Matus Hanidziar
@matushanidziar.bsky.social
Love Leader. Love Coach.
Secure love is a skill. I’ll show you how.
We don’t heal patterns. We rewire them.
From anxious to secure — in love and life.
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Secure love is a skill. I’ll show you how.
We don’t heal patterns. We rewire them.
From anxious to secure — in love and life.
Join Love Leaders here: https://loveleaders.life/
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September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
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Your fear tells you to pull away.
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But courage is closeness.
It’s saying “This hurt me,”
instead of “I’ll hurt you back.”
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True power is soft - but unwavering.
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But courage is closeness.
It’s saying “This hurt me,”
instead of “I’ll hurt you back.”
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True power is soft - but unwavering.
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Your fear tells you to pull away.
⠀
But courage is closeness.
It’s saying “This hurt me,”
instead of “I’ll hurt you back.”
⠀
True power is soft - but unwavering.
⠀
But courage is closeness.
It’s saying “This hurt me,”
instead of “I’ll hurt you back.”
⠀
True power is soft - but unwavering.
I used to act unbothered when I was actually begging to be seen.
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I thought detachment made me strong.
Turns out, it just made me unavailable.
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Healing began when I stopped pretending and started asking.
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I thought detachment made me strong.
Turns out, it just made me unavailable.
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Healing began when I stopped pretending and started asking.
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
I used to act unbothered when I was actually begging to be seen.
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I thought detachment made me strong.
Turns out, it just made me unavailable.
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Healing began when I stopped pretending and started asking.
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I thought detachment made me strong.
Turns out, it just made me unavailable.
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Healing began when I stopped pretending and started asking.
Every time you test someone, you teach them you don’t trust them.
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Even if they pass, the damage is done.
The connection feels weaker.
Fragile.
Tense.
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And you’re still anxious - now just lonelier.
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Even if they pass, the damage is done.
The connection feels weaker.
Fragile.
Tense.
⠀
And you’re still anxious - now just lonelier.
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Every time you test someone, you teach them you don’t trust them.
⠀
Even if they pass, the damage is done.
The connection feels weaker.
Fragile.
Tense.
⠀
And you’re still anxious - now just lonelier.
⠀
Even if they pass, the damage is done.
The connection feels weaker.
Fragile.
Tense.
⠀
And you’re still anxious - now just lonelier.
Testing love is a symptom of insecurity.
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Real security isn’t about seeing how far they’ll chase.
It’s about knowing you’re lovable even if they don’t.
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Peace isn’t earned - it’s claimed.
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Real security isn’t about seeing how far they’ll chase.
It’s about knowing you’re lovable even if they don’t.
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Peace isn’t earned - it’s claimed.
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Testing love is a symptom of insecurity.
⠀
Real security isn’t about seeing how far they’ll chase.
It’s about knowing you’re lovable even if they don’t.
⠀
Peace isn’t earned - it’s claimed.
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Real security isn’t about seeing how far they’ll chase.
It’s about knowing you’re lovable even if they don’t.
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Peace isn’t earned - it’s claimed.
Mind games feel safer than vulnerability.
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Because asking directly?
That risks rejection.
So you act cold.
You pull back.
You test.
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But every move meant to protect you just deepens the wound.
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Because asking directly?
That risks rejection.
So you act cold.
You pull back.
You test.
⠀
But every move meant to protect you just deepens the wound.
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Mind games feel safer than vulnerability.
⠀
Because asking directly?
That risks rejection.
So you act cold.
You pull back.
You test.
⠀
But every move meant to protect you just deepens the wound.
⠀
Because asking directly?
That risks rejection.
So you act cold.
You pull back.
You test.
⠀
But every move meant to protect you just deepens the wound.
Therapy gave you the map.
Panic‑to‑Peace Protocol gives you the route.
This 6-step process helps you anchor so your home feels safe, not on edge.
It gives you the map you can travel.
Comment “PEACE” to get it (it's completely free).
Panic‑to‑Peace Protocol gives you the route.
This 6-step process helps you anchor so your home feels safe, not on edge.
It gives you the map you can travel.
Comment “PEACE” to get it (it's completely free).
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Therapy gave you the map.
Panic‑to‑Peace Protocol gives you the route.
This 6-step process helps you anchor so your home feels safe, not on edge.
It gives you the map you can travel.
Comment “PEACE” to get it (it's completely free).
Panic‑to‑Peace Protocol gives you the route.
This 6-step process helps you anchor so your home feels safe, not on edge.
It gives you the map you can travel.
Comment “PEACE” to get it (it's completely free).
Insight without steady presence is a house built on sand.
You want stability that doesn’t crumble under heat.
You want stability that doesn’t crumble under heat.
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Insight without steady presence is a house built on sand.
You want stability that doesn’t crumble under heat.
You want stability that doesn’t crumble under heat.
Because being safe under pressure is a muscle.
You calm the fight while it's happening.
You don’t just reflect later.
You regulate now.
You calm the fight while it's happening.
You don’t just reflect later.
You regulate now.
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Because being safe under pressure is a muscle.
You calm the fight while it's happening.
You don’t just reflect later.
You regulate now.
You calm the fight while it's happening.
You don’t just reflect later.
You regulate now.
Signs of moving in the right direction:
Fewer repeats of fights.
Arguments end quicker.
Cooling down happens naturally.
That’s not luck.
That’s practice landing in your bones.
Fewer repeats of fights.
Arguments end quicker.
Cooling down happens naturally.
That’s not luck.
That’s practice landing in your bones.
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Signs of moving in the right direction:
Fewer repeats of fights.
Arguments end quicker.
Cooling down happens naturally.
That’s not luck.
That’s practice landing in your bones.
Fewer repeats of fights.
Arguments end quicker.
Cooling down happens naturally.
That’s not luck.
That’s practice landing in your bones.
Do people at home feel safer with you now than before therapy?
If the answer is NO:
You’ve built insight.
But the space hasn’t changed yet.
If the answer is NO:
You’ve built insight.
But the space hasn’t changed yet.
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Do people at home feel safer with you now than before therapy?
If the answer is NO:
You’ve built insight.
But the space hasn’t changed yet.
If the answer is NO:
You’ve built insight.
But the space hasn’t changed yet.
Turn the phone face down.
Physically turn toward her.
Ask what part of her day burned brightest.
Reflect one line back, no rushing.
If you want to do this automatically, comment “PEACE” to get the Panic‑to‑Peace protocol.
Physically turn toward her.
Ask what part of her day burned brightest.
Reflect one line back, no rushing.
If you want to do this automatically, comment “PEACE” to get the Panic‑to‑Peace protocol.
September 21, 2025 at 11:58 AM
Turn the phone face down.
Physically turn toward her.
Ask what part of her day burned brightest.
Reflect one line back, no rushing.
If you want to do this automatically, comment “PEACE” to get the Panic‑to‑Peace protocol.
Physically turn toward her.
Ask what part of her day burned brightest.
Reflect one line back, no rushing.
If you want to do this automatically, comment “PEACE” to get the Panic‑to‑Peace protocol.
Don’t wait for the relationship to feel “easy.”
Lead with direction.
Reclaim your inner compass and watch love settle in.
Comment “LEADER” to walk this path with brothers who hold direction.
Get inside the Love Leaders Community today - it's free.
Lead with direction.
Reclaim your inner compass and watch love settle in.
Comment “LEADER” to walk this path with brothers who hold direction.
Get inside the Love Leaders Community today - it's free.
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Don’t wait for the relationship to feel “easy.”
Lead with direction.
Reclaim your inner compass and watch love settle in.
Comment “LEADER” to walk this path with brothers who hold direction.
Get inside the Love Leaders Community today - it's free.
Lead with direction.
Reclaim your inner compass and watch love settle in.
Comment “LEADER” to walk this path with brothers who hold direction.
Get inside the Love Leaders Community today - it's free.
When trust blooms, attraction follows.
People lean in when they feel guided.
Safety.
Clarity.
Forward motion.
That’s how connection starts to pulse.
People lean in when they feel guided.
Safety.
Clarity.
Forward motion.
That’s how connection starts to pulse.
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
When trust blooms, attraction follows.
People lean in when they feel guided.
Safety.
Clarity.
Forward motion.
That’s how connection starts to pulse.
People lean in when they feel guided.
Safety.
Clarity.
Forward motion.
That’s how connection starts to pulse.
That choice sends signals:
I see you.
I value us.
I’m not perfect, but I’m showing up.
That’s what trust is made of.
I see you.
I value us.
I’m not perfect, but I’m showing up.
That’s what trust is made of.
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
That choice sends signals:
I see you.
I value us.
I’m not perfect, but I’m showing up.
That’s what trust is made of.
I see you.
I value us.
I’m not perfect, but I’m showing up.
That’s what trust is made of.
Direction isn’t about knowing every outcome.
It’s about being willing to choose anyway.
To say:
“This feels off. Here’s where I lean.”
To lead when most would freeze.
It’s about being willing to choose anyway.
To say:
“This feels off. Here’s where I lean.”
To lead when most would freeze.
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Direction isn’t about knowing every outcome.
It’s about being willing to choose anyway.
To say:
“This feels off. Here’s where I lean.”
To lead when most would freeze.
It’s about being willing to choose anyway.
To say:
“This feels off. Here’s where I lean.”
To lead when most would freeze.
Without direction, nobody feels seen.
You stop being trusted.
You start being tolerated.
Codependence creeps in when decisions are parked.
You stop being trusted.
You start being tolerated.
Codependence creeps in when decisions are parked.
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Without direction, nobody feels seen.
You stop being trusted.
You start being tolerated.
Codependence creeps in when decisions are parked.
You stop being trusted.
You start being tolerated.
Codependence creeps in when decisions are parked.
You’re not stuck.
You’re wired.
And wiring can change.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start connecting:
Comment “PEACE” for the 6-Day Panic-to-Peace Protocol.
Join the Love Leaders community and get it for free.
You’re wired.
And wiring can change.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start connecting:
Comment “PEACE” for the 6-Day Panic-to-Peace Protocol.
Join the Love Leaders community and get it for free.
September 20, 2025 at 9:01 PM
You’re not stuck.
You’re wired.
And wiring can change.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start connecting:
Comment “PEACE” for the 6-Day Panic-to-Peace Protocol.
Join the Love Leaders community and get it for free.
You’re wired.
And wiring can change.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start connecting:
Comment “PEACE” for the 6-Day Panic-to-Peace Protocol.
Join the Love Leaders community and get it for free.
It’s like walking into a new city with an old map.
Doesn’t matter how detailed it is...
If it’s wrong, it’ll get you lost.
Time to chart something new.
Doesn’t matter how detailed it is...
If it’s wrong, it’ll get you lost.
Time to chart something new.
September 20, 2025 at 9:01 PM
It’s like walking into a new city with an old map.
Doesn’t matter how detailed it is...
If it’s wrong, it’ll get you lost.
Time to chart something new.
Doesn’t matter how detailed it is...
If it’s wrong, it’ll get you lost.
Time to chart something new.
The shift isn’t instant.
But it starts the second you stop defending the pattern.
And start upgrading it.
You lead with calm, not panic.
But it starts the second you stop defending the pattern.
And start upgrading it.
You lead with calm, not panic.
September 20, 2025 at 9:01 PM
The shift isn’t instant.
But it starts the second you stop defending the pattern.
And start upgrading it.
You lead with calm, not panic.
But it starts the second you stop defending the pattern.
And start upgrading it.
You lead with calm, not panic.
But here’s what’s real:
Maps can change.
When you start healing the core fear:
→ abandonment,
→ rejection,
→ shame,
you stop performing, and start connecting.
Maps can change.
When you start healing the core fear:
→ abandonment,
→ rejection,
→ shame,
you stop performing, and start connecting.
September 20, 2025 at 9:01 PM
But here’s what’s real:
Maps can change.
When you start healing the core fear:
→ abandonment,
→ rejection,
→ shame,
you stop performing, and start connecting.
Maps can change.
When you start healing the core fear:
→ abandonment,
→ rejection,
→ shame,
you stop performing, and start connecting.