yet, those four things aren’t necessarily indicative of belonging
4 Ultimately, leaving us chronically stressed