Matus Hanidziar
@matushanidziar.bsky.social
Love Leader. Love Coach.
Secure love is a skill. I’ll show you how.
We don’t heal patterns. We rewire them.
From anxious to secure — in love and life.
Join Love Leaders here: https://loveleaders.life/
Secure love is a skill. I’ll show you how.
We don’t heal patterns. We rewire them.
From anxious to secure — in love and life.
Join Love Leaders here: https://loveleaders.life/
Do you know the "Anxious Attachment Mind Games"?
→ Acting "busy".
→ Ghosting them.
→ Ignoring their texts.
You aren't playing hard to get - you're begging to feel safe.
But this isn't how you get the security you're after.
Here's how:
→ Acting "busy".
→ Ghosting them.
→ Ignoring their texts.
You aren't playing hard to get - you're begging to feel safe.
But this isn't how you get the security you're after.
Here's how:
September 21, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Do you know the "Anxious Attachment Mind Games"?
→ Acting "busy".
→ Ghosting them.
→ Ignoring their texts.
You aren't playing hard to get - you're begging to feel safe.
But this isn't how you get the security you're after.
Here's how:
→ Acting "busy".
→ Ghosting them.
→ Ignoring their texts.
You aren't playing hard to get - you're begging to feel safe.
But this isn't how you get the security you're after.
Here's how:
I'm a hypnotherapist for 8 years and I see this almost every week:
Men with clarity in their mind...
but chaos still at home.
Insight doesn't erase the fire.
Here’s what actually turns your “getting it” into being safe:
Men with clarity in their mind...
but chaos still at home.
Insight doesn't erase the fire.
Here’s what actually turns your “getting it” into being safe:
September 21, 2025 at 2:58 PM
I'm a hypnotherapist for 8 years and I see this almost every week:
Men with clarity in their mind...
but chaos still at home.
Insight doesn't erase the fire.
Here’s what actually turns your “getting it” into being safe:
Men with clarity in their mind...
but chaos still at home.
Insight doesn't erase the fire.
Here’s what actually turns your “getting it” into being safe:
“You don’t see me”.
That line breaks more silence than any fight.
Presence is more than showing up.
It’s choosing moment by moment.
That line breaks more silence than any fight.
Presence is more than showing up.
It’s choosing moment by moment.
September 21, 2025 at 11:58 AM
“You don’t see me”.
That line breaks more silence than any fight.
Presence is more than showing up.
It’s choosing moment by moment.
That line breaks more silence than any fight.
Presence is more than showing up.
It’s choosing moment by moment.
Ever been in a relationship where you feel like the guide stopped leading?
Where every day is a second guess instead of a step forward.
Here’s how to reclaim direction so you both feel safe:
Where every day is a second guess instead of a step forward.
Here’s how to reclaim direction so you both feel safe:
September 21, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Ever been in a relationship where you feel like the guide stopped leading?
Where every day is a second guess instead of a step forward.
Here’s how to reclaim direction so you both feel safe:
Where every day is a second guess instead of a step forward.
Here’s how to reclaim direction so you both feel safe:
Anxious.
Avoidant.
Disorganized.
Useful names, but none of them are destiny.
I’ve coached many through 100s of hours of healing work.
Most don’t need a personality shift.
They need a new attachment map.
Avoidant.
Disorganized.
Useful names, but none of them are destiny.
I’ve coached many through 100s of hours of healing work.
Most don’t need a personality shift.
They need a new attachment map.
September 20, 2025 at 9:01 PM
Anxious.
Avoidant.
Disorganized.
Useful names, but none of them are destiny.
I’ve coached many through 100s of hours of healing work.
Most don’t need a personality shift.
They need a new attachment map.
Avoidant.
Disorganized.
Useful names, but none of them are destiny.
I’ve coached many through 100s of hours of healing work.
Most don’t need a personality shift.
They need a new attachment map.
Your fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw.
It’s a body signal from years ago.
Here’s how to calm that fear - so you can stay.
It’s a body signal from years ago.
Here’s how to calm that fear - so you can stay.
September 20, 2025 at 6:01 PM
Your fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw.
It’s a body signal from years ago.
Here’s how to calm that fear - so you can stay.
It’s a body signal from years ago.
Here’s how to calm that fear - so you can stay.
You want love.
Until it gets too close.
Then your body flinches and you vanish.
Not a flaw.
A nervous system rule.
Until it gets too close.
Then your body flinches and you vanish.
Not a flaw.
A nervous system rule.
September 20, 2025 at 3:03 PM
You want love.
Until it gets too close.
Then your body flinches and you vanish.
Not a flaw.
A nervous system rule.
Until it gets too close.
Then your body flinches and you vanish.
Not a flaw.
A nervous system rule.
I’ve coached men for 8 years.
You can be emotionally "intelligent" and still blow up a fight.
What's most most men miss: brakes.
Here's how to "install" them:
You can be emotionally "intelligent" and still blow up a fight.
What's most most men miss: brakes.
Here's how to "install" them:
September 20, 2025 at 12:03 PM
I’ve coached men for 8 years.
You can be emotionally "intelligent" and still blow up a fight.
What's most most men miss: brakes.
Here's how to "install" them:
You can be emotionally "intelligent" and still blow up a fight.
What's most most men miss: brakes.
Here's how to "install" them:
You can name your trigger and still wreck the moment.
Insight without brakes is a crash waiting to happen.
Emotional fitness is stop-power, not smarts.
Insight without brakes is a crash waiting to happen.
Emotional fitness is stop-power, not smarts.
September 20, 2025 at 8:58 AM
You can name your trigger and still wreck the moment.
Insight without brakes is a crash waiting to happen.
Emotional fitness is stop-power, not smarts.
Insight without brakes is a crash waiting to happen.
Emotional fitness is stop-power, not smarts.
I sat for years in the same room with her.
Yet every night I left feeling more absent than ever.
Until I went through the collapse of my 12-year marriage (and managed to restart the relationship).
Here’s why presence is more powerful than explanations:
Yet every night I left feeling more absent than ever.
Until I went through the collapse of my 12-year marriage (and managed to restart the relationship).
Here’s why presence is more powerful than explanations:
September 18, 2025 at 11:58 PM
I sat for years in the same room with her.
Yet every night I left feeling more absent than ever.
Until I went through the collapse of my 12-year marriage (and managed to restart the relationship).
Here’s why presence is more powerful than explanations:
Yet every night I left feeling more absent than ever.
Until I went through the collapse of my 12-year marriage (and managed to restart the relationship).
Here’s why presence is more powerful than explanations:
She stays quiet.
Not because she doesn’t care.
Because she already believes you’re gone.
Presence is proof.
Curiosity is care.
Not because she doesn’t care.
Because she already believes you’re gone.
Presence is proof.
Curiosity is care.
September 18, 2025 at 9:02 PM
She stays quiet.
Not because she doesn’t care.
Because she already believes you’re gone.
Presence is proof.
Curiosity is care.
Not because she doesn’t care.
Because she already believes you’re gone.
Presence is proof.
Curiosity is care.
I’ve coached men through:
→ panic,
→ pursuit,
→ & pulling away.
Most had read the books.
But they never trained the reps.
Here’s what we teach inside Love Leaders:
→ panic,
→ pursuit,
→ & pulling away.
Most had read the books.
But they never trained the reps.
Here’s what we teach inside Love Leaders:
September 18, 2025 at 5:59 PM
I’ve coached men through:
→ panic,
→ pursuit,
→ & pulling away.
Most had read the books.
But they never trained the reps.
Here’s what we teach inside Love Leaders:
→ panic,
→ pursuit,
→ & pulling away.
Most had read the books.
But they never trained the reps.
Here’s what we teach inside Love Leaders:
Secure love isn’t a mindset.
It’s muscle memory you rehearse.
And it starts with 1 rep a day.
It’s muscle memory you rehearse.
And it starts with 1 rep a day.
September 18, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Secure love isn’t a mindset.
It’s muscle memory you rehearse.
And it starts with 1 rep a day.
It’s muscle memory you rehearse.
And it starts with 1 rep a day.
They say healing means “processing your pain.”
But what if that’s just relighting the fire alarm?
Here’s what actually rewires the rule:
But what if that’s just relighting the fire alarm?
Here’s what actually rewires the rule:
September 18, 2025 at 11:59 AM
They say healing means “processing your pain.”
But what if that’s just relighting the fire alarm?
Here’s what actually rewires the rule:
But what if that’s just relighting the fire alarm?
Here’s what actually rewires the rule:
Your trigger is just a fire alarm.
It doesn’t mean danger.
It means it’s time to rewire the rule.
It doesn’t mean danger.
It means it’s time to rewire the rule.
September 18, 2025 at 9:00 AM
Your trigger is just a fire alarm.
It doesn’t mean danger.
It means it’s time to rewire the rule.
It doesn’t mean danger.
It means it’s time to rewire the rule.
You’ve done 100+ hours of talk therapy.
But if people don’t feel safer around you,
your healing isn’t real yet.
Here’s the difference between insight and impact:
But if people don’t feel safer around you,
your healing isn’t real yet.
Here’s the difference between insight and impact:
September 18, 2025 at 12:00 AM
You’ve done 100+ hours of talk therapy.
But if people don’t feel safer around you,
your healing isn’t real yet.
Here’s the difference between insight and impact:
But if people don’t feel safer around you,
your healing isn’t real yet.
Here’s the difference between insight and impact:
You left therapy feeling smart...
Your story changed.
But your reactions didn’t...
You still snap when it gets tense at home.
That’s not healing.
It’s overthinking.
Insight doesn’t equal change.
Your story changed.
But your reactions didn’t...
You still snap when it gets tense at home.
That’s not healing.
It’s overthinking.
Insight doesn’t equal change.
September 17, 2025 at 9:02 PM
You left therapy feeling smart...
Your story changed.
But your reactions didn’t...
You still snap when it gets tense at home.
That’s not healing.
It’s overthinking.
Insight doesn’t equal change.
Your story changed.
But your reactions didn’t...
You still snap when it gets tense at home.
That’s not healing.
It’s overthinking.
Insight doesn’t equal change.
I’ve tried most healing tools.
The truth?
Most of them only scratched the surface.
Only one rewired my body’s “no love is safe” rule.
Here’s why hypnosis isn’t fluff.
It’s foundation:
The truth?
Most of them only scratched the surface.
Only one rewired my body’s “no love is safe” rule.
Here’s why hypnosis isn’t fluff.
It’s foundation:
September 17, 2025 at 6:01 PM
I’ve tried most healing tools.
The truth?
Most of them only scratched the surface.
Only one rewired my body’s “no love is safe” rule.
Here’s why hypnosis isn’t fluff.
It’s foundation:
The truth?
Most of them only scratched the surface.
Only one rewired my body’s “no love is safe” rule.
Here’s why hypnosis isn’t fluff.
It’s foundation:
I used to journal for hours to stop my anxious spirals.
But my nervous system didn’t speak English.
It spoke fear.
And only hypnosis got through.
But my nervous system didn’t speak English.
It spoke fear.
And only hypnosis got through.
September 17, 2025 at 3:04 PM
I used to journal for hours to stop my anxious spirals.
But my nervous system didn’t speak English.
It spoke fear.
And only hypnosis got through.
But my nervous system didn’t speak English.
It spoke fear.
And only hypnosis got through.
I’ve coached many through anxious love, through breakups, and betrayals.
And I'm sorry to break it down to you:
It’s not your partner.
It’s your childhood rulebook.
Here's how to rewrite it:
And I'm sorry to break it down to you:
It’s not your partner.
It’s your childhood rulebook.
Here's how to rewrite it:
September 17, 2025 at 12:04 PM
I’ve coached many through anxious love, through breakups, and betrayals.
And I'm sorry to break it down to you:
It’s not your partner.
It’s your childhood rulebook.
Here's how to rewrite it:
And I'm sorry to break it down to you:
It’s not your partner.
It’s your childhood rulebook.
Here's how to rewrite it:
Most breakups aren’t incompatibility.
They’re nervous system rules clashing.
Secure love isn’t about fixing.
It’s about rewiring.
They’re nervous system rules clashing.
Secure love isn’t about fixing.
It’s about rewiring.
September 17, 2025 at 9:02 AM
Most breakups aren’t incompatibility.
They’re nervous system rules clashing.
Secure love isn’t about fixing.
It’s about rewiring.
They’re nervous system rules clashing.
Secure love isn’t about fixing.
It’s about rewiring.
“Why do I keep having the same fight?”
Because your pattern lives in your body, not your mind.
And that pattern doesn’t read self-help books.
Because your pattern lives in your body, not your mind.
And that pattern doesn’t read self-help books.
September 17, 2025 at 6:29 AM
“Why do I keep having the same fight?”
Because your pattern lives in your body, not your mind.
And that pattern doesn’t read self-help books.
Because your pattern lives in your body, not your mind.
And that pattern doesn’t read self-help books.
I used to be so tired I couldn’t hear my own desires.
Panic.
Pressure.
Unclear voice.
Every decision felt reactive.
Here’s what changed when I stabilized first:
Panic.
Pressure.
Unclear voice.
Every decision felt reactive.
Here’s what changed when I stabilized first:
September 17, 2025 at 12:03 AM
I used to be so tired I couldn’t hear my own desires.
Panic.
Pressure.
Unclear voice.
Every decision felt reactive.
Here’s what changed when I stabilized first:
Panic.
Pressure.
Unclear voice.
Every decision felt reactive.
Here’s what changed when I stabilized first:
Empty men don’t decide well.
When you’re:
→ stretched,
→ panicked,
→ underslept
you pick what feels urgent, not real.
Clarity needs a body that’s not trembling.
When you’re:
→ stretched,
→ panicked,
→ underslept
you pick what feels urgent, not real.
Clarity needs a body that’s not trembling.
September 16, 2025 at 8:59 PM
Empty men don’t decide well.
When you’re:
→ stretched,
→ panicked,
→ underslept
you pick what feels urgent, not real.
Clarity needs a body that’s not trembling.
When you’re:
→ stretched,
→ panicked,
→ underslept
you pick what feels urgent, not real.
Clarity needs a body that’s not trembling.
You don’t need a miracle morning routine.
You need one repeatable minute that teaches your body “safe.”
Here’s what I give my clients as soon we start our work together:
You need one repeatable minute that teaches your body “safe.”
Here’s what I give my clients as soon we start our work together:
September 16, 2025 at 6:00 PM
You don’t need a miracle morning routine.
You need one repeatable minute that teaches your body “safe.”
Here’s what I give my clients as soon we start our work together:
You need one repeatable minute that teaches your body “safe.”
Here’s what I give my clients as soon we start our work together: