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Minz
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· Aug 9
You would have turned 80 today. I can't express in words how I'm feeling. I will say. I am the woman and mother I am because of you. I miss you. I love you. Happy birthday, Mom.
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
You would have turned 80 today. I can't express in words how I'm feeling. I will say. I am the woman and mother I am because of you. I miss you. I love you. Happy birthday, Mom.
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
August 9, 2025 at 1:10 PM
You would have turned 80 today. I can't express in words how I'm feeling. I will say. I am the woman and mother I am because of you. I miss you. I love you. Happy birthday, Mom.
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
I'll play some Johnny Mathis for you today. 🦋❤️🙏🏽
River float today on the Santiam.
Wonderful day!
Wonderful day!
July 25, 2025 at 2:43 AM
River float today on the Santiam.
Wonderful day!
Wonderful day!
Here I am, sitting in the dark watching season 4 of The Bear, something you and I would have definitely watched together. I was already feeling pretty down, and then I saw this video. I miss you.
June 29, 2025 at 5:00 AM
Here I am, sitting in the dark watching season 4 of The Bear, something you and I would have definitely watched together. I was already feeling pretty down, and then I saw this video. I miss you.
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It's #PTSD Day, during PTSD month.
I have the complex variety of PTSD. My whole life has been riddled with emotional and psychological abuse from my parents.
I've put in a lot of work to get where I am. While I still struggle daily, it has gotten better.
You're not alone. We can do this.
I have the complex variety of PTSD. My whole life has been riddled with emotional and psychological abuse from my parents.
I've put in a lot of work to get where I am. While I still struggle daily, it has gotten better.
You're not alone. We can do this.
June 27, 2025 at 8:56 PM
It's #PTSD Day, during PTSD month.
I have the complex variety of PTSD. My whole life has been riddled with emotional and psychological abuse from my parents.
I've put in a lot of work to get where I am. While I still struggle daily, it has gotten better.
You're not alone. We can do this.
I have the complex variety of PTSD. My whole life has been riddled with emotional and psychological abuse from my parents.
I've put in a lot of work to get where I am. While I still struggle daily, it has gotten better.
You're not alone. We can do this.
Tried to watch the news this morning.
Couldn't do it. What the actual f*&k is going on in this world? I just can't.
Couldn't do it. What the actual f*&k is going on in this world? I just can't.
June 18, 2025 at 3:32 PM
Tried to watch the news this morning.
Couldn't do it. What the actual f*&k is going on in this world? I just can't.
Couldn't do it. What the actual f*&k is going on in this world? I just can't.
Today, you would have been 50 years old. I wish you were here. We'd go to Mill Creek Park and spend the day laughing, singing, and being in the sun.
I miss and love you.
Happy birthday, Nate.
I miss and love you.
Happy birthday, Nate.
June 11, 2025 at 6:13 PM
Today, you would have been 50 years old. I wish you were here. We'd go to Mill Creek Park and spend the day laughing, singing, and being in the sun.
I miss and love you.
Happy birthday, Nate.
I miss and love you.
Happy birthday, Nate.
Almost 5 months have passed, and my heart is still heavy with grief. Your memorial was really nice. Meeting all of your family and friends that I've not met was beautiful. You are so loved and missed.
Rest easy, my person.
🦋🦦❣️
Rest easy, my person.
🦋🦦❣️
June 7, 2025 at 6:47 PM
Almost 5 months have passed, and my heart is still heavy with grief. Your memorial was really nice. Meeting all of your family and friends that I've not met was beautiful. You are so loved and missed.
Rest easy, my person.
🦋🦦❣️
Rest easy, my person.
🦋🦦❣️
It arrived! I'm excited to read this!
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
May 27, 2025 at 2:42 AM
It arrived! I'm excited to read this!
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
Arriving tomorrow. Thank you!
Arriving tomorrow. Thank you!
May 25, 2025 at 1:17 PM
@geoffreyrjonas.ca
Arriving tomorrow. Thank you!
Arriving tomorrow. Thank you!
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You are not unkind or unfair for being anxious, suspicious, or hypervigilant. Our nervous system can't read someone's mind for whether they have good intentions or are telling the truth.
Your symptoms aren't a personal attack on anyone-- nor are they a "choice."
Your symptoms aren't a personal attack on anyone-- nor are they a "choice."
May 23, 2025 at 9:39 PM
You are not unkind or unfair for being anxious, suspicious, or hypervigilant. Our nervous system can't read someone's mind for whether they have good intentions or are telling the truth.
Your symptoms aren't a personal attack on anyone-- nor are they a "choice."
Your symptoms aren't a personal attack on anyone-- nor are they a "choice."
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Anything in our behavior or the behavior of others that reinforces abuse dynamics-- including trying to "motivate" us with shame or threats-- does not support our trauma recovery. Intentions don't matter.
There is no level of "healthy" poison when it comes to abuse.
There is no level of "healthy" poison when it comes to abuse.
May 22, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Anything in our behavior or the behavior of others that reinforces abuse dynamics-- including trying to "motivate" us with shame or threats-- does not support our trauma recovery. Intentions don't matter.
There is no level of "healthy" poison when it comes to abuse.
There is no level of "healthy" poison when it comes to abuse.
The only person who wants to live to be a hundred is a 99 year old.
May 22, 2025 at 3:06 AM
The only person who wants to live to be a hundred is a 99 year old.
If you haven't seen this yet, I highly recommend it.
Tears, full heart, accountability, and so much love in this short documentary.
Tears, full heart, accountability, and so much love in this short documentary.
May 21, 2025 at 10:37 PM
If you haven't seen this yet, I highly recommend it.
Tears, full heart, accountability, and so much love in this short documentary.
Tears, full heart, accountability, and so much love in this short documentary.
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Can't be everything to everybody. I can barely be a few things to a handful of people
May 20, 2025 at 5:48 PM
Can't be everything to everybody. I can barely be a few things to a handful of people
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We can still "save" the abused or neglected kid we once were-- by being compassionate & patient with the adult that kid became. By refusing to shame, harm, or kill that adult. By having that adult's back, every day, in little & big ways.
That is to say: by working our recovery.
That is to say: by working our recovery.
May 20, 2025 at 7:26 PM
We can still "save" the abused or neglected kid we once were-- by being compassionate & patient with the adult that kid became. By refusing to shame, harm, or kill that adult. By having that adult's back, every day, in little & big ways.
That is to say: by working our recovery.
That is to say: by working our recovery.
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CPTSD is not about what happened, or our supposed unwillingness to "let it go." It's is about how what happened wormed its way into our identity, beliefs, & reflexive behaviors.
Realistically "letting it go" means reformatting who we are, day by day-- not a one time decision.
Realistically "letting it go" means reformatting who we are, day by day-- not a one time decision.
May 20, 2025 at 1:21 AM
CPTSD is not about what happened, or our supposed unwillingness to "let it go." It's is about how what happened wormed its way into our identity, beliefs, & reflexive behaviors.
Realistically "letting it go" means reformatting who we are, day by day-- not a one time decision.
Realistically "letting it go" means reformatting who we are, day by day-- not a one time decision.
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The difference between the silent treatment, as a cruel manipulation tactic designed to hook into our "fawn" response, & someone legitimately needing time & space to regulate & process, is a respectful, transparent conversation about what's going on. Safe people can manage this.
May 17, 2025 at 1:32 AM
The difference between the silent treatment, as a cruel manipulation tactic designed to hook into our "fawn" response, & someone legitimately needing time & space to regulate & process, is a respectful, transparent conversation about what's going on. Safe people can manage this.
The amount of selfishness in this world is absolutely mind-blowing.
The lack of forgiveness is just as astounding.
I will continue to do my best to be the kind, caring, and positive person that I have always been.
🙏
The lack of forgiveness is just as astounding.
I will continue to do my best to be the kind, caring, and positive person that I have always been.
🙏
May 18, 2025 at 6:47 PM
The amount of selfishness in this world is absolutely mind-blowing.
The lack of forgiveness is just as astounding.
I will continue to do my best to be the kind, caring, and positive person that I have always been.
🙏
The lack of forgiveness is just as astounding.
I will continue to do my best to be the kind, caring, and positive person that I have always been.
🙏
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This dog politely asked for a musician's drumstick in the middle of their performance. Always excited to find a fellow stick lover. 12/10
May 15, 2025 at 8:54 PM
This dog politely asked for a musician's drumstick in the middle of their performance. Always excited to find a fellow stick lover. 12/10
I must remember that doing things for myself is part of my healing. I need not shame or blame myself.
May 10, 2025 at 6:03 PM
I must remember that doing things for myself is part of my healing. I need not shame or blame myself.
New project.
Baby blanket for some friends.
Baby blanket for some friends.
May 10, 2025 at 4:40 AM
New project.
Baby blanket for some friends.
Baby blanket for some friends.
There's an entire generation that needs to learn respect for others.
The world does not revolve around "you." It revolves around the sun.
The world does not revolve around "you." It revolves around the sun.
May 10, 2025 at 4:20 AM
There's an entire generation that needs to learn respect for others.
The world does not revolve around "you." It revolves around the sun.
The world does not revolve around "you." It revolves around the sun.
As parents, we work so hard to prevent our children from being scarred that we end up being the ones to scar our children.
May 9, 2025 at 5:47 PM
As parents, we work so hard to prevent our children from being scarred that we end up being the ones to scar our children.