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Paul Haury
@paulhaury.bsky.social
Bringer of Belonging
Glen Odman, sat down in front of my students. His peaceful and quiet warmth stilled their adolescent hormones. And their lives changed when he said, "I remember our unit, the 334th, liberating a town. The Nazis retreated into this building. We hit them hard.
November 21, 2025 at 6:39 PM
Most company cultures aren’t burned out — they’re dehydrated.
And the “leadership advice” they’re drinking is making it worse.
November 18, 2025 at 11:08 PM
Awaken the Inner Toddler & Get Ferocious Competence!

But it's not supported in our organizations-
Work’s Hot Stoves tame our drive for competency.
We’ve created so many hot stoves, no wonder we lose the drive for competence.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/blog/2017/4/22/awaken-the-inner-toddle
November 18, 2025 at 4:28 AM
Join me tomorrow for an hour of beer & talking about tapping into the #1 driver of your performance & well-being — belonging.

📍 The Beverage Place Pub (dog-friendly!)
📅 Tuesdays | 4–5 PM
6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
November 18, 2025 at 3:42 AM
Most founders think perks lift performance — outings, snacks, happy hours.

Feels good… but...
dopamine spikes, then drops fast & then
performance with it.

No Feel-Own-Care → No Team OS → No sustained performance.
The FOC’n fix that moves the needle:
https://getteamos.com/
November 17, 2025 at 12:02 AM
If you ignore oxytocin and serotonin, you’re not leading a team —
you’re managing multiple individual threat-response systems.
November 16, 2025 at 4:56 AM
Founders chase outcomes over everything — thinking that drives performance. It doesn’t.

Cortisol spikes & shuts down your Team OS.
No values = no belonging, slow thinking, weak decisions, stalled execution.

Here’s the FOC’n fix for pain-free outcomes.
https://getteamos.com/
November 14, 2025 at 4:59 AM
Can you tell my mom's not wearing her hearing aids? #tweenerproblems #momhumor #ilovemymom #choostohavefunwithit #belonging
November 13, 2025 at 4:43 AM
Belonging is the neurobiological bidirectional choice that drives and creates high-performing trust.

There are two types of trust.
1. "Faith in" each other (left side of the diagram - BCOS)
2. Predictability (right side of the diagram - OOS)
November 13, 2025 at 1:08 AM
Feeling the pressure, CEOs & founders go all in on AI. They define it, drive it, sell it — squeezing out belonging.
Their AI over-investing kills 56% of their team's performance.
No belonging = No Team OS.

Here's the FOC'n fix for even higher performance.
https://getteamos.com
November 11, 2025 at 4:20 AM
"I think the problem with this country is that not everybody has listened to Hidden Brain." ~ My Wife.
November 9, 2025 at 4:40 PM
A simple rule to live by that'll add 50+ % to your company's productivity.
"Feel, own, and care for each other in successes, dreams, and failures."

It's how your brain measures belonging, a simple 3x3.

You choose it for each other.
#FOCn3x3 #belonging #feelowncare
November 7, 2025 at 6:01 PM
AI can’t replace #belonging in:
The drive to create something together
The heart for your coworker, even during stepped on toes
The fortitude to endure when things don’t work out

No amount of AI works there.
We have to do that.

After that — AI might help.
#feelowncare
October 30, 2025 at 6:18 PM
Most leaders think high-performing teams come from employees feeling seen, heard, and understood. But that doesn’t solve the equation. Something's missing.
October 30, 2025 at 12:06 AM
Laid off by @Amazon? Live in West Seattle? Come to the Beverage Place Pub for support in navigating being unbelonged. 4:00 to 5:00 p.m. tonight.
October 28, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Brewing Company Belonging… Amazon targets 30,000 corporate jobs layoff.
Come to the Beverage Place Pub (In Seattle) tomorrow at 4:00 p.m. I'll be there w/ Jones to offer some healthy belonging support.
https://www.heartbasedleading.com/hbl-meetups/brewing-company-belonging-culture-10-28-25
Brewing a Company Belonging Culture at the Beverage Place Pub — Heart Based Leading
Brewing Company Belonging Culture is back! The Beverage Place Pub, Tuesdays at 4-5 PM, 6413 California Ave SW, Seattle, WA 98136
www.heartbasedleading.com
October 28, 2025 at 4:26 AM
1. Belonging-based performance doesn’t come from spotlight events. It grows in the unobserved daylight — in the small, constant bids for connection that pass between us all day.
Those tiny moments — when we turn toward or away — decide love, belonging, and determine performance.
October 28, 2025 at 2:22 AM
Do you belong? That depends on how you define it. And your definition is probably removing your power to belong. Worse, it's also slowly killing you.
October 27, 2025 at 4:47 AM
The most dangerous boss you will ever encounter is the one who says, "I keep my emotional distance from my employees because I don't want it to skew my decisions.
#belonging #feelowncare #wellbeing #badbosses @MarkCCrowley @JonathanDunnett
October 25, 2025 at 10:28 PM